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Running away from difficulties is a very typical natural reaction in human nature. It has been several days since I saw this problem and wanted to write, to check the information and I actually started writing, to see, have I also created a difficulty for myself, and while avoiding, while confronting, although I am writing now, there are still fears, worries, anxieties, and so on in my heart. So let's face it together.

1. Be aware of the problem, you have surpassed many people.

When you ask this question, or search for this keyword, or even just browse to the topic and click through to it, it means that you are aware of this aspect of yourself. It may be a clarity of consciousness, or it may be just a vague feeling as if it is the same.

Maybe your emotions about this point of your own are self-blame, dissatisfaction, anxiety and even anger, but I still want to tell you, congratulations, in fact, realizing this problem is the first step, the premise from zero to one, at least it shows that you care a lot, and you have the basis of the will to solve it. It's like you've found the door, but you're hesitating whether to get in and how to get in, and how to get there. But a lot of people don't realize they have this problem.

2. Stop and tell me, what motivates you to change?

It's very, very important, and if you don't think it through and make up your mind, then you can stop there and do something else to spend your time.

Motivation determines behavior. Sometimes when you are aware of your behavior, you also feel anxiety, self-blame, etc., but this is still a motivating distance away from you really wanting to change. So we can understand why many people often cry out why they are doing this, but they still do it repeatedly.

It's important to find the deep motivation that you want to change, it's important to find the deep motivation that you want to change, it's important to find the deep motivation that you want to change, and I'm going to say this three times.

Consider pausing and writing down a question: Why do I want to change my habit of avoiding difficulties? Do I really want to change? What would happen to me if I didn't change?

Please be sincere with yourself. If you find that your motivation to change is very strong and you have to change, then please look down, if you are sincere to yourself, not ready, and do not want to face this problem, then find the favorite button, and when you really feel that you want to face it, it is not too late to take it out.

3. Stop your self-blame.

Many times when we encounter difficulties and want to escape, we will fall into a kind of self-blame, why am I so bad, so lazy, so useless, so. Familiar?

It's all emotions triggered by direct emotions. Take avoidance as an example, when you encounter difficulties, the very normal emotional reactions are pain, irritability, anxiety, etc., and when we encounter these uncomfortable emotions, we will have corresponding response measures, and avoidance is one of them. Escaping is a natural, quick response, and there are times when you don't even realize you're running away.

Maybe it's too selfish, maybe it's not enough to love, maybe it's a lack of sense of responsibility and security.