How to get along with your lover and how to live in harmony with your lover

After being married for so long, it's time to face reality, there is no romantic life and love after marriage, only an ordinary life, only the only family affection, if you want to make yourself happy, you have to face the reality, be obedient, or obedient! Can I do it? I asked myself a lot, I didn't have the courage to say yes, because when I said yes, my mind was constantly saying to myself, why let myself be so tired, why do I have to be obedient to live a good life, and let me think of a lot of things, my sister said to me, "Everyone says you're wrong, that's your wrong, everyone says that you will be happier when you come back, then you will be happy" Even I admit that this sentence is indeed right, but I can't get out, and I'm reluctant to give up, I am even more reluctant to leave, after marriage, I did get a lot of reality, the romantic love I have been pursuing is getting farther and farther away from me, the two of them are together without any freshness, even my husband will tell me a sentence "Alas, I don't like to watch", hehe How cold it is to say, because after getting married, he rarely cares about my real thoughts and wants, he often says to me, "When you are never satisfied, in fact, you live very well, very comfortable, Eat what you want, buy clothes, buy clothes" Maybe it's really that I'm not satisfied, but when will people be satisfied?

I admit that I was still very happy when we didn't quarrel, but every time I quarreled I was very sad, and my husband would hurt me more and more, in fact, every time we quarreled, it was not a big deal, it was some trivial little things, some small things in life, but he rarely quarreled with me, every time I quarreled with him first, we started, thinking back to the past until now, my husband is also a good man, but he is lazy, he loves to sleep lazy, and the rest is okay, My husband doesn't like me to write some unhappy things on it, every time I write, he says to me every time, hehe But I'm like this, I like to write about the happy and unhappy, because it's my mood and feelings at this time! When we quarreled, others said to me, in fact, your husband is very good to you, I heard all the anger gone, I don't like to quarrel with him, I really want to play with my husband happily, maybe I should really face reality!

Be considerate of each other, empathize, and think about what a man's ideal woman looks like. The most important thing is patience, and don't want you to quarrel with me when you encounter anything. There must be a concession.

Talk about it, don't be too accommodating, don't let him think that you can't do without him, let him tell you what to do rationally.

It might be better to separate it.

Here's how to live in harmony with your lover:

1. Make it clear that the status of both of you in this relationship is equal, and you are friends who can communicate amicably, rather than an unequal relationship where you are strong and I am weak. Both parties in a relationship must be evenly matched, and the relationship will be long-lasting and stable, because there is no similar unequal relationship between you who ties whom, who oppresses whom, and so on.

In the road of love, you will be ruined many times by storms, it is obvious that one person holding an umbrella is not enough to shelter from the wind and rain, you must work together to go on.

2. Accept the other person's imperfections, no one is perfect, including yourself, you are with him, once he must have attracted you. Over time, you will find that no matter who it is, there are a bunch of faults, and the only thing you can do is to accept the imperfections of the other party. In this way, he was spared, and he was also spared.

3. In addition to getting along like friends, you can also be partners who work hard for the same cause. There is a saying: love and dreams must be played against each other.

There are also people who say: True love, you are good, but I am not bad. In addition to being lovers, you can also do business partnerships with each other.

For example, if you are more emotional, and he is more rational, then you can divide and cooperate, you are responsible for the emotional part of a job, and he is responsible for the more organized part, you are a husband and wife, and you can get twice the result with half the effort. Couples or couples who share a common goal can go further because they are more responsible for each other.

Precautions for getting along

1. Learn to be tolerant and understanding. Although they are of the opposite sex, it is also common for them to quarrel with each other. Sometimes there may be differences in some views or ways of doing things, so you must think more from the other person's point of view and don't be too self-centered.

Otherwise, contradictions will accumulate more and more.

2. Communicate in a timely manner and don't hold it in your heart. Sometimes boys or girls are prone to being distracted, and the other party will feel uncomfortable when they do something offensive to them, but they have to hold it in their hearts for the sake of feelings or face. This is a common misconception.

What to say, not too tactful, is also a kind. Otherwise, there will be a barrier to your communication, and the relationship will not be good.

Personally, I agree with this statement, and I do the same, but two people should do the following things when they get along!

1. Mutual respect.

Mutual respect is a must for two people in any relationship. And among couples, this is often overlooked. In front of the other half's relatives and friends, you should give him (her) enough face, don't meet his (her) friends, just say all kinds of no, and know how to respect each other.

If you are not satisfied with the other party, you can raise it privately, and you don't have to put these complaints on the table.

2. A tolerant heart.

What couples need most is tolerance, and both parties will have their own little habits in life. If these habits become "unaccustomed", in life, they will consciously or unconsciously begin to blame, and some things that are old and rotten will be moved out. In quarrels, the feelings between each other are more or less hurt.

At this time, tolerance is very important. Some of the little habits of tolerating him (her) will become habits between each other over time, which is the way to get along for a long time.

3. Learn to love yourself first.

A person who does not know how to love himself also does not know how to love others, and it is difficult to have a harmonious and happy intimate relationship. People who don't know themselves and don't know how to love themselves can't perceive their inner emotions and feelings, and it is very likely that they will always blame each other for these, or incorrectly blame themselves, unable to look at the problems between the two people with the right eyes, and when they encounter problems, they are also easily controlled by emotions.

4. Learn to manage emotions.

If you can't understand your emotions and manage them effectively, you will be controlled by your emotions and hurt by your emotions, and your emotions will hurt your loved ones. Therefore, we must know how to cultivate our ability to manage our emotions, and slowly understand and control our emotions in the experience of emotions again and again.