What are the penalties for a child who violates the agreement

6 methods that can be used as an alternative to punishment :

1.Confiscate.

Deprivation of privileges for the purpose of "causing suffering" is also a punishment, but there are times when confiscation can also be a reasonable method. For example, when a toddler keeps tossing a toy, you can confiscate the toy to protect the wall or another child's head. I once confiscated my son's tablet.

Because he didn't follow the rules of use that we agreed upon.

If something isn't being used correctly, it's okay to confiscate it. I've also confiscated items or toys that kids are fighting for. I would say :

Your relationship is more important than this toy. "The message of confiscation of toys is clear: your relationship is a top priority, and if something hurts your relationship, you'd rather not have it. And once the children reach a peace agreement, I will return the toys to them.

1.The peace table can provide a safe environment for children to resolve conflicts.

The peace negotiation table is a platform for children to learn peaceful conflict resolution skills. In Montessori schools [1], the peace table is a very common tool to effectively resolve conflicts between students, and children who are feeling irritated can come to the table. There are some effective soothing tools on the table, such as an hourglass, a glitter bottle [2] or something else, and when the child enters the space, teach him to observe the flow of light or sand, or close his eyes and take a deep breath.

You can't get angry and pull the child into this space, but gently invite him in.

Another effective way to teach your child to resolve conflict is to ask them to take turns explaining why the other person is upsetting them. This method not only improves your child's listening and communication skills.

It can also mediate conflicts, give children a chance to reach a consensus, or provide them with a solution directly if necessary.

2.Pull over.

Parents often complain to me about their children arguing in the car, and for good reason – it distracts the driver! When my two sons were arguing in the car, whenever the situation allowed, I would pull over to the side of the road and sit quietly. For some children, this approach works, but others may continue to argue.

When the kids asked me why I parked, I just said, "I can't concentrate on driving when you're fighting." I'll continue to drive when you're done.

Neither of my sons likes to be on the side of the road, so this method worked well for me.

3.Transcribe.

Sometimes, I would have the children sit with me and transcribe the house rules they had broken, which helped to deepen their memory of the rules. Once I'm done, I'll ask them to read it again and discuss the rationale for the rule. If their relationship needs to be repaired, I ask them how they plan to repair it.

4.Understanding.

No matter how good a parent you are, no matter how sensible your children are, they will always make mistakes or make bad choices. No one is perfect, and children need to grow and learn. But not every time a child needs to be taught or suffer consequences

You can punish him for doing some simple chores. I don't think it's too severe.

When should a child be punished if he makes a mistake? And how should it be punished? This is an issue that deserves to be approached with great caution.

Legal analysis is late: Regulate the parents themselves before they regulate their children. Lead by example.

Legal basis: Civil Code of the People's Republic of China

Article 577:Where one of the parties fails to perform its contractual obligations or the performance of its contractual obligations does not conform to the agreed judgment, it shall bear liability for breach of contract such as continuing to perform, taking remedial measures, or compensating for losses.

Article 578:Where one of the parties clearly states or shows by its own conduct that it does not perform its obligations under the Xuntan Contract, the other party may request it to bear the liability for breach of contract before the expiration of the performance period.

Article 579:Where one of the parties fails to pay the price, remuneration, rent, or interest, or fails to perform other monetary debts, the other party may request payment from the other party.