What to do if the child is always nagging 20, what to do if the child is always nagging

Regarding the problem that she doesn't like to go to kindergarten, sometimes the child just wants to test the attitude of the adult, you just need to be resolute, and it will be fine after a while, but some children have this"For a while"It's longer, maybe a month or two, bear with me! As for her nagging, it's also a good idea to try changing the subject or asking her rhetorical questions. The child just wants to communicate with you more, don't be too annoyed, when she grows up, she won't be able to pay attention to you if she wants to talk to her :)

My child is a little like this, and if he asks something repeatedly, my approach is to ask, "What do you say?" Mom doesn't remember much! What happened?

This works very well, and you can also know whether he really understands or not! It's a good way to divert his attention, don't always answer whatever he asks! You can't show impatience, if you kill his curiosity, you'll be miserable!

This is a long-term problem, the result of a long period of accumulation, whether the child spends most of his time at home before going to kindergarten. Your child may be insecure now, and when she sees you, she will haunt you as much as she wants, and if you ignore her, she will keep pestering you, not knowing if I am right. As a mother, you should know your child best, I think you should think about it?!

I wish your baby a healthy and happy life!

This problem has also bothered me for a long time, the child is always nagging, talking non-stop, and he is not tired all day, hey. It's a lack of security, but that's not necessarily the whole thing?。。

1.Parents love to talk about big truths, but they don't implement it and lack practical operation.

When many parents reason with their children, they talk about some big truths, and Yu Zhaopeng is the kind of truth that "everyone understands the truth, but they don't know how to do it".

Parents only throw beautiful goals to their children, but do not give their children specific steps to implement, which is equivalent to throwing a century-old problem to children.

Parents think that it is a kind of knowing education for their children, but in fact, this is simply a behavior that increases the psychological burden of children.

2.In addition, some parents also like to talk about empty but meaningless truths.

Presumably many people have heard their parents tell themselves such a truth, and the feeling at that time was simply hairy and angry.

It can be seen from this that after hearing the parents' truth, what the children get is not the right guidance, but psychological pressure, and the child's psychological environment gradually has problems, and it will naturally resist the parents' truth, which is manifested as the more reasonable, the more disobedient.

If the child does not do well, the parents will keep warning and emphasizing the child's mistakes.

This situation is actually very common in life, and it is also hated by many people. Note that it's just a child, and almost all of them hate it.

For example, children get up on time every morning, but parents often nag their children to "get up early in the morning, look at whom, it's late to bed in the morning".

Another example is that every time a child writes homework, he is very serious and attentive, but parents often like to nag on the sidelines, "Do your homework seriously, don't think about playing, don't be sloppy......"Wait.

Are you familiar with this kind of scene? In fact, the child himself did not make a mistake, and he did not even think of the wrong behavior at all.

But parents keep nagging their children about the truth after they have made mistakes, as if their children have been making mistakes. This kind of behavior may make the child feel very uncomfortable, thinking that the parents do not trust themselves, do not pay attention to themselves, ignore their own efforts, etc.

The result of this is obvious, and the child will begin to develop in the wrong direction that the parent warns about.

For example, if the child does not stain the ground, the parents have been warning the child not to stain the ground, and after a long time, the child will deliberately stain the ground, which is the psychology of "you wronged me, I will fulfill you". As a result, parents feel that the more reasonable their children are, the more disobedient they are.

3.Children are unable to appreciate the meaning of the truth.

Of course, there are many cases where parents neither nag nor tell any unrealistic truths, but only explain a very simple and easy-to-see truth to their children, but children still ignore them and don't listen to their parents' reasoning at all.

In fact, it is because the child is not able to fully understand the meaning of the parents' reasoning.

It should be noted that this is not to say that the child does not understand the meaning of the parent's reasoning, but that he cannot understand it personally.

My mother is a special or easy person to get along with, and she has a strong sense of empathy, so there are always people in the house, and people love to play with her. However, it is precisely because of her strong empathy that she can't see anyone with "grievances", and whoever wants to complain to her will definitely persuade others and then feel that the other party is wrong. The affairs of the family are basically public and reasonable, and the mother says that the mother is reasonable, but fortunately, most of the time one party is looking for her, otherwise I think it is difficult for her to deal with it.

It's just that my mom doesn't represent all moms. In the previous generation of mother-son mother-daughter hungry relationship, there are more authorities, what the mother said is right, what the mother says you listen to. Today's mother-child mother-daughter relationship is more harmonious, and you can become friends, playmates, or strict mothers with your children.

1. In the mother-daughter relationship of the previous generation, the parents' right to speak is absolutely supreme, and the child's words have always been the child's words. In today's mother-child relationship, young mothers respect their children's ideas, and they can make their own decisions and choices about their own affairs. If the child is respected from an early age, he will not be afraid of authority, but will respect it.

2. When I was a child, I knitted a bracelet for my mother as a Mother's Day gift, and my mother said that she would give me a gift on Mother's Day. I was embarrassed that people didn't show much emotion at that time. Now between children and parents, whenever there is an opportunity, they will express:

I love you baby; I love you, mom. More emotional communication to promote a close parent-child relationship. 3. Attitude of admitting mistakesThe parents of the previous generation are difficult to admit their mistakes in front of their children, even if they do something wrong, they will put the fault on others, in short, they will not make mistakes, and it is impossible to apologize to their children.

Today's young mothers, if they realize that they have done something wrong and affected their children, they will choose to apologize to their children and admit their mistakes. In the end, no matter what era the mother is, she is full of love for her children, but the way she expresses her love is different under the influence of the environment. As a young person, I don't like the way I used to be, but that doesn't affect my perception of motherhood.

So, now I have changed the way I treat my children and I want them to have a better relationship with me. He can tell me anything.

Mom always nags you, it's because of the Pa family's unaccompaniment to you, because you are a child in his eyes, so he is very worried about you, although they sometimes nag very annoying, but they are very reasonable.

This question can be analyzed from two perspectives: physiological and psychological

One is the physiological level:

1. First of all, there is a saying that educating people makes people happy. The reason is that the educational process can cause people to secrete dopamine, provided that dopamine is recognized as a happy substance, but this claim has obviously been refuted by many parties and is not very scientific. At least the dopamine argument doesn't stand up to scrutiny.

2. Educating people is an instinctive response of physiological continuity. In fact, there is some truth in this statement, the continuity of living things is actually the animal instinct of human beings. From ancient times to the present, especially in ancient times, in order to ensure the continuation of the population, educating future generations has become an almost instinctive consciousness, and this responsibility often naturally falls on the older generation with some experience in production and hunting.

The second is the psychological level (this should be the most important).

1. The older generation thinks that it is their responsibility to educate the younger generations. Therefore, they will think that it is a dereliction of duty not to pass on the knowledge and experience they know to their juniors, so they will appear to be "good teachers".

2. Education also enables the older generation to gain a possible sense of achievement. By educating the younger generation, the older generation gains a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment after the younger generation avoids suffering losses or achieves certain achievements again and again. The common phenomenon of child comparison is to some extent the embodiment of this psychology, in other words, it can also be called vanity.

3. Educating the younger generations is a kind of self-salvation and self-improvement. The older generation has accumulated certain lessons and lessons, and hopes that young people will not make mistakes in the same thing and suffer losses, and also hope that the younger generations will accelerate their success and avoid detours.

4. Educate the younger generations to reflect their own identity. Some people in the older generation are influenced by certain ideologies and concepts, and will use education to brush up their sense of existence and gain control at the same time.

5. Educating younger generations can also be a manifestation of what adults think of as love. Education is a social activity that consciously cultivates people, among which family education and school education are basically the education of the older generation to the younger generation, whether it is parents to children or teachers to students, it is essentially a manifestation of love.

So don't always think that the nagging of the old man is an unbearable thing, sometimes empathize with it, although it does bring some kind of pressure, but at the same time, it is also necessary to realize that most of the content and circumstances in it are one of the key elements of human survival.

I think there are several reasons for this:1The elders who like Shiga to nag you either have a kinship with you, or they appreciate and value you in some places.

The elders have gone through more than half of their lives, and they have a deeper understanding and reflection on the different stages of life than the younger generations, and they are always accustomed to imparting their experience to the younger generations, in order to ensure that the back can take fewer detours, or hope to be admired and worshiped by the younger generations. 2.Afraid that the child will take a detour.

Because the elders went through a lot of detours when they were young, they didn't want us to take the detours they took, so they wanted to tell us how to choose a shortcut with less tribulation. It's because they love us and that's why they tell us this.

3.Desire to control.

It is inevitable that some parents have some control over their children, hoping that their children can obey the arrangements of adults. But the child is an independent individual, he has his own thoughts, so the two are a more contradictory, parents think that through the way of preaching, they can always let their children listen to them.

Personality analysis of people who like to preach.

1.Bigotry.

People who like to preach have a bit of paranoia, they always think that they know a lot of reason, so others have to listen to him. Such a person will inadvertently push the people around him away, and no one likes to be preached.

2.Good teacher.

Think you have the ability and status to preach to others, but you don't consider whether others are willing to listen to you. This type of person actually belongs to doing bad things with good intentions.

In fact, no one wants to listen to others preach about themselves, and the reason why they continue to listen is because of their respect for you.

Expressions of caring.

Parents may feel that nagging is a way to show their care and love for their child by reminding them of precautions and protecting them from danger or wrong decisions.

Accumulation of experience.

Parental nagging can also be based on their own life experience and educational experience that certain things or ways of behaving are harmful or unwise, hence the need to constantly remind the child. They may want to pass on their own lessons to their children in the hope that they will learn from their own mistakes and not make the same mistakes.

How it's managed. Parental nagging can also be a management style, especially when they think their child's behavior may have a negative impact on themselves or others, such as behavior in public, they may use nagging to regulate the child's behavior quietly.

Hope the child gets better.

Parents may also want their children to be better and become smarter, better people. They may think that nagging can bring out the potential in their children, help them discover their problems and potential, and encourage them to get better.

Speaker: Special teacher of Mudanjiang Municipal New Experimental Primary School.

Qu Weiping suggested here that parents should let their children do it, if they have to speak, then the language should be varied, nagging out the level, don't always say a few words. In fact, criticism is not about talking too much, but about how effective it actually is. For children's mistakes, we should adhere to the principle of "make a mistake once, criticize only once".

If we have to criticize again, we must change our perspective and say it in a different way, rather than simply repeating it. In this way, the child's negative performance of "tiredness" and not caring about anything will be avoided, and the child's boredom or resistance will also be reduced.

There are other ways for parents to get their children to follow your teachings. For example, let the children's national chief speaker Zou Yue's thanksgiving and inspirational speech "Let the World Be Full of Love", let the children read "The Responsibility When the Disaster Comes" in "Yilin", and the children's film "Yangtze River No. 7", etc., to imperceptibly educate children on gratitude, and slowly children will understand: as long as people have knowledge, backbone, and love.