If you want to be a mother in law, what are you going to do?

I'm going to be a mother-in-law who makes my daughter-in-law like her, because she is the person my son likes, so that's what I should like, so I have to be good to her.

I must be the one who favors my daughter-in-law the most, but I will not get used to her being a lazy person, and I will take her to buy a lot of beautiful things.

When my son gets married, he must live his own way, I can often give them financial help, never interfere in their family's life, keep a certain distance, I will not say that I treat my daughter-in-law as a daughter, and I don't need my daughter-in-law to treat me as my own mother, just respect each other.

It was not easy for her parents to raise her, and she didn't come to our house to be bullied, so I think the premise of being a good mother-in-law is respect.

When I am old, I must follow my mother-in-law's example, and be a good mother-in-law, cook everyone's meals in the morning, and then take care of the children for them.

I will tell my son and daughter-in-law that the husband and wife should understand each other when they have conflicts, because it is not easy to be together, and they will go home and see when they miss us.

With the lessons of the past, I felt the kindness of my mother-in-law, and I also understood how to treat my daughter-in-law with mutual respect.

It is said that the most difficult relationship in China is between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but I think it is a change of heart, and my mother-in-law is very good to me, so I should also be good to my daughter-in-law.

I think that the first thing to respect between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the biggest point, and then the relationship between two people should not be stiff, and many things can be tolerated.

In real life, we need to go through various trials and tribulations in life. Sometimes you will find that the so-called love does not stand the test. But you don't have to worry, as long as you manage it well, deal with some conflicts in life in a wise way, and at the same time master some small skills.

Then I'm sure you'll be able to maintain your relationship well. Especially when married women deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the quality of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will affect the relationship between husband and wife to a large extent, but women must not "grovel" to coax, just do the following things.

At least stay financially independent and have your own job. Don't rely too much on your husband, and don't rely on your mother-in-law who doesn't like your daughter-in-law to rely on your husband. They want their daughters-in-law to be hard too, and they have their own jobs.

Even if their daughters-in-law don't make a lot of money, they must be able to support themselves. Otherwise, they will have a lot of expenses for their life after marriage, and it will be very difficult if they have to rely on a man to support the family. Therefore, if a mother-in-law finds that her daughter-in-law spends money lavishly and has no ability to make money, then she really has no good impression of her daughter-in-law.

Regardless of whether a woman is married or previously married, she should try to keep working or have the ability to earn money. This will not only improve the relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also make the man love you more. Industrious and simple, learn to do housework, and strive to be what a daughter-in-law should do.

Generally, mothers-in-law don't like daughters-in-law to be too lazy. If he finds out that his daughter-in-law never does housework at home and she is completely unconscious, then she will not have a good impression of herself. Housework can be considered a skill for a woman.

It is not only the standard of a qualified daughter-in-law, but also a good daughter-in-law in the eyes of her mother-in-law. Knowing and doing housework every day are two different things. But it is true that the daughter-in-law should be obliged.

And from the point of view of caring for each other, women can take better care of their beloved men, right? The third thing: live a simple life, learn to run the house, and ask your mother-in-law for relevant experience, which will make the other person happy.

After getting married, a woman must learn to run a household, which is a very basic skill.

If you can't do this, it's hard for your mother-in-law to like you. And don't go overboard with extravagance in life. Sometimes there's nothing wrong with being simple.

When you buy something, you don't need to buy the most expensive one, just buy the one that suits you best. Many mothers-in-law hate that their daughters-in-law spend a lot of money because it will leave a very bad impression on them.

First of all, you must stay away from the young couple, give the young couple their own private space, and don't meddle in the affairs of the two people. And you must be considerate of your daughter-in-law, care more about your daughter-in-law, don't find fault with your daughter-in-law, be more considerate of your daughter-in-law, often help the young couple, communicate in a timely manner when you encounter conflicts, and don't gossip or say bad things behind your back. Be more tolerant and consider problems from the other party's point of view.

We should treat our daughter-in-law as if we were our own family, and we should also treat it as our own daughter, and we should also care about each other, we should do it for each other, wash each other's clothes, so that we are a good mother-in-law.

Don't interfere with the private feelings of your son and daughter-in-law, don't interfere in their lives, don't treat your daughter-in-law harshly, be considerate of your daughter-in-law, be kind to your daughter-in-law, etc.

1. Treat daughters-in-law equally and open-mindedly, and do not be domineering as elders. A smart mother-in-law will never put on a stand as an elder in front of her daughter-in-law, and she will never yell at her daughter-in-law.

Sixth, domineering. They get along with their daughters-in-law like friends, equal and harmonious, so that their daughters-in-law feel full of warmth as soon as they come home.

2. Do not show partiality for your son and save enough "face" for your daughter-in-law. Married life will inevitably have stumbles, if it happens to be bumped into by her mother-in-law at this time, who will she prefer? In fact, 99% of mothers-in-law will definitely favor their sons in their hearts, which is human nature and understandable.

But the smart mother-in-law knew in her heart that she must not show partiality for her son, but should support her daughter-in-law and give her daughter-in-law enough face, so as to avoid the escalation of family conflicts.

3. Do not urge sons and daughters-in-law to have children, and do not interfere with the birth of boys and girls. Urging marriage and giving birth to children is the norm for many parents today. It's not a big deal if this trick is used on a son, but it is easy to create contradictions when used on a daughter-in-law.

So a smart mother-in-law never urges her son and daughter-in-law to have children, and even if she has such thoughts, she will express them euphemistically. As for giving birth to a boy and a girl, she will not interfere, which is also a manifestation of a mother-in-law's sensibility and respect. 

4. Respect the parenting philosophy of sons and daughters-in-law. After having grandchildren and granddaughters, mothers-in-law often become the main force in bringing up children. Spending time with children day and night every day, my mother-in-law's parenting philosophy has room to play, but problems also arise.

At this time, the smart mother-in-law will definitely respect the parenting concept of her son and daughter-in-law, and if there is any disagreement, she will take the initiative to discuss with her son and daughter-in-law to find a parenting plan that everyone is satisfied with.

5. Treat your daughter-in-law without comparison or pressure on your daughter-in-law. After the son got married, the mother's generation sat together and talked about the living situation of the son and daughter-in-law the most. Some mothers-in-law who love to compare not only like to show off what their daughter-in-law bought for themselves with outsiders, but also like to talk about the lives of other people's children in front of their daughter-in-law and put pressure on their daughter-in-law.

And the smart mother-in-law not only will not talk about these boring topics with her daughter-in-law, but also will not judge her daughter-in-law by material things when chatting with outsiders, they understand that the most important thing is that their son and daughter-in-law live happily together.

If you want to be a good mother-in-law of Lu Feng, don't live with your daughter-in-law, so that you can be a good mother-in-law, and if you want Hu Xiang to live with your daughter-in-law, don't worry about anything, don't ask, so that you can be a good mother-in-law.