What habits did your ex leave you that you think will stay with you for the rest of your life?

She taught me how to match clothes, for example, I lost the unsightly, and taught me seriously every time I went shopping, you have to roll up your legs and short pants, you have to wear bright clothes with a little black, and the short man has to wear a little temperament, otherwise it will become a dwarf winter melon if it is wrapped like a zongzi. I can't be angry, but then every time I go shopping and see a girl helping a boy choose clothes, I will stop and watch, and the memories will turn over one by one, and my nose is sour.

She has a very good figure, so I wanted to be able to match her. I became strict with myself, so I started to manage my figure, a habit that will stay with me for the rest of my life.

Get up every morning, go to the toilet, so it's good for your body, brush your teeth before going to bed at night, don't rest too late, get up in the morning, go to breakfast after you're busy, etc.

My ex always likes girls to dress up beautifully, which makes me like makeup, even if we break up now, these good habits have accompanied me to this day.

When crossing the street, walk to the side where there is a car and hold her hand to cross the street. She said, I'm a very insecure person, and every time I add a little bit, you become a little bit more important to me in my heart. When eating and drinking, you should first ask the ladies present and there is no inconvenience, whether you can eat spicy food, whether there is a period and whether there is anything that you can't eat, you must take into account everyone present, she said that having a gentlemanly demeanor is a very important thing, which can prove that she is very discerning.

There are some things to ask the other party in advance, once I saw that she was carrying a big bag, so I grabbed it and carried it without a head, I said it looked like it was very heavy, I'll come. She smiled and didn't say anything, and then she told me that a lot of girls' bags are used to match clothes, and I know you feel sorry for me, but it would be better if you asked me for advice beforehand. And there are some things that don't need to be asked, such as those intimate little details, helping her pull a chair in the dining room, helping her block it in a place with a curtain, and the small pieces of warmth accumulate to become love.

If you quarrel and you are uncomfortable, I will be uncomfortable too. Those were the words he uttered during another heated argument. I was frowning and babbling about my sadness, accusing him of not being considerate of my feelings, hoping that he would understand and give in.

After he said this, I was suddenly stunned for a moment. I have long forgotten how that quarrel ended and ended. But this sentence, I still remember.

It seems to be engraved in my heart with a sharp blade.

The immediate effect on me was that I had a very good temper. No matter who I have friction with, I think that I am not happy, but the other party is probably not comfortable either. Moreover, attacking each other with sharp language and just blindly expressing one's subjective feelings will not play any role in handling things, and will only add to each other's feelings.

It taught me a lot, and at the beginning it was full of lies, and no matter how beautiful it was, it was just a flash in the pan. I used to have a lot of bad habits, such as chirping, crossing my legs, driving fast and looking left and right, and a series of how to take care of girls. I chose to accompany her, and she taught me to grow.

But it's all gone.

He taught me that when I meet someone I like in the future, I should develop more slowly, get to know each other more and then decide whether to start, don't start driven by hormones, don't believe in what is destined, and people can only come together when they understand each other.

I have left a lot of them, such as the improvement of dressing taste, the mode of thinking should not be fixed to be flexible, and the courage to jump out of comfort and strive to improve, etc., which can be said to have taught me a very important lesson. Let me learn how to love someone, let me learn how to let go of a person, and let me know that to love someone, you must first love yourself, otherwise you will be hurt very badly. What starts out is hatred and pain, and then it's reflection, change, growth.

In fact, the other party retains the behavior habits left by the ex, which I think is a bad thing, but when you stay with him for a long time, he will slowly develop some good habits with you, so if you say such a thing, you don't need to care too much, and he will get better slowly, please rest assured.

This should be clearly communicated with him and asked him to change it. It is actually normal to retain some of the habits of your ex when she was there, after all, they have been together for a while, and having corresponding habits shows that he is a person who cares more about the other half, you can see him as a good thing, but accordingly he should now develop your habits and forget about those habits of your ex, so talk to him about your feelings in depth, and remind him in daily life to pay attention to correction.

It doesn't feel the same when anyone touches things. Just like I am. The long nails he doesn't like, colored or colorless, I haven't grown up before I was a child, and I don't like to eat noodles!

After meeting her, learn from her to eat noodles! Now I love noodles. Before you know it, you get used to it.

Don't worry about that.

I'm curious, how do you tell which habits you keep with your ex?

Well, all I can say is that if these habits are good, then nothing bad for you. The other party's ex has put so much effort into helping you cultivate a good partner, shouldn't you thank the person?

If you want to change the other person's habit, you replace it with a new one. It's a long-term process, and it's impossible to change it in minutes.

Get along well with your partner and communicate well with the two of you. When he is willing to make changes for you, or is influenced by you, your feelings are already in place.

Remember that there is a saying about how to change a bad habit, and the way to do it is to develop a new good habit. I don't know what kind of habits your lover and ex have that you can't get used to, so replace it with a new habit on the contrary. For example, if your lover is used to watching movies and TV series, then you should cultivate his habit of reading books, buy a lot of books at home, put them in a place where you can reach them, and let him read with you.

Other habits are cultivated in this way.

From two people who don't know each other to lovers, each other's life habits need to run in with each other, and when the run-in reaches a certain level, you will find that you have changed too much for him (her), and I have gradually become that him (her). When I broke up, I found that these habits could not be changed, and I could not change them for the rest of my life. Don't think too much about this kind of thing, treat it with a normal heart.

How do you know that these habits are kept with your ex? In fact, many habits are formed by people imperceptibly. Why is it called a habit?

Because it's hard to change. If you feel that these habits make you uncomfortable, you can correct him. Let your habits become his, and if he loves you enough, he will definitely make some changes for you.

Believe in your own abilities.

I think habits are formed slowly, and you can't get him to change them right away, this kind of thing is just like you must have retained some of the behaviors and habits of people who change you. If you fall in love with him, you can use your behavior or your attitude to slowly change him in the future, grow up with her, and since you are with him, you must believe in him.

She likes pink, so there are a lot of pink clothes and furniture nowadays, and the shampoo and shower gel she used to use in the past has also become standard Every time I eat eggs, tell me not to eat egg yolks, because of high cholesterol, I now throw away all the egg yolks and only eat egg whites! Actually, I also want to eat egg yolks. Actually, some of the things that are very common and common.

Because my ex was too good to me, I learned not to cherish him. People, many times this is the case, the better others treat you, the less you will cherish it, and then you regret it very much if you lose it, but you can't go back, and you have developed some good habits with him, such as going to bed early and getting up earlyBecause he was always worried about my body, he still stressed these things a lot. With him, I developed the habit of eating breakfast every day, because I always didn't want to eat breakfast because I used to think it was troublesome, and I didn't think it was necessary to eat breakfast, but he always reminded me to eat, and I developed the habit of eating breakfast while eating, in fact, these habits are still very good.

My ex taught me how to raise cats, and once I learned it, I couldn't put it down, which I found very interesting.

My ex taught me how to get tattoos and dye my hair, and I couldn't change these habits at all.

If there is a misunderstanding, it should be explained clearly in time.

My ex made my taste very bad because he always cooked good meals for me, and I couldn't eat the bad ones.

I am very dependent on the other party, I want to let the other party do everything for me, and I don't want to move.

My ex had a great influence on me, such as drinking a glass of warm milk before going to bed every day to fall asleep.

For example, I often go shopping, I like to eat out, I like to go to KTV to sing, etc., most of which are related to living expenses.

It has taught me the habit of going to bed early and getting up early, not staying up late, and I have learned to be patient and waiting, which is also a more important habit in my life.

My ex left me a habit of eating breakfast on time every day because he would bring me breakfast every morning.

When I was with her, I was still a fat person, every time I walked on the street hand in hand with her, probably because I was actually a very inferior person, although she didn't mind, but I always felt a little disobedient, a small look from others, can make me cranky, mood loss.

That's why I want to change myself! In addition, I did encounter some things during that time, and one day I finally made up my mind and decided to do these things seriously.

So I got an annual pass at the gym outside the school and started my fitness journey. Because the gym is just outside the school, turn right 50 meters when you go out, so no matter if it's windy or rainy, as long as I don't go out with her, I basically go to the gym.

It was undoubtedly very painful at first, and I often wanted to use the excuse of going out with her to indulge myself and avoid fitness, but over time, I got used to it. I'm used to being exhausted and hoarse, I'm used to being sore and my muscles are torn, and I'm used to shopping alone.

For a long time I don't know why, I went to the gym at 6:30 and stayed until 8:30, a total of two hours, after finishing the day's fitness tasks, it was actually still early. In the past, I used to look for her after this work. But during that time, I was just listening to music with headphones on, and I was alone, not far from the park, wandering around, not knowing what was going on in my mind.

All day she said I had changed, I had indeed changed, too much, in nine months, I lost 50 pounds, I didn't know how I did it, I told her this at the time.

She just looked at me silently, smiled, and said no more. She knows I know what she's talking about? But that's what she is, always has been, and if you don't want to say more, she won't ask more.

Actually, we didn't live together for a long time, or even lived together, after all, we were in school at the time, how could it be possible, to live together? So I suddenly remembered that she brought me very few habits, and even fewer habits in life.

After all, a large part of the original intention of fitness is because of her, and even after leaving the gym, I still often run in the morning or at night, exercise and fitness have become a part of my life.

Sometimes I think, this is a very stupid woman, who has helped others raise her son for so many years, but in the end she didn't get anything, but then I thought about it again, Zifei fish, Anzhi fish's joy also? Maybe she's got something, but I don't know.

It's like I feel in my heart that I've become better, I'm no longer young, I've become mature, and the next person to fall in love with me will be very happy, but it doesn't belong to her.

Maybe there's something in her heart that I can't guess. After all, I don't always know what is good about myself, just as I don't know what is bad about myself.

My predecessor was a soldier, which means that he was in a military relationship, and because he was a soldier, he couldn't see each other often. It's impossible to call even ** often, we generally use text messaging, for them the signal is disabled, so there is no network, so you can only contact each other by texting.

The habit he brought to me was to keep my phone with me. He didn't know when he would be able to send me messages, so I was looking at my phone all the time, carrying it with me, for fear of missing the message he sent me.

Even though we have separated now, I have kept this habit, and now I still carry the machine with me every day, no matter where I go, even if it is a little bit of time.

There is also a habit that makes me retain my concern for soldiers, that is, I was afraid of war before, afraid that there will be war, and he will go to the battlefield. I have been paying attention to national affairs and diplomatic relations between my country and other countries all the time.

Another point is that because he is a soldier, I can't ask about many things because they involve confidentiality. So much so that I have kept this habit now, and for my current boyfriend, I don't care too much about some things and won't ask carefully.

Military love is really hard, but if it's not suitable, it's not suitable, this can't be forced, I hope we can be happy with each other.