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She still longs for love in her heart and longs to meet love, but life is still realistic, if she can't let go of her posture, it is estimated that it will be difficult to find a good one for a lifetime?

A 40-year-old woman who has talked to more than 100 friends, many people are probably surprised to hear the news. I will feel that this woman must be a perfectionist, and it has always been bad to pick and choose. It's like when you go to buy a house, you just have so much money on hand, you want to buy bigger, and you want to be cheaper and have a better location.

If you go to pick a house, other people's houses will have to pick you, after all, a good house has already been robbed. I finally found a similar one, and you still want to wait, but after waiting for a few years, ** did not decline, but rose a lot, and you found that you couldn't afford it.

It's the same for women, when they were in their 20s, they felt that they still had the capital to pick, and they always felt that this was not handsome enough, and that there was no money. When he is rich and handsome, he says that he is not romantic enough? Later, she stumbled until she was in her 30s, and she was still picking, always thinking that she would find a good one.

If you wait until you are 40 years old and you are not married, then only a divorced man awaits you, and you will be upgraded to become a mother directly. After all, a successful man will not choose an old and picky woman, he has many opportunities to choose. If you're a poor bastard, you hate people.

The middle group has long been married. So, you can only do that.

I think it's not easy to be a 40-year-old leftover girl and have a girl's heart. I can talk about more than 100 people, and it's not easy. It's like going shopping, looking at 100 stores, and there is nothing you like, and it doesn't feel good.

But it is not ruled out that she can really find a good one, and it is not impossible to find a handsome guy. If I were a man, I would rather choose a divorced woman than a 40-year-old leftover woman. After experiencing a relationship, a divorced woman will become mature and sensible, while an older leftover woman will still have the same girlish heart as before, and I hope you will take care of her.

The two types of women get along with each other, and it is easier to get along with divorced women.

She just wants to enjoy the process of falling in love and doesn't care about the outcome. When a woman sees through love, she doesn't care about the outcome.

Such a woman is a manifestation of irresponsibility for her feelings. They wandered among the men, picking and dissolving.

This kind of person has never thought about getting married, they just want to be in love and not get married, enjoy the feeling of being in love, and don't want to marry responsibly.

Such a woman should be very casual about her feelings, because she can't find her partner.

It's better to find a little girl than to flirt with a forty-year-old woman!

Talking so much is not afraid of being harmed by men?

You should reflect on yourself, whether your conditions are too high, you have a lot of requirements, at this age, there is no advantage, so try to keep your vision low.

In this case, you should think more about your own advantages, not everyone needs to compare with others, in order to highlight their own advantages, to be good at discovering their own shining points.

We must adjust our mentality, improve our life and quality, and make ourselves more and more excellent, so that we can find our own happiness.

You should calm your mind, because a lot of people like to be young, and that's normal, and you should look at it.

If you are not reconciled, you should strengthen your training and constantly improve your spiritual quality and connotation. If there is pressure, there will be motivation, and there will be a character that will not admit defeat, so that you can win the other party.

There is no way, you have to accept it silently, and the age gap itself is here, you have to take good care of yourself to make yourself look younger.

Each age group has its own advantages. For the matter of marriage, it shows that the person is not entrustable at all, and you can choose someone who is like-minded with you.

You should make yourself more confident and find a partner as soon as possible. Don't set the bar too high.

If someone marries you, even if you burn high incense!! Opinionated!!!

32-year-old unmarried women, I don't think they should be called leftover women, because most of today's women are financially independent, and when they choose a mate, the criteria will also be screened according to their own conditions, and some of them can choose not to marry because of their excellence, and they can choose not to marry and end up free. They may share some of their favorite advertorials in the circle of friends, and express their feelings after reading, as long as it is not the kind of loneliness, it is good, just share. Some perceptions may be disturbed by external factors, and they want to live the life they want but can't help but ignore those gossips.

It's a normal mentality, he just thinks that these feelings are very right, let everyone take a look!

Lonely and lonely. No matter why she became a leftover girl, after all, this society puts a lot of pressure on her. Sometimes there is a lack of someone around who can communicate at any time, and she can only talk about it in the circle of friends, but she can't say it so explicitly, so she will share it, in fact, what she shares is what she says.

Should it be to express that you still have a trace of expectation for your feelings?

That's how it should be.

It's just that it's nothing to be idle, and I can't find anyone to talk to, so that's it.

On this point of view, I support the statement of this older leftover woman.

Although it is now said that there are more problems with older leftover women and older leftover men, in fact, I think that the reason why older leftover women have this situation is that they want to find the person they like, not that the older leftover women themselves have higher requirements, but that some people really don't pay attention to objective conditions, but only pay attention to whether their love can really like each other.

I still have a lot of respect for girls who have this point of view, no matter how old they are now, but I don't think it's wrong to stick to what is right for their own point of view.

It's true that it's harder to find a boyfriend when you're older, but it's better to stick to being single than to find someone who isn't the right person to be with.

Of course, if the older leftover women want to get rid of the single, they should also pay attention to the following two points:

1. Don't be too demanding

First of all, since we want to insist on finding the right person, or if we want to find a soul mate, then our objective conditions should not be too demanding, because many boys are more hard-working, but the objective conditions may be really unsatisfactory, if the requirements are too high, it may hinder us from finding a suitable partner.

2. Re-examine yourself

In addition, when we adhere to some of our own principles, we should also re-examine ourselves, which is not to let us look at our own shortcomings but to rethink what kind of soul mate we need to find, for example, is it complementary personality or similar three views? Is it good-looking or self-motivated? Do you know how to take care of you considerately or have a successful career?

If you don't know what you really want, it's difficult.

Don't raise all your requirements so high, many people don't actually dislike older leftover women, but the requirements of older leftover women are too high, so that when those people see the requirements, they often retreat before they have contacted.

There is nothing wrong with it, but you can't have too high requirements, after all, no one is perfect. If you blindly want to find a soul mate, then it is very likely that you will die alone.

Personally, I don't think there's anything wrong with finding a soulmate. is an unsuitable person, even if you get married, it will be very uncomfortable, it is better not to get married. Marriage must keep your eyes open.

If it's not love, how can a woman casually "cohabit" with others? It can be said that a woman's first time is because of love. Of course, no matter who we are, we are not in favor of premarital behavior, because it is irresponsible to ourselves and the future "him".

Many women feel that if they give it to a man for the first time, the man will definitely marry her in the future, so premarital sex is a matter of time. Of course, we also believe that there are an absolute number of women who marry her first man, but what if they don't marry that man? That's not being irresponsible to yourself, it's not being responsible to him.

We all know that love is beautiful, love is sweet, but different people have different feelings, just like a man you come out with, he will definitely say: very happy. But when you ask a random woman, you will find that each woman's answer is basically different, so it is difficult for you to know how a woman really feels about love, but one thing is for sure, then that is, anyone who asks to do something unwillingly will be reluctant and even uncomfortable.

Since a woman is willing to be with a man, she may have a bad mouth, but in fact, her heart is the same as that of a man. Of course, the actual situation of the individual is different, so we might as well take a look at this woman's heart.

Xiaofang: I refused, but I was in a different place with my boyfriend, and I was afraid of rejecting my boyfriend, so I found another girl. From Xiao Fang's words, it is not difficult to see that Xiao Fang lives with her boyfriend, which is not what she really needs.

The reason why Xiaofang lives with her boyfriend is because they are together every day. This is normal in another place, and I believe that any woman who lives with her boyfriend in a long distance, even if it is a conservative girl, will inevitably live with her boyfriend. At this time, he needs a boy to take care of him, and then Xiaofang will live with her boyfriend, which is definitely a normal thing.

But then Xiaofang said that she was afraid that her boyfriend would find another girl, which was equivalent to saying that Xiaofang, a girl, was very insecure, and then she reciprocated with cohabitation.

Xiaohui: I'm very happy, I feel like my life has reached the peak, it's not difficult to see that this woman's child is very happy to live with her boyfriend for the first time, maybe this is also a kind of naivety. It stands to reason that most girls are wary of cohabitation before marriage.

For a simple-minded person, it can only be said that she is too naïve. Of course, if this girl is purely happy, it can only be said that she is too casual.

Xiaoqing: It was a complete accident, I didn't feel anything. If there's anxiety, it's anxiety.

A girl who is anxious about cohabitation before marriage is enough to prove his kindness. Moreover, it is the 21st century. We don't stop anyone from being in love freely before marriage, but just because of love, men and women will be together for a long time, so it is inevitable that some accidents will happen.

Of course, if it is cohabitation, for any girl, it still needs to be carefully considered, after all, it is about your own happiness.

I do feel a little shocked, these older leftover women said that they were really happy to live with their boyfriends for the first time, and they had never experienced such feelings, and I hope that all older leftover women have a home.

They are very nervous and very scared, because it means that they will have a change of identity, and they are also very afraid of whether the other party really likes them, what if they are dumped?

I think it should be a feeling of happiness, after all, they are so old that they can find their own happiness, it is really not easy, all of this is sweet.

Hello answer, happy to answer your questions. Judging from your description, it should have been a more rebellious child at the beginning, and it is also possible that your rebellion was caused by the environment and lack of love given to you by your original family.

I think I was ignorant because I was young, but as I grew older, I slowly changed myself.

Don't take other people's opinions too seriously, after all, your actions are not harmful to others, so just be yourself.

I think as long as you keep changing your past self, your friends and relatives will slowly change their opinions about you and accept you.

Question: I'm changing now, I'm different from others, but I used to be very simple, and now I'm slowly changing myself.

They think that such a good-looking girl has been to make chickens, but it's a pity that I can't explain it or say anything.

Don't think about the experience you have gone through, life always has to look forward, and there are beautiful scenery around you that you need to discover.

The world is still very beautiful, as long as you become a pure person in your heart and go your own way, as long as you don't affect others, no matter what anyone thinks or says, what do you say about what others love when you talk about it.

How can an older leftover woman with a certain social impairment find a boyfriend?

Take this as an example, as a matchmaker who often helps people introduce objects, I want to tell my friends that if you are 100% off the list, if your own excellence accounts for 50%, the circle does not account for 10%, and other reasons account for 40%, don't put the cart before the horse. If your colleagues and friends don't introduce you, I don't think you can get out of the list by expanding your social circle. Since ancient times, those who have attained the Tao have received much help, and those who have lost the Tao have little help.

Teachers, doctors, banks and other professions with a high incidence of leftover women, sometimes think about it, it is important to expand the social circle, and rationally adjust the criteria for choosing a mate.

Every girl has an ideal boyfriend in her heart, and the ideal type means that the other party must be perfect, but I want to ask you, is there really a perfect lover in this world? There is a saying on the Internet, you haven't become your ideal self, why do you ask your lover to be ideal, even if there is such an ideal person, just ask, can it be your turn? In other words, the slightly flawed ones are more real, and they are not easy to cause some problems in long-term relationships.

To establish one's own attraction, there is a term called "law of attraction" in psychology, which refers to the fact that when the mind is concentrated in a certain field, people, things, and things related to this field will be attracted to it. What kind of person you are, what kind of people you will attract, that's the truth, so if you want to get off the list, the first task is to improve your charm! If you are an office clerk with a monthly salary of 3,000, you should do your job well to improve yourself, instead of thinking about how to meet such a beautiful woman with an annual salary of one million and not find a boyfriend, so many boys can't be completely blind.

So there are two situations: you don't want to be too picky, or your character is not good, blind date activities are not recommended, the utilitarian is too strong, and each is very good at camouflage, and they are not familiar with it. It is best to be introduced by seven aunts and eight aunts, as well as friends and colleagues, after all, they know each other, and the probability of deceiving people is much lower.

Don't be too resistant to blind dates, the ancients said: one in a hundred. A hundred, there will always be one or two that are good.

There is quantity first, and then there is quality.

25 used to look for a boyfriend to see the character, 25 after looking for a boyfriend will have more family responsibility, economic ability, character and so on, the richness of experience leads to the improvement of the vision of looking at people, plus there are all leftover women around you, you think someone to accompany you, lonely is not strange now, nine layers of nine men will basically get married before the age of thirty, how many of the rest will be problematic.

The leftover woman is too picky, she feels good, looks at other people's faults, and finally finds that she thinks she is not very good and is married, her so-called excellent is left, when to know how to tolerate and compromise, when to get married, marriage is not because of how good the two are, but because both of them know how to compromise and retreat.