Dare to expose your own shortcomings, always expose your shortcomings

Instead of bothering to cover up, it is better to be generous and exposed, after all, no one can hurt you with something you don't care about.

Exposing weaknesses is a stubborn fight with weaknesses.

I've always been afraid to speak in public, and I always felt that I couldn't do it, even if I memorized the lines well beforehand, my mind would immediately go blank under the attention of a large number of people.

So, I've been trying my best to avoid such occasions. When I was studying, it had little impact; But after work, this became an unspeakable pain for me.

At the meeting, everyone expressed their opinions, I didn't squeak, and the leader thought I had no idea; At the party, when there are many people, I talk less, and everyone thinks that I am cold, and the relationship is becoming more and more estranged.

Until one time, I told a salesperson friend about my troubles.

She hit the nail on the head and said, "You don't think you can say it well, but it's just because you failed a speech in high school." When I was in sales, I learned some words through repeated rejections. ”

My friend's words were like an empowerment, and I was instantly sober.

There is a term in psychology called the "mindset effect", which refers to the fact that when we have a fixed impression of something, we will continue to reinforce that initial cognition.

Because I was afraid of facing the frustration of failure, I kept hiding my weaknesses. But the truth is, such an approach is just a cover-up.

Later, with the encouragement of my friends, I took the initiative to try to communicate with different people and take the initiative to express my opinions in public, only to find that everything was not as difficult as I imagined.

The greatest weakness of human nature is subjective emotions. Only by jumping out of self-limitations, standing on a higher level, and examining one's own weaknesses, can one become a true master.

This process may not be comfortable, but only by being honest with yourself, spreading out your weaknesses, and accepting bad reviews from others can you let the bad reviews help you correct yourself.

Weaknesses don't disappear completely by glossing over. Covering up may give you a temporary sense of security, but it can also catch you off guard at some sudden moment.

Expose weaknesses, have the determination to fight to the end with weaknesses, and you will find that it is not actually terrible.

People who dare to expose their shortcomings are truly strong, because only those who dare to expose their shortcomings to others can be invulnerable.

There is nothing inherently wrong with exposing your shortcomings, and generally only confident people will have the courage to expose their shortcomings.

Sincerity is the first element of interpersonal communication.

However, people should be divided on different occasions and analyzed on a case-by-case basis.

Usually if your shortcomings are more obvious, which may attract strange eyes from the interlocutor, or face a lot of people (the eyes of the masses are bright), then you might as well be generous and say your shortcomings, which not only eases the atmosphere, avoids embarrassment, but also increases your charm to a certain extent.

If that's not the case, that's another story.

Not everyone is willing to make improvements to your shortcomings, and not everyone can find your shortcomings.

If you have a good relationship and the other person is very honest, then you can tell the other person and he may have an opinion about you.

However, for many people who are not familiar with it, or who are not of good quality, there is no need for this.

Not being able to get good advice is secondary.

Especially those who like Zhang's family and Li Jia's short, will make the whole world know.

And I am the same kind. There's nothing wrong with it, I feel like if I expose my shortcomings, others won't be able to use it to make a big fuss, but it's a good thing. Others think you're honest, and they don't care so much about you, and it's much easier for you to do things... Still waters run deep.

Good boy.

If there are any shortcomings, it will be changed.

Don't be afraid to expose shortcomings.

I'm afraid that I won't change my mistakes.

What's wrong with being open.

There is no woman who is not annoying, only a woman who does not know how to hide her shortcomings.

Brave people will expose their shortcomings.

Confident people have the courage to expose their shortcomings.

It doesn't matter if you're exposed, you have to know how to make a little bit of a shortcoming.

"No one is perfect", but when faced with their own shortcomings, not everyone can be so calm; If you want to be brave enough to expose your shortcomings, it will be even more difficult for most people. However, in fact, psychological research has shown that people who can objectively recognize their own shortcomings and are not afraid of showing timidity are more likely to succeed; And people who try to "hide their shortcomings" and dare not face up to their shortcomings will find it difficult to achieve success.

Psychologists believe that how to deal with their shortcomings actually reflects a person's innermost motivation: the deep motivation behind those who dare not face up to their shortcomings and find ways to "hide their shortcomings" is "self-beautification", while the deep motivation behind those who dare to admit and improve their shortcomings is "self-improvement".

People who "glorify themselves" obviously put more energy into showing off their strengths and hiding their weaknesses, while people who "self-improve" put more energy into continuous efforts and thus continuous improvement. As a result, "self-improving" people are obviously more motivated to improve their weaknesses and turn weaknesses into strengths, and to further achieve and achieve success. A recent study by Chinese psychologist Professor Chiu Chi-yu has found that an objective understanding of our shortcomings can make us more motivated to study and work, so as to overcome our own shortcomings and improve our academic and work performance.

In Maslow's eyes, the most successful people are those who achieve "self-actualization", that is, the people who have made the most full use of their potential and made themselves perfect. Through the study of practitioners in various industries such as business and education, Maslow summed up the characteristics of "self-actualization" people, and the first of them is "being able to accept their own shortcomings and defects".

Maslow believes that people who can accept their shortcomings will not worry or blame themselves for their own mistakes, on the contrary, they will improve their shortcomings with a positive attitude, and they will go with the flow of those that cannot be changed. Therefore, on the one hand, such people will continue to improve and become perfect; On the other hand, they will accept themselves and be satisfied with themselves. Obviously, such people are the successful people we have in mind.

Do you want to express your true self? Shortcomings are always unacceptable to others.

In Maslow's eyes, the most successful people are those who achieve "self-actualization", that is, the people who have made the most full use of their potential and made themselves perfect. Through the study of practitioners in various industries such as business and education, Maslow summed up the characteristics of "self-actualized" people, and the first of them is "the ability to accept their own shortcomings."

It's ridiculous that there are also people who like to expose their shortcomings.

It depends on how old you are, but if you're young, it's okay to expose your shortcomings in front of your friends and family so that you can correct them and appear real. If you reach the age of maturity, you must learn to hide your shortcomings so that you can appear to be old and responsible.

Because of cowardice, I don't dare to expose my shortcomings because I am afraid of being caught, and I am afraid that I will not be able to resist being attacked.

Maybe the people around you often laugh at you, or you are too sensitive.

No one is perfect, and you can't be too perfect, otherwise you will be lonely for the rest of your life.

The problem of self-esteem, Zhao Cheng, you have a suspicious personality, in fact, others may not notice your small shortcomings.

Fear of being known or controlled.

Afraid that someone will attack you?

What kind of leadership? It would be better for the leadership not to expose its alleged shortcomings. Some of the shortcomings are big and obvious, of course, it is okay.

Yes, but better not, there are always many pairs of eyes on your seat.

There is no woman who is not annoying, only a woman who does not know how to hide her shortcomings.

Hello. It is recommended that you make a list of your shortcomings, start with the smallest one, pretend to be inadvertently exposed to others, and see how they react, and the result is: no reaction!

You can show it slowly, and at first you feel embarrassed, and later you realize that it's nothing.

But please note that this disadvantage is not the other disadvantage, if it is a blind spot in personality, behavior, and thinking, it is recommended to communicate with your parents, or find a school heart.

But I think you may have a self-hi aspect that makes you dissatisfied, always thinking that you can't get along naturally with others, in fact, it's definitely not a big deal, as long as you are found once, you will be relieved, and it will be really not a thing, it's just a matter of trouble

In addition to habits, endocrine can also affect personality, and many are almost innate.

Recommendation: Operate directly with the bottom layer. Drunk yourself slightly, that's a lot of talk.

If necessary, go out and communicate with people! For example, with your parents, brothers and sisters, talk more, stay with colleagues more, and exchange ideas more! Relax and give yourself plenty of opportunities to speak up.

In fact, don't be afraid, everyone has more or less shortcomings, don't think about it.

There is a saying that no one can make you ashamed of yourself without your consent!

Don't always care about yourself, look at your own strengths, everyone will have strengths and weaknesses, don't compare your own shortcomings with others' strengths, be confident, think I can do it, and be optimistic.

If you recognize your shortcomings, then you have to have the courage to change them, arrange your life more fully, and make your value rise faster, so that you don't have so much time to think about these messy things.

The most direct way to love is to miss.

However, I want one thing to do: you have to repeat one sentence in your mind: why you shouldn't love, why it's not appropriate. Only by understanding this will you not cross the line.

In fact, everyone has low self-esteem at times.

It's just that some people have low self-esteem and others can't see it. You make a list of your inferiority complexes.

See what can be changed and what can't. Change what can be changed, and use your own advantages to avoid weaknesses if you can't change.

It depends on the person you're dealing with.

If you are a good friend, occasionally exposing your shortcomings when chatting together can make your friends understand themselves better, and they will definitely get along better; Of course, don't always talk about your shortcomings in front of others, others will get tired of listening too much, and they will think you are poor and look down on you.

If you are a more average person, try not to mention your shortcomings, after all, who doesn't want to be perfect in front of others? And the more you talk, the more others will think you're useless and the less they want to be friends with you, so if you want to be friends with someone you don't know very well, try not to use your own shortcomings as a talk!

Hehe, telling others about your shortcomings as they are is a kind of etiquette to show sincerity.

But the word etiquette is a rule when it comes to the friendship of gentlemen.

If you are caught by the villain, you may become ridiculed or ostracized by others, etc.

Therefore, before that, we must first understand the character of the other party and make corresponding actions.

Early exposure is better than late exposure.

I don't think there's anything wrong with this, as the saying goes, you can't hide it from the first fifteen, even if you don't let others know now, he (she) will still know one day, and at that time, the result may be even worse, he (she) will feel that you have deceived him (her), and you may not even be friends at that time.

Isn't that bad? Everyone has shortcomings.,I don't need to say that the landlord also knows.,I'm afraid the problem to the landlord is because of my girlfriend.,The problem exposed is unacceptable to you.,Oh,Then please think about a question clearly.,What do you like about her? Aren't her shortcomings excessive?

Oh, I don't need to say the answer, I hope the landlord is happy!