Miserable and miserable, are the empty nesters in the countryside destined to die alone?

Although it is emotionally difficult to accept the helplessness of reality, according to the current social situation and survival pressure, it is not easy for rural empty-nesters to regain a happy family lifeNot to mention that most of them are only children, even if they have two children, most of them are tired of making a living in the fast-paced city, and even on public holidays, it is difficult to have enough time to return to their rural hometown to accompany their elderly parents, and they usually have no energy to take care of the feelings of their parents and the elderly.

Of course, China has begun to lay out the social pension industry, but the speed of development is still in the sluggish stage, which has entered the elderly period of the rural empty nesters can not enjoy, at least in the next few years will not have a significant change, in such an objective background, in the face of empty homes can only increase sadness, but also can not enjoy the joy of family and let children give up the career in the city.

The problem of old-age care is an unavoidable problem for the whole society, but the pressure of survival in the city is everywhere, young people who come out of the countryside do not have the ability to buy a house for the elderly, even if the whole family takes out a loan to buy a house, the heavy mortgage will make them have no time to take care of the feelings of their parents, these seemingly cruel life realities, as long as they face it head-on in a short period of time.

In general, the empty nesters in the countryside can only adapt to the current state of existence, as for whether they will really be lonely and old, they can only wait for a turnaround with the development and progress of society, and for those young people who have the ability to start a business, if the conditions allow, they should still consider the feelings of their parents, after all, the parents who are physically exposed to the skin can not let them bear the cruel reality of loneliness and old age independently when they are old, and I believe that children should still be rewarded for the nurturing grace of their parents.

It is destined not to be the same, it can only be said that the pace of life is relatively fast now, and the children may be too busy with work and have little time to spend with them.

It's scary to do these things, and we're going to get old.

It is like this, young people choose to go out to work in order to make a living, and they cannot accompany their parents.

The empty nesters in the countryside are generally children who go out to work, and in the end, these old people can really only die alone

Empty nesters are already very helpless, and it is a tragedy after all.

The reality is that their children have gone out to work, and they will come back for the New Year, and the old people can only die alone.

Maybe it's lonely!The old people like to be lively.

Maybe, I've seen the old people in the village, looking forward to the return of their children every day!

The old man is indeed quite lonely, but this is also a very helpless thing.

There are many factors contributing to the sad evening of rural empty-nesters. It stands to reason that with the development of society, life should be better and better now. But in rural areas, many elderly people feel otherwise, not only is the pressure increasing, but there are even some who end up in a bleak evening, which is really embarrassing.

The "inadequacy" of the children

In rural areas, getting married and having children has always been a top priority. However, with the development of society, the bride price has also risen. More and more families with sons, especially rural elderly people with many children, have to work even when they are old in order for their sons to marry their daughters-in-law.

There are also some families whose children have already started a family, but still have to rely on the income of their parents, which also leads to the elderly having to use all their time to earn money.

There are too many children and they blame each other.

In families with many children, family relations are complex, and it is easy for children and concubines to compare and pass the buck to each other, resulting in a situation where the elderly have no one to support them.

The concept of old-age care is backward, and the awareness of health care is insufficient.

Many people think that pension is the need to provide for the elderly when they can't move, and think that as long as there is no major illness in the body, there is no need to pay attention.

Generally speaking, the elderly in rural areas only need to complete the ...... of building a house, marrying a daughter-in-law, and holding grandchildrenA series of life tasks, basically into a stage of life, life pressure is not so big, the pressure of human affection is more to the generation of children, as long as a little bit of farming and doing side business, self-sufficiency can live well.

But the turning point was that the good days came to an end when the good days came to an end as they grew older, their physical condition deteriorated, and their income from farming became less and less. Especially if you can't take care of yourself slowly, and your children are forced to work in other places to make ends meet, the life of the elderly is often miserable.

In addition, this may be the most financially stressful stage for their children, and they are afraid of becoming a drag, and their children will not be happy to give up working at this time. Many elderly people in rural areas only have 1 to 3 years from being unable to take care of themselves to their death.

1. No children, no savings.

Most of the children of the elderly have gone to work far away and are not around, which is also the most important factor that causes the elderly to be sad in their old age. But this is not the fault of young people, young people go out to fight for a better life for their families, and if they don't go out to work, they can't earn a penny at home.

Young people go out to work, it is difficult to bring their parents with them, one is that the elderly are not willing to accept the new environment, but the young people are also unwilling to do this, every day early and late home, are working in the company, and simply cannot spare time and energy to take care of the elderly. So in the end, the elderly can only return to their hometown and choose to be lonely for the rest of their lives.

2. Children are not filial.

Many young children pass the buck to each other and are unwilling to take on the responsibility of providing for the elderly, and this trend is becoming more and more serious in rural areas. Usually it's okay, when the old man is not sick, it's still okay for a family to take out one or two hundred, but what about when the old man is really sick?

Three or five hundred are reluctant to take it out, many elderly people don't dare to get sick at all, once they get sick, their children pass the buck to each other, and the whole family will fall apart in an instant.

3. The generation gap is large and there is friction in life.

When parents are old, they want to train people as soon as they open their mouths, or ask for warmth, almost every sentence we have heard since childhood, and their knowledge and insight are very limited, and they can't even give you a convincing guidance on how to behave in the world.

When you're upset, they don't understand why you're upset, you have food, clothing, and a place to sleep. They can't understand it at all, so many people are slowly reluctant to communicate with them, and the friction in life is getting bigger and bigger.

A variety of reasons are stacked together, forming the current situation of the old people's bleak evening, most of them are kind and have a filial piety.

However, it is lost to reality, the economy can't keep up, the lover's non-cooperation, serious illness and disaster can completely destroy a person's kindness, you want to be good to them, you want to communicate with them, but the reality is so, not just a human can change.

A large number of young people in rural areas choose to live in the cities, and under the huge pressure of life, they leave the elderly in the countryside to live! Most young people in rural areas do not have an easy life in the city, burdened with mortgages, car loans, and the pressure of their children's schooling, and have no extra energy, energy and funds to take care of their parents, on the contrary, many parents give their savings to their children! The pension of rural farmers is relatively small, and the medical security is relatively poor compared with that of the city, so when the elderly in rural areas are unable to work, they can only receive a meager pension every month, how can life be good!

It is said that raising children to prevent old age, young people who work hard in the city have a very difficult life on their own, and they have no ability to support their parents, which is not the worst and the saddest. The saddest thing is that the old man is sick, but he has no money to see a doctor, and finally he just leaves.

How to solve the life of empty nesters in rural areas.

From the national aspect, continue to improve the pension level of rural farmers and increase the reimbursement level of medical insurance for urban residents! The most fundamental solution is to narrow the gap between urban and rural areas, so that young people in rural areas no longer yearn for the life of big cities, and they can enjoy good public service facilities, good medical care, and good education at their doorstep.

With the continuous development of the times, the phenomenon of empty nesters is becoming more and more common, compared with urban empty nesters, rural empty nesters live more miserable in their later years, why is this?

First, the younger generation is not around.

Contemporary society is developing by leaps and bounds, people are not satisfied with the current living conditions, many rural people choose to go out to work to change their lives, and more and more elderly people are "forgotten" in rural areas. They can't keep up with the rapid development of the city, and they want to stay in the countryside to retire quietly, which is also a thing that their children are very helpless. The most important reason for the sadness of the rural empty-nesters is nothing more than the lack of due care and care, and the children are busy with work day and night, and the only holidays and rest are used to relieve themselves.

Unlike the elderly living in the city, they are often troubled by problems such as long distances, inconvenient transportation, and expensive road fees, and cannot visit their children at any time. If the younger generation is not filial, ignores us, and doesn't even have a **, over time, our loneliness will increase and we will talk less than before.

Second, the rural economy is not in good shape.

Despite the arrival of a moderately prosperous society, it is inevitable that some poor mountainous areas are still very backward, shops and supermarkets are very rare, and the elderly do not have the same convenience as the cities to buy daily necessities, and they often need to walk long distances to the town's bazaars to buy. The elderly who live here have few opportunities to go out, and most of their cognition of the outside world is learned by watching TV. Different from the urban elderly, they need to grow their own food to make a living, and face the loess with their backs to the sky all their lives, but the income they get is very small, and this meager income is not enough to support them to generate large expenses, so they are often afraid of getting sick, and often endure physical discomfort in order to save money, many old people dare not and are unwilling to tell their children the fact that they are sick, for fear that they will not be effective and increase the troubles of their children.

Third, ideological concepts are backward.

Some people say that the development of every era is the development of economy and culture, and it is normal for children to have different ideas and concepts from the elderly. Since the popularization of the Internet, the rural elderly are increasingly unable to keep up with the trend of the times, becoming the weak in the information age, compared with the urban elderly, the rural elderly are not the same as the cultural influence, the education is also different, the opportunity to contact new things is less, some of the old people often use outdated ideas to educate and manage young people, with old and outdated ideas to guide young people, firmly believe that their ideas are correct, which also causes the relationship between them to deteriorate more and more.

There are also some elderly people who have outdated ideas and preferences, and do not like to listen to any opinions and suggestions, which also makes the gap between them and their children bigger and bigger. There are also some old people who pay attention to the roots of falling leaves, and are unwilling to follow their children to live in the city, they can't accept the quiet and strangeness of the city, and are more accustomed to the lively life in the countryside, and like to gather together to talk about the Li family, the owner of the family, they have been living in this mode for so long, and it is difficult to change it for a while, which makes it difficult for them to keep up with the pace of the times.

With the development of China's economy, the problem of aging is becoming increasingly prominent, among which the phenomenon of "empty nesters" is particularly concerning. On October 29, 2012, the first national intelligent pension strategy seminar introduced, the proportion of empty nest elderly is very large, by 2050, China's dying childless elderly will reach about 79 million, living alone and empty nest elderly will account for more than 54%, empty nest elderly pension problem, also once again aroused concern.

Generally, empty nesters in rural areas live alone in a courtyard, and few people come to visit and walk around in the home except for the New Year's holiday. These left-behind elderly people rarely come out for a walk, after all, they are too old to move around.

And they are extremely unsafe at home, and some emergencies cannot be handled well in a timely manner, which will bring distress to the lives of the elderly. For example, if you have a sudden acute illness at home, live alone or live with your boss, it is difficult to rescue at the safest and fastest time. Missing the best time to rescue can bring unexpected sequelae to the elderly.

The empty nesters have a sad evening scene. It's not just empty nesters who are sad.

There is always a lot of pain and suffering in the world. Some blame the misfortune of empty nesters on their children. Then I would like to ask, can the misfortune of empty nesters blame their parents?

Everything grows in balance, and the cycle of cause and effect is exactly the same. I don't want to say if all those empty nesters have committed sins against their children. I don't want to find out if their children are really cruel and cold-blooded, and they deserve to die.

After all, everyone has everyone's life. There are no young and old people on Huangquan Road. It's not just the elderly who are empty nesters and desolate.

This world is already cruel, and who has not experienced many pains and torments.

Why are rural empty nesters sad at night? In fact, the phenomenon of empty nesters is already very serious, not only in rural areas, but also in cities, but rural areas may be even more desolate. One of the most important reasons for the sadness of the empty nest elderly in rural areas is that they do not get the care and care they deserve, their children are not particularly filial, and some children who are particularly excessive even ignore the elderly and leave them to fend for themselves.

Spiritual emptiness and loneliness. We often hear people say that the elderly are like children, this is because the elderly need more care and love, and those empty nesters are very empty and lonely because they have lost their spouses and have no spiritual support. Especially for the elderly who have a deep relationship between the husband and wife, if one of them dies first, the one who stays behind is easy to be overly sad, resulting in a trance.

There are many elderly air-conditioned elderly people in rural areas, who are seriously ill and bedridden due to some physical and mental reasons, and need to be served all day. But even if the children are very filial, they have their own farm work or work to complete, and they cannot always be by the side of the elderly. Especially for those who have been bedridden for a long time, it is possible to have sores or rot on their bodies.

The old age of these old people is very miserable and painful.

Although society is getting better and the lives of the elderly are improving, the actual situation is still not optimistic. A variety of reasons are stacked together, forming the current situation of the old people's bleak evening scene. Yes, most people are kind and have a filial piety.

However, it is the loss to reality, the economy cannot keep up, the lover's non-cooperation, and the catastrophe can completely destroy a person's kindness. You want to be nice to them, you want to communicate with them, but the reality is that it is not something that can be changed by just one person.