Are girls inherently less secure than boys?

In general, girls are more timid and insecure than boys.

Girls do need to be a little bit more protective than boys, so they are relatively weaker, so they feel a little less secure than boys, but now that the changes are that boys don't feel safe, so it shouldn't be said that it's inherently due to the environment.

This has something to do with personality.,Boys are as timid as they are.。

You can first figure out why you are insecure, find out the reason, try to solve it, through your own efforts, improve yourself, improve yourself, cultivate positive interests and hobbies, I believe it will alleviate this situation. In fact, insecurity is not only for girls, but also for boys, which is a very normal thing. Stalking.

If a guy is insecure, it is often because he lacks self-confidence, causing him to be insecure. It may be a lack of confidence in one's own abilities, mainly at work. Because you are incompetent and unsatisfactory in your work, you lack a sense of security.

Or they are dissatisfied with the nature of their work, income, etc., resulting in low self-esteem, and insufficient income will make their quality of life poor and feel faceless, so they lack a sense of security. It may also be that you are not confident in your appearance, you don't know how to dress and match, you don't know how to dress up and sell yourself, and at the same time you don't have confidence in your talent and don't dare to pursue the girl you like.

Therefore, boys' lack of security mainly comes from work, life and emotions. If boys want to improve their sense of security, they need to find ways to improve their talents, enhance their self-confidence, cultivate more hobbies, improve themselves, make themselves better and better, and their talents are worthy of themselves. When you have ambitions, you can achieve yourself.

When you find yourself with a problem, don't rush and don't think about solving it right away. After discovering the problem, after having a clear idea, relax first, don't be nervous all the time, don't be impatient. When you think of several ways to adjust, stick with it.

If you can't hold on, you will end up at zero. Always keep making these adjustments a good habit for you.

You can develop a good routine first, go to bed early, don't stay up late, the later you sleep, the more awake you will be, and the more awake and irritable you will be. You can nurture your hobbies such as dancing, listening, reading, and sports to further enrich your life and help regulate your inner emotions. You can communicate with people more often, so that you are not so lonely and helpless.

Hopefully, these suggestions will be useful to you, the key to the problem lies with yourself, learn to persevere, learn to adjust.

In love, many girls are insecure, sensitive and fragile, delicate and timid.

A little contradiction is easy to be cranky, and a little problem can lead to a serious emotional crisis.

In fact, they just want a little more security and preference, but their partners can't give them this confidence.

Such a girl is both distressing and pitiful.

We all feel that it is normal and common for girls to be insecure, and it is understandable.

But when it comes to boys' insecurity, I can't help but feel a little ridiculous:

A dignified seven-foot man can be insecure?

Answer: Yes.

What are the signs of insecurity in boys?

People-pleasing personality with a fear of losing.

In love, not only girls are afraid of losing, but boys are the same, as long as there is investment, emotions will arise.

I have a student who cares about his girlfriend very much, and in order to maintain a stable relationship, he pays like crazy and responds to his girlfriend's requests.

He told me, "I'm afraid that if I don't treat her well, she will leave me, so I can only continue to be doubly nice to her." ”

However, in the end, his girlfriend broke up with him, the reason was that the pressure was too great, and he felt that he couldn't beat the breath.

Too close love is suffocating, too restrained love makes people want to escape.

If your goodness has no bottom line, love will also become bottomless.

Those who have a heart will cherish it, and those who don't care will waste it.

Pessimism, strong negative emotions.

There are not a few boys who are pessimistic in love, and they are not even willing to like a person to guess.

Because in their eyes, once there is a beginning, there will be an end, and there will be the loss of a loved one.

Rather than ultimately losing, they would rather choose never to have an auspicious existence.

Even if you start a relationship, you will prepare for the worst due to your inner insecurity.

When something very small happens, they will also think it is a sign of "are you leaving me" or "don't love me anymore".

Anyone who always thinks about the worst, and in the end it may not be how much contradiction it is that defeats love, but his own thinking.

may lose the moment, and self-rationalize "I said right, you just want to break up".

Suspicious and controlling.

Insecure boys will secretly do one thing: check their girlfriend's mobile phone.

Although they understand that this behavior is not correct and that there should be more trust in the relationship, they cannot control this behavior.

Boys are also vexatious and insecure in love, and they are more serious than girls.

If there is any close contact with the opposite sex, they will "threaten" you to block and delete, or even secretly delete you.

Girls will threaten to break up, in fact, boys are the same.

If you can't control the heart of loving someone, you will go crazy and want to control your partner.

cares about her every move, thinks about everything, and can't take the right path with a hundred and eighty turns in her mind.

However, the reason for them to do this is nothing more than too much love.

A sense of security is not innate, and it is not a shame to be insecure.

As a boy, I have to say that just because a boy doesn't say that he doesn't feel insecure, it doesn't mean that it doesn't exist.

Men are taught to be strong from an early age. If you show uneasiness, then you are cowardly, you will be eliminated in the process of male competition, and others will look down on you. If you are scared, you will have to swallow it in your stomach if you knock out your teeth, and if you accidentally show that you are insecure in the process of climbing up, it is equivalent to handing the knife to the competitor's hand, and you will definitely be attacked.

Society's requirements for men are strong, brave, responsible, and able to carry things.

And women are taught to be obedient, showing a weak side can get some preferential treatment, from time to time the insecurity is revealed, but it is conducive to their own survival, and the society's requirements for women are obedient, gentle, and kind.

So women can be insecure, men can't.

The part of the trait that is allowed will surely thrive. Gradually, women become fragile and squeamish, and men become reticent. In the final analysis, the general environment does not allow men to show their weak sides, and women are not allowed to show too strong themselves, otherwise, they are a minority in this society and are easy to be criticized.

Therefore, when both men and women have a sense of insecurity, but the manifestations are different, one is outward and the other is introverted, which creates a false impression that girls are less worthy of repentance than boys.

The origin of insecurity is caused by the strain in family relationships at an early age.

Either the relationship between the parents is strained and they often quarrel; Either the parents are divorced or the parents are not around for many years; There is also a situation where the relationship between parents and children is strained, such as parents always criticizing, threatening, and suppressing their children, and telling their children at every turn that they don't want you if they are disobedient.

Disharmony in family relationships at an early age can create a shadow over the person's life, and after this insecure emotional pattern is established, a person will also feel at any time in their relationship as an adult.

In the process of interacting with strangers, there is nothing abnormal about insecure people, and they will even be more approachable than ordinary people, but once they enter an intimate relationship, as the relationship deepens, the shortcomings of insecurity will slowly emerge and magnify, and a person will become extremely sensitive and fragile, suffering from gains and losses.

Romantic relationships, in particular, have a strong sense of exclusivity, which gives the insecure person a reason to control, and he will take for granted the strong desire to control that he generates. The partner should take all the blame for his or her own upset.

This desire to control, in the final analysis, is afraid that the other party will betray him or abandon him, so he wants to hold you firmly in the palm of his hand wherever he can try to catch you.

Although he is trying to maintain a relationship, he subconsciously does not believe in love. He believes that sooner or later, the other party will not love him and then leave him. So the most he does is to prove that the other party loves him through all kinds of "trouble", or to go deeper, he is proving that the other party does not love him.

This is an example, and most of the time the men are stronger.

I think girls' insecurities come from themselves, and there are many girls who feel that they are not good enough to be worthy of their boyfriends, so it is difficult for them to feel safe.

If a boy can acknowledge the relationship between two people and is willing to tell the girl about his situation, he will feel very safe.

It generally comes from the family and from their other half, because many women hope that they can achieve happiness, and secondly, because their hearts are very weak, so it is easy to be insecure.

Why is it that girls are so easily insecure, but rarely hear boys say they are insecure?

First: In fact, this is precisely because women tend to put their own survival value on men, which leads to their own insecurity. In particular, women who "would rather cry in a BMW than laugh on a bike" tend to have a sharp drop in their quality of life and life insurance once they fall out of a BMW.

Do you think they can feel a strong sense of security?

Second: on the other hand, girls' insecurities come from the psyche. They are willing to seek more stable and reliable people or things to rely on and help, so as to reduce their own unsafe hidden dangers and troubles. This is the general way of thinking of people seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages. Not only women, but also men.

Third: We all want to live a stable life, and no one likes to live in chaos and fear. The dominance of men in social life inadvertently puts them in a position to protect women and vulnerable groups.

Their height and strength can protect not only themselves, but also women, children, and families.

Fourth: Men are naturally aggressive in their genes. Since ancient times, most wars in human history have been fought by humans.

Very few women participated in the war, and most of them were involved in medical and logistical work, as women were inherently weaker than men and were not suitable for high-intensity physical activity.

Almost every woman who is in love or married will be suspicious of her man. Women want to know all the secrets of men. If the man tells the woman everything, then the woman will feel that the man is very reliable and trustworthy.

If a man often lies to a woman, then the woman will feel anxious and scared. After a long time, women will feel that they have no control over the man, which means that there is no "sense of security".

In general, they don't pay much attention to the survival value behind men (at least the mainstream of society is not as extreme as you), their social status is much higher than that of Oriental women, they have more money** than Oriental women, and can do more things. So they take the initiative to solve the problem in their own hands – you can also call it independent.

It may be that girls are more invested in emotions and are more sensitive to the perception of things.

Girls want their boys to protect themselves in life, and girls are the weaker ones in the relationship between men and women. It definitely needs to be protected by boys.

Because men rarely show it, they don't know how to express their emotions, and even if they do, they won't tell others.

Because of the sedan chair, women are vulnerable, and there is a risk of being violated by their grandchildren.

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A woman's insecurity comes from her family of origin.

In the book Family of Origin, it is said that our attachment relationship determines our adult relationships, and if we grow up in a loving environment, then when we grow up, we will be more mentally healthy, and then we will not be insecure in general. But once we grow up in an avoidant family, especially in an environment of parental indifference and domestic violence, then children will have insecurities from an early age, and this insecurity may even accompany them for life.

This is what we often say that girls should be rich, and only when a girl has experienced an environment that is tolerated by love and grows up, then she will have a higher degree of trust in the crowd in the future, and will present a better benign interaction in the exalted intimate relationship. On the other hand, if a child grows up in an indifferent family, Yuno will either fall into low self-esteem or be hostile if he does not get attention. On the other hand, women's insecurity comes from lack of economic independence.

Many people tend to underestimate the importance of financial independence, which is very important for women's self-esteem and security.