If a husband and wife are only superficial couples, what will they do?

We don't know much about each other, and we seem to be intimate but we are actually estranged. On the surface, the husband and wife seem to be very affectionate to outsiders, but in fact, there is not much communication in private, so the two parties do not understand each other, and they may behave intimately in front of outsiders, but in fact, there will be no eye contact, so if you look closely, you will find that the two are not as affectionate as they appear.

There are manifestations such as lack of mutual trust, lack of communication, quarrels, and infidelity to marriage. The most important thing between husband and wife is trust, without trust, let alone communication, in the end there is only betrayal.

Respectful and respectful, no intimate contact. In each other's work and life, they don't think about each other. When encountering various problems and difficulties, they will not ask for help from the other party, nor will they accept the other party's request for help.

If it is only a superficial couple, they may be very intimate and affectionate in front of outsiders. But back at home, the two of them almost didn't say a word, this should be the so-called superficial couple.

It can be seen from their chat that they don't care about each other, they don't understand each other, they don't know each other's preferences, they don't care what the other party does, they don't get angry, and they don't get happy.

Two people don't care about each other, don't understand, don't understand, don't trust, and don't communicate and solve difficulties when they have problems, which indicates that there is a problem between two people.

Lack of communication with each other, lack of understanding, lack of trust, long-term cold war, each managing money, not interfering with each other, often not returning home at night, and often threatening each other with divorce.

Frequent quarrels, and it hasn't been resolved. Disputes often arise because of conflicts between daughters-in-law and mothers-in-law.

Two people often quarrel, often cold and violent, do not communicate when encountering problems, and have no common topics, if these manifestations appear, it means that there are problems in the relationship between two people.

None of them are occupied, two people will do housework together, and one will take on the responsibility of the family, often pick up the children together, go out on trips together, or two people understand each other's difficulties, and so on.

The first is that they will support each other, and they will respect each other, and they will be considerate of each other, and at the same time, they will know that each other is not easy, and they will also know each other's hardships, and they will also leave each other with private space, which I occupy.

The manifestation of love is that they will be very considerate of each other's difficulty, and they will often accompany each other, when he works overtime very late, he will wait for him to come home to prepare meals for him, and I hope that the two of them can stay together whenever they have time.

If two people love each other, they will understand each other, tolerate each other, trust each other, rely on each other, and also know how to communicate well. Now I only have two.

Roughly speaking, it means that because of frequent contact, hearts and minds, habits convergence, and mutual influence, so that the faces are similar.

The so-called "husband and wife" is just the tilt of people's perspective and the error of vision. Just as foreigners see that Chinese are all long, we see a group of sparrows without difference, for a couple, we have first defined them in our hearts, and naturally focus on discovering their similarities, and rarely pay attention to their differences.

In fact, no matter who is between men and women, there is a certain consistency in the "parts" of appearance, especially between people of the same race, the same skin color, and the same region, and there are more similarities in body and physiognomy. is not a husband and wife, and there will be no fewer people who are comparable in appearance, not to mention that most couples live in the same environmental conditions, and this similarity will be a little more.

It is not surprising to paste these similarities together, coupled with our preconceived psychological cognition, that husband and wife should be similar. In fact, without knowing it, there are many people who mistakenly identify a man and a woman as husband and wife.

The meaning of husband and wife is: two people have lived together for a long time, and their expressions and movements imitate each other, and they will become more and more similar. In fact, it is because most people cherish themselves, and seeing people who are similar to themselves are particularly pleasing to the eye, from the beginning they use themselves as a model to choose the other half.

"Husband and wife" probably means that because of frequent contact, hearts and minds, habits convergence, and mutual influence, so that the face is similar.

In fact, there is another biological reason why couples are becoming more and more like each other: their living habits and dietary structure are the same. Over time, the couple's same facial muscles have been exercised, and their smiles and expressions have gradually converged, making the two appearances that were originally different look similar.

In terms of physiology, the same diet and living habits will greatly increase the probability of two people suffering from the same disease, making outsiders feel that "this couple really cherishes each other".

In fact, we all have narcissism in choosing a mate. We look similar to us. The opposite sex with similar body proportions has an instinctive liking.

From the first time we met my daughter-in-law, I felt that she was the person I was looking for. The main standard of the other half of my heart. It's just that he has a very large face like me.

Hehe, it's pleasing to the eye. Therefore, when we choose a mate, we are looking for another shadow of ourselves. In other words, we are born with the ability to imitate, and we will subconsciously imitate people close to us.

When you find that a couple is often similar in behavior, speech, and temperament, it also indicates that both of them are imitating each other subtly.

I think the relationship between husband and wife can actually be explained scientifically. First of all, two people have lived together for a long time, eat the same meals, and have similar schedules. Surviving in such an environment, the figures of two people will easily tend to be unified.

My husband and I have been living together for more than ten years, and now the two of us have walked to **, and people say that you two are good husband and wife. Sometimes we feel like the two of us are surprisingly similar when we take pictures. I think it's because the two people who live together are often the same emotionally, with similar joys, sorrows, and sorrows.

When the two of them get older, they are saggy, their hair is thinning, and when they are young, many of the more distinctive appearance characteristics will gradually disappear, and the appearance at this time will show more of the original bone features.

If you live in a healthy and happy lifestyle, then both husband and wife will be energetic, optimistic and cheerful, which promotes a positive "husband and wife appearance". People say that colonies are also closely related to living habits, and husbands and wives are basically the same in terms of diet, work and rest rules, exercise patterns and habits, etc., and these factors also determine the physiological state of people's organisms.

After the husband and wife have been together for a long time, they begin to be influenced by each other intentionally or unintentionally, so that they do not feel that they imitate others, including the tone of speech, demeanor, or the view of a thing, and even the reaction to the same thing may sometimes be surprisingly consistent, so that in the eyes of others, these two people are just like one person, the pace of walking, the remarks made when seeing things, the taste and hobbies when eating together, and even the details of the eyebrows and eyes are unexpectedly consistent, such a situation, People often say that these two people really have husband and wife. The husband and wife here don't look alike, but the two of them feel like one person, and the similarity is too high.

In psychology, "husband and wife" also refers to the similarity of temperament, movements, expressions, etc., and the psychological effect of this husband and wife's entourage will affect our physiological changes, for example, the same expression and action will make the facial muscles between husband and wife similar, and the appearance of facial muscles will in turn affect the similarity of behavior and action, thus entering a cycle, resulting in the longer the marriage or the more in love with the couple, the more similar they are!

A stable and harmonious marriage promotes the objects of the two original families to carry out effective running-in, collision, coordination, adaptation, tolerance and other complex processes. In the long married life, constantly accepting the baptism of time prompts the hearts of two people to get closer to each other and learn from each other, so that the personality and temperament continue to converge, and each other's expressions are also learned, such as smiles, expressions, behaviors, etc., will show the "husband and wife".

In fact, traits are not only related to genetic inheritance, but also related to the acquired environment, and the appearance of husband and wife is caused by acquired factors, such as similar living environment factors, eating habits, and life goals may be affected. In addition, psychological research believes that close physical contact, endocrine interaction, verbal communication, tacit cooperation of behavior, and consistency of emotional communication may all become the reasons for the formation of husband and wife.

This is mainly due to the existence of a "biological nepotism" relationship in people's subconscious, and people are instinctively more willing to trust people who look similar to themselves, and this may be how love at first sight may come about. And some couples or couples look very similar in physical characteristics, which may also be due to the fact that they feel very familiar and easy to gain affection from the beginning of contact with each other, that is, they are inherently similar.

From the very beginning of love, people will instinctively choose people who are similar to themselves, which is also the law of sexual selection, based on the psychological needs of both parties, common experiences, hobbies, habits, etc. will affect each other, in addition to the external similarity, their way of thinking and social cognition will also tend to reach a consensus, which is that in many cases, it is a couple who have just walked together, and they will also have a little similarity in appearance.

And there is a similar saying all over the world: it is that people are easily attracted to people whose faces have something in common with them. Some evolutionary biologists believe that this is because we all subconsciously feel that people who tend to look similar to us feel more trustworthy and secure living together.

I remember a professor who said that husband and wife are a mirror. It is possible to disguise in front of others, but in front of the closest people, it is possible to expose all the shortcomings. Some people are humble gentlemen or ladies on the outside, but quarreling at home are completely different things.

The professor also said that husband and wife are mirrors that can reflect each other's shortcomings.

The ancients talked about the way of husband and wife, to respect each other as guests. It's about restraining your emotions. And when husband and wife quarrel, they all grasp the shortcomings of the first Shen Shifang.

I have seen many people complain, and when they complain, they have come to the conclusion that they often grasp the shortcomings of the other party. Even if the other party has shortcomings, it seems that there is no one advantage. Grasp the opponent's shortcomings and hold on, in fact, strengthen the opponent's shortcomings, and at the same time expand.

Many couples divorce as a result of this strengthened limb. It is actually dangerous for people to control their emotions well.

Between husband and wife, if they are too close, they are enemies, and since they are enemies, they love and complain. Complaining is the process of reinforcing the concept of the other person. For example, you have always felt that the other party is **, a thief, and has been strengthening it, and when you see him, you think of a thief, **.

What a terrible thing it is for people to live in concepts.

The ancients said that gossip should not talk about people's faults, and you should not talk about other people's faults. When you hear that so-and-so is a ** (maybe it's a fact, maybe it's a rumor), you believe it, and when you see him, the first thought in your head: **.

You see how terrible it is. The same is true for denominations. Some people say that in the era of the end of the Dharma, only the Pure Land is the only way to liberate.

If you believe in this one, you will look down on other denominations. It's also an obstacle.

The essence of Zen is to get rid of all illusions and to realize the concept of separation. We are all living in concepts, and there is no way to be liberated. We should live with filial piety with our hearts, not with our minds.

Ordinary people like to use concepts one by one and then put them on other people's heads. There will be no liberation in this way.

Two people have gone from love to marriage, which is already a gift from God, which shows that it is sent by fate. But life is always dull, after two people have been together for a long time, there may be a lot of friction, and those intolerable contradictions will eventually make marital problems prominent. The nature of their marriage can be seen by looking at the way a couple speaks, because love and non-love are hidden in the details.

The mouth of the discussion is a loving couple

In real life, two people will become a family after they have reached the palace of marriage, so many things have to be solved together to be able to satisfy each other, but when one person does not understand the other person's thoughts and opinions enough, there may not be such a thing to discuss next time. Men will always take charge of the decision when making decisions, not letting the woman know the decision, and speaking in a non-negotiable tone, which means that married life is basically unhappy, and the two don't care about each other's opinions at all. But on the contrary, if a husband and wife encounter big and small things, they solve them with each other in a consultative tone, then it means that the husband cares about his wife's feelings in everything, so it can be seen that the couple is still very affectionate.

The tone of the speech is-for-tat

-for-tat couples are very common in real life, and many people have children, almost focusing on the child, and they can't face themselves, which is also a fact that grows from a child to an adult. Even if we have children, we can't stop, we are a fact as human beings, we are people who need to get the warmth of their lovers, we are husband and wife, we have something to solve together, and we can accommodate each other's shortcomings and drawbacks. But in real life, if you do anything, you can't speak right, and the tone is always-for-tat, such a marriage is just a relationship maintained for the sake of living, and it has nothing to do with love.

Therefore, we can basically judge whether the relationship between the husband and wife is friendly and whether the nature of the marriage is happy through the form of dialogue between husband and wife.

Marriage is a matter of two families, and only when the two parties attach great importance to the relationship between each other, can the two families live in harmony.