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Uninvited, here I would also like to share with you my thoughts on life. First of all, from a strategic point of view, we must have a basic understanding of life, that is, human beings have a destiny, that is, we often talk about providence. Man is a product of nature, and everyone has their own fixed fortune, which is a natural choice that cannot be changed.
Anything you encounter in life, whether good or bad, since it has happened, is providential, it is what you should have happened, there is no way around it.
But the fate of people, what will happen to your providence, there is no way. If everyone can be fixed to what will happen in the future, then what is the meaning of the existence of life, then it is not the natural world, it should be called the inevitable world. What we usually talk about is just a direction, and as for whether it will happen, it depends on the will of God.
Well, back to the title of this article, there are a few things that middle-aged men are most afraid of. If we understand that everyone has their own providence, which is destiny, we can strategically maintain peace of mind.
If you're scared, it means you care, and that's a good thing. But if it is something that will inevitably happen, no matter how afraid you are, no matter how worried you are, it will still happen, and it is not something you can change; If providence doesn't happen, it doesn't happen no matter what, you can't control it.
Therefore, when a man lives to middle age, he should understand this truth. We are afraid of our bodies, we are worried about our careers and families, which is a good thing, it shows that we care about it, and it is a sign of responsibility. It is fear and worry that causes us to try, to work hard, to do our best to avoid what we are afraid of from happening.
But strategically, we should maintain peace of mind, as long as we work hard, work hard, and truly fulfill our responsibilities, then that's fine, and the rest is providence. In the depths of our hearts, it's important to keep this peace, because that's life.
Our ancestors have a saying: do your best, obey the destiny of heaven.
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Makes sense. When people reach middle age, it is the age of "old and young", if at this time, the body has health problems, there will be huge life pressure. If your career is not going well at this time, when you get older, there will be fewer job opportunities, and huge life pressure will follow.
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This sentence makes sense, middle-aged men play the role of pillars in the family, there are elderly parents who need to support themselves, and there are children who can't stand alone, so once they are sick, spend money on treatment and can't work to earn money, then they can't support their parents and can't provide help for their children's growth.
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I agree that middle age has become the breadwinner and strong support of the family, and unexpected situations will affect the whole family.
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I think it makes sense that people will face a lot of pressure when they reach middle age, and they will also be scared.
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It is a very realistic sentence that if you encounter these problems in middle age, it will be a great burden, and a bad solution will make people collapse.
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In fact, it is very normal, no matter at which stage there are difficulties in survival, we should not worry about what did not happen, we should face every day happily, do not complete our own troubles about unknown things, and live a good life.
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When people reach middle age, they are most afraid: they are sick, their careers are not going well, and their children have accidents" I think this sentence is very correct, because after middle age, there will be a certain amount of economic pressure, if you encounter physical problems, your career is not going well, and at the same time, your children will have a little accident, which will cause heavier pressure on middle-aged people, which will seriously endanger your life.
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This sentence is a true portrayal, now I have a casual cold, and I have to spend 100 yuan if I have a fever, if my career is not going well, I can't earn money, and the pressure will be even greater, and if my children don't have filial piety, no one in an ordinary family can stand it.
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When people reach middle age, they are most afraid: they are sick, their careers are not going well, and their children have accidents, and their middle-aged bodies are the most important, and it is very important to have a healthy body, and they also need a certain amount of economy, and they don't want their children to have any accidents, because people are very stressed when they reach middle age.
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I think it's very right, now many parents want this to be the most, because they are afraid of dragging down their children, I think everyone wants that, so we have to protect our bodies.
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When people reach middle age, they are most afraid: they are sick, their careers are not going well, and their children have accidents", there is nothing wrong with this sentence, people are afraid of these three when they reach middle age, and if they lack any of them, their lives are incomplete.
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That's right. If you are sick, you have to spend money, your career is not going well, you have no money, and if your children have an accident, you are digging the lifeblood of the elderly.
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Because people will be very stressed when they reach middle age, if there are things that go wrong at this time, it will be really annoying, and they will not have the energy to pay attention to deal with things that should not be there.
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I quite agree with this sentence, when people reach middle age, they look down on wealth, and what they want at this age is nothing more than good health, a smooth career, and the safety of their children.
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I have a deep understanding of this sentence, life is indeed like this, ups and downs, there are many unsatisfactory things, people reach middle age, the body is not as good as before, there is no way to work as hard as when I was young, the illness is like a mountain, so that the family loses income **, the life of the family is not guaranteed, and the career is also blocked. In addition, if the children are not filial, or if an accident occurs, the parents will suffer the greatest pain in their lives, which is fatal to middle-aged people.
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That's right. When people reach middle age, it can be said that they are the most stressed, and I feel that I have to add another "parents are not in good health", no matter which one has problems, it will exacerbate anxiety.
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When people reach middle age, they are most stressed. Middle-aged people are the pillars of the family, both old and young. If you are sick and your career is not going well, your family may lose your finances and fall into trouble.
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When people reach middle age, it is a critical time for the old and the young, and the pressure is very high, no matter which situation occurs, it is a huge blow, whether it is a blow to themselves or to their families.
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Because people are middle-aged, many things dare not fight, so they can only do what they can, and dare not stop, because there are still old people and children to raise.
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There is an old saying that "a man stands at thirty, and he is not confused at forty", which can be said to be a warning to middle-aged men. The first thing that men are most afraid of when they reach middle age is that they will not achieve anything, and at this time you no longer have the energy and physical strength you had when you were youngOnly some experience left when you struggle, if you have nothing to do at this time, then you have to start worrying, because at this time you are no longer for yourself, more often you exist for your family and society, they need you to take a responsibility, and these are based on your ability to do a certain amount of work.
The second middle-aged man is most afraid of having no direction, which is even more terrible than the previous situation, and there is no direction at the age when he should have a career, so he will inevitably be a failureDirection determines whether your life is meaningful, we are born to this world is to find our own meaning, this is what we must find, the old saying "not confused" is also this problem, we can't live a life but meaningless, that is undoubtedly the saddest thing.
Third, middle-aged men are most afraid of failure in cultivating the next generation, people often say that the next generation is the continuation of our lives, and cultivating children can be said to be the biggest thing in lifeThey inherited our lives, which is also a way for Chinese civilization to continue to inherit, at this age, we know that what we are busy with all day is the bits and pieces of children's lives, so this is also the most feared thing for middle-aged men.
There is a joke on the Internet that "it is difficult to be a man, and it is even more difficult to be a man", a middle-aged man needs to bear too much responsibility, but isn't the joy of life here? What is the meaning of a smooth sailing life, we should enjoy it.
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Seeing this question, I can't help but think of the classic four joys and sorrows of life.
The four joys of life.
A long drought is a rainy day, a foreign country meets an old acquaintance, the cave house spends candle nights, and the gold list is inscribed.
The four great sorrows of life.
The young man lost his parents, the middle-aged lost his spouse, the old man lost his only son, and the young son had no good teacher. ”
1. Fear of losing a spouse.
The above is the thinking of ancient people, and now, in middle age, the loss of a spouse is undoubtedly the first place. Middle-aged, old, old to support; There is a small underneath, and minors should be cultivated. Family harmony and husband and wife are of the same heart is a great blessing of the family, and nothing is more important.
As for the family, the most feared loss of children is the middle age, and now the number of children in each family is not as large as in ancient times, and it is not an exaggeration to say that children are the parents now. Children are our expectation and our emotional sustenance. There was a neighbor in middle age, her son was in an accident and was gone, and her whole person became demented, because of her age, it was impossible to have another child, and she always felt that her life was very bleak when she saw her.
2. Fear of losing your career.
When a person reaches middle age and stands in his thirties, he should also start a family, not extravagant and wealthy, but at least be able to maintain the livelihood of his family. Nowadays, car loans, housing loans, and investment in education for raising children are also increasing, and all kinds of modern life do not need funds. With a stable career, there is a stable income**, and losing a career will inevitably lead to huge survival pressure.
3. Fear of losing health.
To ignore health is to play a joke with one's own life. - Tao Xingzhi.
There are many zeros in life, health is the previous one, and without this "healthy" one, everything is zero. The greatest wealth in life is hope, and the greatest capital in life is health. The greatest happiness in life is happiness, and the greatest luck in life is peace!
Matter is the foundation of health, spirit is the pillar of health, exercise is the source of health, and science is the magic weapon of health.
There is a husband and wife in our neighboring village, the husband was paralyzed by a stroke many years ago, and has been confined to a wheelchair for more than ten years, and all the pressure of life falls on his wife. The husband and wife are originally farmers and have no education, and the husband is distressed but unable to do anything when he sees his wife busy in and out of the cold and heat, raising children and taking care of her parents. My wife has no complaints, and she feels happy that she can wait for her to come home every day.
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There are many rights and wrongs in middle age, body, career, and family have reached a certain extreme, and they are afraid of something that they don't want to happen, sometimes we really have no way, but we must learn to avoid or even accept him, how is life not like this, and not only some troubles will happen in middle age, but there are indeed some things worth being afraid of during middle age.
1. The loss of relatives and even parents makes you feel broken
Parents are your day, when you were a child is your arm to shelter from the wind and rain, it can be said that no matter how old you are, you are the child of your parents, and at the same time your inner subconscious is still dependent on your parents, people reach middle age, your parents have also entered their old age, maybe they will leave the world that day, so at that time, I was afraid that my parents would have an accident, I was afraid that my parents would not be able to enjoy it, so now when we have the ability to make our parents happy, let our parents enjoy it, don't let our parents feel lonely.
Second, I am afraid that my career will be frustrated or that my career will not succeed
Middle-aged, very afraid of nothing in the career, so for the family, for relatives, for parents, for classmates have no face to show them, feel that they are very incompetent, this feeling is really strong at that time, in addition, when the career is successful, suddenly face the collapse of the career and other career plummeting, this situation is also unacceptable to you, some people even collapsed, and even committed suicide to end their lives.
3. There are physical problems after a successful career
This problem exists for many people, according to epidemiological statistics related data, after people reach the age of 40, the probability of many cancers will rise a lot, many people find out that they have cancer after the age of 40, since then the family is not perfect, life is full of gloom, this situation has to be said to be the sadness of life, so many people, especially those with family genetic history, must do a good job of physical examination, regular physical examination and even cancer screening, to avoid some unnecessary sadness.
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When people reach middle age, they always like to think crankily and think of things that are unnecessary. Faced with the beauty they have now, they can't help but start worrying, and they begin to worry that they will gradually lose these things as they get older. Slowly, they will evolve from worry to fear, fear of losing the joy of being together as a family, fear of losing the material wealth they have, and fear of not seeing the ever-changing and unpredictable future ......
1. Fear of physical symptoms
When people reach middle age, they either have a successful career, a successful family, or a bunch of problems, no matter which one they are, they need to have a good body. Only by being healthy can we continue to work hard in our careers, only by being healthy can we maintain a family atmosphere, and only by being healthy can we try to solve problems, so at this time, people are often most afraid of detecting what diseases. Moreover, it is easiest for people at this time to detect hidden diseases, especially those that are relatively rare and difficult.
2. Fear of problems with parents and children
When people reach middle age, they are basically old and young, the elderly are basically over sixty years old, and the children have basically reached junior and senior high school. At this time, the person caught in the middle will begin to be afraid of the physical condition of the elderly, such as malignant diseases; At the same time, they are afraid that their children's academic performance will have problems, and they hope that their children's grades can be among the best.
The above two points are the things that Xiaolong can think of that people are most afraid of when they reach middle age. After all, people at this age are starting to decline in their own bodies, the old people at the top are old, and the children below are puberty, and the most worried and scared people are none other than the old people and children.
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