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In fact, your thoughts are often the thoughts of girls who are in love for the first time, and if you have a certain experience, you may not be so entangled. Of course, love is very important, but a person does not live by love, for example, he, although he has certain conditions, but his own conditions are really not very good, so does he want to change in the past, where your parents are not satisfied with him, does he have moderation, have you talked about this aspect, drinking alcohol will make people change a lot, if it takes a long time, it will make people lose their dignity, because after all, it is a kind of anesthesia, since you are both against what you have done for yourself, don't think too much, If you don't succeed after working hard, then you have no regrets, if you don't work hard, then give up and make another choice that doesn't have to be so strenuous. Also, girls who fall in love for the first time will not know whether the other party is really in love at all, because many things cannot be seen and felt.

Hello, I hope mine can help you.

Although modern society advocates equality between men and women, it is still dominated by men on a large scale, which is destined to have greater social responsibilities for men than women. A man can smoke and drink, but this is for entertainment, not for life. Look at what you say, he is not only addicted to smoking and drinking, but also a son-in-law, and if he doesn't want to make progress, he will eventually sit on the mountain.

And the above is not a reason to persuade you to leave him, I just want to ask you why he asked you to work underground, which shows his cowardice and lack of responsibility, do you dare to entrust yourself to such a person?

A good boy is not difficult to find, why can't you let it go, maybe you really like him, but you are destined to have no fate, the opinions of your family are based on thinking about you, the authorities are fascinated, the bystanders are clear, the girl hopes that you can live a happy life for yourself in the future, think twice, think twice!!

What I want to tell you is that first love is beautiful, so good that we can ignore all the shortcomings of the other person. But life is cruel, living under one roof, we can easily find each other's shortcomings and exaggerate his shortcomings.

You might as well ask yourself what his strengths are and what are his weaknesses. If he has so many shortcomings, I can still accept it (rather than run away from it or put up with it). Trust you to come up with the answers you want.

Parents and relatives who oppose you being together must have seen his fatal flaws. But then again, the people who will live with him in the future will be you, not them. So their opinions can only be used as a reference, after all, you are the one who makes the idea.

You are responsible for your choices, not your parents for you.

I'm not a counselor, but I'm a veteran! A man can have no money, that's not terrible, the most terrible thing is that he doesn't have that self-motivation, that is to suffer for a lifetime! It is said that men are afraid of entering the wrong industry, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, your parents do not want you to find a rich person, but want your daughter to find a reliable man who can live a solid life in the future!

Life is realistic, marriage and love are two different things! Love depends on romance, while marriage depends on money and trust! If the two of you are really a couple destined to be inseparable in this life, why not give each other a few years to settle down on your own?

This is your only way out! It's so tiring to see you love like this now! Actually, there is no need for this!

First love is always beautiful but always cruel, if you want to keep the good things you have to sacrifice more things, if you love him, you should give him time to create your future, if he really loves you, he will understand your hard work to give you more happiness! Hope it helps!

Love and marriage are two different things, and when it comes to firewood, rice, oil and salt, love is just a beautiful bubble. Marriage wants to be stable and stable, and if you can accept the daily hangover and smoke, the conflict between your home and his home is nothing, and they will accept it in the future.

Happiness itself is very simple, happy mood, worry-free food and clothing, just satisfied, there is no limit to desire, seeking more will increase the pain, but whether you will have that mentality!

If you hesitate so much at the beginning, it's better not to continue with him, so as not to regret it later. In addition, getting married and starting a family is not only a matter of two people's affection, but also the responsibility to the family and family, I think you should listen more to the opinions of parents, after all, they have experienced more life and experience.

This is a major event in your life, I believe that your parents will not give you the wrong choice, if you really can't separate, you must talk to him thoroughly, how to get rid of your shortcomings in the future or separate for a period of time to observe, marriage is not a child's play, you will regret it in the future.

Maybe the pace of work or life is constantly accelerating, which brings you great mental pressure, and you feel that you don't have anyone to rely on, and you have classmates, best friends and relatives around you. But I always felt lonely. Sometimes I worry about what kind of illness I will get and cause trouble for everyone.

So I am very sensitive to physical discomfort, **** some pain, I will wonder if there is some disease or something like that, I need to adjust my mentality, participate in more sports, and make myself physically and mentally healthy.

Adjust the time of work and rest appropriately, set a time for exercise, often relax your mind, and relax tense nerves. Be sure to get out there and make more friends.

How to relieve and eliminate mental stress?

Ways to relieve stress: When you get home, you should yell loudly for 2 minutes to vent your grievances; Sit on the couch and listen quietly for another 15 minutes, after which you will feel much more comfortable. Or if you confide your grievances to family or close friends, you can be relieved.

Hopefully, through psychological adjustment, you will be able to deal with similar situations correctly and make yourself physically and mentally happy.

You should listen to more ** and let the beautiful music dissolve the mental fatigue. Brisk and comfortable ** can not only give people the edification and enjoyment of beauty, but also make people's spirits be effectively relaxed. Laughing is the best way to get rid of stress, so you can forget about your worries and smile often.

You should also consciously slow down the pace of life, deal with all kinds of complicated things calmly and calmly, and do not blame yourself even if you do something wrong, which is conducive to people's psychological balance and also helps to relieve people's mental pressure. Be brave and face the reality and don't be afraid to admit that your abilities are limited and you can't handle things properly.

You need to make a lot of friends, talk to friends often, and communicate or confide in people from the bottom of your heart can not only enhance people's friendship and trust, but also make you feel refreshed, clear-headed, and eliminate your worries.

If you believe that you will be able to reduce stress, cheer up, feel comfortable, and be healthy, you will be able to enhance friendship with a good attitude, work smoothly, and live a happy life!

Don't think badly, your situation is in the normal range and so on, just a mild depression, it has nothing to do with mental illness, don't think about it.

If you want to change, first tidy up your desk, smile more, do something that interests you, preferably the kind that everyone does together, and it is also a good choice to have a small pet, I recommend turtles, you can also plant some greenery. Wishing you a little joy in life!

It's hard for you to build intimacy with people, and you always keep a distance from people. This distance is not a matter of other people's feelings, but a barrier that you have set up for yourself within yourself.

Speculation on possible causes: 1 In the family, your family members do not understand you very much, preach too much, or have other problems in the family, such as being a single parent, or your parents are not compatible with you. 2 It is your family reasons that make you feel insecure 3 You are more passive in communication 4 Your inner world is rich and emotional, but you refuse to be entered by others Afraid of revealing your inner secrets to others, but faintly hope that there is someone you can understand your secrets without saying it, in summary, if the guess is correct, then you lack the understanding of your family and the kind of care you want, and lack a sense of security.

Improvement 1. Take the initiative to socialize with others 2. Take the initiative to communicate with your parents You first think about what your parents care about you, how you need them to care about you, and tell your parents.

Strengthen physical exercise, improve physical fitness, and strengthen mental training. Improve psychological quality. The current state of mind is not far from mental illness.

So it's time to change your mindset. Although people sometimes need help from others, it is more important to rely on themselves. Be confident and dare to face any difficulties and setbacks.

It is not okay to be afraid of wolves and tigers, and the tigers and wolves have already surrendered before they come.

I don't know which Mr. Lei you asked, in**; As a colleague, I'll interact here.

After working in the industry, you will have a broader understanding and profound experience of the profession, and you will also be prompted to review your professional growth. These problems of yours are also part of self-growth, so these problems are normal, accept this status quo of yourself.

For example, you are currently engaged in human resources and career planning training in central enterprises, and you should have a good income, which is an important condition for supporting your family.

Secondly, professional habits and roles should be separated from life. When you go to work, you are a trainer, a consultant, an expert; But when you go home, you are a child in front of your parents, a tender and considerate husband in front of your wife, a sense of responsibility and responsibility, and a socks with emotions of joy and sorrow in front of your friends, don't hide yourself all. To draw a line between professional and family life, there is a setting.

Again, what you give, what you want to get, what you care about the most, etc., this needs to be carefully listed and analyzed.

Finally, it is also important to find a supervisor or peer growth group. Some desires, and some emotions, are governed by the subconscious. It is more difficult for Zheng Xiao to understand himself than to understand others, so insisting on self-analysis and self-teaching me to grow can add inexhaustible psychological energy to my own progress.

If you like the profession, stick with it. Keep walking, only then will more beautiful scenery appear.

My dream is to become a counselor, and I'm still a first-year student. , Psychology major

I've heard a lot of seniors say similar troubles, but since it's your own choice, don't regret it, don't give up, and want to open up a little. Those who know me say that I am worried, and those who do not know me say that I am worried. Indeed, be friends with those who understand you and forget about those discordant voices!

After all, our job is to make everyone's mentality sunny, so that everyone can live a better life, but if we let ourselves live in a sea of misery because of this, wouldn't it be counterproductive? You are my senior, and I hope you can solve your worries this morning, forget your worries, and become happy

I understand your feelings! The truth is always in the hands of a few. Support your work!

Encourage you, but also encourage myself! Do your own thing, don't be afraid of what others think of you. Confucius worked hard and taught countless people in his life, who did he affirm?

After his death, he was admired by the descendants of China. Van Gogh painted countless paintings all over the world, who approved him when he was alive? The same goes for Cao Xueqin.

Think of yourself as Confucius! That's how I comfort myself from time to time.

You may have conflicts between characters, and you don't balance them well. In the same psychological industry, everyone has a clear understanding of the current situation in the industry--- not making money is a prominent problem, especially as an individual psychological counselor. Individual counselors rely on institutions, and most of the money must be earned by institutions.

It is true that doing corporate consulting or corporate training is relatively profitable. There is nothing wrong with having lofty ideals, everyone has them, but whether they can be realized is also a very real problem.

At present, the general direction is that psychological counseling in China is just beginning, and people's understanding of this industry is not enough, and the recognition is even less enough. There is no doubt that the psychological counseling industry will continue to develop in the future, but no one can say to what extent. So the current situation is that if you want to change careers as soon as possible, otherwise you will continue to stick to it.

Waiting for the day when the general environment improves.

In about 20 years, this discipline will not be easy to mix in China, unless it is to consult children, or to do some experimental research to go to the top.

What kind of ideas the mainstream needs are destined for what kind of people.

When you are studying, the teacher should say that you are late: relatives, friends, colleagues, superiors and other relationship departments can conduct psychological counseling, right? Secondly, as a psychological counseling room, you should be able to manage your family atmosphere, and your wife's problems should also be solved:

It is not a consultation, but an open and honest talk about Li Gong. Those who embark on the path of true spirituality must learn to face loneliness. This is a necessary and adaptation phase.

Try to know yourself better. With great ability comes great responsibility