How to comfort your boyfriend when he is in a slump?

Updated on psychology 2024-08-11
15 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-15

    Your concern is his greatest luck.

    Since you said boyfriend, it means that you are not married yet. Since you have been rejected for help from your family, it means that you are about to enter society. Presumably you are around 21 years old and your boyfriend is around 23 years old.

    Forgive me for suddenly guessing your age, because this is important underneath and men need to fail. In the face of defeat, he will try his best to turn it around. Even if he can't reverse it, he won't fall into the same pit in the future.

    What's more, after one failure, he will be much more stable and less impetuous.

    All you have to do is be with him, wipe the sweat off his face, and he will hold up the whole blue sky for you.

    Everyone has their lows, but this is only temporary, especially for men's self-esteem.

    Strong times.

    1.Don't feel sorry for him. If at first you comfort him with a pitiful tone, he will feel useless and deny himself.

    2.He didn't want to speak. Don't ask what's next, he'll be disgusted.

    3.You just need to stay with him quietly, cook him a delicious dinner, and talk about the interesting things you used to be together. Don't mention unhappy things, just listen patiently to him when he wants to say it.

    Slowly encourage him, because there are too many ups and downs in life, except for life and death, which are trivial things. Let him open his heart, and life will always get better and better.

    When the career is not smooth, men are the most helpless time, especially the old and the young, the family's living expenses are bet on themselves, at this time, in addition to the usual proud work income, there is no other income**, the pressure on men is very great, and this kind of thing, and must be faced by themselves, so they will fall into helplessness and worry.

    The man is greedy, no one comforts him, no relatives reach out to pull a hand, and he has no pain in his heart.

    People confide, there are unspeakable hidden, and the time when you do good deeds but are misunderstood and the purpose is impure is the most uncomfortable and wronged. This is something that only those who have experienced it know firsthand, and others cannot understand it. Others are the most aggrieved.

    I think boys are the most helpless when they are in the most difficult times, they don't know who can help them.

    It's best to grow and grow on your own.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-14

    When your boyfriend is at a low point, don't discuss things at work with him, it will make him more uncomfortable, you can change the topic, take him to relax, tell him that no matter what, you will spend it with him, our days are long, don't care too much about losing, just work hard.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-13

    can silently accompany her by his side and accompany him through the trough. Maybe you don't need too many words, your boyfriend just wants you to be with him during the trough. This is the way to truly love him and comfort him.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    Personally, I think that at this time, we must put ourselves in his shoes, we must analyze the occurrence of various situations for him, and let him slowly get out of this emotion.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Then you can choose to stay by your boyfriend's side, provide him with some warmth, and give him a hug.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Tell her not to cry, and then slowly comfort her and give her a little warmth.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    I will silently listen to my boyfriend's needs, and I will also take him out to eat something delicious or give him a gift. At this time, there is generally no need to say anything, because it is redundant to say anything.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    I will stand as an equal to comfort my boyfriend. I also tell my boyfriend what I think. Take the other person to do something that interests the other person. Prepare some surprises for each other. Buy some gifts for each other.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    You can give some examples to the other person, choose some positive examples, and also have some practical educational significance, so that you can comfort your boyfriend well.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    What a man needs when he is depressed is a cave. It's for him to think hard, to find a solution to his problem, or to get his cave back. How fragile are men when they start to get weaker?

    Psychology tells us how to comfort him when he is down. I have a cousin who graduated from junior high school, was born as a gangster, and has been angry all his life. When he was studying, he had no money to pay the tuition, and he kicked the teacher out of the classroom who had no teacher morality, and he smiled and asked the teacher to refund the food money.

    Later, he cheated a lot of money when he was learning from others to do business, and even transferred his furniture to the landlord. He saw how hard it was for the landlord to move and asked him if he would like to help. I thought that a person like my cousin would never know weakness all his life.

    Until his two children found a serious illness one after another, and in less than ten days, his hair was white. He coaxed his aunt and said that his friend had introduced him to good things, and he didn't have to worry about hospitalization expenses.

    He has good acting skills, and he can persist in the life of his family, no matter how hard it is. The other day, he fell down while delivering food from the hospital, and he started crying. The more people on the side of the road pointed and pointed, the more they gathered.

    I went to help him, but I didn't succeed in helping him several times, and he didn't seem to have any strength at all. It was only later that I realized that even someone like my cousin can be vulnerable.

    Maybe when he dropped out of school, his money was stolen and his business lost money, and he cried. It's just that no one sees his weakness. Traditionally, men are called men because they are not entitled to be vulnerable in the face of life.

    Many times, a man's weakness is also not as suddenly defensive as a woman's. In the face of love, they rarely express themselves.

    We always ask men to "be tolerant if you want to be a man" and "good men don't fight with women". This makes men feel that expressing feelings and making demands is weak, not a man's performance. When facing the children, they are in a state of alienation Li Nengjing's husband Chen Hao, "Mom is Superman" always has a question mark.

    Why should you go? Sleep to the bathroom or find mom? If you have it, I unconsciously picked up my phone and poked it twice busily.

    Everyone has a variety of feelings and feelings. We all have fragile power, give ourselves time and space, feel those feelings, and work together. If a man wants to sit quietly in the car and enjoy his alone time, give him love, understanding, blessings, and give them the energy of our hearts.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    You can give your boyfriend more company in life, listen more to each other's thoughts, and care more about each other's every move from life. Staying by his side is the best comfort.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    As long as you are silently by your boyfriend's side, you should encourage your boyfriend not to put any pressure on him, so that he can quickly get through the trough.

  13. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    My ex-boyfriend is a very principled, self-conscious man, I have been with him for two years, and I have never seen him once when he was cold and violent, and he has never said anything about breaking up. However, I was also sad because he knew that I loved him, so I kept wondering if there was something I needed his help with, but I didn't dare to say it. So, I've been struggling.

    I'm afraid that I will tear myself down and comfort him and he can leave! Will my boyfriend treat me like a "hedgehog" when he is at a low point?

    1. Give him time.

    I like this quote very much, and I agree with it. A person is too entangled in his "trough", then, he will treat you as a hedgehog, when you are sad, he will comfort you in his own way, he will keep sending you messages, asking you what you need, but he is afraid that every word you say will hurt him, so he will be silent. All you have to do is give him a little time, let him know that you really care about him, and want him to give you some time and space to slowly get out of this low period on his own and focus on you.

    Let him understand that no matter what situation he is in, you are the person he loves the most, he will remember you, he will know that you are his favorite person or person, so let him feel that he actually loves you, so don't worry about him. As long as you give him some time, he will regain his self-confidence.

    2. Give him a chance.

    You said he was at a low point, did you give him a chance? Are you asking him to think more and give him a chance. And this opportunity is not to make him think more about you, but if you really make him feel good, then he will really treat you as a "hedgehog", treat you as his only support, and will not treat you as his backer when he is at a low point.

    So, if possible, you can also hang out alone with him and find him something to do. If you have the opportunity, you can do something you love, such as starting a small business outside.

    If you don't like it, then please leave now, instead of waiting to meet someone later to comfort yourself.

    3. Give him love.

    If your ex-boyfriend has a trough, you must know how to help him in time. In this way, he will feel a feeling of being loved, and this feeling is what makes him feel happy from the bottom of his heart. What he needs is for you to give you a sense of self-security and trust, and that's where he needs you.

    And, on the premise that you're willing to do something for your man as well.

  14. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    It can be said that "take your time, everything will be fine," and the following method is more important than words:

    1. Give him his own space.

    When a man is depressed, he likes to close himself to the outside world and spend a period of trough "cave period" alone, as if he put himself in a box, a smart woman should not open the box without authorization to enlighten him, at this time the man is very resistant, and when he gets through this difficult period and comes out of the box, your care will be more effective.

    2. Don't put pressure on him.

    Most men are in trouble, their brains are overloaded, their thoughts are particularly chaotic, maybe he is trying to find a way to jump out of this difficulty, and women must not put pressure on him at this time, give him reason or even question his approach, strong men must learn to fall down and get up on their own, in order to become strong, if others help him at this time, he will become evasive in the future.

    Practical significance

    The joys and sorrows of life always go hand in hand, the stumbles of life are always unavoidable, and the twists and turns of life are too inadvertent. This long imitation sock life, there is pain, sadness, sweetness, laughter, the trough of life, is always so casual and exhausting. Therefore, the female good Changren must understand that a man is not a superman, and he will also have moments when he is in a low mood and needs comfort and companionship.

    No matter how strong a man usually looks, there are times when he is tired and wants to take a break. When a man is in a low mood, he also needs to be cared for and cared for the most. To get along with men, women must learn to push themselves and others, and they must also learn to think about things from a man's point of view.

    When a man is in a bad mood and neglects you, the last thing you should do is to blame and question him, but to give him tolerance and encouragement, so that he can cheer up and pick up the courage to move on.

  15. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Hello, this question is up to me to answer for you. 1. How to comfort your boyfriend when he is in a bad mood 1. Hugs can transmit strength, so when you find that your boyfriend is unhappy, send him a big hug in time to make him feel that he is not bearing it alone. When hugging, gently pat him on the back to soothe his mood.

    2. After hugging, you should look at his face seriously, and then comfort him in the most gentle tone Li Rou and say: Whether it is in the future or now, he can tell you all the troubles of Lasui, of course, this is not forced, to tell him that you don't want him to bear all this pressure alone, as his girlfriend, you are the most qualified to listen to these troubles. If at this time, he still says to you with a wry smile that he will tell you if he has nothing to do, it means that he still wants to bear it alone, and he doesn't want you to be depressed because of him.

    3. Many girls are two cute, so you can do some more two-dimensional things in front of him, which is very handy, even if it is not funny, he will be able to understand your intentions and sweep away the bad mood. We'll be happy to answer for you. Have a great day.

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