How should a couple with a second marriage, both with their own children, get along?

You should live in peace, treat your own children or each other's children fairly, don't favor any child, buy things equally, be peaceful, and don't be noisy all day long.

Treat each other's children as if they were your own, since you accept each other and marry each other, you also have to accept her children and treat them as relatives, and there will be no such contradictions and barriers in this family!

I think that if a couple of second marriages wants to get along well, they need both parties to work together, think about each other's children, think about each other's children's needs, and treat each other's children as their own, which is the best way for children.

Both parents work together to think more about their children, treat them as their own children, care more about their children, and live in harmony.

I think that a couple with a second marriage, when they both have children, can not interfere with some of each other's children's practices and ideas, and they cannot manage their children with their own ideas.

In the process of getting along, no small contradictions should be dealt with in a timely manner, and the child's heart should not be distorted because of negligence, and the love of both parents should be treated equally.

In daily life, you should also treat each other's children as your own, and you can't be biased just because the other person's child is not your own child.

When you get along, you should treat each other's children as your own children, don't judge each other's children casually, and let your children get along amicably, don't casually dig up the contradictions of selling oranges.

The other person's children should be treated as children, because in this way the family can be more harmonious.

Care for each other, laugh at each other, praise each other, trust each other, face difficulties together, solve them together, care more about their own children, and care more about each other's children.

Much of the resistance and conflict that remarried couples face and the conflicts that are most likely to occur come from their children. "Parental love" says "parental love", and a parent's love for their biological child is innate. The breakdown of the original blood relationship, the breakdown of the "natural" intimacy, the emotional needs of the children in the reorganization of the family, the distribution of benefits, cannot be avoided by both husband and wife, and may even become acute problems.

Maintaining intimacy is an issue that cannot be bypassed by the parent-child relationship.

When encountering the divorce of the parents, the child's heart will become more sensitive. Some children are hostile to new family members, resistant, willful, and even disruptive of the parental relationship. If parents do not provide timely and correct positive guidance, it will affect the healthy growth of children.

Single parents should care about their children's emotional changes and communicate in a timely manner, but they do not have to force their children to like their spouses or call their children daddy (mom). Otherwise, the child's psychology can easily produce a sense of betrayal of the biological father (mother). Because no one likes someone else to "usurp" their father's (mother's) place.

If you want your child to integrate into a new family, you must give him enough time. It is not necessary to ask spouses to treat their children as if they were their own, especially older children, to accept this difference. But let your child and spouse develop a habit of mutual respect from the start.

For children who are not related by blood, parents should first determine their position so that the child knows that he does not want to occupy the position of the biological parent. Just wanted to be his friend. Selfishness is too heavy to discriminate against.

Every child is the heart of a parent. Bringing children to form a new family obviously also wants to give children more love and warmth, but at the same time, they are worried about whether the other half can treat their children like their own children, especially when the other party also has children. Some parents worry that their children will be wronged, over-loved, protective shortcomings, and even "differential treatment" between their children, which will eventually lead to a crisis of trust in the couple.

Therefore, couples who remarry should learn to accept each other's children and treat each other well. Careful care and patient communication should be given to young children. For older children, it is necessary to be more heart-to-heart and tolerant of each other.

When it comes to financial interests, don't be overly selfish. You must know that a harmonious relationship between husband and wife can create a healthy and positive family atmosphere for children, and truly feel the warmth of the family and the joy of life, which is the most precious treasure for children.

If you want the other party to accept your child, you have to pay more for the other person, let the other party feel your sincerity, feel your love for him, so that he can accept your child.

If the other party also has children, then be good to the other party's children, a bowl of water is level, treat the other party's children as their own, and the other party will naturally accept your children.

If the other party does not accept your child, then it is impossible for you to form a family with the other person, so when you and her have formed a family, it means that the other party has accepted your child.

In fact, the key to this situation depends on whether the other party accepts you, whether he loves you, and if he loves you, he is willing to accept your child.

Get along more. Because they were originally strangers, only after getting along for a long time can they have a more harmonious dialogue and accept it.

If you want the other person's children to accept you, then you must treat the other person's children as if they were your own biological children.

The two of them went west to one place and used it in one place, and none of them snubbed the family because of their own children. And there is no favoritism because of their own children, it is still this harmonious atmosphere of taking care of the whole family.

Especially all kinds of big expenses, it must be two people to discuss all the money, to be open and transparent, more do not have a kind of concealment, in this way, maybe two people will feel that the other party is very sincere, and will also let the other party let down their guard. If you tolerate each other's children more with your own love and treat the family with your own very sunny attitude, then I believe that anyone will change their opinion of you. It will also accept you slowly.

Same idea as me, just take it!

How to get along for a long time in the relationship between husband and wife in the second marriage:

1. Learn to respect.

Learn to respect each other's personality and learn to value each other's words and deeds. Because of the different family environment, personal life experience and life experience, and the different level of cultural education received, two people may have different views, opinions and attitudes towards people and things. In the process of conversation, two people should allow different voices, different points of view, and different ways of expression.

You can't use your own views and standards to judge each other, let alone criticize each other from the commanding heights of morality. Under the premise of mutual respect, slowly infiltrate, slowly run in, and finally form a tacit understanding to reach an agreement.

2. Learn to listenLearn to listen to each other's joys, sorrows, and sorrows, and learn to listen to each other's life feelings and life perceptions. Everyone's life trajectory is different, and the life experiences they encounter may be different. When the other party encounters difficulties and setbacks, you should learn to be a careful listener while extending a helping hand in time to help them get out of the predicament; In the process of listening, slowly enlighten and slowly shorten the psychological distance between the two sides.

When the other party has a successful career or has achieved certain achievements in some aspects, you should learn to share the joy and joy of success with them, grow together with them and enjoy the gifts of life together.

3. Learn to praise.

Be good at discovering the strengths and some shining points in the other person, and learn to praise the other person. It is not that there is no beauty in life, but a lack of a pair of eyes that are good at discovering beauty, the same reason: the other party has a lot of advantages and worthy of your praise, you have to practice a pair of fiery eyes, find the beauty of the other party in time, and give praise and encouragement in time.

Men and women in love pay special attention to each other's evaluations. Sometimes, a complimenting gesture or an encouraging look from the other person is enough to make the other person happy for a whole day. A word of praise can not only enhance the self-confidence of the other party, but also give the other party infinite strength and courage to overcome difficulties.

The main thing is to praise each other while also having a good mood.

Fourth, learn to care.

It is to learn to care for each other. Since two people are in love together, they must care for each other wholeheartedly, so that the other party can feel your warmth and enthusiasm all the time. When the seasons change, remind the other party to pay more attention to the addition and removal of clothes; When it is windy and rainy, you should pick up and drop off each other to work or give each other a small umbrella; When the other person is sick, take care of them in every possible way, and so on.

The care between lovers comes from the little things around them, from each other's words and deeds.

First of all, husband and wife should understand, respect and tolerate each other, secondly, on the issue of children's education, two people should reach a consensus, and finally maintain timely communication in life and be more considerate of each other.

1. Adjust your mentality.

To get out of the siege is to seek relief. Entered the city again because I found true love. Entering the second marriage, you must have enough mental preparation, and both husband and wife should cherish it, actively adjust their mentality, maintain the new family, and do a good job in the new role.

In particular, we should be more rational and rational in dealing with the children of both parties! Let a little bit of everything, have a good mentality, and the result of problem handling will be good.

2. Set an example by handling the relationship between husband and wife.

Learn the reasons for the breakdown of the previous marriage, maintain a good mood when entering remarriage, communicate with the husband and wife in real time, care more about each other, and make the other party feel a new marriage and a new home.

The court is better, safer and more reliable than the previous paragraph. Husband and wife are harmonious, setting an example for children, and children have learned to communicate, tolerate and understand subtly.

3. Don't let unpleasant experiences affect the relationship between husband and wife.

Many couples "shoot each other" after marriage, because the couple has not been able to reach a consensus on cooperation in living habits. When remarrying, I thought I could increase my resources and share the economic pressure.

After I found out that after "starting a family", the resources of the two sides would be thinned, and a dispute ensued.

Marriage is based on mutual trust and appreciation, but the unpleasant experience of previous marriage can easily make people get married.

Be pessimistic, or compare your current partner to your ex-wife or husband. Mr. Wu's case is a case in point. This is also the sequelae of untreated premarital trauma.

4. There must be a consensus on the child's upbringing.

If a newlywed stepparent or stepmother is eager to take over the role of the child's biological parents, and if the biological parents are anxious to get the child to accept their new partner, it can lead to problems. Parents need to be considerate of their children's ambivalent feelings – they are worried that their stepparents will take away their parents' love (many children compete with their stepmothers for favor); I am also afraid of having a good relationship with my stepparents, as if I am unfaithful to my biological parents who have left.

In addition, parents remarry, children have to move or change schools, which will cause their mood swings and even cause many behavioral problems.

The family of the second-married couple has been in harmony for a long time, and the following three points are done:

First, we should be rational about everything and should not be overly hopeful. Remarried couples who have already had a failed marriage and found a partner to form a new family, in life, two people should not expect each other to be perfect, nor should they expect each other to be what they imagined, because this will only add to each other's troubles and dissatisfaction. If a woman excessively wants a man to make a lot of money, but the man can't meet her requirements at the moment, then she will complain to the man, even if she doesn't say that she doesn't show her face, but she also has this stalk in her heart, because she is overhopeful, which means that she complains in her heart that the man is incompetent, if she shows it, the man will definitely not be able to listen to and dislike him, and she can't accept the woman who treats him like this.

Then the marriage relationship between the two is not good, and life is not harmonious.

Second, long live understanding and should not be overly demanding. If a remarried couple wants to run a good marriage, two people should not ask too much of each other, one party has done a good job, but the other party is not content to demand too much from the other party, and requires the other party to do almost nothing, whether it is a selfish or unreasonable act of one party, but the other party's heart does not have a good impression of one party, and there is dissatisfaction with one party. Because such a performance of one party shows that one party does not have the other party in his heart, if there is, why should he ask too much for things that cannot be done, which shows that one party is very selfish, and completely ignores the feelings of the other party for his own selfish desires, and does not care about the other party's opinion.

Third, respect each other and should not be overly harsh. In the face of trivial things in life, people always have troubles, but some show it, some don't show it and then slowly digest it, if you want to manage your marriage well, two people should not be too harsh on each other. Some things must be harsh, but some things do not need to be harsh at all, and if they are harsh, it will only add contradictions and disputes between two people.

It is recommended that in the process of getting along, no matter what problems you encounter, bring the matter to the table, put it in the open to communicate and solve, don't play tricks behind your back, and be honest with each other, so that happiness will come faster.

Also, we must learn to accept each other's children, even if we can't treat them as our own, we must treat them well, many second-married people, who become stepparents and stepparents, have become demons in the eyes of children.

Since both parties may have their own children in a remarriage, treat the children of the remarried spouse as if they were your own, because the children are innocent, and try to be fair to the children in life. In this way, the child will feel happy in this home and can feel the warmth of home.

In married life, we often find some shortcomings of the other party, and we should help each other and gain understanding based on the principle of seeking common ground while reserving differences. Remarried couples live together, and they must discuss things together, and they cannot engage in "male superiority and inferiority" or "female superiority and male inferiority". Some men are patriarchal and regard their wives as their appendages, which are all unhealthy marital relationships.

Remarried couples should seek more things with the same interests and similar hobbies to do, and respect each other's interests if they don't like themselves, and actively strive for time alone to fulfill their affection.