I feel a little bit lost myself, a little bit I don t know myself, what should I do?

You are the same as me, I also have this mentality, and the best way to solve this problem is to "change with the same". For example, when playing basketball, when you are entangled between "playing basketball just to be happy" and "playing ball to work hard", you don't care about what your favorite way of behaving, what style of behavior you like, you go to determine a goal, for example, when playing basketball, your goal is to score goals, then you have been moving towards this goal, in the process, naturally you will inadvertently find your favorite way of behaving and style, in fact, no matter what way and style, The ultimate goal is to achieve your own ideals, so you don't have to care so much about your style and style (but your style and style can't affect others), just get used to it, and hope you can get rid of this psychology as soon as possible.

In fact, the self is composed of two parts, one is the environment in which you have lived for a long time, and the other is that you have always really wanted yourself, but the environment intends to be yourself, and he has a set of automatic behaviors, such as you often smoke when you are troubled, so every time you smoke, you are mostly out of control. It's a natural behavior. There's a book called "Self" that can help you!

People sometimes can't be too persistent, including work and life and emotions, and have a relaxed mentality.

I also often spend time in a daze, and I often think crankily when I am alone. In fact, you already feel the problem, why not find out the cause. You can try to communicate more with friends, usually hit a **, or send a short message, and slowly you will find that the relationship between friends is gradually getting closer, sometimes friends don't need a lot, just a few sincere ones, there is a saying that doesn't say so, the more you drink tea, the weaker it is, but the longer the friendship is, the stronger it is!

If you are looking for something you like to do and go out with friends to chat, you may find the happy self you used to be!

Clause. 1. Caring too much about each other, forgetting yourself, and possessiveness creeps up in your heart.

If a person only has love in his heart, he will hold the love to death, for the other party who cares too much, the person who cares too much about the other party must be smiling and suffering from gains and losses, and even highly sensitive spirit, because he cares too much, everything the other party has, he wants to possess, her body, soul, time, etc., must be possessed by herself, otherwise she will think that the other party does not love herself enough. Such a person will inevitably make the other party unacceptable, and loss will eventually become inevitable.

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Clause. Second, if you care too much about the other party, you will be afraid of losing, and you will be so worried that you will continue to be suspicious.

Because they value each other too much, they will be especially worried about losing each other one day, the most dangerous situation, and this fear of loss will eventually rise to pathological suspicion, and this unhealthy state will be followed by more abnormal behaviors such as stalking and surveillance. If you really love someone, of course, you will be afraid of losing, but you must keep it in a state of mental health, and that is love.

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Clause. 3. There is only TA in my eyes, I have lost myself, and I can't keep up with the other party's footsteps.

Love is two people growing together, and when the growth speed of two people is too different, often love will encounter a crisis. And if a person only has lovers in his eyes, and slowly returns to the ground, all his actions and goals are limited to satisfying each other, and the speed of his own growth cannot be compared with that of the other party. The reason why people become human beings is because each of us is our own and unique, when the self disappears, the other party's original love for you is gone, disappears, and love naturally continues without touching the date.

We must not lose ourselves in love, of course, it does not mean that we don't care about each other, love needs to warm each other, the premise is that each of us is an independent individual, we care about each other, what we care about is that he is him, if there is no self, he is no longer him.

Method 1: Increase the speed of normal walking by 10%.

Method 2: Exercise, insist on half an hour of exercise every day.

Method 3: Laugh out loud, don't laugh without revealing it.

Method 4: In any rally, sit in the front and actively seek to speak.

Method 5: Praise others, appreciate others, and learn from each other's strengths.

Method 6: Helping others is fun and trying to help others.

Method 7: Take the initiative to talk to others, look at each other when you speak, smile, listen carefully when others speak, and nod your head when appropriate.

Method 8: Do anything, seriously, hard, and pay attention to the improvement of psychological quality.

Method 9: Pay attention to appearance, dress elegantly, solemnly and decently, and be suitable for the occasion.

Method 10: Have a grateful heart and be grateful to all the people who have helped us.

Method 11: Be self-motivated and often recite some confident quotes.

Method 12: The prime minister can support the boat in his belly, and the general can run a horse on his forehead. Be tolerant of others and accept others.

Method 13: Silently recite "I can do it!" I can do it!

Be decisive and repeat your prayers, especially when you encounter difficulties. As long as you insist on meditating, especially after waking up in the morning and repeating it 9 times before going to bed in the evening, you will gradually build up confidence and gradually have psychological energy through your own positive psychological cues.

Then get out of this illusion of blinding yourself, you will always find a world of your own, to say what you want to say, no one thinks you are exaggerating, I hope it will help you.