What are the dangers of failed premarital cohabitation for women?

Spiritually hurt, after the failure of cohabitation, you will no longer believe in love, and you will be very sad, you will have a certain shadow when you make choices in the future, and you dare not easily believe in marriage, or be disappointed in love, after all, these things will cause a lot of harm to a person.

As a result, this woman has lost hope in marriage, and it is easy to cause this woman to lose her enthusiasm for love, her figure is out of shape, and she will be disliked in the future, and it is easy to be pointed at by others, easy to lose her name, lose her reputation, and even get pregnant unmarried and hurt her body.

It will harm the woman's body, but also the woman's psychology, and it will make the woman's uterus very bad, and it will also cause ectopic pregnancy, and it will affect the woman's mood, etc., these are the dangers of the failure of premarital cohabitation to the woman.

The first is when you enter the next relationship, it is possible that the man will be particularly mindful, the second is that both his body and mind are very tired and have been hurt, and the third is that he may be very scared and fall in love again. The fourth is that when you encounter love again, you will also have resistance and dare not give your sincerity.

It may cause a woman's psychological damage a lot, and even low self-esteem or depression, and she will also encounter other people's fingers, which will also have a great impact on her life.

So are there many advantages or disadvantages to living together before marriage?

Benefits: Trying to get married before marriage can effectively avoid regrets after marriage.

We know that the basic purpose of premarital cohabitation is to try to get married, and then decide to carry out the legal formalities by observing whether all aspects of life, physiology, psychology and other aspects can be reconciled with each other.

Although China has always promoted equality between men and women, there is still a lot of pressure on women when it comes to morality. In other words, there is zero cost for men to live together before marriage, but there is a high price for women.

Disadvantages: 1. Consumption of youth.

Women age earlier than men, and at the age of 25, their bodily functions begin to decline.

It is possible that after living together for a few years, the man is still not ready to get married, and the woman can only wait, after all, she has been waiting for many years.

The most tragic ending is that the woman waited for many years, wasted several years of youth, and finally broke up.

Second, the cost of physical health.

Young and strong two people, living together, it is inevitable that there will be physical contact, in case the baby comes, do you choose to get married and give birth to the baby or find another way?

Because there is no legal marriage as a guarantee, and the man does not agree to give birth, the innocent child can only choose to have an abortion, and frequent miscarriages must first bear the pain on the operating table, and secondly, it may lead to lifelong infertility because of the unsuccessful operation of **.

So before living together, girls must think about this issue clearly, because in this matter, you are the one who will be hurt in the end.

3. Causing psychological trauma.

The vast majority of unmarried women choose a cohabitation partner, most of them are based on the premise of true love or marriage, once they are ruthlessly abandoned after living together and having a ** experience, this will bring great harm to women emotionally.

Even when dealing with the next relationship, they are more inclined to get married than enjoy love.

Nowadays, it is inevitable that young couples will choose to live together before marriage when they are in love, but I still recommend that before that, you must consider all aspects of the problem.

Premarital cohabitation is unnecessary.

Living together before marriage means that two people live as husband and wife in the name of love, enjoying the sweetness of love without having to bear the responsibilities of marriage. In the name of beauty, it is said to reduce the risk of trial and error in marriage, but as everyone knows, marriage is not a science and cannot be experimented, cohabitation and marriage are two completely different psychological states, and the result of cohabitation is either to get married naturally, or to break up miserably. And a large number of facts suggest that the latter is more likely.

Yang Hui and Shi Renbing, from the School of Sociology of Huazhong University of Science and Technology, used the tracking data of the "China Family Dynamics Tracking Survey" from 2010 to 2014 and used the time history analysis method to focus on whether premarital cohabitation occurs among young people and the impact of temporal debate on the risk of first marriage. The study found that the occurrence of premarital cohabitation increased the risk of first marriage among young people. The younger the age at which young people enter premarital cohabitation, the higher the risk of first marriage; Young people who enter premarital cohabitation at the marriageable stage have a higher risk of first marriage.

You see, scientific research has shown us that cohabitation before marriage increases the risk of first marriage, not decreases it as we think. Of course, I personally think that it is debatable to conclude that premarital cohabitation will increase the risk of first marriage based on past data alone, because this conclusion ignores the differences of individuals, and there is a difference between those who choose to live together before marriage and those who choose to marry directly. By the time this option was placed in front of me, my heart burning for love was already half cold.

Liu Donggang, director of the Psycho-Educational Counseling Center of Chongqing Normal University, put forward the theory of "cohabitation cost", and in his research case, the five costs of women are high, and some women even pay a heavy price, while the cost of men is almost zero.

Personally, I think that living together before marriage is just a personal choice, not to mention ruining the whole life. There is nothing inherently wrong with cohabitation before marriage, it mainly depends on what purpose to cohabit. If it's just for desire, it shouldn't be promoted, if it's a way for both parties to get to know each other, then it's something to try.

There is a certain probability that living together before marriage will make each other see each other more clearly.

So what should we pay attention to in cohabitation?

1. Girls should not give too much in the process of falling in love.

For example, don't take care of each other as your own task, and don't run each other's lives like a mother! The other party is looking for a wife, not an old mother!

Cohabitation is one more person to share the joy of life with you and bear the common sorrows, instead of washing and cooking for her, or even giving up your own job to meet the needs of the other person's life.

You have to make sure you have a way out and at least a stable income.

2. Protect yourself.

To put it bluntly, don't get pregnant before marriage! Remember that premarital sex must be adulthood, consensual, and safe.

I often brush up on the Internet that there is a so-called method of getting married without a bride price, which is to live together before marriage and keep making girls pregnant and miscarry, and finally get married in confusion!

Therefore, you must do a good job of contraception and don't create a situation where you have to compromise on marriage for the sake of your children!

3. Stay sober and independent.

Also, don't give up your hobbies and friends for the sake of your significant other, you can divert your attention when you're feeling down and not be defeated by loneliness.

I personally think that there is any harm in girls living together before marriage. Living together before marriage is a very dangerous thing, and if the man changes his mind about you, you will be finished, thank you.

You may get pregnant out of wedlock, so you should take precautions.

1. Most of the older generation and even young people with stronger traditional concepts believe that male and female lovers before marriage should not live together, because if a girl lives with her boyfriend before marriage, it will have a very negative impact on the girl's reputation. I think this concept is now outdated, and for young couples who are about to get married, cohabitation before marriage is still very necessary. I am very much in favor of premarital cohabitation.

Cohabitation before marriage is actually a process of simulating married life, but this process is realized and executed in advance during the love stage.2 In the process of cohabitation, two people live together, cook together, do laundry together, watch TV together, clean together, etc. Through these small details in life, we can see if each other is suitable for marriage. Small details can reveal some of the other person's living habits and shortcomings, and of course the advantages will also be reflected.

3. Some couples find that the other party is not the ideal partner they want after living together before marriage, because in the dating stage, they feel that the other party is very considerate and gentle, but after living together before marriage, they find that the other party does not care about hygiene, too much "naivety", and he is a very lazy person. At the moment, I'm glad I haven't married the other party yet. If I find out that the other partner has these problems after getting married, I will regret it.

4. I think we should change the concept of premarital cohabitation. Living together before marriage is actually a way to try out marriage, which allows each other to cherish each other more and discover each other's highlights, but it can also expose each other's shortcomings. The benefits of living in harmony before marriage outweigh the disadvantages, so it is not bound by traditional ideas.

5. Many older generations will think that premarital couples should not live together, because girls living together before marriage will affect the reputation of girls, I think premarital couples should live together, cohabitation is very necessary, premarital cohabitation can see whether the other party has any bad living habits, through cohabitation can also run in the character of two people, premarital cohabitation benefits are still very many.