If the husband abolates his wife and divorces him, may the child hate his mother in the future?

No, if parents can communicate well with their children, then children will not hate their mothers, because children can also understand their mother's suffering.

I shouldn't hate my mother, because my husband has been domestic violence, and my wife and children have also seen it, and the child should also feel sorry for my mother's domestic violence by my father.

He doesn't hate his mother, he also has personal experience, and he understands the hurt that his mother has suffered in this relationship, so he has no choice but to do so.

Of course, I don't hate my mother, and when the child grows up and understands something, he will understand what his mother does.

I don't think so, the child will know when he grows up.

Legal Analysis: Domestic violence is a crucial factor affecting the ownership of child custody. If one of the spouses has been regularly violent towards the spouse or children before the divorce, it is obvious that if the spouse continues to raise the children directly after the divorce, it will obviously cause indelible damage to the children's physical and mental health.

According to the laws of our country, the child is raised directly by the mother. For children who have reached the age of two, and the parents fail to reach an agreement on the issue of child support, the people's court is to make a judgment based on the specific circumstances of both parties and in accordance with the principle of the best interests of the minor child.

Legal basis: Article 1084 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China The relationship between parents and children is not eliminated by the divorce of the parents. After divorce, the children are still the children of both parents, regardless of whether they are raised directly by the father or mother.

After divorce, parents still have the right and obligation to raise, educate and protect their children.

In the event of a divorce, children under the age of two shall be raised directly by their mothers. If the parents fail to reach an agreement on the issue of custody for a child who has reached the age of two, the People's Changma Court shall make a judgment in accordance with the principle of the best interests of the minor child according to the specific circumstances of both parties. Where children have reached the age of 8, their true wishes shall be respected.

In the face of a wife who has been abused by her husband, but has always endured it and not divorced, we, the bystanders, will be particularly incomprehensible, and even will issue an angry question to such a wife:

Why would you continue to live with a demonic husband who has treated you violently in the past and will most likely not stop in the future?

Why don't you be brave and assertive and speak up for yourself?

Don't you know that there are only zero and countless times of domestic violence, shouldn't you leave the demon husband and cut off all relationships with the demon husband once you are subjected to domestic violence?

However, there are too many such wives, and they seem to be locked in the cage of marriage by countless shackles, for a year, a few years, more than ten years...In this way, he endured torture and pain in silence for the rest of his life.

Why? Why is a wife willing to be exposed to a violent marital environment? Is divorce really so difficult for them, even disregarding their own lives?

Maybe we bystanders haven't been subjected to domestic violence and can't fully understand the psychology of these wives. Let's talk about why

Emotional control. Wives who have been abused by domestic violence are usually subject to three levels of emotional control, which makes them unable to divorce.

First, she was threatened by her husband. Wives who have been victims of domestic violence are particularly vulnerable in their hearts, they live in fear and anxiety all day long, and their husbands will threaten them in addition to domestic violence. For example, the husband will tell them:

Divorce is not that easy; If you dare to have the idea of divorce, I will torture you even more; Even if you're divorced, you can't escape my control....When people are vulnerable and fearful, they are extremely inferior and helpless, so they will be convinced of these threats, and will not dare to act lightly, but can only be content with the status quo.

Second, domestic violence is justified. If the husband of domestic violence does not think that there is anything wrong with beating and torturing his wife, his thinking will also affect his wife's wisdom and scum, so that the wife will subtly recognize the concept that "a husband can beat his wife", resulting in the wife can only endure it even if she is bitter.

Third, a sense of shame and self-blame. The wife believes that the reason why she is subjected to domestic violence is because she is not a qualified and good wife, so her husband's domestic violence is a reasonable and legitimate means of punishment for her. If she files for divorce because of her husband's domestic violence, what should she do if she is accused by the people around her, saying that she is to blame and does not repent.

It is caused by a variety of reasons, such as for the sake of the children, her husband is usually good to her, but sometimes she loses her mind, etc., but this kind of domestic violence is against the law!

Marriage is not easy. A woman will not divorce unless she has to. Besides, women are often influenced by feudal thinking from the beginning, and it is impossible to say divorce. Therefore, despite being subjected to domestic violence, it is still impossible to bend Liang Duan and divorce if he says divorce.

That's a masochist, who likes to be beaten, but it's a live cheat, and no one sympathizes with him if he kills the rent, right. There is also a divorce for fear of being gossiped upon, so the sedan coincidentally recognizes that he will not be divorced if he is beaten, which is sad.

For the sake of the family, for the sake of the children.