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I think this kind of problem should be discussed on a case-by-case basis, and if you don't expect anything in return for being kind to others, then there is no question of pleasing people, but what ifIf you don't have the corresponding strength, but you blindly give yourself to the other party, then it will definitely cause disgust and dissatisfaction from others.
Whether it is a pleasing situation, in fact, should not look at the ideas of others, but should look at the requirements of the person who pays for others, if the other party does not ask for anything in return, then no matter whether he has the strength or not, there will be no problem of please. However, if there is no matching strength, but blindly hope that the other party will give the same return when paying, then this situation will definitely cause dissatisfaction and disgust on the receiving party.
If you don't ask for anything in return, there is no question of please.
If you simply do not ask for any return and treatment when you give to others, then it means that your contribution is actually based on your own true thoughts, and there is no related relationship involving interests.
Therefore, there is no such thing as a flattering situation. Because if the other party does not accept you, you can give the same to others, and you don't care about the so-called gains and losses of the other party. This has nothing to do with how much strength you have. <>
No one likes to be forced to give.
If you want the same reward when you give to others, then your own strength is indeed a standard worth measuring. When anyone gives and helps others, they should think about what they are worthy. In many cases, the help and dedication between people is actually a two-way street, not only to see the expression of each other, but also to see whether the comprehensive strength of both sides matches.
Otherwise, your so-called giving will be a kind of forcible giving in the eyes of others, and this practice will only cause others to hate and be dissatisfied. <>
When giving and helping others, don't expect to get the same reward.
In my personal friendships, I also understand a truth. Many times, whether you have the strength or not, when you give and help others, you should not have the idea of getting the same return. Everyone exaggerates the impact of what they give on others.
But in fact, many things are just a helping hand in the eyes of others. For some help, not expecting the same amount of money will help you to put yourself in the right frame of mind when dealing with others. <>
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If a person who is not strong is kind to others, will it be considered that he is pleasing him?
1. If the person is specifically good to those who are more capable, it will be considered to be deliberately pleasing others.
There are all kinds of people in the workplace, some people concentrate on studying business, and some people do not have any strength, but they always tie up leaders or capable colleagues, such people do not have their own principles, just blindly obey others, thinking that they will get benefits by doing so, so that they can do whatever they want in the company, which is deliberately pleasing others, and people who "tend to be inflammatory" will definitely be looked down upon.
Second, although some people are poor, they are good to everyone, and such people will be considered to be popular and popular.
There are also some good people in the workplace, that is, they are very kind, have a warm heart, and will always lend a helping hand no matter who encounters difficulties. In his eyes, there is no distinction between leaders and ordinary employees, everyone is their own colleagues, as long as everyone needs themselves, even if it takes a lot of trouble, they are willing to do it. Although such a person does not have much strength, he has accumulated a lot of valuable wealth, that is, he has good popularity, no matter how he goes, he will have many sincere friends, such a person is really enviable.
3. If you don't have the strength to be good to others, it can be regarded as a kind of modesty.
For most people, strength often represents their own ability, and strong people are naturally confident and can complete many things independently, so they don't need to care too much about the eyes of others. But there are also some people who don't have the strength, in order to be able to gain a foothold, they will be doubly good to others, so that they can learn from others, because the feelings are mutual, and colleagues have no way to refuse to show favor to themselves, and they will help him at work as much as possible. In other words, being good to others is a way of survival and a sign of modesty, and such people are often able to accumulate in their work and become the best in the company.
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No. Being kind to people has nothing to do with strength, only with intimacy. Regardless of strength, anyone who is soft in front of those close to them will be nice to them, because this behavior will make the other person happy.
But if you are friendly to people who are not close, it will be considered flattering.
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Yes, because for today's society, many people are very realistic, for a person who has no strength, if he is good to others, he will undoubtedly be considered by others to be deliberately pleasing the other party.
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Yes, if you don't have the strength to be nice to others, others will think that you are currying favor with him, but they will look down on you.
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