How to guide children to use mobile phones wisely

For the problem of children's use of mobile phones, in addition to learning some necessary uses, it is also necessary to let children understand the real purpose of mobile phones, rather than using them as pastimes and games.

Set your phone's own time.

In the eyes of many parents, children's playing with mobile phones is a sign of self-discipline and even affects learning. As long as it is unrelated to learning, it is not right, so there will be many cases where parents forcibly confiscate their children's mobile phones. In fact, parents will make things worse and aggravate their children's rebellious mentality.

What we need to do is to guide the child positively, not to force the child to stop.

1. Children will have resentment towards their parents. If the child does not have the opportunity to develop self-discipline, he is likely to secretly borrow the mobile phone of his classmates to play games, and will not be fundamentally responsible for himself. If parents say "don't play games", children must touch the game and refuse to let go, as long as there is a chance to play.

Thirdly, the cost of parental supervision is very high, and if you are not careful, mobile phones and tablets will be found by children, and children will easily learn to deceive their parents.

2. The child's lack of self-confidence and emotional instability. Nowadays, children not only have to attend school courses, but also participate in various remedial classes, online classes, etc., children may have too much pressure to study, or there are some academic problems, and their grades decline, resulting in a lack of self-confidence. Playing games can well satisfy children's self-confidence and make them feel that they can realize their own value through playing games.

3. Cause the child to resist. Children want to be respected by their parents and want to have an equal relationship with their parents. If parents forcibly confiscate their children's mobile phones and completely disrespect their children's ideas, children will be more rebellious, thinking that their parents do not understand them, and even hate their parents and resent their parents, and the child will have a resistance mentality, and the more the parents do not let him do, the more he will do.

1 Choose the right content. The things on the Internet are strange, complex and diverse, and some of them may have a bad impact on children, so at this time, we need to check for children. Try to make sure that your child learns while playing!

Parents can save some high-quality cartoons and so on in their mobile phones in advance.

2. Make a time plan. Not anymore! If you want your child not to play with your mobile phone completely, to be honest, it's not realistic to buy it!

Every time parents play with their children's mobile phones, they can first talk to their children about three chapters! Determine the time, and after the time is over, you can't play anymore! And the time to play with the child's mobile phone every day must be reasonable, preferably after the child comes home to finish homework and eat, so as to avoid conflicts with the child in terms of time.

3. Let your child have more contact with things other than mobile phones. Parents should also let their children know that the outside world is more exciting than mobile phones. Parents should set aside a certain amount of time for outdoor activities with their children every day, and it is a good choice to go downstairs with your children for a walk and dog walk after work on weekdays.

On weekends, you can take your children to play farther away, so that your children can see the excitement of the outside world, and your children will not be easy to be addicted to mobile phones.

Set up a transition period.

Before and after returning to school, guide your child to create a schedule that is close to school life, give your child the phone to their parents for safekeeping, or set screen time. There is a lot of use of electronic devices during the holidays, and it is difficult for children to make a decision, so it is necessary to give children an adaptation process and gradually reduce the time that children use mobile phones and other electronic devices every day before and after the start of school.

and the child "three chapters of the law".

In order to enhance children's initiative, parents can negotiate with their children to formulate rules for the use of mobile phones and other electronic devices, stipulate when they can play, how long they can play each time, etc., and give their children enough companionship and emotional support. "Three chapters" with your child, clearly agree on the time and duration of use of electronic devices. Parents must stand firm, unshakable and uncompromising when enforcing the rules.

In the process of reaching an agreement, the opinions of the children should be respected, and the "agreement" must not be turned into a one-way "order" from the parents.

Accompany your child to grow up healthily.

At the beginning of the school year, parents can shift their children's attention from electronic devices such as mobile phones to other active activities, read with their children, exercise, play games, do housework, take their children out to climb mountains, play football, visit museums, etc., so that children can realize that in addition to mobile phones and other electronic devices, there are many interesting things in life.

In addition, learn more about your child's personality traits and don't compare your child with a role model of his or her peers who have very different personalities. For children who are impulsive, easily distracted, and easy to escape, be more patient and help them gradually face up to and accept their problems before they can bring about change. Of course, parents should also help their children develop more positive personality traits and accompany their children's healthy growth by adjusting the methods of family education.

Parents should be role models.

In the process of managing electronic devices such as mobile phones, it is important for parents to lead by example. Many parents are heavy users of mobile phones, and if they use mobile phones frequently, it is difficult to convince them to teach their children not to play with mobile phones. The rules that are set with your child should also be followed by adults.

For example, when children need to study, they can put their mobile phones, tablets and other electronic devices out of sight or turn them to silent mode. For example, don't bring electronic devices into the bedroom or bring them to the dining table, and avoid using them before your child goes to bed and during meals.

Avoid over-intervention.

When children can't stop playing with mobile phones and other electronic devices, be more patient and understanding with your children. When you see your child playing with your mobile phone again, don't easily label your child as lacking self-control, and don't rush to get started or scold, trying to solve the problem with verbal or physical violence. We have to remind ourselves that the child's brain has not been able to keep up, so it is understandable to see the child's possible room for improvement and let our emotions stabilize first.

Then, remind your child a few more times that you've been playing for 10 minutes and it's time to do your homework. Or it's already 9 o'clock, it's time to brush your teeth and wash up, give your child a chance to buffer and remind, and help him brake the "car" slowly to avoid aggravating the child's anxiety at the beginning of school.

For children to use the problem of mobile phones, parents have a headache, now mobile phones are like water and rice, is everyone's necessities, children whether it is to contact family or study (especially online classes) to use, but if the child is allowed to carry the mobile phone with him, it is easy to indulge in mobile games, the Internet**, etc., thus affecting learning. Objectively speaking, schools and teachers have thought of a lot of ways to guide students to use mobile phones reasonably, such as: setting up a special mobile phone management office, students put their mobile phones in it when entering the school, and then take them out after school.

But in practice, you will find that there are big loopholes, many students have more than one mobile phone in their hands, and they have turned in one and two or three, which are not affected at all. Do you talk to him (her) about discipline and ideals? It's all broken, it's useful, so I have to take some more extreme measures, hoping to deter them.

In fact, in my opinion, the problem of using mobile phones is essentially a problem of learning attitude and study habits. In recent years, due to the pandemic, almost all students need to use mobile phones or computers to attend classes. It stands to reason that all children's grades will be affected, but when it comes to the high school entrance examination and college entrance examination, high-scoring students are still emerging.

At the end of the day, it's the difference in children's attitudes towards mobile phones. To solve the problem of children's use of mobile phones, it is necessary for children, parents, schools, enterprises and departments to form a joint force, but the current difficulty is that loopholes appear from time to time. For the first department, it should be said that the relevant measures introduced in recent years have been quite strong.

For online and gaming companies, there is also an increasing degree of regulation.

For children, they should follow laws and regulations, school rules and parents' teachings, but many children are actually difficult to do and take advantage of the "loopholes" of all parties. For parents, on the one hand, it is difficult to set an example and play an exemplary role, and sometimes even throw a mobile phone to their children in exchange for cleanliness; On the other hand, they blindly rely on the school, believing that as long as the school sets regulations, children will abide by them, which does not play a guiding role.

Parents should lead by example.

Some parents have repeatedly complained that their children know how to play with their mobile phones all day long, and they are also holding their mobile phones all day long to play endlessly. When children are studying and writing homework, parents should consciously put their mobile phones aside and develop a good role model.

No matter how busy the work is, no matter how stressful the life is, parents should take out the corresponding time, spend more time with their children, and carry out more activities to develop their children's interests and hobbies.

Use with children.

Studies have pointed out that high-quality parental companionship and communication, coupled with proper time management, can effectively prevent children's addiction to electronic products when using electronic products.

So, we need to play our part and choose games or shows for our children that are beautifully illustrated, have a healthy plot, and preferably contain life or science knowledge.

Discuss with your child and guide them to think differently, "What would you do if it were?" "It's an interesting experiment, we'll give it a try later." ”

As a parent, you can actually make an appointment with your child to stipulate how long you can play with your mobile phone in a day, and then let your child rest for a while every once in a while, and don't let your child play without moderation and choice.

Practice has proved that prior agreements are more effective and easier to implement than punishments after the fact, and the objectives of the "Three Chapters of the Law" should be specific, clear, and easy to measure. Be clear about what your child will gain by completing the agreement and what he will lose if he or she does not complete the agreement. In the process, say less "no" and more "yes".

For example: "If you complete the agreement, you can go to the movie" instead of "If you don't fulfill the agreement, you can't watch the movie". Although the meaning of the two statements is the same, if the child is working in a positive direction, he is more likely to achieve the goal.

Enriching your child's life.

Parents can spend as much time as possible with their children, reading with their children, playing craft games or going out to play sports together. On weekends, take your children to the countryside to get close to nature and replace electronic devices with parent-child activities.

What children want most is to get the attention of their parents, and when they get happiness and satisfaction from parent-child games, they will not be clamoring to play with electronic products.

Make sure your child's device has antivirus software installed: The better the better, the more viruses are designed to spread through electronic devices, and using antivirus software is the best way to ensure your child's safe use of the phone.