What should I do if my mother s extreme behavior interferes with my feelings?

1. You must have an independent spirit, you must be clear about your feelings, you have the right to call the shots, and it is not you who is at fault, but the person who interferes with you.

Many people emphasize the importance of financial independence when getting along with their parents, which is of course very important.

But even if they are financially independent and have the conditions for freedom, some children will still obey their parents' arrangements, even if they do not want to. The root of this lies in the fact that he is not mentally independent, he is still spiritually dependent on his parents, and he needs to be affirmed by his parents in order to continue to move forward.

Chinese parents often treat their children as an extension of themselves, "you are my child, so I am responsible for you, you have to listen to me" without realizing that children are independent individuals. When such parents accuse you in the name of being good for you, and ask you to listen to them to choose a partner, you should not condemn yourself and be ashamed of it, you have the right to choose a partner according to your own will, and you have done nothing wrong.

What you have to do is mentally complete the cut with your parents, you are you, and parents are parents. Dare to make choices and take responsibility for your own life, instead of allowing your parents to live for you, of course, your choices may make mistakes, failure is a part of life, and making mistakes is an inevitable by-product of growth. With such a mentality, you have the confidence to say no.

2. Draw a clear line and do not accept the emotional kidnapping of parents.

Parents who interfere with their children's love often lack a sense of boundaries. The more you retreat, the more your parents will violate. What you should do is to stand firmly in front of the boundaries you have drawn, and say no to your parents' unreasonable demands gently.

3. It's normal for a deep relationship to have friction, don't be afraid that your parents will be unhappy.

Many people accept the domination of their parents because they do not want to make their parents unhappy and do not want to bear the pressure and guilt of being scolded for being unfilial because they rebel against their parents.

In fact, in a healthy, authentic relationship, there will be no happiness and no unhappiness. If the relationship is deep, there will be conflict. Conflict exposes your needs and allows you to get to know each other better, and the absence of conflict at all only means that you are suppressing your feelings.

4. Tell your parents that their interference is counterproductive.

You can tell your parents, "The more I interfere and oppose it, the more it will stimulate my desire to protect my feelings and control my life, and the more difficult it will be for me to calmly observe whether each other is suitable." Many relationships are because the greater the external resistance, the more we have to be together. You might as well sit on the sidelines, let me experience this relationship for myself, let me feel it myself, so that I can know if he is suitable for me and whether he is the future partner I want. ”

Mother's extreme behavior interferes with your feelings, and the most important thing for you is to communicate well with your mother. If communication doesn't come to assert yourself.

Every mother wants her children to find happiness, he is with you, he thinks that the partner you are looking for is not so wishy-washy, may not bring you happiness in the end, you can listen to his opinion, if the disagreement is too big, you should also consider his opinion, after all, the marriage without the blessing of parents is also unhappy.

It depends, if your partner really can't make your mother trust, maybe she just doesn't know how to love you correctly, if your mother is too controlling over you, you may need to take her to psychological counseling, doing things too extreme is likely to be a psychological problem left over from the past.

If it comes to talking about marriage, there are some things you have to listen to your mother, if you have a conflict between the two of you, you can listen to other people's objective words, if it's just boyfriend and girlfriend pay attention not to get pregnant, the rest is harmless.

That's because you're not independent enough to make your mom think you're still too young, if you're sophisticated and thoughtful. They don't care about you. How old are you?

If you don't have adults to talk about marriage, be careful. If you are still a student, please put your studies first. If you are a girl and you are in the school stage, I hope you can love yourself!

Parents are always worried about their children, and their intentions are good, and we should understand that. Communicate well with your mother, if a relationship does not get the support and blessing of your parents, it is a failure. Tell us about what your mom is worried about.

Settle all her worries and he won't interfere with you anymore!

Parents will not interfere without reason. Ask her why she disagrees with you. It also happens to give you a different perspective to see your feelings.

Your parents' starting point is to want you to be happy, but maybe they don't define happiness like you do. But the purpose is the same, you can also let them know what you think, what you think, what you want to see. We still have to communicate with each other.

I'm in my thirties, and now I feel that my parents eat more salt than myself, and my experience is always richer than my own.

Try to obey your mother's arrangement, if not, you still have to communicate with each other, and understanding each other is the most important.

Talk to her frankly and unfairly, and tell your mother that you have your own opinions, and if you continue like this, it will affect the relationship between mother and son.

Every mother thinks about her children, what ideas do you have to tell your mother, it will be much better to communicate

Good communication can make each other understand.

1 Listen reasonably.

2 Pretending to listen for no reason.

3 But he who is speechless is reasonable.