Embrace the future of precision education for young children, and how to deal with children s backla

Set an example and lead by example.

It's still the old saying "children are the shadows of their parents". As psychologists say: a parent who has no way to effectively get his child to stop talking back often has poor self-control.

Dealing with a child's backmouth in a rough and impatient manner is a sign of a lack of responsibility; If you want to take the initiative in the "competition" with your child and solve the problem well, parents should not be impulsive in the first place.

At the same time, parents try not to affect their children's emotions because of their own "emotionality".

To a certain extent, "talking back" is also a manifestation of children's psychological growth. It should be gratifying for children to gradually understand what they like, what they don't like, what they want to do, what they don't want to do, and begin to have their own wishes and opinions. When the child's self-awareness is quite incomplete at this time, they do not know or have not yet mastered the right way to express their thoughts, and talking back is just a simple reflex in the child's expression.

At this time, many parents feel that their children are small and are playing with their children's tempers, so they often inadvertently indulge their children's back-talking, either coaxing or obeying their children's wishes - this is undoubtedly telling their children that back-talking is an effective way to express their feelings. A success, will make the child use this ** frequently in the future, if every time is "no bullet", then the child will be more proud, and even the development of the back mouth to kindergarten, school. And it will also make the child's temperament become more and more impatient, as long as there is a slight dissatisfaction, he will use his mouth to vent.

Therefore, before the child begins to talk back, or before he or she has mastered the backtalk, parents should tell the child that talking back is a wrong way of expression.

But in the expression, it is best for parents to pay attention to the skills of speaking, do not rush to qualitatively "talk back" to the child, it is best to tell the child in gentle words, "Child, I understand your feelings, but do you change the tone of your speech?" Or, "Child, Mommy doesn't like you to talk like that, I'll give you time to slowly express what he wants to say more clearly, okay?" In addition, parents can also use body language when their child is about to talk back—using the index finger of one hand against the palm of the other hand and making a "stop" gesture to remind the child not to talk back.

Look at the problem from a different angle, the sea and the sky.

What is it that makes a child so sensitive, slightly unsatisfactory, and stepping on that backmouth "mine"? If you want to get rid of the "detonator" buried behind the problem, you have to put yourself in the child's perspective to understand the reasons for their rejection. Usually the emotions expressed by children are very simple and simple, either aggrieved, or incomprehensible, or eager to understand ......If you stand with them and speculate about their psychology, you will feel that those rejections and even quarrels are excusable.

"Heart-to-heart" is the best medicine, to provide a harmonious family relationship for the child, understand and respect the child, the child will be conquered by you and become a partner. Therefore, when dealing with children's backlash, parents should start by understanding their real thoughts.

Many of the children's behaviors are learned from the elders around them.

Parents must first be respectful and equal.

Communicate well with your child.

Embracing the future of education,?? Hehe,,, it's better for parents to read books by themselves

Four tips to help your child face their feelings: listen quietly and attentively, respond to their feelings with simple words, and use "oh...... to helpHmmm......That's ......To respond to their feelings of the lead hole, to speak out what excites their feelings, and to fulfill their wishes in a fantastical way.

When children learn to understand, they actually need to be constantly guided in life.

Therefore, we often say that parents give more, and the child has a healthier chance of growth.

1. Pay attention to speaking briefly and in a cordial tone, so that children can get great comfort when they hear the voices of their parents.

3. Don't always urge and advise, children don't see their parents and already feel aggrieved, if they say that they are told to study and write homework every time they hit **, it will make them feel more aggrieved, and even talk back.

4. Give children some space for themselves, don't be anxious to stare at others, some children feel that they can have their own time during the holidays, but they are still being stared at by their parents, and they will definitely be impatient.

Many mothers are very distressed about the phenomenon of talking back to their children, and they seem very impolite, but they feel that the child is too young, and they are not beaten or scolded, but regardless of the child, they will continue to aggravate his back-mouthing behavior. Cultivating a good habit of behavior is very important for children's development. Therefore, parents should pay attention to the phenomenon of their children talking back.

We can't let it develop and act recklessly. However, it is important not to use violence, as it will also make children rebellious.

First of all, we need to know what are the reasons for young children to talk back?

First, the parent's tone of voice is too heavy. A lot of kids make mistakes when they do. At first, I will realize my mistake, but because of my parents, I reprimanded him too harshly, or the tone of his words was too heavy.

Behavior that is demeaning to the child. The child's mood will be very low, and he will take the form of rebellion to resist the treatment. So when a child makes a mistake, guide it correctly!

For example, when many children are playing with educational toys, adults will often say, why are you so stupid, other people's children are so smart, why did I give birth to a fool? In fact, it seems to be a joke, but in the child's young heart, it is very hurtful.

2. Not understanding the needs of childrenHave you ever had this experience? If you say one sentence, the child will have to top ten sentences. If you say the east, the child will say the west.

In fact, sometimes children talk back, not to mean that they deliberately want to go against their parents. It's that parents don't fully understand their child's needs, or mistakenly, understand their child's wishes。When a child's needs are not met, he will act in defiance.

Therefore, when the child talks back, try to understand the child's needs and ask the child what kind of results he wants. After understanding the child's needs, if his needs are reasonable, then we try to meet her. If his needs are unreasonable, then we are explaining why we can't meet his needs.

Or what he needs to do so that we can meet his needs. Let yourself know how you need to behave.

Therefore, it is necessary to listen more, communicate more, and communicate more with children.

It is an early education institution that cultivates and raises five good habits, and an early education institution that educates children by pointing to Wang to guide parents and educate children, rather than directly targeting children. Parents who are willing to learn, the effect is very good.