My parents have their own lives, and I am superfluous to them

Some suggestions for children:

1。No matter what, stay strong.

2。Have you tried your best to accept the changes in your life instead of thinking about what she should do?

Finally, you calmly think about whether you are really objective when you spend so many words describing your situation.

Your mother will regret it, at present, for you, the most important thing is to study, you have your own life, remember to ask your mother for living expenses, usually chat with friends, you understand the big truth, adjust your mentality is the most important.

How can there be this kind of thought, parents will always love their children, you may not be married, and when you have children, you will understand, the heart of parents.

Is it superfluous for yourself?

Such parents don't want to force anything, become independent again, and then live on their own, ignore them and then don't contact them again, and they will be very happy after forming their own family.

In fact, I can understand a situation like yours, parents who remarry and have their own families may not take care of you, ignore your feelings, and you want to get more care. Sometimes parents just don't know how to express it, I believe they love you, you can communicate with your parents more, and you can find friends to chat more when you are in a bad mood. Maybe you blame them now, say something unpleasant, and regret it when you lose it.

Learn to love yourself, since they don't love you, then you have to love yourself even more, prove to them that you can live better without them, and make them regret not loving you well.

If you are strong, you will ignore them in the future, but don't show it now.

Thinking is the most impossible, their time, their education, and now are very different, if you want to be able to call the shots, you have to be yourself, have your own ability, you have the ability, their thoughts and you have a conflict can't control you, so 20 years old, don't count on your parents, have your own circle of friends, friends can help you a lot, emotions, the exchange of ideas can also be through friends, so sometimes not the closest people are the most understanding and close.

If you just say that you didn't do it, then you don't have to take it to heart, if you prefer other younger siblings or older sisters, I don't feel like you don't have to mind too much, after all, life is given by your parents, if you like it, you go home more, if you don't like it, you go home less, but I feel that 99% of parents will help their children when they are in trouble, even if they sacrifice themselves, no matter what, be grateful, are you right.

You're not having histrionic personality disorder, you're not good at communicating with others, you're emotionally problematic, you want to die, you're depressed. This may be related to your family situation, first disturb your father, and then follow your mother, they each have their own families, and they feel that they are redundant, which means that you are unhappy and happy in your life. Don't accept yourself, don't tolerate others, and live with emotions.

You have an angry mood, so you often argue with others. Fear of marriage, which has to do with your parents' marital status and divorce.

Tell the problem that bothers you, there are some things that are resistant, and you are always holding it in your heart, not only is it uncomfortable, but the people around you can't understand it, if you count out the Shen Naichun, you will feel very relaxed.

In this case, it is recommended to find an appropriate time to sit down, quietly think about your own life and way of thinking, what is wrong, the psychological problem is solved, and all unhealthy thoughts and living habits will be solved.

What's the use of going to a psychiatrist and going online?

Just think that you have two homes, don't care whose home it is, it's all your home anyway, you must believe that you are not superfluous at all, and even rare, two homes, I don't know if you go to one or the other, the other will be unhappy, no matter what they think, you have to think so.

That's how I am, my parents are divorced, and they both ignore me, my mother is with an uncle, my father is with an aunt, and the custody was given to my father, but now I live with my mother. Usually food, clothing, housing and transportation they don't care, living expenses or my grandfather gave, every day after school home, no one can see, no food has to eat, often noon lunch on the school class, until half past eight in the evening, only one meal a day is a common thing.

For example, I participated in the school's art festival performance program, asked me to buy performance clothes, told them, but they didn't care about any of them, I didn't care about participating in the art festival, I went to your parents (parents) by myself! That's how they shirk their responsibilities! The sneakers were broken before, and I didn't give them to them, and I talked for many months before I finally gave me a hundred yuan, and the rest of the money was given by my grandfather!

And now it's the time of the change of seasons, clothes, pants I have only bought winter sweaters in the past two years, summer ones have not been bought at all, this year's summer clothes are no longer worn, I told them, they actually told me, you wear school uniforms! Wear a school uniform when you study, and still wear it during the holidays? The key is that they are not without money, my mother buys a dress, the starting price is more than five hundred, look at me again, I asked him to buy me a pair of pants for dozens of dollars He still thinks it is expensive, every time it is, go to your dad!

The phone bill is gone, looking for them, they don't give it, they just know to say, it's good to be gone, it's gone, so that you don't have to hit ** every day! Since you don't want to raise me, why did you give birth to me in the first place! I sometimes feel like I came into this world by a mistake, a drag bottle that everyone discarded!

I used to feel redundant, but baby, you have to believe that God is fair, taking away your childhood will give you another gift at another stage of your life! Be good to your grandpa, to yourself!

It's useless, it's not that it's rare as others say, but it's a drag, and that's how I experienced it. Only if you are strong and work hard, you can live well, and they can't count on it. Of course, if your parents love you, that's fine.

But I'm just very selfish and don't care about me.

Compared to you, I'm not as good as you. I was a girl, and I thought that growing up in such a family made me feel inferior, very insecure, and never able to communicate with my parents. Do you understand?

How can you communicate well with a person who only thinks about himself and is selfish? I had anxiety, and when it was painful, they were still selfish. At that time, I was going to work and seeing a doctor by myself, but then I couldn't stand it anymore, so I resigned, and the days without money were even more embarrassing, and I wanted to die!

It's still an endless road, as long as you think about it and work hard slowly, you will get through. I'm a little bit better now, but I still have a bad relationship with my parents, and I hate them, I really hate them! But hating them is also punishing yourself.

Only by letting go of hatred can we be relieved. But I haven't done it yet. Perhaps, one day I will really leave them, and I will slowly be relieved.

I understand how you feel! But as far as parents are concerned, their influence on their children's personality and many aspects is lifelong and far-reaching! You can't say they don't love you, it's just that their love is too rough and even selfish as you say!

Always very self-righteous. But you can't change them, so as a friend said above, I hope you don't treat your children like your parents in the rest of your life! (However, the influence of your parents is far-reaching, and you will be influenced by them more or less, so you can only reflect more on yourself in the future and try to change some of your behavior patterns).

Because of the strength of my parents, my own personality is always very concerned about other people's feelings, and then I feel very wronged, and I have nowhere to vent. After growing up, until now, there are many disadvantages caused by this influence! Both psychologically and physically, there are varying degrees of damage.

Other than that, I'm going to love my parents, but a wounded heart is like a scratched mirror, and it's hard to round! I just keep telling myself that I hope I don't do this to my children in the future. Hopefully they won't have to be like themselves!

In the end, life has to go on, Lou Lou cheer up! Let's live our own lives.

Young people, don't think so much, think about it! Your parents are stingy and selfish, they are old people after all, they will eventually grow old day by day, and it is up to you young people to support the façade in the future, don't be with them in general, you will be born in the society, according to your standards to behave in the world, to treat your children, to deal with the relationship between friends, don't be like them, old ideas and old ideas, their views are outdated!

You do it right, you can be independent, under the influence of your parents, it is great to be able to recognize the reality and live independently, I suggest that after you settle down, you still have to find a job, live on your own and then find someone who likes you or you like to marry, but honoring your parents is a must to do, and you can't ignore your parents for various reasons. Thank you for your adoption.

I read your description, your parents are a person who lacks the means to educate their children, what you say is very selfish, I don't fully agree, although every move, word and deed has caused you to have low self-esteem, and you can't completely deny your parents' love for their children. Seeing what is not pleasing to your eyes, lack of interpersonal communication, may usually be arbitrary, only yourself has the final say, others can do nothing, can not look at problems and analyze problems correctly, subjectively independent, objectively one-sided, so it is undeniable that it has caused you trauma. In general, your parents raised you, nurtured you, and provided for you to study and go to school, which is not comparable to others.

You should treat your parents correctly, strive to communicate with your parents, or persuade your parents through friends and relatives, you should not exacerbate the conflict, try to do something beneficial to your parents, influence your parents, so that your parents can recognize their own shortcomings, so as to reconcile the relationship between father and son and mother and child.

Personally, I feel that there is a cause and there must be an effect! There's no need to be sorry for your conscience because your parents gave you life and raised you! What you think of them is what they get from the seed of your education!

They deserve to bear it, just as it's unfair that you shouldn't have been born to be hurt by a loved one! Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and only you will not treat yourself badly!

Parents are the ones who give us life, and at this level, parents can't overdo anything to us, so just do what you have to do!

I always think that there are no parents in the world who do not love their children, they just hate iron and steel, want to temper you in difficulties, want you to learn from your mistakes, so as to correct, their love for you may not be understood by you, when one day you become a father, maybe you will understand their good intentions.

It's just a mentality, she gave birth to you and raised you, even if there is a big hatred, after all, it is your mother.

Your parents lived in a difficult era, and it was not easy for them to earn money in their eyes, and the way parents express their love for their children is different in each family, it's not that they don't love you. It's just that they don't know how to express it.

There is no parent in the world who does not love their children.

The older generation thinks that everything is safest in their hands.

No, they may be reluctant to communicate.

Being a prisoner is very disgusted with the elderly!

Some things are just trivial and indescribable.

The boy is going to get married, and the parents are under a lot of pressure, so it's okay for you to go out and live by yourself, otherwise you will be depressed one day.

Although it is said that parents will not dislike their children, but some parents are born with a bad character, bound by old thoughts, to vent their contradictions to their children, if you are still young, you have to study hard, only knowledge and education can change you, if you are an adult, you can choose to go out to start a business, do a small business or find a job to work slowly!

Relax and don't think so. No parent will dislike their children, fight for their own breath, and live their own lives.