What do you think is the biggest problem with bullying in schools?

It reminds me of my time as a student, and many times parents and teachers don't pay much attention to children's conflicts. I have also been bullied by children who have developed first, and when I go back to tell my teacher, most of the replies I get are: "Why doesn't he bully others?"

Whatever they meant at the time, at least all I could understand at the time was, "They won't help me, they'll blame me." "So I won't go to the teachers for help again, and my choice is very simple, after I develop later, I will call back.

Later, I was addicted to fighting, and I used knives, but I was lucky enough not to kill anyone, and I was not killed. It can be said that this situation in the previous report has happened to me many times. The difference is just that I'm lucky enough and the two kids in the report are unlucky.

I was a victim of bullying at school, and I was bullied from the first grade of elementary school to the eighth grade of junior high school, but I think the most serious was the bullying in elementary school. Because of this, I am living a miserable life now, with social phobia, low self-esteem, sensitivity, and even a normal life is a luxury for me.

I think the biggest problem with school bullying is that the school does not pay attention to it, and parents do not know how to deal with it.

The biggest problem is not easy to solve, especially for children, a friend came to me and said that he was working on a project, and now he was short of manpower, and he hoped to get help from me, hoping to find some people who were willing to do this thing together through my meager attention rate. In fact, I have not paid much attention to campus problems in my long student life, because of the asynchronous development period and some other circumstances, I have experienced campus problems and other people.

When I was a child, the teacher's sentence "how can he not bully others" from a certain point of view, in fact, it is not wrong, most of the children who are bullied have a lot in common, they all belong to the type of people who are easy to be bullied, I can't eliminate school bullying, but at least I know how to get out of the kind of people who are easy to be bullied. Even those who bully other classmates, according to the survey, many of them are more inclined to bully other children because of family reasons, and they have their own problems, sometimes they know that they are wrong, but they still can't control themselves.

When I turned on the computer early this morning, I saw a report on a bloody case caused by school bullying, "A 15-year-old boy was stabbed to death by bullying.""School bully"Sentenced to 8 years" This made me pay more attention to the problem of school bullying, and the two sides got into a fight, and in the end, one was killed and one was seriously injured, and both families suffered a huge blow. In fact, any adult can stop this kind of thing, but at the time, except for a group of teenagers, no adult knew that the children were fighting.

Bullies are all born in the family, or their parents are bullies who are afraid of the hard. It's used to doing whatever you want at home, and if you don't listen outside, you'll be forced. Not only did the school teachers fail to educate and stop the bullies, but also one of the reasons why they were allowed to develop.

I know that there are quite a few students who follow me, and I have been asked to answer questions about campus many times, but at that time, I was similar to my childhood teachers, and I didn't really pay attention to these issues. After all, I have graduated for many years and am still unmarried, so I don't have to worry about my children's campus. And now I have a lot of life experience that can teach my future children how to solve school problems, and I don't need to care about these kinds of problems at all.

It is that some fathers have no ability, dote on their children, or are too harsh, hurt their children, kick the cat effect, and transmit violence to the next generation around them.

Now I think I should be concerned about the school, and I don't have to wait until I don't know one day when I have a child, and then I can use it when she grows up and goes to school. I am actually able to help my friends who are struggling with the campus. So I decided to use my little bit of strength to try to solve some practical problems on campus.

School bullying can ruin a child's life, not alarmist, but fact.

The reasons for school bullying are as follows:1. Students are exposed to the Internet and are prone to imitate online behavior.

After the advent of the Internet era, the Internet has become more popular and popular, and the continuous occurrence of online violence (**, **, text), coupled with the fact that everyone has a mobile phone today, makes it easy for children with violent tendencies to see and accept this information, due to the cognitive and emotional immaturity of teenagers, it is easy to imitate, and even make more extreme bullying incidents, because in their opinion, this is a "cool" thing, and classmates will feel that they are amazing.

2. Lack of family education.

Most of the contemporary children are only children, and they can be said to have "collected thousands of pets in one" from childhood to adulthood. Since childhood, there is not only the love of parents, but also the intergenerational love of mother-in-law, grandfather, grandparents. Behind these so-called "loves", the selfish, arrogant, self-centered subconscious has slowly developed.

The reasons for school bullying are as follows:

1. Adolescent factors.

Due to the relatively immature psychological development of adolescents, they lack an understanding of the rules, and also have strong self-esteem, jealousy and self-protection instincts. Therefore, after leaving home and going to school, among his peers, it is easy to regard others' dissatisfaction and criticism of him as a malicious slander, resulting in revenge and even violence.

2. Family factors.

Children have been in contact with their parents for a long time, so family education can play a decisive role in what children do in society later in life.

How parents treat their children in life will directly affect their children's mental health and social relationships, and some parents take face very seriously and only value their children's academic performance, so mental health will cause problems for a long time. Some parents often use violence to solve problems in front of their children and often scold others, so that children will have low self-esteem.

There are also some parents who pamper their children excessively, so that children form a bad habit of self-centeredness, and do not respect others to others. In this way, it seems that family education also has a great impact on children, and it is also one of the reasons for school bullying.

3. School factors.

The relationship between teachers and students is not harmonious. In most schools of virtual filial piety, examination-oriented education prevails, and the cultivation of morality, intelligence, physical beauty is often neglected. Some teachers do not care about students, especially those with poor grades, and even belittle and physically punish them, causing students to fear and resist, and may even lead to the occurrence of violent incidents, and lack of legal education.

Schools neglect the necessary legal education.

Students don't know much about the law. Some misconceptions are not corrected in time to measure the consequences of their actions. Therefore, the occurrence and extent of school bullying cannot be controlled.

4. Social factors.

Now, most of them are only children, and the children are alone most of the time, and they don't have the opportunity to live with their peers. So in school, it is easy to make mistakes when getting along with peers and will not handle relationships with peers.

Moreover, there is now a lot of violent negative information, including movies, games, etc., which will increase the aggression of students and cause school bullying incidents.

1. School bullying reflects the loopholes in the school's management system, and it can also be seen that the school does not care enough about students.

The society has social rules and regulations, and the factory has the rules and regulations of the factory, and the school should also develop a practical system to restrain the daily behavior of students, because students have poor self-control and will make mistakes if they are not careful. School bullying reflects the loopholes in the school management system, indicating that the school's rules and regulations are not perfect in this aspect of bullying, and teachers should also observe the students in their class, observe their emotions, and take the initiative to communicate with students and solve students' troubles. Teachers can also hold more themed class meetings to tell students about the dangers of bullying on campus and the severity of the incident.

The bullied students should take the initiative to defend their rights, tell the teachers, tell the parents, and don't swallow your anger, which will only encourage the wind of bullying on campus, and you will also be hurt.

Second, today's parents are busy with work, neglect the management of their children, and have a serious rebellious mentality in their youth.

The old people can take care of the children's daily life, cook for the children, and do laundry, but the lack of father's love and mother's love cannot be made up for by the elderly. In their youth, students have a serious rebellious mentality, coupled with the lack of strict discipline, they are prone to fights and school bullying. Therefore, both parents should spend more time with their children, look at their mobile phones less in their free time, communicate more with their children, ask their children how they are at school, what are their happy things, and what are their troubles, so that they can gradually establish a correct world view, outlook on life, and values.

3. Students do not understand because of their poor grades in school, and in the long run, they lose confidence in their studies and will go astray and fall into trouble.

Teachers should encourage children with poor academic performance, since they can't complete all the homework, you can let them complete a part, and you can usually talk to them more and ask them about their ideals.

1) Verbal aggression: One is that you already know what purpose or motive the "bullying" you are being subjected to;

2) Humiliation: One is that you have been considered a bully by your classmates or a bad person in his eyes;

3) Neglect: When he sees that others think that the bullying he is being subjected to is not a bully (usually in his eyes as a good person), he will think that the bullying he has received is a forgivable humiliation (usually criticized, or even beaten);

4) Humiliation: such as insulting him when you are not doing well on a test or when telling him that the bullying you have suffered makes it difficult for him to forget (usually when you do not do well in a test);

5) Bullying: For example, if the person who beats you is your good friend or relative (usually intentionally or unintentionally) and you feel that they will sympathize with everything you have done to them, and will forgive them (usually because you have done something wrong) to let you be bullied by him or her, and do not want to tell them about the wrong behavior you have done on purpose, etc.

6) Neglect: When we encounter problems that cannot be solved, it is difficult for us to express our thoughts to others in time and ask for help (especially parents or other family members, etc.). 】

The characteristics of bullies, the concealment of school bullying and the bullies' subjective lack of correct cognition of the bullying targets, and their school violence is more likely to occur in the school environment without intervention. The characteristics of bullying methods of bullies are that the places where bullying behaviors are carried out are mostly around schools, within schools, and between schools;

Characteristics of the education level of bullies in bullyingMost bullies believe that well-educated people will handle bullying incidents better; Bullies have a certain cultural foundation, and a small number of bullies with poor cultural foundation, low education or weak cultural foundation are more likely to be bullied.

3 What steps should schools take to avoid bullying?

1) Pay attention to students' mental health: detect and intervene in bullying behaviors in a timely manner, and criticize and educate bullying behaviors;

2) Carry out student mental health education and counseling: use various means to carry out mental health education activities such as theme class meetings to enhance students' psychological tolerance; At the same time, schools should also strengthen the publicity and popularization of relevant laws and regulations to improve students' awareness of self-protection;

3) Strengthen student safety education: Campus safety awareness education and behavior training should be strengthened, and students who are vigilant and take effective measures quickly should be praised and rewarded for campus bullying;

4) Strengthen psychological counseling and counseling: Establish a special psychological counseling group for students with psychological problems;

5) Pay attention to students' lives: Teachers should pay attention to students' mental health problems.

If you encounter a bullying incident, you should also maintain a calm attitude and composure. Bullying doesn't happen overnight. In school bullying incidents, the behavior of the bully is often long-lasting, which is one of the reasons why it is said that the bully is one of the scariest people in the world.

School bullying is often difficult to avoid, and it can't be formed overnight, so you must calm down and think before making a decision.

Understanding school-level coping strategies and early awareness is critical to managing bullying in schools.

Change the management philosophy and pay attention to school bullying.

As the builders and gardeners of the school, the leaders and teachers of the school have an obligation to create a good atmosphere on the campus. Schools should gradually change their teaching concepts, strengthen the interaction with students, and organize rich educational activities, which can include: popularizing legal knowledge, safety protection awareness, sunshine mentality, etc.

Teach students to be grateful, respectful, responsible, tolerant, etc.

These initiatives are critical to the prevention of bullying in schools through a comprehensive evaluation of students. Early awareness is critical to managing bullying in schools. Early detection is the only way to effectively prevent problems before they occur.

From the perspective of protecting the person being bullied, timely detection can help reduce and reduce the physical and mental harm caused to the minor victim.