What is it like to feel that you have a problem with your character?

At the beginning of people, their nature is good, and they are innocent and kind when they are young, and they will become sleek and selfish in the process of growing up. Kindness and integrity are nature, and people are good and do not deceive the sky. We are all selfish, but I have the perseverance to slowly change my selfish desires, be strict with myself and others, and be indifferent to the world.

To be of high moral character to strictly recognize self-discipline and strive to be extraordinary. Character! It's different from human nature.

Human nature is complex, and character is simple. But as long as you are well-educated, your character will not be bad.

We teach our children from a young age to |Take virtue first, let them keep their promises, filial piety and love their relatives, and put others before themselves, and when they grow up, the children find that these qualities are the most contemptuous laws of survival, the most useless rules in life, and the most faint positive energy in life! Character is related to the most true and pure spiritual world in the heart, and has nothing to do with this materialistic material space! Once people compare with the material, detour, and compete, it will make the spirit empty, and we will lose the supreme goodness in our hearts, and our character will be kidnapped by material interests, and we will lose the most primitive positive energy.

Character is what others say, and the three mouths of the character are the evaluation of three people or three people on you. The definition of human beings can be defined at biological, spiritual, and cultural levels, or a combination of these definitions. From a sociological point of view, man is a social animal, and the character is to say, discuss and judge.

Character is the influence of others, the perception of most people on you, good, weird, sometimes good and sometimes bad.

The quality of character is relative, and it is also possible to transform each other, from good to poor, from bad to good, from bad to good. Only when the depth difference changes qualitatively can it become good. Moreover, it requires a process, and it will change capriciously, and it is extremely difficult and complicated to change from bad to good.

Being good to your parents can only mean that you have filial piety; Being good to friends can only show affection; Being kind to the disadvantaged can only mean having compassion. You can't deduce from what is good in one aspect of a person that he is good in all other aspects, and you can't judge all of his character because of some of his character.

Character is a moral expression of human nature that conforms to social values and is judged by social justice. Character evaluation is the ultimate evaluation of people, the establishment of character needs a long time of polishing of human nature and the comprehensive quality determined by this to build, character is the foundation of people's world, there is a force called centripetal force that exaggerates time and space.

Sincerely, the gold and stone are open. The iron pestle is sharpened into a needle, and the work is natural. Those with extremely poor character must be guided by education, gentle wind and drizzle, flooded by heavy water, and social and family, and comprehensive measures should be taken at the same time to treat the symptoms, so as to achieve results.

Achievement is related, achievement of future generations is related, if the world is on the right path to prosperity, you will have experience, do bad things and hurt others to the point of retribution, when you hurt the person on the right path, there is only good for him, there is no harm.

People with character problems tend to have these three manifestations.

01. Habitual lying.

In this life, it is inevitable that people will tell a few lies. For most people, lying is often done for a reason, such as under pressure, for self-preservation, or for good intentions.

But there is also a kind of person who lies for no reason at all. They have long made it a normal part of their lives to deceive others, in other words, lying has become a habit for them.

They make up all kinds of reasons to deceive their parents, lovers, and friends, and when they lie, they always open their mouths and come without the slightest hesitation and struggle. And once the lie is exposed, they will immediately make up a new lie to make up for it.

They have no integrity, let alone any bottom line and principles. Family, love, and friendship are even more worthless in front of them. Such a person must not have a deep friendship.

02. Take pleasure in making fun of others.

No one is perfect. Everyone has shortcomings, and if you are superior to others, you will naturally be inferior to others. Therefore, don't be complacent about your own strengths, and don't maliciously ridicule the shortcomings of others.

In life, we must be tolerant and empathetic enough, and be able to accept the shortcomings of others, rather than pathologically taking ridicule of others as a joy in life.

Laughing at the shortcomings of others is a manifestation of uneducated, ungraceful, respectless, and narrow-minded. When encountering such people, it is better to keep a distance, because they not only have problems with their character, but even have certain flaws in their personalities.

03, slander behind the scenes.

Typical duplicitous, one set in front of the person and one set in the back.

In front of you, they always pretend to be harmless to humans and animals. I usually take the initiative to chat with you and say hello, I will enthusiastically lend a helping hand when I see you have a small difficulty, and I will not hesitate to praise you in front of you, and sometimes even say that you are embarrassed.

In short, getting along with each other on a superficial basis on weekdays will make you feel that they are very good people, kind to people, helpful and well-spoken.

However, this is not the case. What you see is only what they want you to see, or what they deliberately create to deceive you. Their true attitude towards you is something you simply cannot see.

When you're not around, they're just a different face. They will speak ill of you behind your back, they will spread your gossip among the crowd, and they will show disdain and disgust for you in front of many people.

Hiding knives in your smile, all kinds of disguises in front of you, and all kinds of stabbing knives in your back. This kind of person is the most dangerous, and you must stay away.

People who habitually lie are unreliable and unresponsible; People who take pleasure in making fun of others do not know respect and are not educated; People who speak evil and slander behind their backs are inconsistent and scheming.

These three kinds of people have character problems, and they can't have deep friendships no matter what.

1. Being selfish.

In relationships, selfish people are not welcome in the crowd, and people with this personality are more egoistic, narrow-minded and paranoid.

Especially when doing things touches their own interests, this kind of person can do whatever it takes for the sake of profit. If he causes harm to others, he will not think about them.

A selfish person is also prone to conflict with others, quarrel, and have a big temper in life. If it's serious, it will hurt you.

Second, he likes to use others to achieve himself.

A selfish person is self-centered in everything he does, he does not care about others, and even sacrifices the interests of others to fulfill himself.

This kind of person usually speaks very harshly, and he is not used to those who are better than him, and he will be jealous in his heart, and then he will talk about people's strengths and weaknesses behind his back, tarnishing the reputation of others.

In essence, a selfish person has extreme inferiority complex and too much vanity, so he wants to desperately slander others to make himself happy.

Third, the pattern is small.

People with poor character generally have a small pattern, little knowledge, and no certain ability. As a result, his status in society is also low.

This kind of person has no knowledge, and at the same time, he habitually does not know how to pretend to understand, and is selfish and stingy.

He is easy to quarrel with others over some small things, and he is careful about everything, although he doesn't say it, but he will hold a grudge.

often puts himself in a painful role, complaining all day long, he has a small pattern, and he can't fit much, but there are a lot of bad moods.

He habitually looks at problems from his own point of view, without a bit of tolerance. Therefore, in the course of dealing with others, he is also prone to do things that harm the interests of others.

Summary. Hello, dear, you have a big temper, you always feel that others have not done your point, you will feel unsatisfactory or disgusted when you see it, or social phobia, not good at communicating with others, always have nothing to say to others, and you can't interject to feel autistic and isolated.

I feel that I have a problem with my personality, and I always have bad contact with people.

Hello, dear, you are a big temper, the total filial piety book feels that others have not done your point, you will feel unsatisfactory or disgusted when you see it, or social phobia, not good at communicating with people, and always sentence others to dig a cautious stool, and you can't interject to feel autistic and isolated.

This world is mainly to find some online articles from the Internet to overcome autism and have the courage to communicate to make changes, learn some speaking skills, control your emotions, first to integrate into the circle of talking to others, to strive to talk and laugh with them, slowly search and destroy to find self-confidence, and then take the initiative to make a party, be brave, if you can't do it once, you can do it twice, and slowly everyone will feel that it's not bad to laugh and hunger.

You should have a slight social fear and uncontrollable temper, and it's always easy to get into trouble with others, right?

But my first blow.

All of them are very uncomfortable.

I feel like the older I get, the less I understand myself.

Maturity and growth need to talk about a process, and it can be seen that you are strict with yourself, and you are a very serious person, and you are not very able to accept unsatisfactory paragraphs, so you must start with the courage to accept failure.

Life is born to grow up in constant failure.

Well. You have a point.

It's right to push yourself hard, but there's no need to be too yourself.

Well. Take your time and understand your desire to get better soon, but nothing happens overnight, you have to take your time.