What are the benefits of using a free range approach when parents educate their children?

When it comes to getting along with their children, many parents have their own experiences. Some parents and children become friends, while others become superiors and subordinates. In fact, more and more people now hope that they and their children will be a kind of friendship, so they often adopt a free-range style when educating their children.

So let's take a look at the benefits of free-range education for children's education.

First, when parents choose to be free-range, it means that parents give most of their rights to their children. At this time, children are able to decide their own money and their own time, and parents are more likely to give a guide to prevent children from making wrong choices. The more power a child has, the more control he will actually have over himself.

Because he knows what to do and what not to do. Because of his parents' free-range, he knows how to deal with many things, so he is more self-reliant.

Second, parental free-range will make children more confident. Because parents believe in their children, they will choose to leave these things to their children and handle them themselves, and the children may not be able to handle them well at first. But over time, the child has experience, then he will be more handy in dealing with these problems, and naturally when many peers do not know how to deal with problems, he will be able to deal with them more properly, and he will be praised by more people.

Third, parental stocking will make the child more mature. We can help our children stop the mistakes they make when they are young, so that they don't make mistakes again. But if we blindly control the child and do not let the child deal with problems independently, then when he grows up and encounters problems, he will be at a loss, or operate indiscriminately, and then he may commit bigger things.

And as parents, maybe we can't help him deal with these things.

Therefore, as parents, we may make our children more excellent, and we must believe that our children can better deal with problems, rather than blindly taking care of everything, so that children have no right to choose, and let children have no right to make decisions. Believe in your children, in their potential, in their future in the end.

This allows the child's nature to develop, which can develop the child's creativity, etc. Children can do whatever they want, which stimulates their imagination and creativity.

This type of education will make children more confident and cheerful, and their communication skills will be stronger than ordinary children.

The advantage of this is that it allows children to learn to be independent as early as possible, which is very helpful for their later development.

Introduction: Parents have many ways to educate their children, such as strict or free-range, but no matter what kind of transaction, it seems that it must be moderate, and it cannot be said that it has become two extremes, excessive strictness or excessive stocking, which is not beneficial to children.

Nowadays, many parents will adopt a free-range education for their children, thinking that this can allow children to develop freely, but you must know that excessive stocking will also make children have no rules, although it is said that the child's nature is indulged, but not everyone will be suitable. You must know that there will be certain rules no matter in **, if parents are too free-range, they will make children very ignorant of the rules, but. There are no rules, so parents must set certain rules for their children and let them be stocked within these rules.

And you should know that excessive stocking will also be detrimental to the cultivation of children's self-care ability, and may let children be contaminated with certain vices, parents definitely do not want their children to become a bad person, so we must guide children in time.

And sometimes parents are overly free-range, which is to reduce their own troubles. In the process of children's growth, it is a process that needs to be constantly explored and improved, and parents should also actively integrate into the process of children's growth. It is recommended that parents must combine strictness and freedom when educating their children, only in this way can they let the children grow up really healthily, so as not to let the children go on the wrong path, too forced or too laissez-faire are harming the children.

And I hope that all parents know that free-range does not mean that there is no upbringing. Parents must learn moderation when educating their children, otherwise they will let their children become a thorn in the eyes of others.

It will cause great harm to the child, because this is likely to affect the child's development, lead to the child's rebellious situation, and then will also affect the child's three views, and may also lead to the child's special lack of security, which is not conducive to the child's future development, and cannot actively guide the child.

It will cause children to be lazy, have no sense of responsibility, lack of sense of rules, and have no good living and learning habits.

It will make children develop bad habits, become irritable, like to use violence to solve problems, not polite, and disrespectful to others, which are all harmful to children.

Personally, I think that compared with control education, sheep herding education may be more helpful for the healthy growth of children.

1. The biggest reason is that control education is very likely to make children rebel and want to rebelResist. I remember when I first went to university in China, I thought that after the college entrance examination, I would be completely free. But as soon as the military training was completed, the instructor stipulated:

No one is allowed to use a computer Monday through Friday, and if it is found, it will be confiscated. At that time, everyone was mourning, but in the face of "authority", the only thing everyone could do was to obey the rules. Of course, in addition to the time to use the computer, the time to go back to the dormitory and the time to turn off the lights in the dormitory will also be specified.

In class, in order to ensure attendance, the teacher will call each class, and once someone is absent from class, the instructor will report criticism to the whole department. In the heart of the instructor, everything can only be controlled by the dead Huai, and we will be obedient and "progressive". But there are many classes, and the teacher is too boring, but he can't skip class, so everyone can only swipe their mobile phones in class and watch**.

I think the teacher should take all of this into account, and such a rigid rule may be counterproductive. Try everything to control the students, and the students are likely to have a rebellious mentality.

2. In addition, it is possible to cultivate a group of "two-faced people" who are different from the inside and the outside, and the lights will be turned off in the dormitory at half past 10 o'clock, and the department will also arrange for the student union to check whether each dormitory is implemented in accordance with the regulations. So as soon as we saw that the student council was coming, we all immediately pretended to be asleep. But as soon as the inspectors left, everyone began to take out their mobile phones to swipe **, and even took out their computers to catch up on dramas.

Slowly, we all get used to doing as well as possible as long as there is a check, but once no one checks, we will completely let ourselves go. On weekends, you can use the computer, and everyone basically chooses to stay in the dormitory to catch up on dramas or play games, because they are usually too strictly controlled, and there is no autonomy at all. So once you have the time you can arrange yourself, everyone will choose to have fun.

If the teacher assigns tasks in class, many people will choose to copy homework, after all, the whole high school is stuffed with exams, who is willing to go to college and study hard every day. Of course, if the instructor finds out, he will call the student to the office and reprimand him。Control-based education has virtually cultivated us into "two-faced people" who are obedient and obedient in person, but do everything they can to be lazy in private.

3. Relative control education, sheep-herding education, allowing individuals to give full play to their autonomy to study for a doctorate in the United States and Germany, I finally fully understood what sheep-herding education is: all the lead and silver talk everything is arranged by students. From applying for student accommodation, arranging class schedules, registering for exams, applying for internships, and applying**.

There is no so-called counselor and class concept in the department, but there will be an administrative secretary, everyone can send an email to her when they have questions, and she will answer the students. American and German professors almost never call names in class, because in the minds of these professors, it is entirely the student's choice whether or not to come to class, and everyone is responsible for their own decisions. For this reason, in the classroom, it is almost impossible to see students playing with their mobile phones, because of the students who choose to come to class

Hello, I think it's more helpful to keep the sail quiet.

Relatively speaking, the control type is more manifested in the will of the parents, which may make the child develop dependence, Qin Chang will not make the right choice in his future life, he will only rely on his parents, thinking that his parents have arranged everything, and he may have difficulty in choosing, but he may not necessarily find out.

The free-range education can cultivate the child's sense of independence, and the first scum of the release can exercise the child to a certain extent, so that they can make choices in their own lives, and bear the corresponding consequences for the choices they make, no regrets, and stride forward!

Controlling finger education parents dominates the child's learning and growth process, and all aspects of the child's life and growth process have the shadow of parental involvement. Of course, control education does not mean that children have to listen to their parents in everything, and there is a degree of control. If there is too much parental control, it can limit the child's own growth.

For example, in life, what kind of food and drink are influenced by parents, and what kind of clothes to choose when visiting the mall is also up to parents. To a large extent, this type of education limits the development of children's personalities and affects their perception of the world. Children who grow up in this kind of education may become inferior, psychologically deficient, and even become children who have to choose their other half by their parents, which is the so-called "Ma Bao Girl" and "Ma Bao Man".

Free-range education generally refers to the release of children's natural hand, and parents let go of educational control and let the children develop by themselves.

Free-range education is not a completely laissez-faire education method for parents. Rather, it is said that children who grow up in this education mode are more likely to have their own ideas, their own way of thinking, and their own opinions, and appropriate free-range education is conducive to the development of children's personalities.

I think that "free-range" education is more helpful for the healthy growth of children, and this kind of education has the following advantages:

Clause. 1. Respect children's nature.

Free-range is about respecting and understanding the child's nature. Each child has its own personality, some are lively and cheerful; Some are taciturn; Some are calm and calm; Some are irritable and impulsive......Parents should not deliberately "correct" their children's personality traits. On the contrary, when getting along with children, we should respect the child's nature and accept the child's characteristics.

Let your child unleash his natural instincts to the fullest and develop a confident character.

Clause. 2. Cultivate children's self-reliance.

The child is self-reliant, and the fissure includes physical self-reliance and psychological self-reliance.

Physiological self-reliance, in daily life, we parents should educate our children and do what we can. For example, getting dressed, washing dishes, sweeping the floor, wiping the table, etc. Anyway, children do what they can do, so that they can develop self-reliance, and parents should not do it for them.

Mental abilities are also important. It is to cultivate children to have their own unique opinions, such as: what to wear today; I want to buy a school bag of that style and color; You have to make your own decisions about what kind of tutoring class you want to enroll.

Encourage children to express their own views and opinions, so that children can develop independent and problem-solving skills.

Clause. 3. Teach your child to weigh the rules.

Before the age of three, parents should teach their children what not to do; Those things should be done, and the child should be trained to have a preliminary understanding of the rules. After the child's age of three, the child's self-awareness will gradually develop. Parents should set rules for their children and let them know that "there is a law to follow".

When children break the rules, parents should warn or punish them. Let your child understand the importance of following the rules. Of course, parents can't say one thing and do another, they should set an example for their children.

In short, "free-range" education is the highest level of educating children. What is put is thinking, and what is cultivated is habit. i.e. not an indulgence of the child; It's not about letting the child go. Therefore, I think that "free-range" education is more conducive to the healthy growth of children.

The control type is more helpful. It's like nurturing a tree. If it is not controlled, it will grow freely, and the shape of the tree, whether it is strong or not, will inevitably be affected.

Another example is the cultivation of seedlings. Seedlings need to be managed by farmers, and if they are allowed to grow, they will inevitably fail to grow due to many pests and diseases. And there is no gain.

As for the cultivation of people, it is good to control the cultivation. The Son does not teach the Father. Since ancient times, the education of children.

It is not conducive to his understanding of what should be done and what should not be done. There is no sense of borders. The control type is not the same as many achievers, his family education and family education environment is different, and the parents' earnest teaching and teaching can control the child's better growth, avoiding many factors that are not conducive to the child's growth.