Why is my husband always someone else s good?

That's because you didn't have the opportunity to engage further, and a lot of the details didn't come to light. What everyone can show outside is often their own good side, so it always feels like someone else's is good.

My brother has been a master of flirting with girls since he was a child, if he remembers correctly, since the third grade of primary school, he knows how to write love letters to female classmates, run to the door of female classmates and squat, and wait for others to go to school together, then it is really a way to go to the south, south, west, and north! Therefore, my brother's relationship with women from childhood to adulthood is naturally too good, and the peach blossoms are constantly lucky. Even now, he gives people the impression of a good man and a good husband to the outside world.

But every time we go home for dinner, what we hear the most is that my sister-in-law is complaining about my brother's bad deeds. For example, when you go home late, you always don't know how to call ** in advance; asked him to help bring things back from work, and he always remembered when he arrived at the door; The child's bed was broken, and he told him a few times that he didn't fix it, etc., but his brother always had a hippie smile, not in a hurry, and his sister-in-law was helpless.

is such a brother, but he has been well received by the outside world. Aunt Liu downstairs always praises him for his good temper and knowing how to love his wife, and he hasn't seen the little couple blush for so many years; The young couple who live opposite each other will compare their husband with their brother every time they quarrel, saying that it would be good if his husband had half of the advantages of his brother; My sister-in-law's best friends and friends also praised my brother for being a good man, and in order not to appear hypocritical, my sister-in-law didn't argue every time; Even the salesman in the small supermarket downstairs said that his brother knows how to love his wife, and he never needs his wife to mention things when he buys things.

Make a bold assumption, if you show the little things that my brother was complained about in his life, I don't know if it will damage his good impression in front of outsiders. But one thing is certain, the problems that others are complaining about may not be absent from my brother, but he is not seen in public. Everyone sees more of his good side, his considerate and caring side for his family.

So, putting aside those morally corrupt scumbags, I think every man has his strengths and strengths, but at the same time, he also has a lot of bad habits in life. And after we started a family, the two of us have lived together for a long time, and while we feel the advantages and strengths of men, those shortcomings will also leak out little by little, after all, no one is perfect. Therefore, it is necessary to have a tolerant heart, and when accepting a person's strengths and strengths, we must also try to tolerate his shortcomings and problems, because in this way is a truly complete person.

Many women have this experience - not to know, to be frightened. My husband not only makes less money, but also works all day long and becomes a dog, which is too far behind other people's husbands!

Xiaoqian is one of such women, just a few months after marrying her husband, she began to look down on him more and more. I often complain to my girlfriend that my husband is so unproductive that he can't afford to buy a house, so we can only rent a farmer's house. I was tired and tired of squeezing the bus every day, trying to buy a bag to treat myself to being nagged and wasting money.

Is it really my waste? After all, it's not because he's poor. My husband, who watched other people's houses, gave his wife a Porsche on his birthday.

Alas, if it weren't for him, I would have been happier than I am now?

The resentment in my heart will be revealed over time. began to dislike men and spoke with prickly words, which led to more and more tension between the husband and wife. Is it really the food next door, and other people's husbands are good?

Not really! Because in the eyes of others, your husband has many advantages, such as loyalty and honesty, kindness and family, love for his wife, and so on.

But why is your husband so good, and you still think other people's husbands are better? There's only one reason, and that's comparison! Comparison is the biggest culprit that kills marriage!

To be honest, your husband is actually very good. Compared with people from the same starting point, he works diligently and is liked by his colleagues; Be considerate at home and be kind to your parents. The first thing to do when you pay your salary is to take you to eat delicious food, and you take care of you without regrets when you are sick, what are you not satisfied with such a husband?

It's just that there are people outside of people, and there are heavens outside of heaven. Unless you can become the richest man in the world, anyone is more than enough. But if you always compare him with more powerful people, and he is not at the same level at all, you will naturally think that he is very bad.

Obviously, earning 20,000 yuan a month is already very powerful for a man who has graduated for a few years, but you have to compare him with the rich second generation who is worth millions. Obviously, he tries to stay at home with you after work, but do you want him to accompany you every day like a jobless vagrant?

Women, can you put aside your own comparison and look at your husband fairly and appreciably?

You are not a princess in a fairy tale, nor is you a silly white sweet in a TV series. Life should be down-to-earth, don't imagine some impossible bridges to ask your husband to become a 100% perfect man. The husband who is good for nothing in your eyes is actually the perfect husband in other people's hearts.

Don't regret it when it's gone, cherish it!

This is a very common phenomenon of mental observance, and many people will feel that other people's things are better, including other people's husbands. This idea can stem from several reasons:

1.Comparative psychology: We often compare ourselves to those around us to see where we are better than others or where we need to work on them.

However, this comparison can sometimes lead us to have an unrealistically beautiful illusion about other people's things, thinking that other people's things are better than our own.

2.Idealized imagination: When we see others, we often only see their good side, and ignore their shortcomings and shortcomings. This idealized imagination makes us feel that other people's husbands are better than our own.

3.Dissatisfaction with the status quo: Sometimes, we are dissatisfied with our current situation and think that our life is not good enough, or that our partner is not good enough. This dissatisfaction can make us have a greater desire and yearning for other people's things. Blocking skins.

However, we need to realize that other people's husbands and our own husbands are independent individuals, and each has their own strengths and weaknesses. I can't just see the good in others and ignore my own. At the same time, we also need to cherish our partners, understand and support each other, and create a better life together.

I saw a sentence on Zhihu: What is the most important thing for two people to be together after marriage? Just as if the marriage is not consummated. Hahaha, I think so!

I'm from the city, I've seen a lot of Aunt Qiong Yao's **, I'm a little sentimental, and I like romance and beauty. My husband is from the countryside, hardworking and self-disciplined, and likes to live a step-by-step and unchanged life. Two people with completely opposite personalities come together, although they have a solid foundation of love, there are still various small contradictions.

It wasn't until we started to separate and seriously put divorce on the table that it seemed like we would pass by forever if we took one more step. I slowly calmed down, thought about and looked back on the marriage ecology over the years, in fact, our relationship is very good, and all the consumption is in trivial things (mostly my willfulness). And at that time, we already had a lovely daughter, and losing the company of a father or mother was very detrimental to the growth of the child, and after weighing it again, I decided to start over and save the marriage!

But how do you melt that huge iceberg? How can we fall in love with each other again? How can I change my wayward self? It's all so hard, it's daunting and daunting!

Once I went out with a male colleague to run errands, and I found that I was acting reasonable and gentle, and suddenly I had a family inspiration, yes! Getting along with your lover in the way of treating "other people's husbands" will definitely resolve all conflicts.

Since then, I have slowly reined in my temper and willfulness, been tolerant and considerate to my husband, respected his living habits, and taken care of his emotional willingness. Learn to be coquettish, show weakness, praise, in short, treat him better than other people's husbands, because he is my husband after all, how can I not pamper him?

Seeing the change in me, at first, he was full of suspicion and suspicion, not knowing what medicine I was selling in my gourd? However, I don't care about and find fault with his attitude, and still insist on treating him as someone else's brother and husband politely, gently, gently, and considerately.

With the passage of time, the two of us have gone through twenty-one years of spring and autumn side by side, and that "other people's husband" treats me as well as he did at the beginning. Every day after work, he will go home to accompany me as soon as possible, and occasionally if he doesn't come back, he will play ** in advance or cook for me before leaving, I have to rush to do housework with him, and he is still striving for perfection at work, and he is doing it prosperously.

Eleven's mother came over to play and jokingly said: You are the queen of your family, and your husband and children follow you and spoil you. I'm embarrassed to say it.

Seeing that Fanchen is coming, I will continue to take good care of "other people's husbands", take care of "other people's children" with all my might, and happily accompany these two people I love the most until I am old!