How to deal with the ill intentioned kindness of relatives?

People's hearts are unpredictable, even if they are relatives, there will be some people with bad intentions, they will be in front of you, behind your back, their so-called kindness is ill-intentioned, in the face of such people, we must maintain our own vigilance, do not let go of our own guard because we are relatives, especially in the face of some relatives who have nothing to do, we must pay attention not to be fooled, and be smarter.

I have an uncle and he is such a person. Once, when I went home, he asked me to go to his house for dinner, I wondered at that time, he had never called me before, this time he actually took the initiative to call me, I didn't think about anything at first, but when I arrived at his house at the dinner table, he was very concerned about me, and I was alert at that time, there must be a problem.

I guessed correctly, he suddenly said: "Xiaohu, I heard that you have been working on a project recently, and my uncle wants to take on a project, I don't know if it is okay." ”

When I heard this, I understood exactly what he meant by inviting me to his house for dinner and caring about me.

Because of this uncle of mine, he used to do a bad job and threw the pot on my head, and I was unhappy at the time, and directly said, "I'm sorry, the project is gone." ”

As soon as I had finished saying this, he said, "You go." ”

Hearing him say this, I sneered in my heart, is this the so-called kindness? This is the so-called relative, this ill-intentioned kindness is really unbearable.

When facing such relatives, you must be vigilant and don't be cheated by others.

We have to learn to say appropriately, not to be able to reduce a lot of trouble in our lives, whether it is the so-called kindness of relatives and friends, or to say some friends, let us help, we can decisively say a word to reject others, can make our lives a lot easier, but also reduce a lot of trouble, so a little decisiveness can make our lives happier. <>

In fact, I can tell in my heart which relatives are sincere to you and which relatives are just ill-intentioned.

Therefore, I tend to have different attitudes towards these two kinds of relatives, and I usually don't talk too much to those relatives with bad intentions.

But a minimum of respect and etiquette is still very necessary, I don't approve of them in my heart but I won't show it, I want them to see my kindness.

This reminds me of an incident back then:

When I first got married, I had dinner with my husband's relatives. The bad taste over there, the newlywed likes to joke with his daughter-in-law and father-in-law.

The man who had just sat down said, "Hey, sit on your father-in-law's lap." I immediately laughed, "Oh? Your wife was also sitting on your father's lap? He was stunned for a moment, and said, "You have to sit, you have to sit", I said, "What are you anxious about, your daughter will get married in the future, and there will be a chance to sit."

At this time, you should respond in time, and the more you can't let them see what they want to see. The more they want to see, the more they don't let them see it, and they must do a lot better than they thought they would like to do in this area so that they can feel hit.

Sometimes the concern of relatives at the dinner table is likely to be a temptation or an attempt to show what he has or what he has. Every time something like this happens, it is impossible to tear the skin directly, the best way is to "play Tai Chi", it is better to retreat as advance, and then ask him questions. Or talk more about other topics so that he can't interject.

Often I can see through some of their intentions, usually don't care about me, in the New Year, will use some beautiful words to make me happy, I don't think I will be such a superficial person. I will superficially echo the kindness of my relatives during meals, but in actual action, I don't pay attention to their actions at all, and I don't deliberately help them do something.

I really wonder why there are people like this. Strangers are like this, relatives, people who exist in this kind of friendship with blood relations, why should they play with their own families. For such a relative, and you can't tear your face, I can only say that one ear goes in and one ear goes out.

Whatever she says, the final decision is in my hands anyway.