What are some of the times when you feel like someone else s emotional intelligence is really high?

When you speak, it is the time when you can best reflect a person's emotional intelligence, and some people really think about it all.

There is a colleague in the company, once when he completed the task assigned by the leader, he did not do it perfectly, but when he explained the task, he said the leader with a pleasant face.

The teacher in the studio had just finished mopping the floor, and a girl wanted to go out to the toilet, but the teacher said that she would go out again when she was done, but the girl didn't listen and walked out. The teacher was so angry that the door was locked, and the girl couldn't get in, so she was seen standing there from the window. The scene was embarrassing for a while, and then a boy said to the teacher that he wanted to go to the toilet, the teacher agreed, and the boy went out and opened the door by the way, and the boy said to the girl outside the door

The teacher has opened the door for you, let's go in", the girl muttered angrily, "I don't". The boy didn't say much, didn't go to the toilet, just walked around the first floor, and then walked back to the studio, and when he went back, he found that the girl had already entered, and the boy smiled slightly, walked back to his seat and began to draw. ‍‍

At critical times, if a person is responsive, it can indicate that the person's emotional intelligence is really high.

I went to a friend's house a few days ago, and I have a five-month-old mother. At that time, it was almost dark, just the two of us were at home, and her mother-in-law went to someone else's house to play mahjong, I don't know if I will come back to eat, we are afraid that we will not be able to finish eating too much. I saw my friend pick up ** and click on the voice call, "Mom, I've made the meal, you will come back to eat in a while" The mother-in-law over there said, "Oh, I forgot to play mahjong, leave me here to eat, you eat, put the bowl and I'll come back to wash."

If it were me, I would definitely be stupid and say, "Mom, are you coming back for dinner," and asked like this, my mother-in-law must have thought that I called her back to cook, and my friend with high emotional intelligence said that the meal was done directly, and just call my mother-in-law to go home for dinner. Some girls are not unreasonable, who doesn't like to be so good at talking. ‍‍

Every time there is an awkward situation in a group chat, my friend can always stir up the atmosphere, and at this time I think his emotional intelligence is really high.

Once, our head teacher asked me to notify some people about something, and he told me to be sure to notify everyone, and I promised well, but as a result, I forgot a boy, and then the boy did not return to the dormitory, and when I arrived at class at noon, the head teacher asked the boy if he had returned to the dormitory at noon, and I suddenly panicked, and the boy said that he did not return, and then the head teacher asked me This is what you notified, I was very embarrassed, and then the boy said to the head teacher, I notified him, But he didn't believe it, and then he didn't go back, and then the head teacher praised him for how fast his brain turned, and I wasn't so embarrassed, and then I didn't have to be questioned by the head teacher, and I went to thank a wave of boys after class, he was really good, and his emotional intelligence was also high. ‍‍

One thing that impressed. More than a dozen colleagues in the department ate together in the cafeteria, and in the end everyone finished eating, a girl had a plate of dumplings left, she felt that it was a waste to throw them away, so she put them on the turntable of the table, and asked a few boys if they still ate them, she did not move. Several boys looked at each other, but no one answered.

She asked again, and two of the boys were quiet, saying, "No, no, no, no, I'm full, I'm not eating." Our new department leader directly transferred the dumplings to a few male colleagues, "One person eats one, must eat!" Come on, come on, can't be wasted.

In an instant, the air seemed to freeze, and the older male colleague's face was obviously displeased. No one answered the leader's words. At this time, there was a big brother from the northeast of his hometown who pushed the plate of dumplings exaggeratedly and said, "No, no, no, no, no, no", and paused, "Not enough to eat, not enough to eat!"

Everyone burst into laughter in an instant. ‍‍

When others owe him money, he can always say it in a tactful tone and successfully get it back.

Elementary school to the tutorial class, at that time there was a boy in the same grade was also there, and then one weekend to go, the teacher let us rest for ten minutes, so we went to the tutorial class downstairs to buy drinks to drink, he bought Coke, from the supermarket to unscrew the drink, and then slowly close it, at that time I still felt confused, and then back to the tutorial class when the class, many people opened drinks when they were out"Ugh"The sound of the bottle being opened, and it was very quiet on his side, and it dawned on me at that time. ‍‍

I have a very low emotional intelligence, but I remember an incident that happened when I was in junior high school, and I thought I was really good at talking. Since it is a transfer class, it lives on campus. I didn't have a place in the dormitory, so I had to sleep with a girl for a semester, and then many of my classmates told me that she had stolen money and told me to pay attention to putting the money away.

One day she asked me, do you think I'm going to steal money too? I replied that if I didn't believe you, I wouldn't have slept in the same bed with you. I really haven't lost any money.

I don't know if she's stolen it before, but she's nice to me anyway. ‍‍

The president of our student council is a girl, very small, but super capable and emotionally intelligent. When the school was about to hold a New Year's Day party, a few boys from the art department had to do a dance, and it happened that the chairman was very good at dancing, so the section chief asked the chairman to teach them. But those boys were too stupid and didn't study seriously, and they didn't learn for a long time.

When the New Year's Day party was about to be held, various departments reported their work, and the section chief asked the boys if the dance was finished, and the boys couldn't say anything. At this time, the chairman took over and said: I was busy writing the plan (the plan for the New Year's Day party) two days ago and didn't have much time to hand it over to them, so I will hurry up in the next two days.

In one sentence, they were relieved, and they thanked the chairman afterwards, and they really thought that the chairman practiced dancing. Another time, the student union helped the school leaders order the dress for the award, and the vice principal (female) set the dress, and when I tried it on, I found that it was too big. The vice principal asked, "What's the matter?"

The chairman said: It can't be big, it's exactly according to the size you gave, is it because you've lost weight recently? The vice principal instantly turned his anger into joy, saying that he had indeed lost a little weight recently.

took the dress and walked away happily.

Tell the story of a celebrity in real life and on TV.

One is that once when I was eating hot pot with my friends, everyone knows that the chopsticks of hot pot are very long, and in order to save wood, the front part of the hot pot chopsticks is removable.

And that time my friend called him A, A accidentally dropped the front part into the bottom of the pot when picking up the dish, so he needed to take another one, and the other friend B went to help him find the waiter to ask for it, and in the process, a person at the next table gave him his extra chopsticks.

After a while, B came back with two pairs of chopsticks, and said while handing them to A: You don't have to be afraid to drop it again. I thought A would tell B that I already had it, but A quietly put down the previous pair of chopsticks, took the chopsticks that B handed him, and said:

Thank you". That moment really made me feel that A is a person with high emotional intelligence, not only suppressing my emotions of mocking B, but also avoiding embarrassing B.

The second thing is the famous host He Jiong, Mr. He Jiong is really the person with the highest emotional intelligence I have ever seen, there is no one, he never hurts people when he speaks, and always expresses some requirements in some more pleasant ways.

What impressed me more was that there was a period of longing for life, it was Bai Baihe who went to the mushroom house as a guest, and then Bai Baihe did not change his slippers when he entered the house, and Mr. He Jiong was cleaning the house at that time.

Generally speaking, it may be a little rude to directly ask the female guest to change her slippers, so Mr. He Jiong said to Liu Xianhua: "Dahua, you go and help Lily get a pair of slippers." ”

This not only expresses the idea of wanting the female guests to change their slippers, but also avoids embarrassment, which can be said to be an operation with high emotional intelligence.

One more thing, the follow-up to this incident is Bai Baihe said: I can't change my slippers, which will not match my outfit today and refuse. Emotional intelligence is high and low, and the high and low are immediate.

Won't refuse compliments from the other person.

Once Huang Bo was interviewed on "Luyu has an appointment".

Lu Yu asked him: "Do you think you're particularly hot now?" ”

If it were us, this time would probably say:

No, it's all the audience's love. Actually, I didn't pay attention to that, I just had to be myself. ”

Modesty is a virtue, and many people will subconsciously choose to be humble in the face of praise, not seeking merit, but seeking no fault, so of course there is no problem, but it is equivalent to not catching the other party's words, and it is easy to make the conversation stagnate.

Let's take a look at how Huang Bo is:

He said: "It's all come to "Luyu has an appointment", can it not be popular? ”

A short rhetorical question, not only euphemistically admitting that he is indeed popular now, but also praising Lu Yu and the show, praising each other, making the chat atmosphere between the two sides more pleasant and relaxed, and the conversation box is so open, this can be called a drip-tight and a model of high emotional intelligence.

3. Know when to play stupid.

One weekend afternoon, a male classmate returned to the dormitory, and when he knocked on the door, there was a beautiful scene, and his roommate was talking to his girlfriend, and the atmosphere instantly froze.

If it were you, what would you do? It would be common to say something like:

Excuse me, you continue. ”

Sorry, I made a mistake. ”

Similar words are believed to be the way most people cope, but in fact, the other party is already very embarrassed, and this embarrassment will not be resolved because you say these two sentences, and most girls are also afraid or shy that their love will be known by others.

Therefore, what this male classmate did was to sweep the dormitory with a blank look, and then his eyes came to the door to look at the room number, and scolded:

Damn, this can all go wrong. ”

Then silently closed the door and left.

There are many people who think that when they encounter this situation, their minds are generally blank, and they will turn so fast to find the best solution at once.

At this time, I suggest that you read more and read good books, reading can improve your experience and cultivate emotional intelligence. In fact, it's the same as doing a practice problem, you get a difficult problem right the first time, but you may not do it if you ask it from a different angle. After reading a lot of books, I have goods in my stomach, and I am naturally able to cope with various problems.

1. If you brush Tik Tok in a crowded place, you will turn the sound very low.

2. I will not echo the object of my friend's complaint, and I will not add fuel and vinegar to encourage the other party to break up.

3. Show a friend the ** in the phone, without consent, he will never slide left and right.

4. Because he didn't listen to his friend's advice and tasted the bitter fruit, he was deeply shocked, but he didn't sneer and "tell you not to listen to me", but kept comforting me, "It's okay, eat a trench and grow wise".

5. Visit customers with colleagues, and the other party looks at the watch from time to time, or gets up to add tea to us. Then the colleague said, "Mr. X, then we will make up our minds, you are busy first, so you won't bother."

7. When talking to others, they will put down their mobile phones and look at each other seriously.

8. People with high emotional intelligence know how to give the stage to others, and give recognition and praise. It's like when you brush Zhihu, you see an inspired thumbs up.

9. When chatting with others, use some emojis or words like "uh-huh" and "oh-oh" from time to time to set off the atmosphere. Because cold words can give people a sense of impersonalness.

10. If you see some wrong views on the Internet, you will not belittle and ridicule them, nor will you scold each other.

People have different family backgrounds, knowledge reserves, and thinking and cognition, so there is no need to waste time forcibly instilling things that others do not agree with.

11. There is a boy in the car, consciously sit in the back row.

12. Before posting on Moments, I will check if there is any message that has not been replied to.

13. When friends of the opposite sex learn that you have a partner, they will deliberately keep some distance to prevent you from being distracted.

14. When giving advice to others, first express empathy, and then analyze from the other person's point of view, "I know why you think so, because I have encountered such a thing before, and then because of something that changed my mind."

Using one's own experience to persuade others makes it easier to gain the approval of the other party.

1. People with high emotional intelligence can manage their emotions well and can make their emotions express in a timely and appropriate manner. People with high emotional intelligence always do things that are very meaningful, and when something happens, they don't blame others and never blame others.

2. People with high emotional intelligence are broad-minded and will not worry about a little thing, they are good at managing their emotions, and regulating and controlling their emotions. Be able to keep yourself happy at all times, and don't let some bad emotions affect work and study.

3. People with high emotional intelligence are good at mastering the skills of conversation and are very good at communicating with people. People with high emotional intelligence have a very long-term vision and will not stay on some temporary, short-term interests. People with high emotional intelligence are also very adaptable to the environment and are very popular in society.

4. People with high emotional intelligence have consciousness and initiative, when they decide to do something, they will never give up before it is completed, they do anything with clear motives, and show great interest in it.

5. People with high emotional intelligence always try their best to remember each other's names when interacting with people, which makes people feel very amiable, so that others are willing to get close to them and be their friends, and they usually give people a feeling that they can be trusted. There are usually a lot of people who are willing to be friends with people with high emotional intelligence.

6. When people with high emotional intelligence talk to others, they do not boast about themselves, but like to listen carefully to other people's conversations, leaving people with a sense of respect. People with high emotional intelligence are very responsible, and they usually dare to take responsibility after doing things.