Tell me about your parents, are they strict about your studies?

Since my parents are teachers, they don't have too many requirements for me in terms of learning, and I am personally more self-conscious.

When studying at home, Mom and Dad will try not to disturb our study. Although we will not be given any guidance in learning, our parents will support us with what we need to learn.

My parents didn't have a high level of education and didn't give me much study guidance, but they respected me, felt that I could study well, and gave me the support they could, and I think it was a very successful education.

I am very grateful to my parents, who never asked me how many points I scored in the exam, but just taught us to know and improve, so far my grades are still very good, but they are definitely not forced by my parents.

Not strict, not necessarily strict parents to study well, I think learning this thing still depends on consciousness, parents are appropriate to guide me, never harsh requirements on how to learn.

Not strict. From childhood to adulthood, free-range management, completely following my own wishes, not supporting or opposing, and going my own way.

My family is rural, I am a farmer's child, my parents really want me to study hard, but they will not discipline me, but just tell me that as long as I want to read, I can spend as much as I want, I am really touched.

To be honest, my parents don't care much about my studies, and in their minds, it doesn't matter much if I study well, and people who don't study well can still make money, but fortunately, I am angry, and my academic performance is still good.

Since I was a child, my parents have given me only one point of view: what you choose, you must persist in the hardest, this is to be responsible for yourself. So now I am also very independent, I make all my own decisions, although I am not good at studying now, but I don't regret it.

On the issue of educating children, I personally think it depends on the specific situation, if it is a female child, the father may not be very strict, and the mother is still very strict, why do you say that? Because it may be that the father prefers his own girls and is not easy to manage, while the mother will be very strict, hoping that the child's growth can lay a good foundation, and will be negligent and disciplined, while in the case of boys, most of them are loving mothers and strict fathers, because they have different responsibilities and missions after all, so this should be treated on a case-by-case basis. Tongqing.

When it comes to children, are your parents more strict with your father or your mother? I think it's because my mother is more strict.

When it comes to educating children, we are not still strict with our fathers in every family. Mom is still kinder.

In today's high cost of living, in order to support the family, fathers have to pack their bags and travel thousands of miles to work, and it is good to see their children once a year. It's not about educating children at all. Not to mention divorced single-parent families.

Moms do most of the childcare work. Have to play the role of "strict mother", fathers rarely see their children, every time they meet, they can't wait to give their children the world, but they are reluctant to be "strict" to their children, and some fathers say: There are not many opportunities for parents and children to get along, and if they are strict, children will be even more reluctant to get close to themselves.

So dad and mom, who is strictly beneficial to the child's growth?

Professor Li Meijin said that first of all, as a father, you should be rational and kind, while a mother should be strict and firm, and you should be treated differently in stages!

In the early years of the child, it is beneficial for the child to be strict with the mother.

This is because when you are young, your mother is taking care of her, especially in life, and unconsciously, your mother will do a lot of things for her children, and she is very spoiled, which is not a good thing for children, and mothers should learn to let go, be more firm, and be principled.

As the saying goes, "a loving mother is a loser", there is such an allusion, once upon a time, there was a person, his mother was very doting on him when he was a child, he did wrong things, such as fighting with others, stealing things from neighbors, his mother never criticized him, when he grew up, he became a robber who did all kinds of evil, and then he was forced to be caught by the government and sentenced to death, before leaving, he met with his mother, and his mother hugged him and cried, but he bit off his mother's ear, and said that everything today is his mother's fault, Because when I was young, my mother never knew how to educate when I made mistakes, so I ended up like this.

Therefore, the mother should be strict and firm in the child's infancy, and she should also be willing to let him endure hardships and be strict with the child.

Growing up, the father is a little "strict", which is helpful for the child.

As the children grow up, many families can't control the children and begin to let the father take over. At this time, the father takes over the child, in fact, to give the child the psychological strength to infiltrate, and when the child is the most difficult, when he does not know what to do, the father guides the child.

A father's well-informed and open-minded mind will surely help his child open up a new pattern in life. Therefore, when the child encounters setbacks when he grows up, the father is his friend, and he must be the child's guide and guide the child in the best direction! This is also one of the meanings of "strict father".

Here I still want to appeal to fathers, please take more time to accompany their children, career success is temporary, but the happiness of the family is a lifetime, the growth of children is a lifelong thing, and even related to the rise and fall of a family for several generations.

No matter how busy a father is, he must play two "roles" in his children's education, one is to enlighten people with wisdom, and the other is to guide people.

Summary. There is frequent communication with children.

If the child doesn't study well, the mother can't control it, and the father doesn't care.

Let's talk about the specific situation<>

Why children don't study well.

Usually play games or do something.

How big. My child doesn't study well, so he doesn't review it.

He is 13 years old this year and is in his first year of junior high school.

He doesn't usually play games, and we don't let him play games.

Well, from Monday to Friday, he will finish his homework and let him review it for a while, and he will not review the town chain at all. Well, after finishing his homework on Saturday and Sunday, he wrote his homework for a while and watched TV for a while, and he couldn't sit still in the room.

Has it always been like this?

Or suddenly.

His father doesn't care what his father says he knows, right? I'm also anxious, I see that he doesn't study well like this, and he can't work hard, I'm very anxious, I say all day long that he doesn't have a bad idea, I beat him up yesterday, I made a better meal, and after two days he returned to his original shape.

In fact, it is not necessary to fight to educate children.

He's still young.

Oh, it's always been like this, it's not good at learning. Qiao Ran said that he would listen to two sentences occasionally, he simply took the matter of learning to be hungry and not let go, how should Xiao Hanxu play, how to play, how to watch TV? How to watch TV.

Do you usually spend a lot of time with your children?

There is frequent communication with children.

Do you want to enlighten yourself?

Talk to your child often.

It's not easy to talk about yourself.

Be enlightened to your child.

My own family used to be relatively strict with my parents, maybe we live in this era, and the relationship between me and my parents is decent, there will not be a lot of intimate conversations, it should be a deep estrangement with my parents. Now that I have a family of my own, I don't usually be strict about things that are not seriously dangerous, unless I say something that is too unpleasant and very dangerous, then I will beat him. There should be a bottom line.

But Dad just loved him very, very much, and even doted on him a little. No matter what he does, what he asks, Dad will not be angry and will be satisfied. On the whole, it should be that the mother is strict, and the father is more loving.

But I feel that this is also a bit bad, even children are very smart and very good at acting on their faces. For example, if I don't let him eat sugar, I won't let him eat a single one, which saves him from worrying. So every time he saw other children eating candy, he would say to me, "Mom, eating this is not good for your teeth, and you will get worms!"

But when I'm with my father, I will do anything, and I usually say with a crying voice, Dad, you just let me eat one, I'll eat one! You can't eat too much. Then Dad will definitely say yes.

Another thing that I feel very bad about myself is that when I am alone at home, I am very obedient, and as long as it is something I can do, I will do it independently. But as soon as Dad comes back from work, he will be like a child, asking for this and that, and then humming and chirping very squeamishly, and he doesn't have to do what he can do with his father's help. Educating children is also a very big topic, and we parents are learning and educating at the same time.

This question varies from family to family, with some strict mothers and loving fathers, and some strict fathers and loving mothers. As far as I am concerned, when I was a child, my body was relatively weak, but the way my parents loved me was different, my mother didn't let me do things, her words were, I can do this well without soaking in pee, you go to read a book! Because I have a good academic performance.

My father, on the other hand, insisted that I go up the mountain with my mother to chop firewood, and his statement was that even if I can't pick up firewood, a trip is also exercise! Each has its own reason, but it's all because of love! Now that our family is a daughter, my father will be more accommodating and relaxed in all aspects, while I will be stricter, and sometimes because of my father's protection, it is not so easy to implement the requirements.

And in the boy's family, the mother will have something.

My family is a loving father and strict mother. Of course, the standard of a strict mother is not high, and there is no selectivity, but the loving father is really kind to the child all the time, but he talks about principles. So my family is also a bit of a strange combination, my mother usually manages the strict child but is disobedient, and the father usually connives, but the child listens to the father, and at the critical moment, the father is strict, and the child is immediately honest.

I often laugh at myself for being a "paper tiger" as a mother, hehe.

Mom is strict, because the children are brought by the mother, how to take out without education, Dad only knows how to protect, now as long as I am strict with the child, the child immediately cried to find Dad to let Dad hug. It's all habitual. Only blame me for being too my children.

Dad only sees the baby when he gets off work, and Mom has no off, so Dad doesn't understand Mom's strictness to her child.

When I was a child, my parents quarreled, many times because I made a mistake, and my father wanted to punish me, and my mother felt that the punishment was too heavy and protected me. Now that I have children, my father is basically stricter at home. We rarely use corporal punishment, at most we close the balcony, and after the child is locked up a few times, he is afraid of his father.

It's just that there is a grandmother who spoils the baby at home, and once the father wanted to punish the child, but the grandmother didn't let it, and they quarreled. Watching them quarrel gives me the feeling of being in a trance back to when I was a child. Later, the child was almost five years old, and he was obedient a lot, and there was basically no chance to scold him.

Sometimes children make mistakes, but usually they are aware of it before we criticize it. I think that no matter whether the father is strict or the mother is strict, as long as the rules are set at home, the child will generally not be so annoying.

When it comes to educating and nurturing children, most of the ways our family adopt are strict mothers and fatherly styles. Because both children are girls, the mother will be more direct, authoritative, and convenient in educating the girl, and it will also be easier to communicate, communicate, and manage.

My current family is a strict father, and I myself am more lenient in all aspects of my children's requirements. I think each has its own advantages, they can enjoy more freedom with me, and of course because of this, they seem to be more relaxed. In his father's words, he can be a person who has requirements for life, and of course he needs to do more.

The key issue is that the husband and wife should not accuse each other, complain or even quarrel because of this disagreement.

Growing up, my parents were very strict with my education. But in general, my father is stricter, he will often urge me to do my homework, and then if I do well in the exam, his face will change immediately, which makes me feel sad, so I feel that my father is stricter than my mother, although my father is more of the kind of love that rarely speaks, but he is not ambiguous about me at all in learning.