What to do if you miss someone who can t be together

I think the beginning really responded: the face of the person does not know where to go, and the peach blossoms are still smiling in the spring breeze. It's a tearful look.

1. Give it to time.

These countless quiet nights, perhaps it was the quiet night that aroused the fear in his heart, and he did not choose to take his own life. After a long time, he was listless all day long, and the world seemed like a lingering breath to him. But it seems that God does not want such a person to be bleak, and God will always give him hope.

And just like that, he met her. If you encounter the warmth, put it there if you can't erase it, and hand it over to time, because there is a kind of forgetfulness.

2. Never forget people's common feelings.

Never forget, not terrible, what is terrible is a trace of fantasy and unwillingness in my heart, is it that I just need to get closer, is it that I just have to wait, is it that I am holding on, and the ending will be different? Who knows? Why don't I try it?

A lot of good, liked, and true things must be remembered, which is also normal, and we must face it head-on.

3. Give it to your new love.

Forget an old relationship and accept a new beauty. New love life, looking around, it seems that there is no one who he can see, there are people in the distance who exude brilliance, and he has no ability to get close, thinking about it, it is better to be with him who cannot be together. Don't hold on to these ideas, be realistic.

Try to give yourself a new love once in a while, and you may meet someone better and more suitable. Don't give up an entire forest for a treebecause it's not great.

Summary

I don't want to be so realistic when there is no response, but time and new love are the best medicine.

1."Missing".

I think whoever says that if you don't forget, there will be an echo. In this world, the fairest effort is the most useless for love.

So when you once had such a person, I actually felt the same kind of pity for you. And after ten years of knowing him, I finally got used to how to get along with this person who couldn't get it but couldn't forget it.

2."Emotions".

Looking back for thousands of miles, the old man is forever, and the clothes are better than the snow.

First of all, please leave everything to distance.

Most of the great inventions in this world are solving the problem of distance. Golden Horse actress Ye Dexian has a lyric that is deeply popular: There can be a few people in the world who are so close to each other, get along like strangers, and feel close when they are apart.

So when you already know clearly that he is the one who can't get it, stay away from him anyway. Flee to a place where it is difficult to fill the distance even with your thoughts.

3."Feelings".

When I was in college, I was only 600 kilometers away from him, and I saw him twice a year. When I worked, I was 1500 km away from him, and I saw him once a year in spring and autumn. It may be the same once or twice, but for me, it's very different.

I can't accompany him for his birthday, I can't play games with him, I can't accompany him to play big mountains. When I walked in front of him with a fist and crossed thousands of mountains and rivers, I would be tired.

There is a sentence in Hayao Miyazaki's animation, it rains in the city where you live, and I want to ask if you have an umbrella today, but I hold back, because I am afraid that you will say that you didn't bring it, and I can't do anything about it. It's like I love you but can't give you the company you want.

Please believe that you are powerless to change, and distance can help you change.

When I wanted to talk about the past with you, it was already the time when the green silk turned into snow.

Second, leave everything to time.

It's impossible to say that you want to forget a person completely! But you can let him slowly fade in your heart, for those who have left, no longer belong to themselves, and will not come back in nostalgia, it is better to face yourself now and continue to do so.

If you don't forget, you don't need to forget, the more you escape, the more you can't escape, according to your own ideas, if you want to hit **, raise your hand, and when his arrogance and indifference are clearly seen by you, you will forget.

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Wang Yixin, senior consultant of Hansi, answered:

Hello! In life, it is a great luck to meet such a good "object", and it is a very regrettable and sad thing to not be able to be together because of practical reasons.

However, looking back on one's life, it is true that one has spent it in this kind of loss and parting.

Every time I grow, I am forced to be associated with loss. When you learn to walk, you lose the warmth of lying in your mother's arms all the time; When you start school, you lose the freedom of your childhood; When you enter marriage, you lose the freedom you had when you were single.

"Loss" is something that everyone often experiences, and we need to grieve and mourn for it before we can fully accept it and leave calmly.

At the same time, what we have lost will also be transformed into a good resource within us that will continue to support our growth.

Therefore, the person who you can't let go of and must let go may need you to spend a longer period of grief rather than "letting go" right away.

When you are tossing and turning in pain, regret, and unwillingness, it is not only a necessary process for you to part with him, but also a necessary way for you to continue to face reality.

His support, understanding and appreciation for you in the past will not go away with the wind, but will continue to stay in your experience and nourish you for the rest of your life.

Then you can find something to do by yourself, let yourself forget, you won't think about this when you're busy, and over time, you may also get used to the days without him, if you feel regretful, you can also pluck up the courage to explain it.

In this case, many people have it, and so am I, I never forget, I think about it day and night, I like each other, I can't be together, just treat it as a relative, it's already very good to meet, be content and happy, life is enough to know a confidant, watch from afar, know that he is doing well, and pay attention silently, it is good. It's good to have someone we miss, and we have to work hard to make ourselves better.

Since it is not possible to be together, you should learn to let go, you have to understand one thing, it's not that you are not excellent, it's not that you fail, it's just that you don't have fate.

If it is determined that it is impossible to be together, then forget it even if you are obsessed, and at this time reason must prevail over feelings, and nothing cannot be forgotten over time.

I think you can choose to ignore it, and since it's not possible, then choose to give up.

Since you know that it is impossible to be together, it is better to let him go. Let yourself go, never contact again, and let time wear away your past.

Reserve a place for the other person, slowly get used to the person's existence, and make more new friends.

Summary. Hello In that case, you can't invest all your emotions, the people who are with you can obviously feel that your mind is not in the other party, there is a feeling of being used as a spare tire, you can't help but compare the people around you, always feel that the people around you are never as good as the people in your heart, not only hurt the people around you, but also feel very wronged. Therefore, if you can't forget the person in your heart, talk to the people around you first, and pause to continue with the people around you, so as not to waste the fate of the people around you.

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Hello In that case, you can't invest all your emotions, the people who are with you can obviously feel that your mind is not in the other party, there is a feeling of being used as a spare tire, you can't help but compare the people around you, always feel that the people around you are never as good as the people in your heart, not only hurt the people around you, but also feel very wronged. Therefore, if you can't forget the person in your heart, talk to the people around you first, and pause to continue with the people around you, so as not to waste the fate of the people around you. Let's go to a professional first and get the knot, and then continue [2022]<>

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