My husband asked me to call his ex parents in law my parents in law, and I was very hurt

Updated on society 2024-08-10
5 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-15

    <>I think it's a good thing to have filial piety, but before valuing love and righteousness, you also need to consider the feelings of the other party.

    In 2010, when I was thirty-two years old, I married Geng Ningyuan, who was eight years older than me, and had a ten-year-old daughter named Geng Xiaobei, whose ex-wife Ma Pingping died in a car accident two years ago.

    Before him, I had a lover Liang Xiaohu who had been in love for many years, we were college classmates, and because of the separation between the two places, the relationship ended after eight years of stalemate. When you are older, you can't find an unmarried man of the same age to marry, your parents force you to marry, and the world talks about it. Due to various factors, I had to lower my requirements and marry a second-married man.

    Geng Ningyuan is a civil servant, and before he got married, he told me that he had a deep relationship with his ex-wife, and his daughter was raised by his father-in-law, so I remarried him, and I had to promise him to go around often and treat them as his elders. At first, I thought there was nothing to worry about, but I thought he was affectionate and righteous.

    The first time I went to see my daughter with him, his ex-father-in-law and mother-in-law were very happy and put together a large table of dishes. He said: "Dad" and "Mom", and asked me to change my name.

    I was so awkward that I couldn't scream. At this time, his mother-in-law took my hand and said, "Girl, it is your blessing that you marry Geng Ningyuan, but unfortunately my daughter's life is not good and I can't accompany him, I will treat you as my daughter and Beibei's mother in the future!"

    >I haven't experienced pregnancy in October, breastfeeding, watching the little ones grow up little by little, and suddenly becoming a mother to a ten-year-old child, it is difficult for me to adapt. But out of respect for my husband, coupled with the fact that my parents often taught: "Don't tell people to be honest, roll your tongue", so I screamed hard.

    When I came back, the more I thought about it, the more awkward it became. I swore to go to her house as little as possible in the future, but during the New Year's holidays or weekends, my husband almost never falls once, and he must call me to go with him. Every time I was like completing a task, it was always difficult to fit in.

    Five years later, we have our own children, but he is still keen to go to his ex-parents-in-law's house. It really made me feel bad and I decided not to go with him again this year.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-14

    First of all, your in-laws are really good to you. If you don't come out and speak, your husband will quarrel with you in private, and it will be a matter of time before this continues, and if you talk and justify your in-laws, your parents will definitely be sad. After all, your parents care about you.

    If next time your parents say these embarrassing things in front of your husband. For example, if your parents say that your husband's family is not financially good, you say that your parents-in-law are very good to you and take good care of you in life, and if your parents say that your parents-in-law favor their son, you say to your mother, "Don't you favor me?" You can't justify it directly.

    Anyway, it's your husband who accompanies you all your life, not your parents-in-law. The most important thing is that no matter how you justify it, be sure to tell the truth.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-13

    Summary. It's especially embarrassing to feel like you're making such a mistake. But it's understandable that people are mortals and sometimes make mistakes. Just apologize sincerely to your father-in-law and mother-in-law.

    I called my father-in-law and mother-in-law wrong, what should I do.

    I called my father-in-law and mother-in-law wrong, what should I do.

    It's especially embarrassing to feel like you're making such a mistake. But it's understandable that people are mortals and sometimes make mistakes. Just apologize sincerely to your father-in-law and mother-in-law.

    I'm sure they'll forgive you.

    How can I apologize to them?

    You can say that Mom and Dad I was reckless, and I accidentally made such a serious mistake, I hope the second elder will never be angry, etc.

    I'm sure they'll forgive you for your slip of the tongue as long as you apologize sincerely.

    Is there any other way?

    That's the case, it's the Mid-Autumn Festival, I sent them a red envelope, happy Mid-Autumn Festival to my grandparents.

    Called them wrong.

    Otherwise, you said that you accidentally sent the red envelope to your grandparents to your father-in-law. Do you think this will make you look a little embarrassed?

    Otherwise, you said that you have a very good relationship with your grandparents, and when you send a message, you suddenly think of your grandparents and grandparents, so you make a typo.

    Not once or twice.

    I think maybe you don't have to deliberately explain, they just need to receive the red envelope and receive your heart. A misnomer is not a big mistake. You don't have to worry too much about anxiety about it.

    If not once or twice, then you need to apologize.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    1 It is imperative that this matter be put to rest. In front of me, you can only come soft, coaxing your father-in-law and wife to be happy and let this matter pass.

    2. Keep in mind that it is important to spend some time in the domestic affairs to get closer to your children. Establish the prestige of the head of the family and seize the power of the head of the family.

    3. Remember that diplomacy will always alienate your family, you and your children, from the stinking family.

    4 As far as husbands and wives are concerned, husbands and wives should help each other, not add fuel to the fire. It's not right for your wife's wife not to pull it, and it's not right to beat your wife afterwards. As far as the whole incident is concerned, the father-in-law invited relatives to beat his son-in-law and the daughter did not pull, the facts show that no matter whether he is intentional or not, objectively the father-in-law is suspected of premeditated framing, at least he has the responsibility to protect the safety of the wedding banquet help, and it is even more wrong to provoke divorce afterwards, which is extremely hateful!

    5 Evil will be rewarded with evil, and the time has not yet come. First of all, the bad habits of the Chinese people, and in the future, similar to public places, the responsibility is excused to be pushed, so as not to listen to other people's words and spray feces on themselves. Secondly, how to get out the evil anger that oppresses your heart, not to beat your wife.

    If you want to eliminate the influence of your husband and wife among your relatives, you can wait for the occasion of beating your relatives and his children to get married [remember that marriage is not another occasion], if you are timid, you must find the softest one to deal with, and return it in the way of others, so that when he marries his daughter-in-law, he is ugly, and he wants to send it but can't send it, so he quickly withdraws [remember that withdrawal means stealing the opportunity and don't give rice]. The second one is forgotten, unless he is defensive. The third must be revenged.

    Later, your prestige as a relative of his maiden family will be restored. Find a fool when the means are high... Just think about your role in the event.

    Summary: 1. Calm the urgent need of the incident 2. Where is the foundation of parent-child tree 3. Alienate the parents-in-law and weaken the parents-in-law's control over his wife. 4 Out of evil spirit, wait for the opportunity, be brave and resourceful.

    Look at it two days later, delete it and be satisfied. It's better to get extra points.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    I'm so dizzy to you. That can only mean that the people on your father-in-law's side don't look up to you as a son-in-law. If you are beaten by someone, you will fight back, how can you be angry with your wife!

    It looks like you're too sloppy. Alas, I've been married for 8 years, and it's impossible to say divorce, and now I can only buy wine and talk to my father-in-law and two glasses, even if it's pulling. Go soft.

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