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In response to this problem, we can try to analyze the following from the following aspects:

1. What are the reasons why children are timid, introverted, and afraid of interacting with others?

There are many reasons for children to be timid and introverted, usually it may be related to the child's own personality, not liking to be lively and quiet; It may also be related to the education of parents, or it may be caused by not adapting to an unfamiliar environment. For example, our child is very happy at home and chatters, but when she is taken outside, in an unfamiliar environment, she will become very quiet and introverted, which is mainly caused by unfamiliar environment. To improve the situation that children are timid, introverted, and afraid of interacting with others, we must analyze them in combination with specific problems.

2. There are several ways we can try to improve the child's condition.

a. Give children more opportunities for socializing and socializing.

Our children spend most of their time at home and rarely come into contact with anyone other than their family because there aren't many places to socialize. Therefore, parents can take their children to participate in more social activities on weekends after work, play more with friends' children, and increase their children's opportunities to contact with the outside world. This will help the child to integrate into the unfamiliar environment.

b. Parents learn to take advantage of the situation and encourage their children.

When the child behaves shyly, introverted or timid, parents should not blindly blame the child, count down the child timid, introverted, etc., parents will only exacerbate the child's shyness and timidity, so that they are more afraid to speak in front of strangers; At this time, parents should be patient to communicate with their children, guide them, teach them how to properly handle the social situation in front of them, and encourage them to try boldly. When children take action, encourage them and give them confidence.

c. Respect children and let them dare to express their ideas boldly.

Parents can communicate with their children more, chat, and encourage them to express their thoughts. It is even possible to hold family reading events, speech contests, and so on so that children dare to speak in public.

In fact, it doesn't matter whether the child's personality is extroverted or introverted. There are even times when you don't know about your child's "introversion", and many children will have "selective mutism" and need **.

1. What is selective mutism?

I have come into contact with a child who always sits in her seat at school, does not talk to anyone, does not say a word when the teacher asks questions, and does not participate in classmate activities between classes. Despite the efforts of the teachers and parents, the child did not improve, and it was still different at home and at school, and at the suggestion of the teacher, the parents took her for a check-up, and the result was that the child was determined to have "selective mutism".

Selective mutism is a mental disorder in which children persist in refusing to speak in situations where verbal communication is required, but are often able to speak voluntarily in others.

2. How to deal with it.

Generally, when children are silent at school, teachers or parents will always think that the child is introverted or shy, so the child is often not detected early and**, this situation is more common in girls.

In fact, there are many such children in life, as parents, we can not hide from the disease, if there are similar symptoms, we must take the child to the doctor in time.

3. Causes.

1. Parents are impatient and always urge their children, and the more they urge their children, the more pressure they have.

2. Frequent family migration leads to children not being able to establish good communication with others during the flow.

3. The increase in family problems or family conflicts, such as parents arguing in front of their children, single-parent families paying little attention to their children, etc.

Therefore, when children are particularly introverted, parents should pay attention to them. I hope every child is a happy little angel.

Psychological analysis: Come, hug you, I see that I have paid a lot for my daughter and worked hard, but my daughter is still introverted and sensitive, which makes you very frustrated, and you don't know what to do. Let me share my opinion.

From your short text to me, I got some information. First, when you were a child, you were coldly violently attacked by your parents, and they beat and blamed you. So after you have a child, you will try to avoid putting your daughter in the same situation as you.

You have done this very well, your starting point is good, and you are also working hard to create a different growth environment for your daughter. But it doesn't seem to have turned out very well. We'll get to that later.

Second, you say, can't personality genetics change? Whose character are you referring to, is it your character? Do you mean you're introverted and sensitive?

If it is your introverted and sensitive personality, it is possible that in family life, you will show it. Of course, it is not in the relationship with the children, but in the relationship with the husband, or other people. It's not directly aimed at the child, although you want to have a different relationship with the child.

But because your own project was not completed, the child, as a bystander, was still affected. If your husband is introverted and sensitive, then it is likely that your husband and wife's relationship has affected the family atmosphere, causing the children to pay sensitive attention to your emotional changes. Thirdly, how is your relationship as husband and wife, you said, the child will be sensitive to your emotional changes.

What do you mean, in matters that have nothing to do with your daughter, your emotional changes are still quite big, is it a husband and wife relationship? Is it a family relationship Hu Yan? Or is there something else that causes your mood to change Family is a system where everyone influences each other.

Maybe you think that I am very gentle with my daughter, and I am patient without beating or scolding, but your parent-child relationship is not placed in a vacuum, it will still be affected by the whole family relationship. It is estimated that you will tell the child that it has nothing to do with you, but in the child's opinion, if you are unhappy, it has something to do with her, and she wants her mother to be happy. If mom is unhappy and she's happy, she'll have the feeling of betraying mom.

She also doesn't dare to show confidence, extroversion, etc., because these may be seen by her, or by your subconscious, as a betrayal of your mother. Of course, it may also be related to her own personality, but the family's nurturing environment, the parents' relationship mode, and so on are all related. To sum up, it seems to me that children's problems may be just a microcosm of family problems, or a microcosm of your personal unfinished issues.

So what do you do? First of all, accept the child, accept that the child in the moment may be introverted, sensitive, and separate the child's problems from the child as a person. Second, examine your own model, which probably requires you to go to a counselor for personal counseling or family counseling.

Children's problems are never just children's problems, sometimes, children will desperately use their own problems to maintain a very fragile balance in the family, but at least it is balanced. Hopefully, one day, you will be able to express your emotions freely, and your child will be able to express his emotions freely.

Introverted children are easily influenced by their environment and others, have high self-esteem, and have poor interpersonal relationships. And because society and most people like outgoing and cheerful children, most introverted children have low self-esteem and are not strong enough to resist frustration. Parents and teachers need more help and guidance.

1.Encourage your child to talk more.

People and things around them can prove that children who are introverted and don't like to talk have poor interpersonal skills.

Therefore, we need to encourage children to speak more and let them dare to express themselves. For example, when you meet acquaintances in a shopping mall, you should encourage and guide them and take the initiative to say hello. Also, when talking to others, encourage children to speak their minds and not hold back so that they don't have to be afraid.

Talking more can improve language skills, and interpersonal skills will naturally improve.

2.Encourage your child to socialize with peers.

Children will be surrounded by peers. As a parent, encourage your child to get out of school or playtime to play with the little ones and become friends. Tell your child: "It's nice to have friends, to play games together, to study together, to buy snacks together." ”

Interacting with peers can also expose children to different people and also give children an early understanding of who can and can't communicate.

3.Take the kids out to socialize.

Sometimes children are afraid of life, and there are also factors that they can't cope with because of sudden changes in circumstances. If the child lives in a relatively simple family environment and does not see anyone on weekdays, he will naturally not "get along with strangers". When you see a stranger, you will take the initiative to retreat, which is out of a kind of self-protective psychology.

So, take your child out to meet some friends, encourage your child to deal with people more, be patient in the process, give your child enough room to adapt, and tell your child that being scared of life is not a shameful thing, everyone has experienced this. Experience.

4.Be patient with your child.

Often parents consciously ask their children: "It's polite to greet friends when they meet." People usually say, hello, uncle, auntie, etc.

So how do you want to greet people? At this time, the child may speak to himself. In my heart, I think this is a good start, and parents should show support and approval.

At this time, parents continue to patiently demonstrate to their children again and again, such as: Hello, child, what is my name? Can I play with you? When the child is ready, the child will greet others naturally and positively.

5.Develop your child's self-confidence.

It is very important to develop your child's self-confidence from an early age. As a parent, you should pay more attention. Don't suppress them when they're young, it will make them feel inferior.

Instead, respect their ideas while allowing them to dare to express themselves. When your child gets a high score, give positive feedback and practical rewards in a timely manner, such as a lollipop, a chocolate, and a delicate notebook.

Children are introverted by nature, there is no need to force him, in fact, you can take him out to play with other children more, you can open your heart, and spend more time with him, so that he has a sense of security.

When you find that your child doesn't like to talk and is more introverted, you should communicate with your child, find out the reason why your child is reluctant to talk, and take your child out to walk around and communicate with others.

Most people would think that lively, cheerful, sociable children grow up to eat well and are more likely to succeed. Introverted children, on the other hand, lack a sense of presence in the crowd and are not very gregarious, will not achieve anything in the future. In fact, this perception is very biased.

Introverted children, subconsciously, do not like to communicate with strangers (children) because they take much longer to accept new things than cheerful children.

Introverted children will not be exposed to things they don't like, and they don't have the courage to touch things they like, so they won't take the initiative to contact them. Parents need to think about it, first find a way to know what their children like and what they don't like, and then give their children courage to touch new things they like. When the child successfully takes this step, let the child try new things that he doesn't like, and then discipline and restrain him, because the child has the courage to fight for the things he likes, he will not be so easily injured.

Step by step, as long as parents are willing to put effort into cultivation, they will have fruits of equal value. On the contrary, parents will either blindly connive or blindly suppress and coerce, which will only backfire in the end. We must first be soft and then rigid, and the combination of rigidity and softness is the king.

Then you have to let parents guide you, interact with children more, or cultivate some hobbies.

Get in touch with the outside world, find your child's hobbies, enroll him in a class, and study with children of the same age.

Take her to the zoo amusement park, see the entertainment, and get in touch with friends.

Theoretically speaking, you should not be looking for the classmate who bullied your child, because you said, your child is 8 years old, and I think that child is about the same size, so I think you should start to solve this problem from the following three aspects:

One), go to the child's parents, this is very necessary, since it seems that you respect the child her (his) parents, and it can reflect your charm as a qualified parent, will make their parents feel that you have self-cultivation, and it is not good to bully、、、 educating children is the unshirkable task of every parent、、、 of course, protecting their children is something that parents must do well

2) I think you can communicate with the teacher, why? Because your child should be bullied at school, in your own home, does she (he) still dare to bully? The answer is yes, so, find the key person in the key place, this person is the school teacher, I think you understand、、、 the teacher will also understand and cooperate with you, because everything you do will reflect your care for the next generation, one is to prevent your own children from being bullied, and the other is to avoid bullying classmates The children will go down the road of crime in the future (just kidding).

Three), said here, I think it is still necessary to communicate well with their children, children are introverted and timid, should be well educated, in fact, this is also a problem for many children, the current society is mixed, children and peers have fewer opportunities to play than the previous generation, so take her to nature for a walk, sunshine is the best way to be introverted, just say this, share what you see、、、 I don't believe that you such a charitable parent will not give me 、、、

I wish you a healthy child, a happy family、、、 and if you still have questions, you can continue to call me