Why does my dad always talk about other people s children and how bad I am, and I feel broken?

Updated on parenting 2024-02-09
17 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    You ask him if he wants to change with others, and let him go if they are good, or else he will take the good ones he said home, and his children will not reflect on what they have been taught! This kind of is to want to be good and don't want to bother, serious comparison psychology, there are nine above the tenth place of the child, and there are four above the fifth place of the child, you can always only see that you are worse than others, constantly tell you how bad you are, hit your self-confidence, you have the ability to come, you are great all day long, and you don't say how big the scope is, just this building, you rank first. I'll take the first place in the whole school and you take the first place in the whole community to see, it's really annoying, you should have been pregnant for 32 more months if you wanted a Nazha.

    He reads him, you do what you like, to be honest, in this case, unless you go to any school that is in the top three of your grade, don't expect to say a good word. Don't think so much, it's yourself who benefits the most in the end, and let them go as they say. You can't become the child in their mouths, just like they can't become their imaginary selves, accept imperfections in order to be more perfect.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Either way, your father is also good for you, you just listen. It's also just my personal suggestion, as this is the case since I encountered this situation. Don't argue with him, listen to him quietly.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    In the future, talk about other people's fathers in front of him and let him feel your feelings.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    This is the so-called child of someone else's family, which may be the deep love and responsibility of Chinese families for thousands of years. Their own children will be very strict with their own children, but they don't know how to encourage their children and help their children, so this is the shortcoming, parents can not always compare their own children with other people's children, they must often encourage and affirm their children's performance. Every child is a potential stock, and they all have their own unique places and shining points.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    It's a way of education, right? Maybe to boost you, give you a little pressure to catch up. In fact, your father may not necessarily think that other people's children are good. Maybe this kind of education is not necessarily good. However, in China, many people like to use this method.

  6. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Dad is spurring you to do this, implying that you have to study hard and work hard, not slandering you, please don't mind, this is a kind reminder.

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Hate iron does not become rigid, hope that the son will become a dragon, for the father's heart, everything is based on harmony, the father's nagging is for teaching, to misunderstand the father's love, only to change, there is a good way to learn, for the father, humility is the mother of success, the root of the blessing, follow its nature, benefit the father and the benefit, and the blessing of the blessing.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    This is a common disease for many parents. It is also their idea of hoping that their son will become a dragon and their daughter will become a phoenix. Don't blame him, try to communicate with him so that you can slowly get closer. This phenomenon will slowly disappear.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Hate iron is not strong, the child is still his best, work hard to make some achievements and don't be afraid of hardships for dad to see!

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    In fact, every parent is the same, no matter how she is, she still loves you? No matter how bad he is, he still loves you, he just hates iron and steel. I want you to be a little better. Although this method of education is not quite right. But this is a common problem of parents.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    But other people's fathers are super good.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    1.First, encourage children to express themselves and ask them to say how they feel sad and lost. Listen patiently to your children's opinions, because they can only listen to what is in their hearts.

    2.Provide a safe and stable environment to support and comfort children when they feel helpless, sad or sad.

    3.Have regular conversations with your child so they can release their emotions, break down stress, and become stronger.

    4.Use fun activities, such as drawing, reading, and physical activity, to help build a transition between your child's relationship with "dad" and help them adapt to change.

    5.Explain to children that all family situations are unique and encourage them to embrace diversity as long as they have love. At the same time, let them know how to get along with the different types of families and people they may meet.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Much of this question depends on the specific situation and context. Generally speaking, if someone's father is a good father, caring for his children, and well-educated, then when someone says to his child, "Isn't it good to have such a good father", it should be a word of praise that expresses respect and recognition for this father.

    However, if someone's father is not a good father, then the phrase may be seen as sarcastic or ridiculed, as it may imply that someone does not have a decent father. In addition, if the tone and context of this sentence are inappropriate, it can also cause misunderstandings and unnecessary controversy.

    To sum up, the specific meaning of this sentence needs to be understood according to the context and tone, if it is a word of praise, it can express recognition and respect for a good father; If it is a sarcastic or ridiculous remark, it may cause unnecessary controversy and misunderstanding.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Tell your parents that this has a great impact on you, and ask them to encourage you a lot, and believe that your parents will be able to listen. Chinese-style education habitually adds other people's children to the education of children, and always exaggerates other people's children to a certain extent, as if other people's children can always achieve good results without effort, and it seems that their own children are not as good as others.

    Parents think that their children do not study well because they do not have a good role model, and if they give him an object to catch up, maybe the child will be motivated to study hard. But the truth is always different from what is imagined, many children because their parents always compare their self-answer with other excellent children, which will make children have a strong sense of inferiority, and naturally, children will lose confidence in themselves and give up on themselves.

    When parents praise other people's children, you can also learn some of the advantages and strengths of other people's children, change your own shortcomings, so that parents can see your advantages, and let parents find that their children are also very good.

    When parents only praise other people's children, you can also tell your parents directly, saying that you also need to praise, tell your parents about your strengths and strengths, so that parents can clearly realize that their children are very good. Some parents will only envy others and can't see their children, as long as you tell your parents and wake them up, they will find your advantages in time.

    I think everyone and parents need to communicate on an equal footing. Our parents' requirements for us are for our own good, and we must be reasonable when we express our needs to our parents. I am thankful that I have a pair of enlightened parents who are able to support my ideas.

    In fact, every child has their own troubles, and every parent also has their own worries. The reason why parents like to talk about "other people's children" is not because they like others, but because they have higher hopes for you. I hope you can do your best, live a more brilliant life than others, and have your own unique value.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    The limitation of your vision, your parents' vision is not so high, so you may have taken a detour in education, and you will also have less unwise opinions on your development. This may not change them anymore.

    You still have a chance, and your experience is the teaching material that you teach your children, and your children will not follow in your footsteps. And you, now an adult, and an adult for many years, you need to have your own decision, the more you have no opinions, the more you will be hated iron and steel, only to make achievements, independent efforts and achievements, in order to let them know that you can.

    I think your way out lies in going out, going far, getting rid of the shackles, entering a strange and different environment to increase knowledge, to plan for the future, and return home with achievements.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Go to work for a few years, save some money to start a small business...

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Summary. It's normal for couples to have conflicts, and as children we need help to ease their relationship Oh My dad said how bad my mom is.

    It's normal for couples to have conflicts, and as children we need help to ease their relationship, oh what's normal, I'm coming back to me today. I bought a few sets of clothes, and then my dad saw those clothes, and began to say how my mother is not good, just say how my mother is not good, and then he said I raised you so big, and as a result, I paid you a lot of money on you, and it was all green bones. Then after she took a shower, she asked me if it was more than 1,000 yuan or more than 100 yuan, and then I didn't, and then he kept saying that my mother was so bad.

    I've endured it for a long time during this trip, but if I tell the truth, my mother actually really paid a lot for me, but she also sometimes took me to the doctor, took me to Hefei, took me to Shanxi, and sent me to Taiyuan with Jiechun, right?

    When I was in the third grade of elementary school, I was brought food and pants.

    And what my mom told me was to listen to my grandparents at home.

    But my dad scolded me twice for three days because I had committed something.

    When you're able to do that, you'll be fine.

    yes. In order to live a comfortable life, we can only continue to work hard, and a happy life comes from struggle.

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