What to do when you can t control your emotions and impulses at work?

Everyone has times when they can't control their emotions, and the Buddha is also angry, haven't you heard?

So, don't blame yourself too much and take your time.

1 Think about it wisely, no matter what it is, think twice before you act, if you have the energy to get angry, you have the energy to think. Think before you speak.

2. When thinking, think more empathy, think about why the other party is like this, how the other party treats you is his business, you have to show your cultivation, besides, the result of the fight is that the contradiction continues, it is better for everyone to have something to say and something to discuss.

3. Take time to spend alone for a while every day, and think about what you need to improve in your day.

The situation you put forward belongs to internal cultivation, which cannot be formed without the accumulation of time and your own efforts, and there is no special effect. But at least you can be optimistic that as soon as you start doing it, then the prospects must be good, there are no risks, only benefits. You say, right.

One is conscious control. When the anger is about to explode, use your consciousness to control yourself, remind yourself that you should be rational, and you can also self-suggest: "Don't get angry, anger will hurt your body".People with self-cultivation are generally able to control.

The second is self-encouragement. Comfort yourself with certain philosophies or certain quotes, and encourage yourself to fight against pain and adversity. Entertaining yourself will make your mood better.

The third is language regulation. Language is a powerful tool for influencing emotions. If you are sad, reciting funny phrases can take away the sadness. Using self-reminders, self-commands, and self-suggestion such as "anger control", "forbearance", and "calmness" can also regulate one's emotions.

Fourth, environmental constraints. The environment plays an important role in regulating and restraining emotions. When you are emotionally depressed, taking a walk outside can play a regulating role.

When you are not in a good mood, you can go to the casino to play games and relieve your worries. When you're feeling upset, the best thing to do is to watch a burlesque movie.

Fifth, comfort. When a person pursues a certain goal and fails to achieve it, in order to reduce the disappointment in his heart, he can find a reason to comfort himself, just like a fox who can't eat grapes and says that grapes are sour. It's not self-deception, and occasionally as a way to ease your emotions, it's very beneficial.

Then you need to be calm and always talk and do things with a smile on your face. Learn to be tolerant of others. Think from the perspective of others. Be more understanding of each other. In this way, you can control yourself.

When you feel angry, try to close your eyes and count in silence for 30 seconds in your mind, telling yourself: I'm not angry, I'm not impulsive. Take your time to calm yourself.

If you can't get your anger down after 30 seconds, then I also recommend that you don't vent at work, and try to find an excuse to go to the bathroom or go out for a while to vent your emotions outside.

That's because your life is too smooth and comfortable, and it is difficult for you to accept things that don't go your way, and your impulsiveness often causes bad effects on yourself. It is recommended to hone yourself more to make yourself mature, think more about the cause and effect of everything, judge more, and develop in a direction that is beneficial to you.

Don't. It's not good, I had to ease it up at the time, and I was really unhappy to go home and hit sandbags. That's what I did, my body is much stronger than before, my personality is not as urgent as before, impulsiveness is the most incomprehensible, and it's not good for anyone.

Think of more happy things to relieve yourself and stabilize your emotions

We don't have to suppress our emotions at work, and we don't have to vent our emotions casually, but we must learn how to control our emotions and become a person with mature emotions. First of all, everyone has seven emotions and six desires, and it is normal to have feelings, but don't be too emotional. Be sure to reduce your "emotional out-of-control" as much as possible.

Since emotions are such a powerful thing, if you let them go unchecked, they will not only have an impact on your work, but also on the people around you. Imagine an extreme situation where everyone is emotionally free in a work environment. You, colleagues, bosses, and leaders can show all emotions at will, and when you are anxious and stressed, you will lose your temper when you go wrong at work, and if your colleagues are jealous, you will speak badly or ignore them directly, what do you think of this working environment?

Would you like to stay? When children are not satisfied, they will hang their faces and even splash and roll, and adults in the workplace are not here to appease others, to be the parents of colleagues and bosses. No one else has a duty to pay for your emotions.

The professional environment is the need for professionalism, you are using the value of your labor in exchange for your own survival needs, or in exchange for self-development, the job does not owe you, you need to work. Adjust this underlying mindset and you can treat your work like an adult. You won't blame them for all your anxiety and stress, and you won't be hostile to your work and your colleagues.

Secondly, there are many systematic courses on emotion management ability, and you can find some professional audio courses and books to learn systematically. The core of emotional management is actually awareness and acceptance, being aware of such emotions or threads at this moment, feeling the ups and downs of emotional energy, not judging, not avoiding, just staying with them and accepting them. This requires regular practice.

Finally, of course, it's not that you can't express your emotions in the workplace, and in many cases, expressing your emotions appropriately can also help you maintain your goals and achieve your goals.

People have emotions. Sometimes the plan I worked so hard to do was rejected by my boss with a word; It's obviously about to get off work, and the boss can't leave if he says overtime; People often encounter unpleasant things in the workplace, and people will always unconsciously release some negative emotions, which is instinctive, but in the workplace, we must learn to control our emotions.

1.Divert attention.

Everyone has emotions, but as a professional, you must learn self-control and try to consciously shift your attention. Doing something else, distracting yourself by listening to songs, eating snacks, etc., can ease your emotions.

2.Control the action.

Xiao Li has a very hot temper, sometimes his temper comes up and slaps the table and kicks the chair, and over time, Xiao Li finds that the colleagues around him don't like to take care of him very much. In fact, Xiao Li feels that this is his way of releasing his emotions, which is very rude and unqualified in the eyes of his colleagues.

3.Empathy.

As the saying goes, compare the heart to the heart. Learn to put yourself in the other person's shoes and swap roles with others. Trying to understand the emotions and thoughts of others, and trying to understand the reasons why the other person does what they do, is conducive to preventing the occurrence of bad emotions and eliminating the bad emotions that have already arisen.

4.Autosuggestion.

Tell yourself that the workplace is not your home, and your words and deeds may have a bad impact on yourself and the company. Therefore, even when you are in a bad mood, you can't vent at will.

It is impossible for everything in life to follow your own mind, learning to control your emotions is a skill that every professional should master, if you don't know how to hide your emotions, it is difficult to have a good development in the workplace, you know, big people are generally very good at controlling their emotions. Don't let yourself be led away by workplace emotions.

1.Urgently, speak slowly.

When you encounter an emergency, if you can calm down and think about it, and then explain things clearly without being in a hurry, it will leave a steady and non-impulsive impression on others, thereby increasing your trust in you.

2.Control your words and movements.

Don't say offensive things in public, and don't throw things, as this will only damage your image.

3.Don't make a decision right away.

If you consider the pros and cons in advance before deciding, avoid getting carried away and bringing unnecessary losses to yourself, and calm yourself down, you can take a deep breath for 10 seconds, and if you can't do it, you can avoid it first.

4.Talk to a trusted superior.

You can pour "garbage" upward, but you must not pour "garbage" down or at the same level, the maturity of the superior is higher than you, and can help you analyze, and others may have a negative impact on your emotions.

5.Cultivate a hobby as an outlet for your emotions.

When emotions arise, they can be vented through exercise, singing, walking, swimming, etc., to avoid repressing in the heart and bringing pain and trauma to yourself.

6.Learn more, think more, and learn to empathize.

Learning and thinking can make people look at problems more rationally, compare them in an empathetic way, think and do what they would do if they stand in the other person's perspective, understand others more, and let themselves see problems more thoroughly.

Don't clash with others and keep your emotions under control.

1. Communicate more when encountering problems. At work, if you encounter a problem that you are difficult to solve, you can spend more time at this time to learn from experienced people, as long as you communicate with them more, you will naturally be able to have many answers.

2. Improve self-cultivation. We always say that tempers are innate, but in fact, these are excuses, and many character buildings can be improved the day after tomorrow, but you need to have the determination to change.

3. Read more books on emotional management. If you can't manage your emotions through your experience, you can read about some methods of emotional management at this time, which can also help you get a certain emotional control effect in a short period of time.

4. Share more personal work experience. A good office relationship can also help you relieve your work pressure and emotions, and if you can communicate more with colleagues and share some work experience, you will inevitably gain a lot of popularity.

5. Maintain a calm and analytical attitude towards the world. When encountering a problem, you must first analyze the severity of the problem, and then make judgments and decisions, and don't always be emotionally swayed, which will make you lose your rational judgment.

You can't cry at work, you have to learn to be a strong person, we have to do meaningful work1Work has a future.

This future is not only the future of the company's development, but also the feeling of "future" and "hope" in this position, or with the help of this platform, you can achieve your ideal "future". This sense of the future is even more important than the remuneration package.

2.Salary satisfaction.

Wages mean all income to many people, and we have to think about how important this part of the money to support our families is before making a decision.

3.Have a sense of belonging.

There are many times when you go to an interview with a company and you can clearly feel from the company environment whether you belong there, and then trust your instincts and make decisions based on your own interests.

4.Challenging.

Most people tend to look for jobs that they can fully grasp, which makes them feel safer, more secure, and more competent, but it also makes us lose motivation and pursuit. Therefore, when choosing a job, we should look a little higher and believe in our own creative ability.

5.The development opportunities are good.

Development opportunities are a very vague concept, perhaps industry potential, market conditions, national policies, company size, or promotion space, learning opportunities, etc. But in any case, you have to try to consider every aspect as thoroughly as possible and make trade-offs.

As an indispensable part of people's daily life, work is not only a means for people to earn a living, but also one of the ways to achieve value and self-fulfillment. Therefore, the impact of work on our mood and emotions cannot be ignored. In my career, I have also been affected by my mood because of my work.

Everyone has their own areas of interest and expertise, but few people love what they do as much as I do. I work as a software engineer and am responsible for developing and upgrading various software in the company. In my spare time, I spend a lot of time thinking about how to design software architectures and algorithms, solve technical problems, etc.

Because I love this work, I am always able to immerse myself in it, enjoy the process of work, and at the same time feel satisfied and fulfilled.

Sometimes, however, work can bring a little bit of mood swing to me. Especially when I encounter some technical problems that are difficult to solve or tight project tasks, I feel nervous and anxious. Sometimes, I lose confidence in my work and feel like I can't cope with difficult challenges.

At this point, I try to calm myself down, find a solution to the problem, or even put aside the task for a while, take a break, and readjust my mentality.

On the contrary, I feel very happy and happy when the work is going well and is successfully completed. Successful experiences give me a sense of accomplishment and confidence to face the challenges of the future. The feeling of being suddenly enlightened also affects my daily life, and I am able to be more confident and positive when interacting with my family and friends.

Work can bring us infinite pleasure and fulfillment, but it can also bring some stress and challenges. This impact is not a bad thing, as it can push us to better face difficulties and challenges and reach our highest potential. As long as we learn how to cope with and deal with emotional swings at work, we can maintain a good mental state and embrace a broader career path.