My girlfriend s salary is higher than mine, what should I do if I m stressed?

Let the pressure turn into motivation, you may feel that you should give more and earn more money to support your girlfriend, but you don't think that your girlfriend's salary is higher than your own, which is a happy thing and proves that your girlfriend is a good person.

You don't have too much pressure, think about it from another angle, you don't spend a penny on your girlfriend, you also have a salary, you just live together, you don't rely on your girlfriend to support yourself.

Is it wrong for you to find a girlfriend with a lower salary than you and you will feel a man's self-esteem? You have a very good girlfriend, you have a lot of face to take out, your friends envy you, your parents like it, and even your relatives and friends praise your girlfriend.

There is really nothing to compare with who has a high salary, and now it is no longer the life of men and women, and women should also have their own jobs and pursuits.

You can treat your girlfriend as someone you want to learn, don't have the heart of comparison, she is your girlfriend not your friend, work harder, pay and return are proportional, you want to earn more than your girlfriend, you can choose an industry with a high salary, and you can even change jobs.

You can look for some companies with higher salaries in your peers, but the premise is that you must be excellent, how can your company appreciate you if you are not excellent.

Put yourself in the right state of mind, don't look at your girlfriend's salary very important, you are a couple, think about this from a different angle, don't drill the horns, and don't put too much pressure on yourself, your girlfriend doesn't dislike you for making more money, why should you embarrass yourself, don't think about it often.

If you feel pressured, then you have to work harder, pressure is the driving force, try to catch up with your girlfriend as soon as possible, so that your mentality will be balanced.

The large income gap between couples will affect the relationship to a certain extent, a netizen said this:

For unmarried couples, there are usually two challenges to income disparity.

First, they are blocked by the parents of the high-income party, set up emotional barriers, and face emotional challenges; Second, when financial support is needed, such as starting a business, the high-income party will re-evaluate the value of the other party and re-evaluate the relationship.

Therefore, if the relationship is affected because of the income gap, the reason is that the relationship itself is unstable and does not withstand the impact of external forces, which leads to the high-income party questioning the relationship. If you want to solve the problem, you need to find the answer from the relationship.

If you are a late married, the problem will be more complicated.

For many people, the income gap itself represents a difference in the degree of contribution of households.

Emotionally, there are three tiers of contribution.

At the top level is the degree to which emotional inclusion contributes. If you can tolerate his emotions and provide emotional support, if you can do this, neither party will be considered for their contribution in other areas.

The next level is family engagement. We usually use this layer to define the marital status, such as whether he will be with you or whether he will take care of the family. If each other's involvement in the marriage is not high, the relationship will go wrong.

The lowest gradient is self-contribution. Everyone's definition is different, some people define self-contribution as money, think that contributing is to invest in the family, some people define labor in the family, and so on. If the way of definition is different, the results of measurement will also be different, and there will be an emotional crisis due to the imbalance of contribution.

In fact, the feeling of infiltration is the connection between two people, and if the problem of money is applied to the relationship, the reason is that the relationship itself has a problem.

The emotional crisis is actually because we pay attention to the wrong gradient and do not see the top level of contribution. That's why we weigh the gains and losses in the relationship, and ignore the true essence of the relationship.

What to do if there is a large income gap between couples.

1. First of all, you have to consider why the two were together in the first place, wasn't it because of love?

Maybe you knew when you first met that there was a big gap between the economic conditions of the two sides, but neither of you minded, so why did you mind later?

Maybe you feel inequality in the relationship, but it is better to understand whether the other person makes you feel "superior" or you feel "inferior"?

From this point of view, it may be necessary for you to see "I am" and what your unique value is.

If after you are together, the income of both parties is separated, then you must calmly admit the inferiority complex and fear you feel because of the income gap, do not avoid or hold back, and wait until something goes wrong before quarreling, in fact, quarreling will not solve any problems.

You have to know that there is nothing wrong with people who earn more, and there is nothing wrong with people who earn less, it is related to many factors such as industry and field, and there is no need to get along with yourself.

2. Secondly, the essence of the relationship is "back and forth", and the effort also needs to be reciprocated, don't take it for granted that one party should be what it should be, and don't automatically think that "I don't have to if I earn less."