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There has always been such a saying in the countryside: "Three and a half years for a husband and wife for a lifetime, and nine years for a husband and wife for ten years". In fact, in the literal sense of the word, it means that couples spend very little time together. But what does that mean exactly? The author will explain it to you in detail.
Three and a half years ago was a long time ago for those who had just gotten married and were going out to do business, and they had to work outside the home every year because of their business interests. Even after getting married, they only spend one month a year at home with their families, and in the past, the status of businessmen was very low, and the nature of their work was not the same as it is now, so most businessmen's wives spent a lot of time alone in empty houses. Now three and a half years of life husband and wife mainly refers to those industries that work hard outside.
The husband works hard outside for various reasons, and the wife can only wait at home, and there is very little time to get together every year. So much so that they have been married for a lifetime and can only be together every day for three and a half years. Ten years of husband and wife nine years empty is also about the same meaning, ten years of marriage, together only a short year.
It's cruel for couples, but it's a desperate thing to do for the sake of a living.
Even in today's society, this old saying still exists. Much of this is happening in rural areas, where development is slower and there are fewer job opportunities than in urban areas. Therefore, many young and middle-aged people in rural areas who have just married or are not married choose to leave their hometowns and go to the city alone to work hard.
However, most of them are not developing very well, and in order to make ends meet, they can only choose to continue to stay in the city, because there is nothing to do when they return home. Many rural families are in this situation now, and hope that in the future, their lives will get better and better.
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On the surface, it means that they have been married for ten years, but they have been alone in the empty house for nine years, which means that their other half is not by their side all the year round, and no one takes care of each other.
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The meaning of this sentence may be that after the husband and wife get married, the husband has to go out to work, and the husband and wife cannot stay together often. Wait until you are old enough to stay together.
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This may mean that there are a lot of women left behind, and the economy of those who don't have people is mainly men's wages, so they have to go out to work, so they have less time together.
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Because in the countryside, whether it is farming or fish farming, the income is very impressive, men must have an economy that can support their families, they will choose to go out to work, and the part-time workers will rarely go home, which has such a meaning.
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That may mean that although they are husband and wife, they must go to the big city to earn more money, develop, and work hard in order to live. So in the end, they all leave home, leaving another person at home.
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Because after the couple in the countryside gets married, the wife is generally at home to take care of the children, and then the husband goes out to work, and the part-time job is a long time, until when he makes a fortune, or has something to gain, he comes back, and the time is long.
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The divorce rate in rural areas is very low, they get married just to live, they are married to live, whether the marriage is happy or not, they will always be together for life, not real feelings.
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Generally, after the husband and wife get married, if their life is more difficult, the man will go out to work to subsidize the family, and then the woman will be at home, taking care of the elderly and taking care of the child, most of them by herself.
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The standard of living in rural areas is relatively poor, so many men go to work in other places to earn money, so they rarely go home, and some women can only stay at home with their children, waiting for them to come back for a Chinese New Year's Eve dinner when it comes to the New Year.
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This sentence is made up. In the past, as long as you said it on the Internet, it was all made up.
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As the saying goes: Three and a half years for a husband and wife for a lifetime, and nine years for a husband and wife for ten years, what does it mean? Knowledge.
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Three and a half years for a lifetime husband and wife, and nine years for a ten-year husband and wife mean that the time spent together for a lifetime of husband and wife does not add up to three and a half years, and a ten-year husband and wife spend nine years not together. This sentence describes the family situation of ancient merchants, because the status of ancient merchants has always been relatively low.
In ancient times, after a couple got married, they would soon face separation, because the husband wanted to do business and needed to support a large family.
However, with the development of the economy and the change of mindset, the husband and wife will choose to work together, even if the wife cannot work, but the husband and wife will stay together. In ancient times, women were relatively humble, because their husbands were away from home, and they did not know if their husbands had changed their minds outside and whether they had done something sorry for them.
However, couples of the older generation rarely get divorced, and most of the current post-80s and 90s generations are getting divorced. The relationship between the parents of the post-80s generation is usually a problem to solve, and when there is a "hole" in the relationship between two people, they will find a way to make up for it, but many people do not know how to cherish the difference and the new generation of young people.
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Three and a half years for a lifetime husband and wife, nine years for a ten-year husband and wife" means a lifelong husband and wife relationship, but the real time together is only three and a half years, and nine of the ten years of the husband and wife relationship are separated.
This phrase is derived from an ancient proverb that emphasizes the length of time a husband and wife are separated, and also expresses the pain of separation and lovesickness. But in reality, the relationship between husband and wife is not only determined by the length of time together, but more importantly by mutual trust, respect and understanding. As long as there is sincere affection between the husband and wife, even if the separation time is long, it will not affect the old relationship between them.
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What does the old saying in rural areas mean: "Three and a half years for a husband and wife for a lifetime, and nine years for a husband and wife for ten years"?
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As the saying goes, the peasants of the past did not have much culture and could not write about their life experiences. The wise ancients summarized these experiences into easy-to-understand words, which ensured the spread of culture. So the old man often says "two and a half years for a lifetime, nine years for a husband and wife for ten years", is there any truth?
It's just that I don't have much time at home because I run around.
It can take years to get home after leaving home, and there is little time for couples to see each other.
If the businessman achieves good results outside, he can settle and develop in the place where he was born and rehire the young wife. Instead, the original partner from his hometown was excluded. This is not "nine emptiness in ten years"!
If a trader does not achieve good results, they are always wandering outside, afraid to enter the house, for fear of disappointing the expectations of their wives and children, or even being ridiculed by others. It was because of the love of these vendors that the couple were able to separate and only be together for a few years.
It is the business people who are running around, and parents will not easily give their daughters to them, fearing that they will become "living widows" after marriage. Once the merchant is in danger outside, the burden will fall on the woman.
In order to prevent women from marrying these people, parents will dissuade them with such exaggerated and realistic statements. In agrarian societies, husbands and wives were rarely separated, but they need to live in a different place from the merchant, so the girl may dispel this idea when she hears this.
The phenomenon described by this colloquial language still exists to a certain extent. For example, migrant workers work hard to live outside, and women stay at home, but it's all for a better life, and no one will complain!
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This proverb is a portrayal of the life of those business couples in the past。Nowadays, people who do business are relatively wealthy, but in the past, the status of people who did business was not very high. In order to be able to better develop their voices, men usually have to run around and travel all over the country for business.
The wife spends a lot of time alone in the empty room, waiting for her husband to come back.
In the past, there were many requirements for doing business, and businessmen were only allowed to take one month off a year. In this month's time, you can go home to see your wife and children, so that although you have been married for ten years, the time you spend together is actually very little. A lifetime has passed, and the time spent together may only be a few short years.
The three-and-a-half-year and nine-year period here refers to very little time together, not really just that long. This proverb is still very well understood, and many couples are still facing this situation. In some places, the economy is relatively backward, and the husband goes out to work in order to make a living, leaving his wife, children and parents at home.
Now many couples also understand that it is very dangerous to separate in this way, and it is easy for men to do wrong things, so it is better for the husband and wife to leave their hometown together. Although life is very hard, at least the husband and wife are still together, so there are many left-behind children.
No one wants to see such a situation, no one wants it to happen, but many times it is forced to live, and the old people write this way of life into the proverb.
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It mainly shows that the husband and wife have been together for a relatively short time, as if such things often happen in real life.
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That is, if everyone in your family is doing business outside, it will make the family spend less time together.
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This is the past experience of Hui merchants. When doing business abroad, couples often cannot be reunited.
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This is a good portrayal of couples who work all year round, gathering less and leaving more.
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Because the husband has to go out to work, the two will spend little time together.
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Being a husband and wife is only three years to see each other, and nine out of ten years they are not together.
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This sentence comes from the Ming and Qing dynasties, when men had to go out to do business.
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This is the language of the workers. Most migrant workers should understand.
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As the saying goes: Three and a half years for a husband and wife for a lifetime, and nine years for a husband and wife for ten years, what does it mean? Knowledge.
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Rural proverbs are sometimes not the same in all regions, but in general they mean the same. For example, there is a saying on our side that "newlyweds are treasures for each other, and after a few years, they will have little company". What does that mean?
That is to say, when the husband and wife first got married, they treated each other as treasures, but after a few years, the days with each other were less.
This sentence corresponds to "three and a half years for a husband and wife for a lifetime, and nine years for a husband and wife for ten years". Why do husbands and wives treasure each other at the beginning, but after a few years, they will be less accompanied? Is it mutual hatred? There are also lost limbs, but most of them are starting to run for life.
First of all, the three and a half years and nine years here are all general references, not pinching this time. For example, three and a half years of being married for a lifetime does not mean that the two of them live for a lifetime, but it happens to be together for more than three and a half years, which is a bit ridiculous. This is a general reference, that is, most of the time is separated, and the time of reunion is short.
The same is true for the second half of the sentence, ten years of husband and wife are nine years empty, it does not mean that people have lived as husband and wife for ten years, and they only have a new year together, and the remaining nine years are all empty houses, who can remember so accurately? Who can grasp the time so well?
Therefore, it is meaningless and unreasonable to pick out words to explain such words.
On the whole, this sentence describes that for life, the husband and wife spend a very short time together, always get together less and leave more, but at the same time, we must also understand that this is an exaggeration.
If any husband and wife want to live like this for a lifetime, only for more than three years together, and only one year together for ten years, then most of the marriage between husband and wife will exist in name only.
Therefore, the meaning is to gather less and leave more, but you can't pick words to understand. It's not easy to describe people's lives, and I always like to use some exaggerations, which is understandable, because exaggeration can attract people's attention, and then understand what it means.
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I believe that most people yearn for that kind of beautiful and moving love, and there are many poignant love stories recorded in the history of our country, such as Sima Xiangru and Zhuo Wenjun "I wish to win the heart of one person, and the white head is not separated", as well as the particularly famous story of Farewell My Concubine, etc., in which they can fight for love and abandon everything.
But this is not the case in real life, real life is often more cruel and sad, there is a saying that illustrates this problem very well, I will tell you about this saying, this sentence says, "three and a half years for a husband and wife, nine years for a husband and wife."
Have you ever heard of this saying before, and you don't know what it means? In fact, this sentence really reveals the problems related to the time spent between husband and wife in real life. Today, you can also reflect on yourself through this proverb I introduced, whether this is the case in your daily life.
The superficial meaning of this proverb is: for a couple, it seems to be a lifetime time, but in fact, the time they are really together is only about three and a half years; has been a husband and wife for ten years, and almost nine of them have been spent in the empty house alone.
Some people may say, this is a bit exaggerated, how can it be like this, don't believe it, there is such a situation, but this proverb should be said in ancient times, and now it is naturally not in line with the status quo.
This proverb mainly refers to those who did business in ancient times, everyone should know that the status of merchants in ancient times was relatively low, for the ranking of all walks of life in ancient times, there is an old saying that says: "one official and two officials, three monks and four roads, five workers and six peasants, seven merchants and eight skills, nine Confucianism and ten beggars", from this sentence we can see that the ranking of businessmen at that time was very low.
In addition, in the past, the means of transportation were very backward, and it took a long time for people to go out, and it took a long time for businessmen to go out to do business, and they could go home once in a few months.
Some businessmen sometimes can't go home for a few years or more than a year, so it can be seen that what the saying says is not too much at all. On the other hand, those women who marry businessmen have a sad fate for the rest of their lives.
Of course, there is no such problem in today's life, the transportation is so convenient, no matter how far away you can return home quickly. But another problem that comes with this is that most people play mobile games whenever they have time, and many people have become low-headed. Even though there is a lot of time to spend at home, there is not much time for family members to actually sit together and talk to each other, and it can even be said that it is not as good as it used to be.
No matter what period and how good the living conditions are, we should not neglect the care and love for our families, especially between husband and wife, and we should set aside more time to accompany each other and listen to each other's hearts, so that we can understand each other more, and life will be more beautiful, right?
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