Does your current boyfriend or girlfriend meet the criteria you set for a mate?

Marriage is a big event for many people, and choosing marriage is choosing the happiness of the rest of their lives. Many of the criteria for choosing a mate are to help us eliminate some marital risks. Choosing a good life partner can make our lives happy.

But if the choice is wrong, it may make us spend our lives in regret and sorrow.

My initial criteria for choosing a mate were that I wanted the man's family to be one that didn't have too many burdens and drags. It is better for parents to have a certain job, a certain salary or pension, and there will not be too many siblings in the family. The man himself has a certain ability to work, has a stable income, and it is best to be financially able to provide some help and support in times of difficulty.

These are the basic requirements of the material.

The standard for individuals is, first of all, not too short in height, and not too ugly in appearance. If this person doesn't disgust me in the process of getting along, and his appearance is generally passable, it's okay. These are some of the conditions for an individual's physical appearance.

In addition, in terms of personal character, we must have three positive views, the personality must be compatible with me, don't be too careful, be generous, talk decently, and have a man's responsibility and responsibility.

Before I got married, I had a big list of standards, a lot of rules and regulations, but when I met someone I liked or had feelings, it seemed that these standards were slowly lowered one by one, and some were basically negligible. There is a saying that it is very good that a woman in love has a negative IQ. The current partner is the choice I originally made under the low standard, and after I got married, the problem of choosing a low standard also appeared, but the road was chosen by myself, and I had to go down on my knees.

My current girlfriend actually doesn't meet the main criteria I set at the beginning, maybe with the change of time, the criteria for choosing a mate have gradually changed, and finally become realistic.

I think it's very compatible, I will feel very lucky, his appearance or his personality are what I like, the two of them are together and tolerate each other.

It can be said that it is contrary to my original mate selection criteria, but once the relationship comes, nothing else is needed, just be a good person, meet a person who is full of you, and two people need to tolerate each other and understand each other in love.

My current boyfriend is very much in line with my standards, although the other party sometimes has bad habits that are completely different from the image of his male god at the beginning, but it is still acceptable, he knows how to take care of each other's emotions, careful, and single-minded.

My current girlfriend doesn't quite meet the criteria I set for a mate. It is because of the unhappiness in life that leads to a lower demand for life.

No, he and my male god are completely different models, but he is also the one I like now, because if you really meet someone you like, all your previous frameworks will be broken.

Fortunately, people will have advantages and disadvantages, no one will become the ideal one in your mind, it is not easy for two people to walk together, it is also a kind of fate, and in the end, what comes together is by mutual running-in, persistence, mutual tolerance and understanding.

My boyfriend and girlfriend meet my original criteria, since I want to fall in love, I don't need to find someone I like to fall in love with, then I feel that this relationship can't bring me anything.

In some respects, it is still suitable, but most of them do not meet the criteria for choosing a mate that they have set before. Although many do not match, the love between each other gradually arises, and those external standards are not important.

I think it's quite in line with it, and they feel that they are quite in line with the standards of the time, both in terms of appearance and soul fun, so it's pretty good.

Why are some girls very good in all aspects, but the man they are looking for is "garbage"? In fact, this phenomenon is not uncommon in our real life, but there are many reasons for this. There are both social and family factors, and the shortcomings of the girls themselves are more.

Here, I have roughly summarized that there are at least the following reasons: Why do some women have good conditions in all aspects, but the men they find are poor?

What is the Cask Effect ? The bucket effect refers to how much water a bucket can hold. It is not a longboard by the mouth, but by the short board of the mouth.

It can also be called the short-board effect. That is to say, for any organization or individual, it is often the part of Zui that is more disadvantaged, which can ultimately determine the overall horizontal position of the organization or individual. In real life, although many girls look good and beautiful, many times, this is just the overall performance on the outside.

However, in one's own heart, or in a hidden psychological corner, there are often some unimaginable pains and deficiencies, and even congenital deficiencies. Such shortcomings are often covered up by their own advantages, are not easy to be noticed by others, and do not even have much opportunity to be "presented". But marriage and family affection are after all major events in life, and even the top priority in women's lives, it is easy to produce inner restlessness, in which these shortcomings are further strengthened and expanded.

Drunkenness eventually forms a more transparent, open, and profound two-way choice.

After consulting for several years, I have a very strong feeling. In other words, in addition to her background, it is often when she meets a man named Di outside that she can greatly affect a woman's life trajectory. No matter how good the man she met in the back, it was impossible for a man's influence on her (mostly negative) to be completely eliminated.

This shows how important it is for a woman to meet a man! But with such importance, we can better reflect on the potential risks of "over-rebelliousness and self-identity among girls".

In other words, it is easy for them to entrust their lifelong affairs to their youthful impulses and ignorance, and they are constantly dragged down by such an adolescent event all their lives, thus moving towards a negative life. Thirdly, due to the influence of the family from which they are born, their sense of self-worth is low. To put it bluntly, no matter how good I am, it's just what outsiders think, and I never think that way myself.

Moreover, in my family, no one has ever said that I am excellent and beautiful, and no one has given me any excellent and beautiful treatment and evaluation.

It can be said that once a girl has this situation, it is often very scary. Because, psychologically, she will lose her basic sense of security and belonging when she is drunk. This kind of psychology will make them drift like duckweed for the rest of their lives.

As long as the men outside give her a little more affirmation and warmth, she will be easily moved and caught.

Because they don't feel safe, as long as the boy is good to him. Your previous requirements could have been reduced a lot. They have their own ideas, but if they can't find their other half for a long time, they will doubt themselves, and their requirements will naturally be lowered.

In fact, most girls are like this, because their mate selection standards are relatively high, and it is difficult to find such a person in reality.

Everyone's mate selection standards are basically very high, and I think there are very few such men in real life, so in the end I can only settle.

Because ideals and reality are often in conflict, and their own mate selection criteria do not conform to reality, the boyfriend I am looking for is different.

Because my mate selection criteria are very perfect, but in reality, I really can't meet such a perfect person, and feelings are really natural, and I can't help myself.

Because there is often a big difference between the plan and the reality. These girls have found their boyfriends for a variety of reasons. Boyfriends may not be up to their mark.

Because I can't find a boy who meets my criteria for choosing a mate, many times I can only compromise.

First, looks are more important than everything.

In the eyes of some girls, the first thing to consider is their appearance, and they have more persistent and strict requirements for their boyfriend's appearance. For example, he is 1.8 meters tall, tall and thin, white and clean, and so on.

I've met this hand-controlled girl before, and I'll make a special request for the boy's hand to be beautiful. However, these kinds of girls are relatively simple, and their requirements are nothing more than to please their own eyes and bring them out to save face.

The appearance association "is naturally understandable, after all, a person who looks at it all day long, first of all, his appearance needs to be in line with his own aesthetics and pleasing to the eye, so that he can keep his mood happy!" However, it needs to be reminded that appearance will always change over time, if you need a long-term relationship, don't forget to consider the internal conditions of your male partner while paying attention to your appearance!

Second, a good personality is really good.

As an object with whom he gets along day and night and may even spend his life together, his boyfriend needs to be a person who knows how to tolerate and accommodate himself. Girls always have some inexplicable little tempers, and even they can't tell what they're angry about, if there is a person who can comfort themselves unconditionally at this time, it is indeed a happy thing to endure their unreasonable troubles.

Boys with good personalities are also used to calling them "warm men", they are careful and can take care of people, and will always give girls warm happiness, so that girls have a sense of security.

Third, love with material security lasts for a long time.

For many guys, falling in love is a luxury. Shopping, watching movies, eating, traveling, which one does not need the support of money. It's not just poor couples who mourn everything, if a couple's love is not supported by money, it is not easy to get to the palace of marriage.

I met a girl before, and there was a boy who was not very good at chasing her, but she only said: No money, what kind of love do you fall into? Perhaps, you will say that she is too realistic, but if you see another couple going to Disney, are you willing to press the road with him all day long?

Fourth, family conditions.

Using this as a standard, finding a boyfriend can be said to be rushing to get married. Family conditions include the composition of the man's family members, the parents' jobs, existing assets, and the personality of the family. Once a girl marries into the man's family, she enters a new family, and every aspect of the new family is inseparable from herself.

For many housewives, getting along with their mother-in-law is even more important.

Girls looking for a boyfriend can be summed up in four words - "house", "car", "money" and "heart".

Not to mention all, it can contain more than ninety percent.

There is only one word for a boy looking for a girlfriend - "heart".

I can't say all of them, but more than ninety percent of them are the same.

What are the criteria for women to choose a boyfriend.

I have had many blind dates before, until I met my current husband, I found out that if you want to stay with the object for a lifetime, you don't need him to be handsome and tall, as long as you feel comfortable with him, you won't feel embarrassed if you don't chat for a long time, he has a good temper and will tolerate your bad temper, when you quarrel with him, he won't quarrel with you and fight with you, but come to make you happy, because after being together for a long time, plain is happiness.

My criteria for choosing a boyfriend are, first of all, that he is a bold person. He is a man of filial piety. Responsible people.

Bold people are generally more upright people, and they don't procrastinate. Whatever you can pick up and put down. Filial piety is good for family teaching.

A person with a sense of responsibility has a beginning and an end to everything he does. People are not perfect, and they can't ask for too much. Just give you a sense of peace of mind.

Choosing a boyfriend is first of all reliable, very good to yourself, very good for yourself, very caring for yourself, and very filial to your parents. You must have a man's sense of responsibility, redouble your efforts with your family, and you will be very happy with such a boyfriend.

Of course, I also have to be good to my boyfriend, do laundry and cook for him every day, give him a massage when he is tired from work, take care of him, and make him feel very warm at home.

My criteria for choosing a boyfriend have changed a lot as I get older, and when I was in my twenties, I was tall, handsome, charismatic and humorous. But now my standard for my boyfriend is that it doesn't matter about height, it doesn't matter what I look like, as long as I am safe and down-to-earth, I don't have to be rich and have a fixed income, and then I have responsibility and responsibility! These standards make me feel safe!

Everyone's pursuit of love is different, so I hope that my boyfriend is more mature and stable.

After joining the work, I made a boyfriend, first of all, this man is very serious at work, and very responsible, very mature, I was attracted by this man's temperament at that time, I began to pursue the other party with my sincerity to impress this man, and such a man is really comfortable with me, don't worry about it, everything can be arranged for me.

There will also be some atmosphere in life, and I feel that such a boyfriend is particularly reliable.

I think the first condition for finding a boyfriend is to be down-to-earth, hard-working, and flamboyant and lazy and slippery are absolutely not okay. Also, don't be too thin, it's better to be a little fatter, so that you don't have to worry too much about being fat and thin. It can't be too white, and it must not be whiter than me, black is the best, so that my pressure won't be too much.

Of course, the most important condition is that he likes me and is good to me. When these conditions cannot be met at the same time, the first and last conditions are mainly retained, and the others are secondary.