What is it that has caused the constant hardships in my life?

I don't know your specific situation, but what you're asking about is determined by a lot of other factors. A few words are not clear, but if you look at the "Four Trainings of Liaofan" with your heart, everything will be understood.

It's normal for each of us to experience ups and downs in our lives. ......When your life is in a downturn, you need to take steps to overcome the difficulties so that you can come out of the difficulties and regain your strength. ......Specifically, the ways to get yourself out of the downturn include adjusting your mentality to restore your self-confidence, rationally analyzing the current situation and actively looking for ways to solve problems, and daring to break through yourself and get out of the predicament with practical actions.

1. The first point for yourself to get out of the downturn in life is to adjust your mentality and restore your self-confidence.

When our lives are in the doldrums, we tend to be discouraged and lose our self-confidence. ......Such a state of affairs will make it impossible for us to come out of the slump and thus not get out of it. ......Therefore, if you want to get out of the downturn in life, the first thing is to actively adjust your mentality and restore your self-confidence.

In this way, you can get back on your feet and get yourself out of the doldrums with positive actions and hard work.

2. Analyze the current situation rationally and actively look for ways to solve problems.

If you want to get out of the downturn of life, you must have proper measures. This requires us to analyze our own situation with a rational attitude on the basis of building self-confidence, and then find a solution to the problem. ......When you finally find a solution to the problem, you will have the right way out of the downturn, and you can take action to get out of the downturn.

3. You must dare to break through yourself and use practical actions to get rid of the dilemma of the downturn in life.

In many cases, the reason why we fall into the doldrums of life is because we are limited by our own ability to solve the problems we are facing. ......At this time, if you want to get out of the sluggish life, you need to dare to break through yourself, improve your ability, and use new ideas and ways to solve problems, so that you can get rid of the sluggish life, use your own real ruined actions to reinvigorate your life, and get a bumper harvest in your career and life.

We may feel depressed and lost when life is in a downturn, but here are some things we can do to get out of it:

Be calm: Don't run away from negative emotions, be brave enough to face your feelings and acknowledge your pain and frustration.

Find support: Talk to a family member, friend or psychologist to share your feelings and ask for help and support.

Lifestyle improvements: Optimizing your lifestyle, such as eating a healthy diet, exercising, and getting enough refreshed sleep, can help improve your physical and mental health.

Find fun: Find your favorite activities, such as reading, traveling, sports, etc., to make yourself feel happy and satisfied.

Set goals: Set specific goals, give yourself direction and motivation, gradually realize your plans, and regain your self-confidence and courage.

Develop mental toughness: Maintain a positive mindset and confidence in the future, learn to grow and learn from setbacks, develop your mental toughness, and come out of difficult situations with determination.

1. The problem lies in **. If life is not going well, we must actively look for problems and find the causes. Only by understanding the causes and problems can we make timely responses and actively change the current situation.

2. Don't complain, don't complain. If you have a problem, it is useless to complain and complain, especially if you tell others about these things and try to win sympathy from others. There is no need to do this, this time should be calm and face it calmly.

3. Actively look for methods. Is it because our expectations are too high, or are we not capable enough, and the reason for the unhappiness is related to us, actively looking for solutions, and then going to solve them. Whether you lower your goals, or change your now, you can respond positively.

4. Choose the right way to relax. If life is not going well, the mood will inevitably become bad, don't think about anything at the moment, don't worry about it. Find the right way to relax, relieve your stress, and get some rest. Stay energetic.

5. Enrich your life. There are things to do every day, and cultivate more hobbies, such as reading, exercising, playing the piano, etc., to enrich your life. That way, you won't have to think about things that are not happy.

Eight or nine times out of ten, there are things that do not go well in life, and we should learn to forget.

Afford to take it, put it down, think more about happy things, put unpleasant things aside, and do something you like. Make yourself a little happier every day. Wouldn't that be great?

When we are in a bad mood, we can try to regulate our emotions in the following three ways.

Method 1; When you are in a bad mood, use your consciousness to change the topic, or do something else, such as listening. Watch TV. Play. Play chess, go for a walk, etc., to distract yourself. This can lead to emotional relief.

Method 2; Tell your relatives or close friends about your troubles or even cry, or use pillows, big sandbags, etc. Venting the worries that have accumulated in your heart will also be beneficial to your physical and mental health. However, it is necessary to pay attention to the object, place and occasion of catharsis to avoid harming others.

I'm sorry to hear that your life hasn't been going well, it's a very complex issue that can be caused by many reasons.

Here are some common reasons that can lead to a bad life:

Lack of goals and plans: If you don't have clear goals and plans, you're likely to get lost and won't be able to achieve what you want.

Lack of self-discipline and perseverance: If you don't have self-discipline and perseverance, it will be difficult to stick to your plans and goals and thus fail to achieve success.

Lack of confidence and self-confidence: If you lack confidence and self-confidence, it will be difficult to overcome difficulties and face challenges.

Exposure to undesirable people and circumstances: If the people and environment around you are undesirable can influence your decision-making and actions, making your life more difficult.

Negative mindset: If you are always complaining and coding negatively, then you may miss out on a lot of opportunities and fail to see the positive in life.

If you want to change your life, here are some things you can try:

Set clear goals and plans, and develop specific action plans.

Develop self-discipline and perseverance to stick to your plans and goals.

Enhance confidence and self-confidence, and face difficulties and challenges positively.

Look for good people and environments, socialize with positive people, and look for environments that promote your own growth.

Cultivate a positive mindset, see the positive in life, and learn to be grateful and satisfied.

What you are experiencing and encountering now is what you have in your life, just as your life is a script.

These things are inevitable because that's what you're going through in life, what you're going through. I always believe that the road taken, the things that have been experienced, the people encountered, and the regrets left behind should all be experienced.

I have always believed in Shakyamuni's words "No matter who you meet, he is the person who should appear in your life, it is no accident, he will definitely teach you something" so I believe that Huai Hao means that no matter what the situation is when I go to **, I will not complain, because that is what I should go, what I should experience, and meet the person I should meet.

Hello, life is beautiful, but everyone's life cannot be smooth sailing, there are smooth times, there are difficult times, because of this, there is that sentence, the future is bright, the road is tortuous. Therefore, when life is in a downturn, there is no need to panic or be pessimistic, but to deal with it rationally and positively.

First of all, you should give yourself confidence. Don't be frightened by the temporary difficulties, you must know that the way to rent Zen is more than difficult, the mountains and rivers are doubtful, and the willows and flowers are bright and another village. But when we encounter unpleasant things in our lives, we must calm ourselves down, think about it, how to deal with the current predicament, clear our minds, if you don't think well, you can find someone else to help you as a counselor, the bystanders are clear, the authorities are confused, sometimes a little bit of others will make you suddenly realize, there is a way to deal with the difficulties in front of you.

Second, speak up. Sometimes when we encounter something that doesn't go our way, it's very uncomfortable to hold it in our hearts, and we can't think of any better way. At this time, you might as well talk to your special best friends, don't hold everything in your heart, that will really make you very sad and depressed.

You will find that when you say it, you feel a lot better. Even if you can't find a solution for the time being, it will calm your mind and make you less upset.

Again, it's about keeping an optimistic mindset. In our lives, there are many beautiful things that we should appreciate and remember, and we should not think about one thing because of one thing. Think more about the things that make you happy. Divert your attention.

No matter what the situation is, we are happy for a day, and we are sad for a day, so we should spend every day happily. This life is not easy, so we should live happily, even if we have troubles, we should keep smiling and make our every day happy.

Good luck.

Your feelings are very understandable, but all divorces are tangled for a long time, and the decision to get married may be just because of a promise, a touching moment, for example, this is how I got married, and divorce is definitely not.

In addition to the scum, I think everyone is aiming to stay together for the rest of their lives, but why they get divorced, there are many factors. Personally, I'm actually very stupid and naïve, and I made the mistake of being young and impulsive. There is no love in the first place, and the person who marries you is not necessarily because of love, may just need a dependency, need a long-term meal ticket, or just want to marry out quickly because he is urged to marry.

Marriage is free, and there is no "threshold", in fact, this "threshold" is very high, and you still need a bachelor's degree to find a job, and you will change jobs or be laid off several times in your life, and if there is no "threshold" in this marriage, it will take a lifetime, and it is incredible to think about it. Thinking about it this way, divorce is really normal.

I am sure that the divorce is because there is no way back to accommodate and escape, and two adults can be confused for a lifetime, but what about children? Children need a healthy and normal environment and a happy atmosphere. Parents are the first teachers of their children, and parents who have no sense of responsibility, very bad parents, have a huge destructive power on children, and can even ruin their children's lives.

Unlike other divorces, I decided to divorce desperately, preferring to divorce with all my fortune, precisely for the sake of my children.

Marriage is always beautiful, if you feel unbearable, you must have found the wrong person. There is no right or wrong in feelings, they are just inappropriate. I have always been disgusted with people who marry for practical interests, and I am opposed to people who want to climb high.

It seems that you have found a person with good conditions, but if it is not suitable, it will harm others and yourself, especially the other party, you may have to close your mind to the interests, but the other party is still hurt. Therefore, I support resolutely not marriage to alleviate poverty.

The most beautiful thing about marriage is trust and mutual support, life is very tiring, if you can't give your back to each other, look detached, and prevent a person around you from stabbing a knife, this is a sad thing. I used to think that people are all the same, but after experiencing a marriage, I realized that people are really different from each other, and they are not even the same world. Marriage is finally character, this sentence is not wrong at all, the marriage of the fathers may not know what love is, but they can stay together until they are old, relying on the character of a person, at least there is goodwill.

And now some people in the car mold source have benefits to obtain, everyone is elated, once they do not take advantage, they may be annoyed and angry. So, it is very important to find a kind person. Life is not a big deal, kind people will think about each other, a selfish person will always think about himself, will not think about the other party's life or death, life may fall apart at the slightest storm.

I have never been disappointed in marriage, but I have learned that it is better to have a lack than to be excessive, even if it is a person with the belief of love, it is a beautiful thing, it is better than having a dream shattered and revealing a hideous face. I hope that today, when materialism is rampant, you can still maintain a belief in love, and it doesn't matter if you know that I am lucky. What we want is not a form of marriage, but a person with whom we can be with our souls.

I also have this thought from time to time, and I thought about suicide countless times when I was a child. But I'm still alive until now. I'm in a very bad state right now, but I'm not giving up.

Although I thought that if I just died, I would die. But since there is no illness or disaster, no matter how unhappy we are psychologically, it means that God will let us live.

I wonder if I did too many bad things in my previous life, and I will come back to be punished in this life. However, no matter what I think, the reality will not change. The only thing that can change is your own mind:

In fact, perhaps, these sufferings are not punishments, but a kind of tempering and testing.

Two days ago, I went out into a small ravine, and I thought to myself: I will be happy to have a full meal.

Although I still feel that there is no trace of happiness in my life, life and the future are infinite and unknown. Since we don't know, we can look forward to it, be full of hope, and strive for the life we want. It may be difficult to achieve, but there are only two ways to live:

1. The Walking Dead.

2. Struggle. Think about the good things and good people you might meet in the future.

Although I regretted going out two days ago, passers-by had uncles and aunts to help me carry my suitcases, so I wouldn't delay the train. When I came back, I had a 5-hour standing ticket, but because of mutual understanding, I managed to find a little place in it and sat on the box by myself, and then someone gave me a seat for a while.

Think about it, there are always some little things in your life that make people feel warm.

Loneliness and loneliness no one understands, pain, these emotions, I think no one is worse than me, but you are the same. There may be many people who feel that they are the worst, and I will not deny it. In fact, no one is more miserable, only really miserable.

I even feel that this life will be spent in loneliness, an empty life. However, I will seriously enjoy this loneliness of man. We have to be good to ourselves.

Let's go out and take a walk when you have time. Do something you love. Even writing in a journal, or venting online like now, it doesn't matter, I understand.

I think there will be a lot of people who can relate to you.

In short, be strong, there may not be sunlight ahead, but if you stop moving forward, you will definitely not be able to see the sun.