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Very similar to my experience, I can be sure that you are very loving, very, very much, and he is lukewarm to you, isn't he? You don't dare to disturb him, because you are afraid of his coldness, you are afraid that he will find you annoying, and you are afraid that he will not reply to your text messages or not answer **. How much you care, how scared!

I heard you say that it seems that they are all contacted by you

B, just like the first floor said, you won't cherish it if you get it easily! You think you're mature with A, but you're not, and your immaturity with B means you're immature with A.

A truly mature person, when you have a boyfriend, will no longer contact the person you liked before, but you are still comparing two people, and you treat two people differently. Don't you feel tired? If A wants to be with you, you will abandon B without hesitation.

Am I right? You may have said it, but you have to face your heart.

I happened to watch a talk show yesterday about who is a decent girlfriend, and you can ask yourself questions, such as when the end of the world comes, and there is still a day of date, who will you watch the sunrise with? The answer will be revealed for yourself.

I think that you and A can only be said to be friends for many years, and of course friends will know each other better. Maybe you're a little bit away from A, and you have to be mature and let the other person see your strengths. And you can be vexatious with b, maybe you have liked him, and you don't know it, but in fact you like someone and you will unconsciously show your true self in front of that person.

In fact, it doesn't matter how long you spend time together, the important thing is that you know who your heart cares about. And who is the one who can protect you to the end? If I offend you, I'm sorry for it, but I'm just judging from my own opinion, because I've been like you before

Hey, the emotional thing is like this, although I'm not very mature.

But I can give you some of my thoughts.

Maybe for a you have some liking Maybe it's just unrequited love for your crush on him.

And B you said that he chased you, and you like to mess with him, so it seems that you have a deeper feeling for A and B or for B.

Maybe you also like B, but you didn't find it yourself.

And for a because of your past and present liking.

I can't forget it all yet.

It will make you think you still like him.

But it can be seen from your actions.

Your feelings with b will be deeper and richer.

Isn't there a question that goes like this?

Choose with the person you love and the person who loves you.

Which one would you choose? I'm sure most people will choose someone who loves me.

Because they can give us happiness.

But for those who are persistent in their love, they will also have a deep affection for the people they love.

But remember that smiling is the most important thing in life.

Make yourself happy.

Learn to "see".

Your psychological superiority over two people is different. You have an advantage before B and you have a disadvantage before A. Does A have other requirements for you, or is A himself better, if you like him, you naturally want to make yourself perform well and think about him.

Hehe, first examine your own view of love, if you are a person who likes to love others, tell A frankly, work hard, sincerely save this relationship, if you fail in the end, but you have worked hard for the person you like, and you will not regret it;

If you like the feeling of being loved, then try to accept B, it's okay to be vexatious, as long as he truly accepts you.

May you find your true love! Friend.

It's the feeling of being friends with A, you won't ask him for anything, you won't do anything to make him think you're annoying or whatever, the simple thing is that you may have known each other for a long time, but there is a distance between them.

B has been chasing you, and you have a sense of superiority psychologically, so you can play with him.

Hehe, because I don't love it, I can be mature!

In fact, what you really like in your heart is b!

Just ask, how can love be rational!

You don't dare to mess with A because you're in love but not together. You are making trouble with b because he has been chasing you for more than half a year. If you make trouble, he will coax you.

A word for you: what you can't get is always the best. For what is easy to get, they often do not cherish it.

1. Be able to control the emotions of self-praise and self-esteemSecond, understand that giving is not necessarily rewarding3. Recognize and bend yourself, accept yourself, and break through yourself

Fourth, understand that there is no such thing as a shouldFifth, I don't care about other people's eyes and live my own life

Psychological maturity is the ability to make the right balance and choices between the things of the present and the awareness of the future.

The American psychologist Hurwest's criteria for maturation of marriage relationships point out: rationally consider and choose a marriage partner, and begin to prepare for a family and live an independent family life.

Be able to play an appropriate gender role in behavior. In practical terms, it is to use a calm and natural attitude, and when facing the opposite sex, you will not care too much about what the other party thinks of you, nor will you despise or dislike the other person excessively.

1 5 know how to control their emotions, this kind of disadvantage is the most serious embodiment, that is, the agitation will be generated, it is to take advantage of the shortcomings of people will not control their emotions, and how to control their emotions, on the one hand, you need to think more about what you want to do next, a little more slow, maybe there is no need to do that, maybe you should wait a little longer, and you can divert your attention to reduce the opportunity for yourself to vent your emotions.

2 5 understand the importance of time, time is fair for everyone, if you don't make good use of time, then it is less time for yourself, but there is no regret medicine in the world, as long as you cherish the time in the future, you can save yourself from more regrets, so the real psychologically mature people are on the way to use time, not complain about their own complaints.

3 5 It is far more important to be yourself than to live in the eyes of others, some people say that we are all in society, we must have to deal with others, this is true, but it is not to be influenced by others, many people are living in the evaluation of others, it can be said that they are deeply affected, but they do not know that the relationship between others and themselves is always clear, so only living well is the most important thing.

4 5 Nothing is supposed to be, and this is true when dealing with anyone and everything, especially our parents, although they do things without asking for anything in return, they also have their own lives, and they give for their children, and as children themselves, they should know how to reciprocate, not the so-called idea that parents should be for their children. Then this is especially true in the face of other people.

5 5 Understand that any detour will not hinder your progress, and that a detour is just a way to go a little more, and you will gain more experience, which may be smoother for reaching the end in the end, and you will know that the detour is an alternative scenery, and you will enjoy the process more. Complain less about the helplessness of detours and accumulate more life experience.

Be able to control your emotions, think twice before doing things, do things right and not do things right, smile even if you want to cry, and everything will not be forced to go with the flow... I won't have nothing to do every day, I will publish a story, I will publish a diary, and I won't hang up on the Internet every day to chat. This is maturity ...

Do you want to test your mental maturity? Complete the questions below! This is a very representative test question set up by experts, just be truthful.

1.Do you have frequent mood swings?

2.How long do you last with your friends?

3.Do you buy cheap or dispose of goods more than you need?

4.Do you keep your word?

5.Are you rash enough to date a stranger of the opposite sex?

6.Are you always satisfied with what you buy?

7.Do you make rash judgments about people or things?

8.Do you make mistakes in your work?

9.Do you have old friends you don't like anymore?

10.Is your life guessing habit normal?

11.Do you often judge people based on their first impressions?

12.Are you serious when you write letters to others?

13.Do you feel upset when you do something wrong?

14.Do you usually obey the traffic rules?

15.When you read books or documents, do you often ignore the past and become a habit of commenting?

The scoring rules for the answers to the above questions are questions, 1 point for negative questions, and 1 point for affirmation.

Result analysis: If your score is above 11 points, it means that the "self" is relatively mature.

If your score is between 8 and 10, the "self" is partially mature.

If your score is between 5 and 8, the ego is not mature enough.

If your score is below 5, the ego is quite naïve.

A is not right 1, this matter has nothing to do with Party B, B out of good intentions to help Party A to contact 2, why don't you say it earlier! Party B has been contacted according to Party A's requirements, and the failure to do so is due to Party A's own reasons and has nothing to do with Party B.

3. B is using his personal relationships to help you, and it is impossible to destroy his connections because of one thing about your Party A.

4. Spending money to do things is a matter determined between the two parties in advance, others will help you to contribute to the money, how others will look at you Party A, and when you ask others in the future, others will help you hope to adopt.

Party A made a mistake and had to pay a deposit to do something, but I regretted that the deposit was confiscated by others.

Even will miss the good past with you, but will not leave the existing family relationship, belongs to the pursuit of heart comfort, get what her existing husband does not have here, this kind of woman generally has romantic cells, and the breakup will not become an enemy, and will be connected.

I am more and more able to control my emotions, and when I am angry and disappointed, I still don't say a word hurtful, and I don't make any impulsive decisions. I know that emotions will calm down, but hurtful words cannot be taken back. I was deeply stabbed before I realized how much it hurt.

Do unto others as you would have them do to you. Jumping to scold the people you love will only be sad and regretful afterwards, and those outsiders who anger you, you need to do something more practical than meaningless insults.

I understand more and more that there is no such thing as a should. Helping you is a kindness, not helping is a heart's heart. Even parents are good to you, there is a reason, especially in families with many children, parents can't be completely fair.

No more attachment to eternity. Understand that everything in the world is constantly changing, that I don't belong to anyone, that no one belongs to me, and that the storm of feelings comes at what you think is the most peaceful and beautiful moment. I haven't been betrayed, but if this happens, I'll calmly pull out while my heart is broken.

When you love, you spare no effort to be worthy of your heart, and the two of us who are sad after breaking up should be the only one who misses him. There is no so-called sunk cost in the relationship, only people who are too concerned about gains and losses.

Understand personnel, mental health is not confused by external causes of insomnia, do not make people miss, do not produce touching works for the time being, because the Spring Dynasty is coming, haha walked in again.

The recent TV series "Old Boy" starring Liu Ye and Ariel Lin can be said to have a sense of existence. Every character in the TV series is very distinctive, each character in the play has a distinct personality, and the story content is close to life, and sometimes it makes people empathize, so people can't help but praise it. In terms of personality, Zhou Zhou's parents in the play are a typical pair.

One is radical like a little girl who is never satisfied, and the other is like a gentleman like an earl.

Zhou Zhou's father couldn't stand Zhou Zhou's mother's long-term unreasonable troubles and unreasonable suspicions, and even harassed his opposite-sex friends, customers, and colleagues regardless of the occasion and identity, so he chose to divorce her. After the divorce, he gave the villa, the company and his son to Zhou Zhou's mother, but Zhou Zhou's mother didn't know anything about work and company management because she had been a full-time mother for too long, and the company's management was also a mess.

The company founded by Zhou Zhou's father was ruined by her, so in desperation, he found a lawyer and wanted to return the management of the company. He told the lawyer that as long as he had the right to manage, he didn't want to see the company he founded destroyed by her, and as for the future income of the company, he would still give a lot of money to their mother and son.

Zhou Zhou's father is undoubtedly a model of psychological maturity. Not only can he accept his own situation, but he can also tolerate others. After experiencing failure, they will not complain about the sky and the earth, but have a clear goal and accumulate experience and lessons from failure.

They have independent personalities, can see success and failure correctly, and effectively control their emotions.