Do you have to get married if you love, and do you have to love if you get married?

Updated on society 2024-02-08
16 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Do you think that he made mistakes in the past and must have been a very serious betrayal to make you break up, you love him and can't agree to his request, so I think it's absolutely wrong to marry such a non-*** person, your discomfort now is love, he is very selfish and wants to use marriage to trap you, this is unfair to you, nothing to think about! Happiness can still be found, just not now.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    It's definitely not true, love is divided into many categories.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Friends, you should be in a long-distance relationship!

    I can understand your feelings, trust me! Go and marry him! Don't delay time, if you give up this time you will have a gap, the biggest problem in a long-distance relationship is trust, read what you wrote above, I remembered me back then, I talked to my girlfriend for 5 years, and then when I graduated, she asked me to marry her, I will be in the same mood as you now, but I chose to give up, we love each other very much, because the long-distance has not been enough trust, and there are doubts.

    Finally gave up! Now that more than 2 years have passed, I still miss her very much, how happy I am now if I get married!

    In fact, love cannot be equated with marriage, but we get married in order to give love a perfect and responsible result, marriage can continue love, and it can also be said that marriage is a necessary way to sublimate love into family affection!

    Wishing you happiness!

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Everyone's view of love is different, and they think that it's good to be happy and happy, and they don't necessarily have to get married, and if marriage becomes a burden of happiness, it's better not to get married.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    You love him very much, you are very conflicted, you are afraid of losing your marriage、、、 you are hesitant.

    Think about it. It's up to you to decide.

  6. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Hehe, it's similar to my situation. We've been together for four years, and he's a bit of a car, we've been together many times, and every time I propose to break up, he's in pain, and then I'm soft-hearted. He proposed to get married this year, but I refused, on the one hand, the family is not ready, on the other hand, I am not ready, to be honest, I may be a little afraid.

    I told him clearly, but he didn't say much.

    In fact, after a long time, love fades. After four years, how can you still love so vigorously?

    Maybe the other half of the landlord is not firm enough to impress you, so you are not willing to entrust him with your life. Time is the touchstone of feelings, the emotional line of two people is always ups and downs, when you just tie his heart, you will wonder if you just want to conquer, and not love him as much as you imagined.

    I really empathize, I hope the landlord believes in and cherishes your feelings, I wish you a good old age!

    Addendum: yes, my boyfriend doesn't think he's wrong either. In fact, I now understand that he really loves me.

    Girls' minds are often much more delicate, and maybe they also make unconscious mistakes. If we can tolerate him, the two of us will talk carefully and tell him that you will have a hard time doing that. Which man has no shortcomings, you are used to each other, maybe change to an object that you think is beautiful in your own mind, and you will find the beauty of the person in front of you.

    I've really experienced it myself, huh.

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Not necessarily. It's possible that you want to love him more.

    I will give up too.

    Giving up is also a form of love.

    It depends on the individual's circumstances.

    There is love though.

    But the situation does not allow them to be together.

    It may be that you can only love.

    The kind that can't get married.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Follow your feelings, love him, trust him all. And then marry him. Conversely, end it as early as possible.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    What is there to be nostalgic for a man with a heart of flowers?

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Yes, marriage is not just based on love, there are other factors that can be used to maintain a long-term relationship. Here are some of the factors that can sustain a loveless marriage:

    1.Respect and trust: Even without love, marriage can still be built on a foundation of respect and trust between the two.

    If both parties always believe in each other and respect each other, then two people can successfully care for each other and support each other, thus building a long-term, healthy relationship.

    2.Shared Ideas and Goals: A couple can stay married purely based on shared ideas and goals. If they share common values, similar interests, then they may build a stronger foundation for marriage.

    3.Stable life: If couples respect each other and have a stable job and life, then they may choose to live together consistently, supporting each other and taking care of each other.

    4.Children: For some people, children are a powerful motivator, and they may choose to live together to ensure the healthy development of their children.

    However, a marriage without love can face a myriad of difficulties and challenges. So if you're thinking about marrying someone, it's a good idea to think about it first and make sure you have a solid foundation based on mutual love and respect.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    After getting married, I feel that love is not very important. Of course, it's not that married life doesn't need love, but in addition to love, if you want to live a happy life, you need to meet many factors. For example, stable economic conditions, harmonious family relationships, and the same concept of life as your lover, etc.

    Love is one of the essential elements of marriage. Before getting married, lovers think that there must be love in order to enter into marriage. Because only by entering into marriage with the person you love can you live a happy life.

    Such a concept is of course correct, after all, two different individuals live in the same family, and if there is no love as the glue, there will be many irreconcilable conflicts and contradictions in life. Only by loving each other can we tolerate each other's shortcomings and faults.

    Therefore, marriage must have love. But love is also strong and light, and a happy marriage does not necessarily have strong love. Some people love so much that they regard their lover as the most important person in their lives, and such a life may not necessarily lead to happiness.

    Because in addition to lovers, there are parents and children in marriage, and only when you pay attention to your lover, you also have the energy to pay attention to others, so that your life can be harmonious and happy.

    In addition to love, a happy life needs other factors to support. As the saying goes, poor couples mourn everything. This means that even if the husband and wife love each other deeply, if they live poorly, there will be conflicts in Jian Pei's life.

    This is also the reason why people have to weigh the economic foundation of both parties before getting married, after all, human beings are only qualified to talk about spiritual needs if they can maintain basic living needs. In addition to finance and love, married life also includes interpersonal interactions, such as relationships with each other's families.

    If you don't get along well with your in-laws, no matter how good the relationship between the husband and wife is, there will be contradictions over time. After all, the lover and the parents are at both ends of the scale, the palms and backs of the hands are full of meat, if the two do not get along well, life cannot be perfect and happy. Therefore, if you want to live a happy life, in addition to paying attention to the relationship with your lover, you should also pay attention to the economic level and pay attention to interpersonal communication.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    We've been married for six years. I was also proposed to marriage in a daze, and when I got married, I felt that there was nothing to love or not to love, that is, people who could get married. After so many years, I feel more and more that he is the most right person. Yes, he is the one I love the most.

    Of course, I can't accept a marriage without love. Think about it, two people don't even have the cornerstone of their marriage, so how can they maintain it? How can you support yourself for a lifetime?!

    Actually, I wasn't too sure if I really loved him at the time, but I just thought, well, it's nice to live with him. Two people have the same three views, and their living habits are also very similar, and when they encounter things, they will spend it hand in hand with each other. So when he proposed to get married, I didn't think much about it and agreed.

    And I don't feel like I'm sloppy at all. Come to think of it, there's nothing wrong with living with him, and it's good to live like this all the time in such a state of life and lifestyle. So we went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a marriage certificate.

    In fact, now that I think about it, this is love. If there was no love, how could he marry so unhesitatingly. If you don't love it the most, how can you give your life to each other without hesitation.

    I'm not a very emotional person, but I can't tolerate a loveless marriage. I feel like it's unfaithful and a betrayal of marriage. You don't love him, why do you choose to live with him?

    For money? Can money know cold and hot? Can money give you a lifetime?

    Can money give you care and love?

    It is very painful to have love and no money, but having money and no love is simply purgatory on earth! Anyway, I can't live such a life, every minute and every second feels tormented! Life is so vast, why should you be entangled in your footsteps by material?

    Of course, everyone has different requirements for marriage, and I just said how I felt. Everyone has their own choice and decision-making power, their own life, take advantage of it!

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Marriage is a major event in life, and two people need to have a love foundation if they want to go through this life together.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    This is very easy to understand, because marriage, all the words are based on the simple limbs of love, if there is no love, there will definitely be no response, and there is no doubt about this problem.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    The normal form of marriage with an emotional foundation is that two people who love each other want to get married and want to be together all the time.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Love can't be eaten, and married life can't go on in the way of love, it will always end up dull and a crowded home. But does this mean that marriage does not need love? No, if marriage is only supported by a sense of responsibility, it is actually a kind of misfortune.

    It doesn't give you a special motivation, you can't get a generous strength from it, and you don't have to compromise on the feeling of safety and intimacy.

    The most romantic and beautiful marriage, although it is also the same plain, but there will be a most special and precious relationship between husband and wife, so that the body has a place to go and the soul has a place to go.

    It's like an empty house, without any decoration; It's like a bowl of beef noodles without beef.

    Maybe love can't bring people anything visible, but it can always make people make choices that are conducive to family temperature and a better future at the most special and critical moments, including the concession of selfishness, greed, and vanity in human nature.

    In fact, love also represents a most trusting, open, and unguarded relationship, sharing and exposing each other's innermost content, and after the end of busyness, each other plays and laughs with the most innocent and naïve side, which is a very real and warm little luck.

    People need warmth, but the warmth they need is not something that anyone can give, in the final analysis, the warmth that people need is only the warmth they need from their loved ones, so that they can be moved, satisfied and comforted.

    At the same time, people can't barely help their own emotions, this is the most critical, people you don't like, you can't love no matter how hard you try, you don't have that emotion, and you have to express love, how do you feel awkward.

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