Feelings and reality, which is more important??

I'm a girl, I'm here :

I remember there is such a sentence "When we were young, we wanted to find one we liked, and then we wanted to find one that our parents liked, and when we grew up, we only wanted to find a parent who we liked" I also had such an experience, I was in love for three or four years, and when I really reached the age of marriage, I found that things were not as beautiful as we imagined, so we broke up. It's not that I'm ruthless, what I want to say is that the parents only have one child, and we only have one pair of parents, and the parents are always good for us, and they want us to find an economic condition that is not so difficult, and it can't be said that at least there is not so much pressure on life without worrying about food and clothing. Assuming that everything develops according to our imagination, who can guarantee that the spoon will not touch the pot after marriage, and everyone will live in harmony, sooner or later we will have our own house.

When you don't have children, maybe the mortgage is not a problem, but in today's society, a bag of milk powder is hundreds of yuan, a small dress is hundreds of yuan, it is not the best, how difficult it is to raise a small child, I believe everyone has seen it, milk powder, diapers, clothes, toys, bottle pacifiers and kindergartens, our next generation, we can't guarantee the best, but it can't be too bad. There are also parents on both sides, four elderly people, there is always a time when there is an illness and a pain, although the medical reform has made a lot of progress, but not most people see the disease. It's not that money is noble, but without money it is absolutely noble.

The next topic, feelings can be cultivated, don't think so much after letting go, participate in more blind dates, make yourself beautiful, as long as you feel that someone is not annoying, you can continue to get along, and after a long time, you will become familiar, and then after getting along for a long time, you will find that what suits you is the best, many years later, under the sunset, we will be very grateful for the current experience, the current choice...

What do you think?

I'm a girl, I'll choose B. This society is very realistic, love can't be used as bread, many times, love has nothing to do with life. Moreover, feelings can also be cultivated.

I'm a boy, I choose the one with feelings! Marriage is a big deal... Two people have no feelings, they have been together for a long time, the contradiction comes, and the result is divorce! I believe that everyone doesn't want to get divorced after they get married!

But now in real life, many people choose money over feelings! Why ??? You go find out!

Whether it's a man or a woman, then 95% of them have been emotionally hurt before, and they can't be hurt anymore... Coupled with the pressure of life, that originally simple heart no longer dares to simply believe in love! Only make yourself stronger。。

I don't know how others chose me, but my girlfriend chose me, and my family still owes 120,000 yuan (I told her all about this)!

No matter how you choose, I hope everyone is happy!

Woman; I see that many people have expressed their opinions, yes, the reality is cruel, but life without feelings is even more cruel, I am a person from the past, and I can deeply understand it; The importance of love to a person, if there is no true love, even if you have the world, you will not be happy, if you miss a person you love, you will definitely regret it. Although the real life of affluence is very attractive, but these can be done through your efforts, and there will be no debts that will not be paid off in a lifetime as you said, I believe that as long as you work hard, there is nothing that cannot be done, my husband and I started with nothing, and we can now say that we have all the efforts of the people in the city over the years, and I am very proud, because this home is something we have worked hard to come by, it can be said that it is self-made, and a rural person can do it, let alone you. I want to say that in addition to feelings, everything can be worked hard for, only feelings, if he does not belong to you, or you don't love him, no matter how hard you try.

Do you understand what I mean? Believe that man will conquer the sky. Believe in yourself.

Good luck.

Hello: Your rebellion can be felt between the lines. Actually, you don't need to think much about it.

If you like a fulfilling life, don't miss the one you love the most, no matter how bad he is, as long as he really treats you, it's okay, the so-called love, only two people can love each other, love each other, don't regret it, no matter how much he owes him, he can grow old if he loves each other.

I'm a student who doesn't know much about love, and I've missed a lot of girls around me, but I can only regret it if I miss it, and I always use fate to cover up my regrets, it doesn't matter, in fact, it really hurts to miss it, it hurts,,, so if you love him, please cherish it.

I'm a woman, and for this issue, I think reality is more important, there is no economy as a foundation, and the relationship is only blown away. Since life is so hard, it is better to choose B, and the cost of children is a bottomless pit, you need to think about it.

Man; You're definitely a girl.

Two hypotheses can be summed up: the choice between single-child and multi-child families, and the choice between homeowners and homeless families.

What kind of family do you want to look for, what kind of person do you want your man to be, be accurate about age, economic status, career, personality.

What kind of person are you, and do your personality, age, occupation, and financial situation match the man you are looking for?

Do you still have a strong idea to make a career out of your own?

Use it alone for a week, think about the above questions, and then make your own decision...

I'm a man, this society is realistic, if I don't choose the debtor, I can't guarantee that someone will choose the debtor's girl, I don't know how much love can be, my love is not so great, maybe to the point where the love can't extricate itself, will choose the debtor, the rational I still won't choose. There is always so much helplessness in the world. It's not something you can solve alone.

All you can do is accept reality! What do you think?

I will choose B, feelings can be cultivated slowly, after all, I am almost thirty, how much time can be wasted, love will slowly become family affection.

I'm a girl.

I think I'll still choose to be with A.

Because two people must have an emotional foundation in order to have development.

Only in the future can we be happy.

If you're with someone who has no emotional foundation, just for that house, I think it's better to find an old man who is dying of old age.

Houses and cars can be obtained through their own efforts.

Feelings are not something that can be obtained by one's own efforts.

Feelings can't escape reality, reality tests feelings, that's this sentence, if you understand, it's good, if you don't understand, it's useless to say more.

I'm a boy, I don't care if I have the ability, I will back down if I can't, it's as simple as that.

I think I'll choose A, after all, it's going to be a lifetime, my boyfriend can bear it, and if I can't do it, I'll break up, but marriage is different, and it's meaningless to endure it for a lifetime.

Reality. Feelings will gradually disappear with the triviality of reality. Don't believe in the same love, which will hurt you.

Fighting reality with feelings often hurts at the end, because no matter how you choose marriage, you need to be patient!

Accept the reality that the most emotional ones are often just passing by.

I'm a boy, and I'll choose A, because only hope will live

I'm a woman, so if I want to have a private space, I can rent a smaller house for myself.

If I want a, because having feelings can create everything, and having feelings as the foundation will lead to a good life in the future, and it will be more and more difficult to walk without feelings.

NI You're a woman, aren't you? I'm a man, your question is very sharp, it's really hard to face such a problem, maybe I'm too naïve, I'll choose c Although no money is destined to be a lot less happy But can you really be happy if you have money?

Reality. There will be too many conflicts and contradictions in feelings that are not based on reality.

Reality Because a marriage that is not blessed by relatives is unhappy.

You know what I mean.

Reality and feelings are not opposites, and it may be more accurate to have a unity of opposites between the two.

First of all, we are not isolated from this world and can survive. So if you want to live in this world, you have to be connected to everything in the outside world. As small as growing food, you will also take care of it carefully and pay your affection.

It is so big that for the whole earth, the whole nature, including the harmony of human beings.

It's too big, so we don't have to talk about it, we just talk about people. The communication between people will inevitably produce some emotions, whether it is family, friendship and love. It's all going to stay with you for the rest of your life.

If you have no feelings, you live like a walking dead in this world. Then you will lose the value of existence and the meaning of living.

Only with enough emotions can you fit in better with your surroundings. Just like the affection in a family, if you are ignorant of your loved one's feelings for you, then you are equivalent to a white-eyed wolf. Everyone knows what the white-eyed wolf is the end.

In friendship, if you don't have real emotional dedication, then you can't talk about any friends. As for love, love without emotion is not called love.

Love is very special, it is an emotion that is often unspeakable and unspeakable. Love is a special emotion that belongs to two people. Too much love to have. You like others, and others don't have to like you. It's not like family affection, and the blood connection can't be separated.

So if you can't change the world, adapt to it. Love is not your whole life.

I think feelings are more important, because feelings are lost and it is difficult to come back, and it is something to be cherished, so it is more important and very useful.

Reality and feelings are very important, even if there is a feeling, but the reality is very cruel, even if you see the reality clearly, there is no affection between the two, and life is not unhappy.

Choices that turn out to be too realistic often lead to regret later.

A woman with good conditions can't say that there is no suitable woman for you, but since you already have this relationship and you are quite satisfied, why hesitate? Give up the previous relationship and start over, the future is unknown, and no one dares to guarantee that you can find a more suitable one.

Having said that, people should have a sense of responsibility, not just plan for their own future, if you think about it from the other party's point of view, is it easy to make a choice?

Of course, people want to be realistic.

But your question is not that reality is unrealistic.

Is it hypocrisy, understand?

What about yourself?

I feel like you're always going to say: Parents say ...

What kind of life you want to live, only you have to decide.

Because it is you who bear the consequences of this decision.

Think about what kind of life you want to live?

What kind of companion?

Then, what are you willing to pay for it?

I despise you, because of your impulsiveness, there was an accident, and in the face of responsibility, you waver, a man who did not take responsibility!

The most important decision now is to respect your own decision, you just dumped your fiancée, and it is not necessarily a bad thing for her, do you think you can live well in the future if you have this kind of thought, it will be very painful then, and then divorce, it is so easy for a woman to marry for the second time, if you have a child, it will be even more troublesome. The children also suffered.

Actually, as a man, I think you should be responsible for this...Men should carry the burden on their shoulders, not to mention that this is the happiness of their own life, if they are with someone they don't love, they will never be happy....Even if you have money....What's the use? If you don't pursue a high quality of life, you want to be happy for a lifetime....Then don't hesitate to marry her...

It doesn't matter who you choose in the end....We are all here to wish you happiness from the bottom of my heart....

Your will is very weak, you must know, you have an engaged fiancée, and your family also introduces you, which is very, very unfair to your fiancée, I think your family is bullying her, she chooses you to believe you, but I think you don't love her very much, you may love money more. People are more important than everything, the conditions are all earned, and people with good family conditions, if they can spend money more, they will be enough for you at that time.

As a man, I despise you for such a reality. If your fiancée is such a person, then she will not be engaged to you, think about it. Besides, what does it mean that your parents will help you go on a blind date when you are married???

Or follow your feelings, and don't hesitate to do what you like. Although the current society is very realistic, no matter how much money you have, you still can't buy true love. Weigh it yourself and don't hesitate.

I think you should be pressured by your parents to have this distress.

You ask yourself, do you want to spend a hard-working but happy life with your current wife-to-be, or do you want to be a breeder dog with no worries about food and clothing?

I think you'll come up with the answer, this kind of thing can only be solved by yourself, and no one else can help you.