Am I suspicious or is it true, am I cautious, or am I suspicious?

It's not that you're suspicious, and it's not what you think. I think the point is that you don't have confidence in yourself. A person who does not have self-confidence will artificially complicate anything that is usually simple.

So it's normal for your current psychological state to appear, because your lack of self-confidence has led to your sense of crisis... So the key is not that you let him die for you, these are useless, you should solve it by keeping up, one is to go out to work, financially independent, although it will fight, but it can be solved slowly. The second is that learning to enrich yourself with a degree will also make him feel a sense of crisis and divert your cranky thoughts.

Third, you can use the Internet to do some work that can be done at home, don't waste your current flowering years, and be prepared for changes that may occur at any time in the future. As the saying goes, take precautions... To say something that shouldn't be said, those marriages that have been married for many years and have a marriage guarantee can collapse overnight, let alone a situation like you...

Think about it calmly... Winter is coming, and even the rats know to prepare food for themselves for the winter... What do you have in store for yourself?

It's right for you to go out to work, first, you are not married, it is unrealistic for you to rely on him, secondly, women should be independent, independent women are more attractive, daily housework will make you derailed from the outside world, he is exposed to new things outside all day long, and you are guarding the empty house at home, if you really love each other, you should trust each other, if you are a full-time wife for him, it can only mean that you love him too much, maybe people are different, I will not change myself for anyone, I have always believed that the most important thing in love is trust, and secondly, if you want to tie a man's heart, you can't be as suspicious as you, I still advise you to work.

Hello, glad to answer for you!

For your current situation.

My suggestion]:

1. Suspicious people tend to worry about some small things that have nothing to do with interests, that is, they love to drill the horns, things are divided into long-term and immediate interests, and they can not be suspicious if they do not affect the long-term, and dangerous little things may cause great harm, you can be suspicious!

2. Suspiciousness refers to the negative state of mind of nervousness and suspicion.

Expand social aspects, maintain a cheerful personality, learn self-control when you realize suspiciousness, and think more about several possible normal reasons, 3. Suspiciousness is different from suspicion. Suspicion is just a general suspicion, which may be unjustified and purely the result of nervousness, but it may also be justified and consistent with objective facts. Normal suspicion is common to all people, and it is not a psychological problem.

Suspicion is the extreme state of suspicion, the vast majority of which are groundless suspicions, which are not only manifested in more suspicion in quantity, but also in terms of quality, which are groundless suspicions purely to prove prejudice and prejudice, and are manifestations of psychological imbalance.

4. Think rationally, not unfounded suspicion. When you find yourself suspicious, don't think in favor of suspicion, but ask yourself: Why am I thinking this way?

Why? If the suspicion is wrong, what other possible scenarios can occur? Before making a decision, ask a few more questions about why it's good to think calmly.

5. Enhance the ability to regulate oneself. In the journey of a person's life, it is inevitable that he will be discussed and rumored by others. If you are suspicious of what others think of you, you don't have to take it to heart, Dante has a famous saying; "Go your own way and let others say go.

Be good at regulating your mood, don't care about what others say, what to do or how to do it, so that not only will you be freed, but the doubts you will have will also disappear.

Hope you help!

Everyone will have the experience of being betrayed, it is normal, and they should face it according to their own principles.

Normal, everyone has had it.

Don't let a person change your view of the world.

It is good to be cautious with others, so that you can see the other person more clearly, but if you are too cautious, you will become nervous. In fact, you don't need to be defensive against everyone around you, not everyone will take advantage of you and hurt you.

There is such a complex and unsolvable problem before getting married. I'm a little worried about you!! And you have such a deep understanding of him, which proves that you don't trust him, and two people who don't trust each other can't talk about love.

At this time, who is right and who is not right is not the key to the matter. **So much, why bother looking for a problem stock, marriage is a woman's second reincarnation!!

Hypochondria is the psychological shadow left by one's own experience of dishonest people or things. As the saying goes, once you are bitten by a snake, you are afraid of the well rope for ten years. Buddhism says that there are five poisons in the human heart: greed, hatred, ignorance, and suspicion. One of these poisons is enough to ruin the joy and happiness of one's life.

Hypochondria is often a "smart" person who analyzes and judges the rights and wrongs of things according to their own thoughts, without any factual basis. Outsmart oneself. Hypochondria is a serious consequence caused by a 180-degree mistake in the direction of one's thinking, and one of them mistakenly thinks it is correct, and falls into a vicious circle of vicious and wrong thinking and cannot extricate themselves.

The result is that the more I think about it, the more distressed I become, and the more distressed I become, the more I think. The soul is unable to find a clue or a way out in the sea of distress.

The key to solving suspicion is to analyze and judge the truth and falsity of things based on facts. The so-called facts are not necessarily what we hear, hear, or see; It is the objective nature of things.

Because much of what we hear, hear, and see is an external appearance of things, not the essence of things.

For example, there is an experiment: there are 3 people in the room, and one of them whispers to the other that the third person in the room is singing a good song.

When the subject asked the third person in the room alone, the answer was often that the first person whispered something negative. There is a saying in China: good words do not carry people, and there are no good words when you back people.

This is the consequence of the wild suspicion that comes with suspicion. Friends who suffer from paranoia have extreme tendencies in their own thinking direction and thinking methods. Another way to change is to have troubles every day, and you don't want to be natural.

What to communicate, what to get. Don't imagine something negative. There is nothing to do in the world, and mediocre people disturb themselves, and they are asking for hardship.

Most people with paranoia are narrow-minded. Therefore, big mind, big capacity, big vision, big thinking ......It is also an effective way to eliminate hypochondriasis.

In the past, there was a person who always suspected that there was a small snake swimming in his water cup, and he did not dare to drink the water in the glass for a long time. One day, he told his friend what he had hidden for years. His friend looked at a bow hanging on the wall of the room, and the reflection of the bow was reflected in the water glass.

He never doubted that there was a snake in the cup. It can be seen that hypochondria can lead to the separation of husband and wife, the distraction of relatives, the loss of friends, and the ...... of hindering major eventsand a series of other issues. Trust can lead to the reunion of husband and wife, family harmony, and close friendship ......Trust is the golden key that opens the door to happiness; Trust is the source of happiness, trust is the cornerstone of invincibility!