How do you let go of something? How can you let go of one thing?

Try it this way and you'll know!

There is no road that cannot be taken, only people who can't figure it out. Flowers will fall, and clouds will disperse. After the pain, increase a calmness, stupidity, increase the wisdom of the fight, cry, add a quiet, laugh, increase open-mindedness.

There are no distracting thoughts in the heart, compassion is in the heart, and it is over. If you look far, your heart will be wider. — Foreword

1. Divert attention

When we fall into an obsession, we often fall into it and can't extricate ourselves. At this time, what we need to do is to divert our attention and keep ourselves busy so that we have no time for anything else. To a certain extent, this can alleviate the obsession with something.

2. Expand your social circle

has been in his fixed range of social circles, it is easy to let himself fall into it, his vision is limited, he can't let go of this obsession, and he is even more reluctant to let go. However. Expanding one's social scope can make oneself realize the narrowness of one's current vision, help oneself to recognize more and better friends, arouse one's expectations for life, unconsciously force oneself to cheer up, and let one's obsession gradually reduce.

3. Let nature ** itself

Sometimes you can go out and see the outside nature. Green plants will make your mood happy and make you unconsciously relax. In such an environment, you can allow yourself to reflect on your obsession and measure yourself.

This will not only open my mind, but also make me understand that I have been stuck in this obsession, and in the end I still have nothing. However, looking at everything beautiful around you, do you really want to stay in this obsession all the time? Obviously, nature is unwilling.

It is not so much to use the power of nature to relieve or even save the sakura itself, but to give yourself a new and beautiful environment and self-reflection. After all, the most important thing to overcome obsession is to depend on yourself.

Life is a journey forward, who has seen a few more scenery on the way forward, who has taken a few more steps on the bumpy road, these are the values of living in the world. — Ending

When I was young, I always wanted to work hard and work hard, excellent and excellent, full of spirit and vigor every day, for the ideal, for myself, for the family, I want to make myself successful, let myself be happy, let my hard work bring glory to my parents, bring pride to my lover, bring my son to rely on, and bring happiness to myself.

However, after working hard to point the finger bridge, struggling, and fighting, what is the result? The father is gone, the lover is gone, and the son is grown up ......

What hope do I have left, what hope do I have, as the days slowly grow old, relying on that pitiful salary, living a life without salt and vinegar, lost in the dust of the years ......

I miss my father, look at the statue and say a few words, miss my mother, cry with my **, miss my lover, put the clothes he wore on my shoulders, and let the tears flow down ......

Empty yourself, empty your mind, empty everything, let everything go with the wind, life is short, there is nothing that cannot be let go......

Suddenly I felt that I had lost my forward momentum, I didn't want to read books, I didn't want to listen to songs, I didn't want to make up in the mirror, I just wanted to let myself go to a pure land where no one was, let myself relax as I wanted, and the walking dead was nothing more than that!

What we should do is to be serious but not attached, let go but not give up, and be casual but not casual.

"Serious but not attached, let go but not give up" refers to down-to-earth accumulation and improvement, and positive efforts. At the same time, I don't always think about whether the future can be realized, I have suffered too much in the past, I have lost too much, and others will laugh at me if I can't achieve it. The "let go" that some people misunderstand is a compromise that is desperate and unwilling to work harder, and it is a kind of helplessness.

The reason why it is important to let go of obsessions is that many thoughts are just illusions, like the moon reflected in a well, and it is in vain to try to salvage them. If we understand the impermanence of the world, we should understand that nothing is guaranteed to happen, and that the things we cling to are often just thoughts or appearances in our own imagination. Just like men and women in unrequited love, they only fall in love with each other in their imagination.

In my opinion, forgetting or substituting for obsession is of little use, because what the consciousness is desperately trying to suppress will definitely be stored in the subconscious, and will explode in life in the future, or in another posture disguised to explode. You must know that most of the emotions that are too turbulent are not related to the things in the here and now, because they bring out the past experiences that have not been dealt with. So forgetting and repression are not the best way to deal with obsessions.

I think the best way to do that is to think and accept. Thinking needs to be constantly digging, why am I obsessed with this? What can the realization of the obsession bring me, and what is the impact of the failure of the obsession on me?

It would be great if you could find the environment in which the obsession arises. Try to let the mind stay in this environment for a while, to say a mourning and goodbye to it. Obsession often involves someone or something, but to draw a clear sense of boundary, you are you, and the other is the other.

When we dig deep into our hearts, we can find that behind all obsessions, there is almost a hidden self, a self that wants to be seen, wants to be understood, hopes to be recognized, and wants to be appreciated.

If you don't get these. We are disappointed, lonely, angry and sad.

So what we have to learn is to see ourselves, to understand ourselves, to appreciate ourselves. We no longer blindly hope for something from others. We ourselves have the power to reconcile with ourselves.

There are not many people who can afford to take it and put it down, only the grinding of life can make you wake up. Being a man who can afford to put it down is a wonderful strategy for clever self-protection and retreat. The world is hard, people's hearts are dangerous, and people's feelings are so complicated!

To be a human being, you need to be able to afford to put it down. Affordability lies in not following the crowd and keeping oneself; Letting go lies in being sophisticated and saving yourself from unnecessary harm.

There is nothing inferior about this kind of thing. There are a lot of things that you need to deal with on your own, and you need to be strong on your own. Just be yourself. As long as everything is in line with a clear conscience, we can be calm.

When you think about these things, just think about it, remember it to the death, don't deliberately forget, after a long time, many things will become insignificant even if you think about it very clearly, and slowly fade away by your subconscious, until finally you don't want to think about it, to remember, because in the future life, there are still many things that will leave you with deep memories, even more profound than the current one, even if you want to remember, you may not be able or willing to remember these things. I wish you a happy day;

Don't deliberately try to let go, slowly let go after a long time.

As long as you focus on other things, you will forget the things you don't want to let go.

Try it this way and you'll know!