Who is the person you can talk to at any time, and who is you, the person who can talk casually

In the vast sea of people, how can it be so easy to find someone who can talk at any time - not to mention a lifelong lover, even if it is a confidant like mountains and rivers, it is impossible to meet but not seek. As the saying goes, "a song of liver and intestines is broken, where to find a bosom friend at the end of the world", I think back then, our ** book was densely filled with names, but how many people can really say the words of the confidant? Looking at today, there are thousands of WeChat friends on mobile phones, but the vast majority of them are liked.

The way people communicate is constantly evolving, but the loneliness in their hearts caused by the difficulty of finding soulmates has never changed. Perhaps that's why it's so important to have real friends to chat with at any time. It must be known that in ancient times, Yu Boya broke the piano due to the death of Zhong Zi and stopped playing the piano for the rest of his life.

When Mr. Jin met Qu Qiubai, he sighed: "It is enough to have a confidant in life, and the world should treat it with the same heart." ”

In Wong Kar-wai's movie "Chongqing Forest", the policeman Ah Wu played by Takeshi Kaneshiro fell out of love, and after trying to contact his ex-girlfriend Ah May and his family to no avail, he began to desperately call ** to his friends, hoping to chat a few words, or simply ask out for a run or something. It turned out that everyone seemed to be busy with their own things, and the worst thing was that these so-called friends were all ex-girlfriends.

Perhaps, everyone will go through such a stage in their life: no one listens to you, and you feel abandoned by the whole world. I remember before I graduated from college, it was like that.

It was really a chaotic time, the girlfriend was shouting to fly solo, the roommates were ready to go their separate ways, the graduation ** seesaw stalemate, and the job prospects were confused.

The years are verdant, and after many years, it seems to be better now, and I still have three or two confidants and four or five close friends. But it's hardly any better, because my friends at work don't know that I'm writing, and my comrades on the way to writing barely know about my work—there are very few friends who really cross paths and can talk to each other.

But then again, in each of our lives, we will more or less meet 1-2 people who can speak at any time.

It's just that, because of the relationship between the origin and extinction of life circumstances, some people will accompany you for a long time, the so-called "confidant in the sea, if the end of the world is next to each other"; Some people can only intersect with you for a moment in life, and then leave in a hurry, leaving behind a sigh of "I want to play the piano, I hate not to appreciate the music"; Some people can, or maybe say, are willing to try, and grow with you all the way until they are old. Let me ask such a person, once we meet it, do we have any reason to hesitate?

There is a vast ocean in everyone's heart, archiving all feelings. Whether it's good or bad, it's your own treasure.

The truth is true, but people always want to be able to share each other's treasures. Some people's hearts, you can easily walk in, you can taste the ups and downs inside; And some people's hearts will always put a shackle on you. No matter how much you want to go inside, you can't find the key because she doesn't think of you as someone to talk to.

You will always find that the people around you do not listen to you carefully. I always feel disliked, always giggling and fighting. Actually, it's very clear, it's all a joke.

But after a long time, you will find that many things cannot be said to them casually. I'm afraid that their joking taunts will block my mouth. So he chose to put away his sadness and bury his heart.

Because I found that I had lost someone who could talk casually.

Maybe it's like this, "Some people can't say that it's good, but no one can replace it." "We can't be that replacement, and no one else can replace who we think we're going to be. Just like Little Abba said, we have met so many people, passing by, indifferent as water, very happy, ambiguous, happy, and dissipated.

Who would be someone you could talk to casually? Did you find that person?

People nowadays are too lonely.

It's too hard and too hard to find someone who can talk to you at will.

I don't know if you've ever had such an experience:

When I'm in a bad mood, I especially want to find someone to talk about my depression.

When I opened the phone address book, there were hundreds, thousands of contacts, but I flipped down one by one, but I found that there were not many people who could be contacted.

Seventy percent of them are working partners, and communication with each other is limited to the content of work.

In addition, it is inconvenient for your family and friends and your troubles to talk to him, and you dare not tell him about the unhappiness you encounter at work, for fear that if you are not careful, it will reach the ears of other people in the company.

Twenty percent are old classmates who stop contacting almost after graduation.

Everyone has a new job and life, the circle is different, and the things they encounter are also different.

He may not understand your suffering, and he may not understand what you say.

Seven percent are former friends. This kind of friend is the most sad to think about.

From the past nothing to talk about, now the two places are separated, there are fewer and fewer places to intersect with each other, and everyone is getting busier and busier.

Sometimes, I want to give the other party a **, but I am afraid to disturb the other party.

What's even more frightening is that ** is connected, but the lives of the two sides have long been different, full of worries and grievances, turned into an embarrassing and polite sentence: "Are you okay lately?" ”

So, you have a tacit understanding not to disturb each other easily, and finally, in such a "tacit understanding", you gradually drift apart.

There was a small poem called "You don't understand me, I don't blame you" circulated on the Internet, and I especially liked it:

Everyone has a dead end, they can't get out by themselves, and others can't break in.

I put my deepest secrets there.

You don't understand me, and I don't blame you.

Everyone has a line of tears, the cold water they drink, the hot tears that brew.

I put my most heartfelt grievances there.

You don't understand me, and I don't blame you.

The true nature of life is indeed like this.

Everyone's life experience is different, you have your pain, he has his sadness, you can't understand him, and he can't empathize with your experience.

There are many friends, but most of the time, everyone is destined to have a long way to walk alone, and a person passes through the mud and wind.

So, take it easy.

The person you can talk to at any time depends on whether you have someone around you who can talk to you at any time, or your friend, your girlfriend who has a good relationship with you and a person who can talk to you at any time, you can become a friend who can talk to you at any time.

Only one's mother is the one who can talk to him at any time. Only his mother pays attention to him in real time and can talk to him at any time.

Who is the person you can talk to as you like, of course, parents, emotional husbands, sons and daughters.

Wife. My wife is the one I can talk to whenever I want.

is the closest person to me.

It is a person who stays with each other for a lifetime.

Of course, it's your sweetheart, the person you talk to, and the person you talk to.

I think I'm the only one who can talk at any time, because I'm alone and helpless.

Family, friends, husbands, all of them.

Your pillow person is the one who is ready to talk.

Your friends and loved ones, of course.

It's someone you trust.

My sister, because my sister is similar to me, has a lot of common language, and her views are very consistent. On top of that, it's relatively close, so feel free to say anything.

Parents, because they grew up with them, can talk to them a lot, and they are always willing to listen to you.

My good friend. My best friend is my confidant, and we can talk to each other at any time.

I don't think there is anyone in the world who you can talk to at any time, and if you have to, then it can only be yourself, because you are the only one in this world who can be with you at all times.

I think your family is the one you can talk to at any time, because your family will not harm you, but they are worried that what you say will be used by people with bad intentions. That's family.

I feel that my parents are people who I can talk to at any time, they will listen, they will analyze, they will help me, and if they are someone else's words, they are generally hypocritical.

Not surprisingly, it should be you who grew up and grew up, or buddies and girlfriends who have a good relationship. You don't have to care about being embarrassed by your privacy being discovered, and you don't have to care about your negative energy causing the other person to be unhappy.

Your parents. You can tell your parents about the injustices you have suffered at work. There are things that make you sad and sad, and you can also tell your parents that they will always be on your side.

I think it's a good friend, because sometimes there are some things that can't be said to my parents, I don't want my parents to worry, and I don't want my parents to worry about us because of some small things, because we have grown up after all, so at this time there are things that can only be said to friends, whenever I encounter this kind of thing, there are many trivial things in life that I will say to my good friends.

Sometimes, we would rather tell ourselves a thousand times and ten thousand times in our hearts than reveal a single word to the people around us, some distress and boredom, some mood and circumstances. Maybe you have a good relationship, you know a lot of people, and you have a good relationship with a lot of people, but even if you get along with your family day and night, or even a close lover, you may not be able to talk to him whenever you want, and you can say whatever you want.

Isn't it easy? Yes, I've often experienced the deep indescribability in this sentence, and it's really hard to find someone who can talk to you anytime, anywhere. The vast sea of people, the red dust of Qianmo, the name on the address book.

I think it's supposed to be my boyfriend, but I want to talk to him when I'm bored, or when I'm upset, or when I'm helpless.