My wife is worried about the house, what should I do?

Updated on parenting 2024-02-28
56 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    First of all, your problem is very practical, many of us in the working class have to face such a problem, my wife's parents are the closest people, you are also in a dilemma, my suggestion is to find a way to borrow money to buy the house first, I think it is much easier to persuade your wife to borrow money than to persuade your wife to give up buying a house, and as you said, now the holiday is soaring, maybe you can't wait any longer, in addition, buy first, you also have an actual goal of making money (how much per month, you can master the standard of living and the direction of efforts, On the other hand, it can also alleviate the conflict between your lover and your parents, and finally you can tell both sides what you really think, I believe you will understand if you love you so much.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Parents will cheat on their children? Even if there is, it's usually well-intentioned. Your wife, do you have anxiety? . . In order to buy a house, everyone is working hard and said that they will not buy it?

    It's very uncomfortable to rent a house, and I always want to have my own little world, even if it's small. But you can't overdo it, what? Do you still want to force 2 old people to death? If she wants to buy it, her parents can also sponsor it first, why can't she?

    Borrow money to buy, and she won't agree? Not to mention that they have to be returned together.

    All in all, 2 elderly people add up to more than 100 years old, will they lie to you? Own children? You love people, your brain is not good, no matter how bitter, you can't be bitter 2 old ones, no matter how tired you are, you can't be tired of 2 old ones.

    Reality. You look at it yourself, the splint is very uncomfortable, everyone got together and chatted, say clearly, what to do, what to do, don't buy it now, don't buy it, borrow money to buy it for the time being, or whatever, whatever you want (above personal opinion).

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Money is not a big problem. The point is that now you are short of money to buy a house. So the best solution is to ask your second uncle to borrow some money and pay the down payment.

    In the future, there will be a turnaround, and it can't be framed. But one thing is for sure that the house price will only rise, not fall, and after half a year, the funds will be in place to buy, and the house will not be that price anymore.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    That is only if you continue to be good to him, ask your whole family to be good to him, move your good wife with actions, and persuade him more

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Why didn't I think your parents had cheated on her? It feels like cheating on marriage.

    Persuade her that if she loves you, she will face difficulties with you and work hard!

    Don't let your parents get tired for a lifetime and get a crime of "cheating a daughter-in-law to come to the door"!

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    I can only say that you don't make enough money.

    Hey, we haven't bought a house, and we don't have the money to get married, and I can't imagine how we live without money、、、 so let's borrow it from relatives, it's okay, be thick-skinned, and get things done.

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    If you must buy it, then borrow it cheekily.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    After you get married, do you plan to live alone as a young couple or as a family?

    If you live alone with your wife, it's best to listen to your wife's opinion, and it's also very good to buy a school district house.

    The pros and cons need to be tactfully explained to the family.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    When buying a house, I still respect my wife's opinion, because she will take care of most of the things in the future, and if she doesn't like the house, she won't take care of it so carefully, and she won't be in a good mood, and you will complain for the rest of your life in the future.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Put why buy a house in that neighborhood. What are the benefits of that house, tell them about it, and communicate more.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    If it is a house that your husband and wife paid for, you can take the main one yourself. If it is a house that the parents pay for, the parents have the final say.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    You go and investigate which one proves to be good and easy to solve.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Then don't hurry up and go to the kindergarten to book a daughter-in-law.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    There's no need to care about thinking about yourself when you ask someone else.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Do you love that person or that membrane?

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Do you live and work in peace and contentment, I think your wife is right, you should buy a house first, remember that if the car costs 100,000 yuan, and then you have to invest 200,000 yuan, this is because the car has to drink oil, maintenance, insurance premiums, and other possible accidents, etc., plus the natural depreciation of the car, the car is not worth the money you bought when you drive home. Besides, whether it's a taxi or a didi, these ways of travel are very cheap. Don't buy a car for the sake of face.

    Now I am still young, I have a house, and I have saved some money, and the car of 100,000 yuan in two years is much better than now.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Now there is a non-local college entrance examination policy, you can let your child go to high school and take the college entrance examination, you can ask the Department of Education for details.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Since you want to buy a house and a car, you have a down payment of 50,000 yuan for the house and 50,000 yuan for the car, so you have the best of both worlds.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    The maintenance fee of the car has become more expensive after a long time, buy a house first, and your son is not about to take the college entrance examination? In the future, he will take out a mortgage after graduation, and then talk about it, the car is an ornament to put it bluntly.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Buying a house, buying a car is pretending to be a force, and now it is convenient to go out to death, and buying a house at least has a land of its own.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    It doesn't matter if you don't live in it, it doesn't matter if you buy it or not, the house is originally for people to live in, why buy it if you have a place to live, and the main reason for buying a house is for your children's schooling, and you can't use it.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    It's easy to buy a car and it's hard to maintain a car, but you can wait for appreciation when you buy a house, and you can pay a down payment of 100,000 yuan and pay it slowly.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    Buy a house, this is reliable!

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    It is better to buy a house first, and the car will only serve as a financial burden.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    Communicate well and explain your opinion.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    Listen to my wife's words to save money to buy a house, and I will definitely regret buying a car.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    The value of the house is constantly appreciating, and the value of the car is constantly depreciating, which do you think is better?

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    Listen to my wife, the car is a consumable.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    My wife said to you, he is also very troubled, people are husband and wife, everything should communicate with each other, talk about your thoughts well, communicate, no matter what difficulties and troubles must be overcome by two people, so that your relationship will be better.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    Couples take a proper break.

    Take a trip once in a while.

    If you have elderly people and children to take care of.

    Then let the daughter-in-law go out on her own.

    Because no matter what age you are, it's going to be stressful.

    Men, how can you bear a little more.

    I think if you ask this question, it shows that you love your wife very much.

    Or give him a little surprise.

    Women are very coaxing.

    You've coaxed your wife.

    When you have something to worry about

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    You should ask him why he is so upset and why, and ask him why. Then help him solve the problem. If it's because of you.

    You're going to coax her into saying you're wrong. Give him comfort. And promise to make corrections later.

    Of course, not necessarily.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    Everyone has troubles, big or small, and it doesn't matter if you have a good mentality. If you have a bad mentality, everything is a thing, and your wife's troubles are your troubles.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-05

    Tell him jokes, buy him gifts, kiss her... Find out why you are bothered? Help her share the burden!

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-04

    What have you done to offend him?

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-03

    If your wife says that she is particularly troubled, then you should enlighten your wife and help her solve the problem because of what she is worried about.

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-02

    You should listen to your wife's troubles, help her understand her to solve problems, care for her mood, relax her mind, and do her husband's responsibility.

  37. Anonymous users2024-01-01

    You should listen to her troubles and solve them if you have the ability. That's it.

  38. Anonymous users2023-12-31

    Find out the root cause of the two people's troubles, solve them together, and then live well.

  39. Anonymous users2023-12-30

    Say that your wife is not working well now, so he is more troubled.

  40. Anonymous users2023-12-29

    Tell my wife that this is a matter of course. Only the filial in-laws who are daughters-in-law are blessed. The in-laws came to send her blessings, and if she didn't want to live together, she would push the blessings out. As the old saying goes: in-laws are living Buddhas and Bodhisattvas.

  41. Anonymous users2023-12-28

    Your horse is just running away, and if you get married, you should get along with your mother, this is a lifelong thing, and you can't get along because you are afraid of hurting the feelings between the two of you. What you have to do is learn how to get along.

  42. Anonymous users2023-12-27

    The vast majority of normal women would not want to live with each other's parents, and countless facts have been able to tell us: if a husband and wife live with either parent, there will be all kinds of problems that will eventually lead to quarrels and divorces.

    Of course, there are those who get along well, but there are very few.

    Since your wife has objected, you should pay attention to it, and save it from causing irreparable tragedy and regret.

    Of course, parents should be filial to each other, and men must choose the right way.

  43. Anonymous users2023-12-26

    It's really a problem, and my wife has this kind of thing, and I feel very embarrassed... But I told my family the truth. I don't know if they will have any ideas, but they have already expressed their position to me:

    When the time comes, we really buy a house in the field, and they won't come to live in it.

    I also hope to find a better way. But I'm really struggling.

  44. Anonymous users2023-12-25

    Yes, this is a troublesome thing, but when the parents are old, they have to take care of their sons, which is an obligation, and it is a Chinese tradition, you can't avoid it, you have to face it. There are two plans for your reference, one is to concentrate on the work of both parties, tell your parents what worries you have if they live together, tell your wife that you are determined to take your parents to live, now it is just a discussion of how to get along in the future, you might as well take it over to live for a while, if everyone runs in well, of course it is a good thing, if everyone does not get along well, you can suggest renting a house, very close to your home, you pay for it, let your parents move over, and then look at your wife and parents' opinions, There are some things that you haven't done, you just want to break your head and you won't come up with a result, so you can do it first and then talk about it. You tell me?

  45. Anonymous users2023-12-24

    Hehe, you and your parents are really masters. Why don't you even live with your grandparents?

  46. Anonymous users2023-12-23

    First of all, I am a dutiful person. But some of the comments are pertinent, and I hope they will be useful to you.

    Clause. 1. If this matter can be avoided, try to avoid it, because your wife is already more opposed. Moreover, if the elderly live with the husband and wife, it will indeed cause a lot of conflicts, sometimes it may not be deliberate, but it cannot be avoided, once there is a problem, it will definitely affect the relationship between the husband and wife;

    Clause. Second, if you really can't avoid it, you must grasp the balance on both sides. If there is something wrong between the two sides, it is up to you to reconcile it. It might be better, but you'll be tired.

  47. Anonymous users2023-12-22

    Quarrels between husband and wife are inevitable, and when the teeth are still biting their tongues, let alone two big living people.

    Two people have their own opinions, and it's normal to have differences of opinion about things, so it's normal to quarrel.

    As long as two people can communicate in the quarrel, seek common ground while reserving differences, and reach mutual understanding, a small quarrel is also fun.

  48. Anonymous users2023-12-21

    I think actually, it is inevitable that husband and wife will quarrel with each other, in fact, it is quite interesting to quarrel every day, but don't accumulate resentment, so that the relationship will break down.

  49. Anonymous users2023-12-20

    In these years, it is not easy for two people to be together when they get married, and there is nothing wrong with being a little more patient. Men, be tolerant.

  50. Anonymous users2023-12-19

    You have to communicate as much as possible, and there are trivial things in life, but it's not good to always quarrel. Think more about what the two of them need and why they are arguing.

  51. Anonymous users2023-12-18

    As a man, you should learn to let a little, marrying a wife and coming back is not to be scolded, it is to stay together for a lifetime, after every quarrel, you must find out the problem, why you quarrel, whether it is worth arguing, and what do two people get after the quarrel.

    No matter whose fault it is, after the quarrel, you should take the initiative to coax her back, say sorry to her, maybe you have to communicate with her in a different way, and learn to praise her more, which will make you get unexpected gains.

    Were you two born in the same year?

  52. Anonymous users2023-12-17

    It is necessary to communicate well when the two people are calm. Think about when you first fell in love

  53. Anonymous users2023-12-16

    Be considerate of each other, and sometimes think from the other person's point of view, maybe you won't be so angry.

  54. Anonymous users2023-12-15

    People always have to run in, just let her point it, people, they all want each other to listen to themselves, sometimes a regression will have unexpected results.

  55. Anonymous users2023-12-14

    As a man, it's okay to be humble.

  56. Anonymous users2023-12-13

    Teach patiently, step by step.

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