Why are older leftover women always fruitless on blind dates?

It can only be said that I don't want to compromise, so let's experience it for myself.

I don't want to follow the arrangement of my family to go on a blind date, because my heart is more disgusted, I don't want to fall in love at the moment, there is no need to go on a blind date, because this will definitely not have a good result, I will unconsciously not be interested in the development after this meeting, and even resist their "semi-forced" blind date.

1. Blind dates are very utilitarian.

The blind date bureau arranged by the family is generally to find someone with better conditions to arrange a blind date for their children, after all, parents will not harm their children. The premise is that the other party's economic conditions can be passable before his children can go on a blind date with him, but the love that only talks about the conditions and does not talk about the feelings will not last long, and the first time the two strangers meet is in the form of a blind date, which is actually extremely embarrassing.

The questions asked are very utilitarian, and the love that is fostered in this awkward and unhealthy environment is very deformed. Even if the two make do with love and get married, it is difficult to maintain without love, and it is difficult for any marriage based on utilitarianism to last long.

2. The purpose of the blind date is too strong.

Many men and women who come out on a blind date are not aiming to fall in love, they are all rushing to get married and have children. And many mom boys will bring their elders with them when they go on a blind date, which makes girls very disgusted. The first time we met, it was like coming to see a monkey and bringing all the elders of the family with me.

The whole blind date bureau is to ask all kinds of privacy questions with a purpose, which is really disgusting, the point is that this kind of mom bao man has no independent opinions, even after marrying this kind of man, life is still very difficult.

3. Blind dates are not romantic at all.

Many people miss the days of love on campus very much, the love at that time was very pure and sweet before the grandson, in fact, human beings are eager for love, want to fall in love, just want to enjoy the pure sweetness, but the love obtained through the blind date is not romantic at all, the two of them are based on the premise of various utilitarian and various purposes before falling in love, and the whole process of love is like going through the process, there is no romantic feeling at all.

Especially to get married is even more sad, the two are reluctant to marry on the basis of no love, that is, to marry for the sake of inheritance, this kind of marriage with too strong sex will not make people happy, blind date is a very embarrassing behavior, of course, some lucky girls will find a boy with good conditions and they like on a blind date, but the probability is really low.

In fact, older men and women don't need to be too anxious, don't rush to go on a blind date, let alone get married, or insist on free love, find the person you like the most, and then have a good relationship, so that it will be more interesting.

Some people say that older leftover women are because their vision is too high, so it is difficult to get off the list. Actually, this may be one of the reasons. But we can't generalize.

We are not them, so we can't "empathize" at all. Although there must be a reason behind this.

But in a way, it's just their business. And for the leakage that only belongs to us, we have to solve it ourselves.

Therefore, older leftover women still have to rely on themselves if they want to get rid of their singles. If you don't want to think of a way, or you don't want to face it. Then, even if others help, it will not end well.

Therefore, for older leftover women, what do you think in your own heart, and how do you plan for your relationship state to be good. It's all your own business, and if you want to get out of the list, you should make some adjustments.

Some older leftover women will have some stubborn thoughts. For example, some older leftover women are reluctant to participate in blind dates. In the eyes of others, it may be difficult to understand.

Older women love to go on blind dates, which is normal and not surprising. Do you think they can't get married? Do you think they don't want to get married? In fact, the older leftover girl herself is more anxious than anyone else, and she also wants to marry herself. It's just that they're too perfectionist.

The older leftover girls saw their classmates, colleagues and friends around them, became brides one by one, put on wedding dresses and walked into the marriage hall, and then talked about motherhood, these older leftover girls inevitably had gaps and envy in their hearts. Why should they embarrass themselves and refuse to marry them off sooner? They frantically went to some blind date events.

In fact, the main reasons why they love to go on blind dates are:

1, after so many years, it is because I didn't find a suitable one in the past that I turned myself into a leftover girl, since this is the case, I just stay up again, and I will never give up until I find a good husband. They always firmly believe that the prince charming in their hearts must not have appeared yet.

2. As they get older, older leftover women are eager for the nourishment of love psychologically and physically, so they don't want to miss any blind date activities, and as long as they have the opportunity to participate, they will never give up on their own. This is the main reason why they love to go on blind dates.

First of all, the parents and elders introduced it, and they are really stressed to stare at it.

Mainly because the elders are also acquaintances of acquaintances, the object of their introduction has at least a basic understanding of the situation, and then you and the blind date are still in a state of confusion, and the parents hope that the two of you have become a matter of course, this pressure is unbearable for ordinary people, so it often forms the effect of the opposite of things.

Secondly, the vision of parents and elders is not the same as that of young people.

What parents see is that it is better to have a stable job and a house, and the aesthetic standards are even different, and young people hope to gradually understand each other in getting along, and it is important to be able to live together in the future, but this is exactly what parents cannot participate in, so the success rate of blind dates is even lower.

Clause. 3. Stage fright, or maybe it's embarrassing.

Everyone's personality is different, not everyone can talk eloquently in the face of a stranger, calm as if he is nothing, like facing an old friend for many years. Just like some people, since childhood, they are introverted, withdrawn, unsociable, and don't like strangers, so they resist the contact of strangers in their hearts.

It's like a person who is afraid of heights, and he can't see heights; It's like a person with a phobia of density who can't see dense things.

That fear comes from the deepest part of the heart, not to be controlled and changed. And many parents don't understand very well, thinking that blind dates are just a trivial matter, is it necessary to be so repulsive?

There are also some people who are not good at words, although they are usually very arrogant, but when they see strangers, they are immediately timid, unnatural, and do not know what to say or what to talk about. So it made the atmosphere very awkward, and I always wanted to find an excuse to escape, and after experiencing it once, I never wanted to experience it a second time.

As the saying goes, people are different, and what you can accept does not mean that others can accept it.

In fact, most of the leftover women are because they have missed the age of blind date and marriage. However, their expectations are very high, and the requirements are too high, so they will fail on the blind date, and the expectations are very high, plus the leftover women, generally his own conditions are very good. When you go on a blind date, the requirements are too high, and it is difficult to find the right person to fail.