How optimistic, cheerful, warm and kind. How to become optimistic, cheerful, positive

To be optimistic, cheerful, enthusiastic and kind, the key is to have an optimistic and kind heart that is not troubled by the world.

You said that you used to be more optimistic, but later became indifferent, indicating that your mood is still easily disturbed by the outside world, as long as you strengthen your self-cultivation, do not take things for pleasure, do not feel sorry for yourself, and have an optimistic and kind heart that is not troubled by the world, you will naturally be optimistic, cheerful, enthusiastic and kind.

I also eh, however, I still feel that no matter what, we must remain kind and optimistic I used to think that I will always be kind and optimistic, I hate those who complain about life, complain about fate, complain about others, I don't want to become the kind of person I used to hate, I believe you are also So, we must remember what kind of person we wanted to be before, where we wanted to go, and the path we wanted to take

Hehe, I don't know what you've been through, and I don't know what age you're now. But I think the mentality should be cultivateable, not to mention that you don't like a negative mentality yourself, I believe you can get rid of the gloom.

I myself had an experience when I was in high school, because of the change in the environment, and because of the exposure to some relatively negative literature, because of the lack of judgment, I would always indulge in a kind of melancholy that I couldn't extricate myself from, and it was very painful. But later, after hard work, I slowly got rid of it. Now look at the ** that I see, I think it's very naïve, although many sentences are really beautiful.

Now many of my good friends will say that there is no sunshine in life, it is very gloomy. I think this is all because of the juvenile mentality, the lack of comprehensive thinking about things, and the fear of the future, so a lot of gloom may be something that many people have to experience and face at many stages.

Specifically, you should probably broaden your horizons and don't shrink into your own small circle all day long, which is easy to feel sorry for yourself and pity, and it is not good for the cultivation of emotions.

You mentioned that you have encountered some people and some things, and I believe they have indeed made you change, but the truth is that we must have our own rational judgment when facing all things and people, and we cannot deny everything because we have hurt ourselves. Of course, there is some malicious harm in the world, but that doesn't mean that everyone is like that. But if you treat others indifferently because you have been hurt in the past, then the world will have one more damage, and of course, one more potential damage.

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Having said this, I don't know if it's appropriate, I hope it will help you.

Also, I hope you get sunshine soon!

It's okay to be casual. Success is one's own grace, and failure is also one's own suffering, so why cater to the likes and dislikes of others. Personally, I think this is just my own low tide.

I will often be depressed and tired, if I say a lot of nonsense to enlighten you, I don't think it will help, look at the beauty around this, take a small cup of tea, in the leisurely daylight, listen to a soothing light **, watch the children play, watch the elderly couple hold each other's hands, look at the sunset sky, watch the light rain splash on the ground whirlpool. In fact, life is beautiful, and the gloom is only temporary. I think it's better to stay optimistic, and when the people around you are happy, you will also feel a sense of satisfaction.

Think about how good your friends are to you, and what is a little awkwardness. And let the bad people and bad things I encounter exist, I often base my happiness on the suffering of others, (although this is very unkind,) but it is also a way to let myself go. Hehe, happiness lies in oneself, and the happiness attached to others is not happiness, and pain is not pain.

If you could talk to me, you'd probably think how cheerful and normal you are

Or, fight poison with poison .Well, I won't go into the details of this-

Well, hello, you're right, a person's mentality is very important, I'm a little older than you, so I understand what you're thinking, because I've also gone through a lot of things, and there are some realistic or ignorant emotions and other things that will make our enthusiasm plummet little by little, but, in fact, many times we feel that we are cold, because the result of the thing itself is not far from what we expect, then, we can not care too much about these things, or reduce our expectations for certain things, Let the results of those things be within the range that you can accept happily, I think, so that you should be able to keep yourself optimistic and lively, and some specific suggestions for you.

1。Wake up every day to give yourself confidence, smile in the mirror, look at the blue sky during the day, and look at the stars at night.

Empty, take a deep breath of fresh air and you will find yourself feeling good because nature always gives.

of an inexplicable power of oneself.

2。If you see something that is quite shady, then it's obvious that we can't change that thing, but we.

Just change your mentality, you don't have to care too much about these things, and keep looking at these things optimistically.

Questions, but also make yourself relaxed and happy The most important thing is to be happy.

3。In life, we always remind ourselves to "believe that everything is the best arrangement" and be positive and optimistic.

Look at things and smile more in front of friends, because smiling girls are the most beautiful, I used to read.

When I was in high school, my classmates used to say this. Say hello to your friends, and after a while, you will.

I found myself very energetic.

The above is for some external things (such as friendships, etc.) and internal things (your own mentality) and feel Oh, in fact, you are a very optimistic girl, do not have to become closed and indifferent to some things, remember Oh Many things are the most important thing to be happy.

Let's go on a tour

Climb to see the scenery.

By the way, take a look at any antiques and touch them.

It's not something that makes you optimistic and cheerful all at once, as if you're becoming negative because you've met some people and things.

You will experience a lot of things in life, these experiences constitute your life, there are joys and sorrows, in fact, you don't have to change it, the more you experience, the more roads you have walked, the more you have contacted, and the more you have experienced. You will know how to approach everything with the right mindset.

As for the feeling of tiredness, I often have it. I guess this is a common problem for most young people nowadays. I don't know what I'm tired of, and one of the more critical reasons is because many people are too idle now.

If every day you are busy making ends meet, running around and tiring. At the end of the day, it's hard to think about anything else.

If you have enough money, go out for a walk and see the outside world, which is a good adjustment for your mood. I'm saving up for a vacation to see the grasslands. ~

Finally I hope you get better soon...

By the way, and be sure to read less of those very gloomy books.

Baby Anne, Guo Jingming, those ones are better to see less.

Well. How to say, as I get older, the relationship between people is a little delicate, and I was very negative for a while, but think about it, how can I be negative, time will still pass, why not face it happily? The darkness of society and the darkness of people's hearts can't change anything, as long as you can control your own heart, don't scruple too much in the face of friends, their good or bad is their business, as long as you don't do something sorry for yourself.

I don't know if you can accept it, I'm really cheerful now, and I can talk to anyone everywhere, but I basically don't trust anyone completely, and it may sound tiring, but if you try it, it seems that everyone is not as annoying as you think. The important thing is not to be negative anymore, it is yourself who is hurt like this, no one is perfect, and friends are like this, they are not perfect people, don't be too demanding, think about yourself and have shortcomings, so that you can better take the initiative to approach friends.

In fact, it would be nice to look at the problem from a different angle.

Life is only half negative and half positive.

Sometimes there are many things we can't do about it, and there are indeed some things that make people desperate or helpless.

But on second thought, this may have been some kind of turning point.

Doom is always accompanied by hope.

Let's take this ** as an example, have you ever seen the party, it's really touching.

In fact, it is still necessary to believe that there is goodness in this world.

Lively enthusiasm is your strength and should be carried forward.

Instead of magnifying the dark side of yourself.

Everyone has a dark side.

You and I are no exception.

But we have reason to believe.

Try to help others or accept the kindness of others.

Be relaxed when you encounter things and don't think too badly about the outcome.

Fooling around a little will make you a little happier.

The most effective way to be optimistic is to read more books by celebrities, which is very useful, because I have read a book that inspires me a lot, because it is very realistic! Very realistic.

Clause.

1. Believe in yourself, as long as you work hard and have a clear conscience.

Second, deal with people with a cheerful personality and try to take the initiative to socialize with others, believing that most people are friendly. Make more friends, talk to friends, personality can be changed. You can start by trying to take the initiative to say hello to someone.

Maybe you don't get used to it at first, but then you get used to it. Once you take the first step, it won't be difficult in the future.

Third, get out and about and don't keep locking yourself in your home. Try to create as many opportunities for yourself to interact with people, such as participating in more activities, and you can always find someone to talk to.

Fourth, think more about happy things. From the moment you wake up every day, you have to say to yourself that today is a good day, no matter what happened yesterday, after all, yesterday is a thing of the past and cannot be changed. Don't let yesterday's worries get in the way of today's happiness.

Fifth, be full of self-confidence in yourself, do something positive, be optimistic, be confident, don't compare with others, treat anything around you with a normal heart, and prove the value of your life by doing something you can do well, so that you will live a very easy life. Let yourself get the joy of success and keep a good mood.

Sixth, discover the good in others and gather them in yourself. Smart people don't need to be taught by others, they have to create their own learning opportunities and take the initiative to learn.

Seventh, you can read more books, watch TV, and share what you hear and see with everyone, which is an opportunity and method to actively exercise yourself.

Eighth, in the face of your own restraints, you can also do a relaxation training to eliminate your nervousness and withdrawal.

Ninth, and finally, in terms of specific practices, I put forward a few suggestions:

1.Speak a little louder;

2.Be proactive when greeting people;

3.Be brave when asking for help;

4.Ask more questions about your studies.

If it is difficult to do it at first, you have to constantly hint to yourself: you must do it, what is it? Be brave, be bold! If this continues, the situation will gradually improve, and I will gradually become cheerful and lively.

Man, how can it be perfect?

First of all, you don't keep thinking about how inferior you are, how bad you are!!

You think, strangers don't know you, what kind of character you are, he doesn't know, I think you should let go in front of strangers!

Don't be afraid!! What you need to practice is guts

Courage comes from the self-confidence in the heart, and if there is self-confidence, many things become easier.

First of all, if you don't have any outstanding merits, but it's impossible ha... Everyone has a merit! It's just that you didn't find out! Therefore, you must be good at discovering your own strengths and affirming yourself in order to have self-confidence!! Self-confidence is given by oneself.

Dress: If you look good on the outside, you don't need to have low self-esteem, if you have a mediocre appearance, try to dress generously and decently, appearance is also a very important factor.

Psychology: Don't compare too much with others, it means eating, drinking, dressing, etc. . . The more you compare, the more inferior you are. Go and dig into the same talent that only you have!! There must be, from this moment ... Be confident!!

Study: Make yourself understand more, that is, pay attention to the collection of information, because only when your own knowledge is expanded, you will not know what to say when talking. Moreover, in conversation others will think that you are cultivated...

There are also motivational books that can also help you build self-confidence! Carnegie's "The Merit of Human Nature," all of Carnegie's books are useful.

Action: With psychology, there must also be action, because only when you do a good job, you will have a sense of accomplishment, and you will slowly get better.

Finally, I would like to send you a word: the warmth of life depends on the psychological temperature...

I don't know how to talk, listen to what people have to say, have a sunny mentality, first get out of the center of the self to see the sunshine.