Is it better for parents to be lenient or strict with their children?

Appropriately lenient, but not losing the majesty of parenthood.

There is strictness in the wide, and there is leniency in the strictness.

Introduction: With the improvement of national awareness, more and more parents are aware of the importance of their children's education. On the one hand, they are afraid that if the discipline is too tight, the child will be restrained and suppressed, and on the other hand, they are afraid that if the discipline is too loose, the child will act arbitrarily like a loose horse.

The discipline of parents should be "the way of civil and martial arts, one piece and one relaxation", in order to better educate excellent children.

The danger of parental indulgence to children

As the old saying goes, "there are no rules, there is no circle", parents should give their children a relaxed growth environment to conform to the laws of their children's growth, and then cultivate their children's desire for knowledge and the desire to explore the outside world through positive guidance, so as to stimulate their children's potential. However, parents should pay attention to this kind of freedom is not unlimited, no rules of laissez-faire, if blindly let the child go, spoil the child, resulting in the child's selfish and willful character, it is very detrimental to the child's growth. Parents should educate their children to abide by the rules of society and not to act willfully.

The dangers of excessive parental discipline of children

Excessive discipline will also cause many problems, excessive discipline will suppress the child's character, will stifle the child's creativity, will make the child feel like a machine, no feelings, Zi Pai Xiang only carries out the parent's orders, there is no space to breathe freely, the child will not feel the warmth of the family, resulting in the child's feelings are indifferent and selfish. It can even erase the child's love of life. Causing children to be rebellious and inflexible and rigid is also extremely detrimental to children's growth.

Finally, children's education is very important and cannot be ignored, but when parents educate their children, on the one hand, they must not let themselves go freely and let their children abide by the rules. On the other hand, parents should pay attention not to excessively restrict their children's freedom, always pay attention to their children's reasonable needs, give love and respect, "the way of civil and military, one piece and one relaxation", and the combination of "civil and military" can make children become better and better.

Parents want their children to be better, but they feel that parents should also adopt the right methods to educate their children, so that their children will become better and the children themselves will not feel a lot of pressure. Should parents be lenient or strict with their children?

In fact, I think everyone's specific situation is different, and it is still necessary to analyze it according to the characteristics of the child, and the personality of the parents is also different. If the parents themselves are a particularly strict person, then the parents will be very strict with their children's requirements at this time, so each parent's situation is different, but feel that these two methods should be used together, if parents are particularly strict with their children, it may lead to children are very stressed, and the relationship between children and parents will become particularly bad, but if parents are very lenient with their children. Then at this time, the child may become a special self, and the child will not be restrained at this time.

I think these two methods should be used together, if parents do not have any requirements for their children, it may lead to such children will become particularly lazy, so at this time the children themselves are not willing to learn. But we all know that children at this age still take learning as their main task, and if your child is not interested in learning, then your child's academic performance will become worse and worse at this time. Therefore, parents should also set some rules for their children, so that the children will become better.

Therefore, I think that parents should adopt reasonable methods to educate, so that children will become more excellent, and the relationship with parents will also become very good. Each child's characteristics are different, so parents should adopt different methods of teaching and preparing for reeds.

It should be strictly restricted, because in this way, children can have the correct three views and can let children get better development.

I think parents should be relaxed and self-disciplined for their children, and they will become more individualized when they grow up in such an environment.

Parents should treat their children loosely and freely, so that they can cultivate their creativity and make them better.

Although parents use strict measures to make their children realize that they are wrong, these overly strict methods of education can also leave a psychological shadow on their children and have an indelible impact on their future lives. Therefore, an overly restrictive approach to education is inappropriate. The educational effect will be most significant if parents can educate their children in a gentler way.

Many parents will be determined to adopt this method of educating their children, which leads to the fact that such an excessively strict education can hurt their children because they agree with the view that a filial son and daughter are born under strict parents. Can this kind of radical education really make children grow up healthy? The answer is obvious.

This may not be what parents want. It can be said that if the parents are not strict enough, it will ruin the child's future. How it will affect children will be explained next.

1.This defense mechanism will gradually appear in the child's psyche.

If the parents are too strict, the child will rebel against the parents. When children show resistance, it is a sign that they have developed some kind of defense mechanism in their minds. Children have this defense mechanism mainly to protect themselves from their parents.

2.Due to the child's inner indifference, the parent-child relationship may gradually fall into crisis.

Children are psychologically fragile in the early stages of their development, and they need parental care, not harsh scolding. If children become very cold, it is mainly because they do not feel the love and care of their parents. Again, this kind of indifference can alienate the feelings between parents and children.

In general, a good homeschooling.

It plays an important role in the healthy development of children's body and mind, and a good family environment will also affect children's future life to a certain extent. Homeschooling affects every aspect of a child's life, and its success has a very important impact on their future success. We can see that most successful people have a successful homeschooling behind them.

Parents who play an important role in homeschooling should understand their importance and mission to their children.

Strict family education is both good and bad for children, if it is too strict, children will be overwhelmed, resulting in tension between parents and children; However, if parents are not strict with their requirements, or even spoil their children, it is easy for children to not listen to their parents. Therefore, as parents, we must grasp a good degree of requirements for our children, be strict when we should be strict, relax when we should relax, and combine strict love, which is a good requirement for children. Chief, parents need to know how to respect their children, so that their children can feel the love of their parents and the warmth of the family.

For example, let the mother play a more gentle role, let the father play a more strict role, and educate the child with both rigidity and softness. Second, know when to be rigorously educated. If the child behaves well, parents should encourage the child appropriately and praise the child; If the child's performance is not particularly good, then at this time, the child can be strictly educated, so that the child knows that he is wrong and how to correct it.

In short, parents should be strict with their children, let them know what they can and can't do, but avoid making children afraid of their parents, which will lead to a bad relationship between parents and children.

It is best to be strict and strict, and it will cause a shadow in the child's heart.

If the children put forward some requirements, parents should not always respond to their children's needs, otherwise they will make the children more and more arrogant, their desires will become greater and greater, the children may make some smaller requests, parents can be full of wild horses to disturb them, but when the children grow up, their requirements will become more and more outrageous, then they may ask parents to buy them a lot of brand-name clothes or shoes, which will increase the financial burden of the family.

Some children may have made simple requests to their parents when they were younger, such as wanting to have a snack or some pocket money.

Parents see that the child is so eager for the sake, may satisfy the child then the child will become more and more arrogant, sometimes in the supermarket to buy some toys or snacks, if the parents do not buy them they will cry on the ground, some parents also love face will also satisfy the child, and when the child grows up, the people around him are wearing famous brands, then the child himself will also have some comparison psychology, they will ask parents to buy them some brand-name clothes or shoes, However, there are some parents whose family conditions are not very good and are unwilling to buy for their children, then the children may embark on the road of crime, and the relationship between parents and children will become worse and worse, so parents must not teach their children all the time, and do not always meet all the requirements of the children.

If parents meet the needs of their children, not only will the child become more and more like a protective net, the crotch will always stand in front of other classmates, will feel that he is very powerful, should let everyone listen to his words, such children are very selfish, they are always self-centered, then it is difficult for such children to be able to make some true friends. Therefore, parents should try to help their children learn to share when they are young, and don't let them be selfish.

It will lead the child to have no dreams of his own, and it will also make the child become drifting away, easy to have conflicts with the family caller, and the child will not know how to feel sorry for his parents, and will also let the child set too high expectations for himself.

It will bring a lot of disadvantages, first of all, it is likely to lead the child to be very willful, which is not conducive to the growth and development of the child, or lead to the child's rebellious He Yinshu situation, and may also affect the child's future, which will lead to the child's lack of assertiveness and the child's lack of independent ability.

This is not good for the growth of children, children will become very willful, will not infiltrate the cong will have a good character, do not know how to be grateful, do not have a good parent-child relationship, children do not have a good interpersonal relationship.

It is not conducive to the child's psychological health, it will make the child become very conceited, disobedient, and think that everything he does is right, and it is not conducive to cultivating the child's good character.

<> if the parents' requirements are too one-sided, they only seek the fame, fortune, and worldliness aspects of education, regard scores and examinations as the only goals, and do not appreciate the children's hard work, strength and other qualities, then the parents' "art of expectation" will become degraded and will only be ineffective in the end. Parents need to understand that the definition of success is different for all children, and that a healthy body, a sound character, and a harmonious family are all a result in themselves.

If parents have too many or very low requirements for their children, the children will have different emotional attitudes to respond. Some children will treat their parents with a depressed attitude and behavior, and even the nuclear section will shirk and agree to their parents' request for Yu to accompany them. Because of this, parents should try to be as reasonable as possible when choosing and establishing the required goals, meet the needs of children's personality development, and let children be interested in the requirements and goals put forward by their parents.

Only those requirements that are challenging, higher than the original level, but which can be achieved through the spirit of hard work, can be charming and encouraging. Requests that are out of reach or at your fingertips are absolutely unusable. Jump, the grapes picked are the sweetest.

Challenging requests should be adapted to the child's personality traits, and parents should pay attention to the child's response to the request.

That is to suit the needs of the motherland, the school, and oneself, and to the trend of the times. Legitimate demands have a positive effect on society and their own ideals. If it is justified only from the perspective of parents, but the child is disgusted, then this kind of demand cannot be converted into the child's need, let alone internalized into the child's motivation, and there is no possibility of implementation.

The requirements of parents should be reasonable, which refers to the subjective and objective conditions suitable for children, and the children's requirements for parents are cooperative, interactive, common needs and goals, and have the probability of being realized.

Only when the goal is clear and detailed and the operation is strong, can the child accurately estimate the probability of its achievement and be able to show enthusiasm. Parents should put forward requirements and goals that are suitable for the child's objective situation and helpful to the child's future ideals according to their understanding of the child. The goal is to pay attention not only to the child's academic performance, talent and ability, but also to pay attention to the child's willpower, interests, preferences, emotional attitudes, habits and character.

Parents ask children to understand the effect of activities, so that they can be immersed in and guide children's own concepts, and infiltrate children's self-confidence and consciousness in learning. Generally speaking, children always clarify their own requirements according to their own understanding, interests, ideals and other intentions. If the parent's request satisfies the child's personality and is the same as the child's own requirements, it will have a positive effect, and if not, a negative reaction will occur.