Psychological problems Patriarchy, what is the psychology of patriarchy?

Boys and girls alike, if you're good, you care what they look like. Just be your own. Parents are still parents no matter what they say, and when you grow up, or one day, something happens to you, you will know, your parents will always love you the most, and you will be the first to stand up for your efforts, no matter how he usually treats you

Do you like her? If you like her, care more about her and buy her some gifts. Slowly, she will develop a crush on you, and then she will change her opinion, because you are her enough attention and dependence!

You have to change your own perception at home through your own efforts, study hard and so on.

In fact, men and women are the same, and they should persuade their parents.

1. Let girls be too inferior, as long as the patriarchal ideology in a family is serious, then girls will be hurt the most, they lack due love since childhood, and they will be prone to negative emotions when they grow up in an environment of being disliked and scolded.

Full of disappointment in life, you will feel inferior and lonely in your heart, which will affect your normal life. If it is severe, it is easy to get depression.

Thinking that life has no meaning with or without her, the thought of suicide will arise in my mind.

2. Children are easy to rebel and live in an environment of inferiority, which makes children's psychology more sensitive because of a lack of security.

If you lack the corresponding love, you will easily oppose the adult in your heart, and you will spoil the boy, thinking that the boy will be more productive in the future, but it is often the opposite, and if you spoil the boy too much, then the boy will take it for granted. to the boy's rebellious period.

will become out of control, and the girl will be jealous because of the lack of love, and it is unimaginable to reach the rebellious period.

3. It is difficult for children to have dignity, and looking down on themselves to grow up in a patriarchal environment will make children feel that they are nothing, and they will appear lonely in interpersonal communication, not because children do not want to make friends, but because children are easy to look down on themselves, and their personalities are too introverted, so they do not want to communicate too much with more people. The concept of Tuanhuai hand is also easy to make children feel fear in their hearts, without dignity, and will make children have no confidence, but will be more likely to be bullied by others.

4. It is easy to fall in love, it is easy to fall in love with others, and it is difficult to establish intimate interaction with friends! Because I don't have a sense of existence at home, I hope to get married and leave home as soon as possible through early love. Because I am not close to my parents, I don't dare or know how to establish a deep intimacy with my friends.

Deep down is always self-wrapping! Because of the lack of love, lack of money and security, the perception of love is incomplete. So desperately trying to please their parents, hoping to be affirmed.

Because of the lack of love, low self-esteem has always accompanied growth. This kind of girl's superficial strength can't hide her inferiority.

5. I am more lonely in my heart and think that although I am a member of the family, I am always the one who is always ignored, and my parents do not react much to my progress, and the boy's slight progress makes the parents very happy. This can make the girl feel even more lonely. Parents bring gifts outside and give boys a lot more than girls, which will make girls feel more unfair, and this unfairness will be untold, and it will slowly make girls feel more lonely, even when they grow up, this psychology is difficult to change.

Good thing I don't have one at home.

In the previous era, this kind of thinking was indeed very common, and this phenomenon was everywhere, but with the development of society now, it should slowly decrease, but this phenomenon will still exist more or less, and I think there are two reasons:

1. Traditional concepts are deeply rooted.

First of all, it is the cause of traditional ideas. Tradition tells us that a daughter is the water poured out by the daughter who married Duan Jian, and only by raising a son can the family be passed on, although we have emancipated our minds and made progress in society, this concept still exists, especially in some backward areas where the phenomenon of preference for sons over daughters is more serious.

2. Many people mainly rely on their sons to support their old age.

In addition, there is a very real reason that many elderly people do not have a pension. In his later years, he basically relied on his son to support his old age. Once a daughter marries far away, she can't count on her daughter. It is for this reason that many families favor boys over girls.

As a parent, you should properly handle the relationship between your children:

1. Don't judge two children by genderDon't judge two children by gender, give birth to a boy or girl, the son can support the elderly, and the daughter can also support the elderly. They are all children of their own, and the palms and backs of their hands are meat.

2. Don't distinguish right from wrong by age, and don't distinguish between right and wrong by age. Many parents always take "you are the elder sister, let the younger brother" and "you are the elder brother, let the younger sister" as the first sentence, which is not only easy to hurt the child's heart, but also is not conducive to the formation of the child's correct values.

Growing up, for as long as I can remember, the most common sentence I heard was, "You are an older sister, you want to let your younger brother", "He is a younger brother, he wants to eat more", and so on, too much, but is it really just because I am an older sister? It's more because I'm a girl, right? In the countryside, boys are born to be more favored than girls, born to be rational and enjoy all kinds of love, no need to do housework, always say, boys don't need to do this, these housework should be done by you girls.

As everyone knows, this kind of life is really terrible.

The most patriarchal point that I feel is that in rural areas, there is really a so-called marriage to a daughter is equivalent to selling a daughter, many parents just fancy which family has a higher dowry, and this part of the money is reserved for the younger brother to marry a daughter-in-law, and even requires many girls, even after marriage, still have to help the family, if you can't do it, it is not filial, it is really ridiculous.

In today's 21st century, there are still many such backward ideas, in fact, boys and girls are the same age, and they can become excellent people!

In real life, the phenomenon of preference for sons over daughters has always existed, and we should take the right approach to deal with this problem, especially for the problem of patriarchy of our own parents. Specifically, we should be open to the reality and do our best to convince our parents. and girls to improve their own strength and ensure their own interests.

1. In the face of the problem of patriarchal preference for parents, you must face it calmly and recognize the reality.

The problem of patriarchy has been around for a long time, and it is a very real problem that cannot be avoided and must be faced, because of this, there is no need to avoid the problem of patriarchy for their parents, and Qingkou should recognize the reality and face it calmly. Only when you adopt such an attitude can you solve the problem with a positive and peaceful attitude and get the best results.

2. I should try my best to persuade my parents to change the problem of preference for sons.

If parents have the problem of preference for sons, they should try their best to persuade and educate, and they can prove that both sons and daughters will have a future by presenting facts and reasoning, and using real facts to prove that both sons and daughters will have a future, and they can honor their parents, so that their parents can live comfortably, and raise their eyebrows. And finally eliminate, of course, it takes a relatively long process, and it takes a relatively long time to get results.

3. As a girl, you should try your best to improve your own strength and ensure that your own interests are effectively protected.

If you are a girl, you need to focus on solving the problem of parental preference for sons. Specifically, you need to try your best to improve your strength, so that you can have a better performance in your studies, life and work. So that you become the object of great attention, so that you will not be looked down upon.

The problem of patriarchy will be solved once and for all, and for girls, this is the key to solving the problem of patriarchy. Be sure to do it yourself.

Patriarchy is the idea of the older generation, this mentality is not good, whether it is a man or a woman, he is his own biological child, and patriarchy is also a culture.

In my life, I feel that the phenomenon of preference for sons over daughters is still very serious, although it is already the 21st century, most people are educated, but the phenomenon of preference for sons over daughters has been passed down in the minds of Chinese for thousands of years, and it is impossible because the current education has completely changed, it can be said that people's minds are slowly thinking about it, and the phenomenon of preference for sons is just not so serious.

My hometown is rural, I remember when I was a child, if there is no boy in the family, the countryside will be laughed at, the man in the family will also be looked down upon, and some will even be bullied, which may be why so many people value the boy in the family so much, no boy has a pillar in the family means that the family has a future, especially the family has more boys will not be easily bullied by outsiders.

I have some people who don't have a boy in the family, and they think that even if they adopt one, they will adopt a child, and in their minds, boys are more important than anything else.

In some places, in order to give birth to a boy, they would give the girls who had already been born to others, or they would simply give them up, because when I was young, family planning was relatively strict, and girls also had to occupy the family's family planning quota, so they gave the girls away directly in order to set aside this quota.

Even now, there is such a situation in my old family, if the first two are girls, the family will let the child have three more children, until the boy is born, but the girl will be obviously very unhappy, this is the idea of patriarchy is at work.

In fact, I still hope that this phenomenon can be slowly changed, whether it is a boy or a girl, as long as the ability of the current society can get ahead.

Whenever my family favors my younger brother in my life, it makes me feel patriarchal.

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People live a lifetime, and they can't be changed because of a mistake. Don't be easily discouraged and compromised, because all the mistakes made today are an essential part of life, and for that more wonderful tomorrow, life will always have good and bad, half and half. Right and wrong, there are some things that are done wrong, and there is no need to be upset.

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